Author: Xiaoxiao
starter: pillow honey (yilin-zhenmi)
few days ago, in line to see a post:
say that a woman recently because of busy work, no kitchen for days.
When she had some time, she came to the kitchen and found that her husband hadn't washed the dishes for 4 days and piled all the dishes in the kitchen sink waiting for her to wash.
She was angry while washing, and finally cried herself, and then she thought of court prosecuting for divorce.
Maybe many men find it unpleasant, how can they think of divorce?
But they don't understand, a woman is so disappointed with a man that she thinks of leaving him.
A woman wants to leave you for more than just cheating and domestic violence. Your neglect and indifference are enough to make her leave you.
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Many times, men are not considerate and do not understand, which is more annoying than cheating.
three feet of freezing, not a day's cold. Sometimes grievances and disappointments accumulate little by little.
classmate Xiaoxia had a good job before giving birth to a baby, but her mother-in-law told Xiaoxia to get pregnant quickly. Now she can help Xiaoxia with the baby, and she won’t be able to carry it when she gets old.
However, after Xiaoxia gave birth to her daughter, her mother-in-law changed her mind. She told Xiaoxia to resign and take care of her children.
Xiaoxia’s husband’s salary is not high. If Xiaoxia resigns, it will be very difficult to support the family on her husband’s salary alone.
But her mother-in-law didn't care about this. Xiaoxia had to quit her job and go home to take the child. Usually, when the child was sleeping, Xiaoxia would take the time to write some articles to earn some contribution to subsidize the family.
Xiaoxia’s husband doesn’t care at all about the economic tensions at home, and doesn’t care about housework or children. It’s just like a shopkeeper.
Once, Xiaoxia caught a cold and had a fever, and her body aches. It happened to be a weekend day, and Xiaoxia asked her husband to take the children, but her husband found an excuse and ran out to play for a day before returning.
At night, Xiaoxia, who is feverish, has to brace up to coax the child and breastfeed, while his father is playing chess with Zhou Gong. Xiaoxia cried for half the night that night.
Early the next morning, Xiaoxia with red and swollen eyes raised a divorce with her husband. Her husband watched Xiaoxia for a long time and found that she was not joking, so he said "You are sick" and slammed the door.
Relatives and friends said that Xiaoxia was hypocritical, and she was fine to look for trouble. Husband does not cheat, has no domestic violence, and has no bad habits. Live a good life, but you must divorce.
Why must domestic violence be the reason for divorce? Women have suffered too much in their marriage. Isn’t that a reason for divorce?
If you have no money and love, you can bear it, if you don’t have the ability to have love, you can also bear it. It’s not romantic and has no emotion, so I can bear it, but you don’t care about the life and death of me and your children, how can you let me bear it?
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Some men behave very well, but in times of crisis, they can leave you behind. Few women like this man will continue to live with him.
July 20, 2016, was definitely a nightmare for Zhang Xiaoyan of Xingtai. That day should be the day she didn't want to think of it the least in her life.
On the evening of the 19th, her husband Gao Feng returned home and told Zhang Xiaoyan that there was a flood and showed her a video of the flood.
After watching the video, Zhang Xiaoyan was particularly frightened. That night, she suffered from insomnia, but after a tiring day of high harvest, she soon fell into deep sleep.
At 1:50 am on the 20th, the frightened Zhang Xiaoyan vaguely heard a distant broadcast "It's flooded!" She woke up and harvested.
is terrible. The speed of the water flowing into the home made Zhang Xiaoyan afraid of Liushen Wuzhu, but Gao Fengshou reminded her to wake up the children.
didn't even finish her words, and he ran to his mother's house with only a pair of big pants.
No one can understand Zhang Xiaoyan's feelings at the time. Her helplessness, chilling, and despair are something that no one can empathize with.
She couldn't understand how her husband could run away to save her mother-in-law, regardless of the life and death of the four of them.
In the end, she still relied on her perseverance and belief,The 4-year-old daughter, 2-year-old son, and father-in-law with inconvenient legs were successfully delivered to the roof.
They were saved, but Zhang Xiaoyan couldn't get happy, her heart was cold.
The flood receded. After Gao Feng recovered, she did not make any noise or disturbance, because she was extremely chilled, and her grief was more than heartbroken. From then on, she never said a word to this man.
Two days later, Zhang Xiaoyan left with her two children.
No woman will forgive men for this practice. It's not that you can't save your mother, but that you can't give up close and long distances. A big family is by your side, but you abandon them, throwing the old, weak and sick to a weak woman who has scared Liushen Wuzhu.
The moment you left them, her heart was dead. The departure of the man made her more desperate than the arrival of the flood.
So she resolutely chose to leave. The host of
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, Martin, once shared such an incident. In the month after giving birth to her daughter, his wife suddenly changed from a very virtuous wife to an unreasonable shrew.
Martin said that he was playing a game in the room one night. When his wife saw it, she suddenly had a bowl of crucian soup with the soup in her hand, and it fell on Martin's computer.
Martin was on fire immediately, he yelled at his wife and said you are sick? Whose wife does not have children or confinement? Why are you doing this? Don’t you want to live, divorce!
Then Martin began to pack his luggage and prepare to move out.
When he was about to leave, his wife said: "Can you accompany me for a day of confinement, you can do whatever I do, just one day."
Martin thought what was the problem at the time? But when he agreed, he knew:
used to feed a newborn baby every two hours during the confinement period;
was fine during the day, and when his wife breastfeeded at night, Martin would be awake, and after feeding his wife, Martin would also sleep. But after he slept for less than an hour, his wife woke him up, and he was going to feed again;
not only breastfeeding, but also changing diapers, the child had to coax the child when he cried. After coaxing the child, 40 minutes passed, and Martin went to sleep again. After sleeping for 20 minutes, I woke up again, and I was going to breastfeed again...
In less than a whole day, Martin collapsed.
He said guiltily that he had truly experienced "confinement" and he knew how difficult it is for a wife to empathize.
In fact, Martin "empathizes" is only a small part. He did not experience pregnancy symptoms such as pregnancy, morning sickness, and body swelling in October, as well as labor pains during childbirth and contractions after delivery.
A woman doesn't want much. What she needs is a man who understands her, understands her, and can occasionally make her lose her temper. Husband’s understanding is more important to women than all things.
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In the first half of 2017, 5.58 million couples were newly married across the country and 1.85 million divorced.
45.9% of couples across the country applied to the court for dissolution of their marriage due to emotional discord, and 27.8% of couples applied to the court for dissolution of their marriage due to domestic violence. Infidelity and abuse accounted for a small proportion.
It can be seen that communication and understanding between husband and wife is an important factor in marriage. The
survey also shows that the more developed the economy, the higher the divorce rate. This is because the more developed the city, the more independent women are, and the less they will be submissive.
For a woman, I can make money, I can take care of children, I can do housework, I can do everything, and you still don’t love me, what do I want you to do?
As a husband, you do nothing except give her a name. You think she will be your good wife and mother willingly.
What women need is your thoughtfulness, your care, and your care.
Marriage is not a one-man show, it requires two people to pay together, not a silent sacrifice.
Don't blame the woman for what's wrong, you just talk about divorce at every turn. As men, you have to think hard about what your wives need most.
Li Ao said: Men have a thousand and one views on marriage, and women have only one view on marriage, whether you love me or not.
If you really love her and understand her, he will treat you willingly and be your little woman.
hope that everyone has the ability and execution ability to love each other, and don't leave the lover on the way to marriage. I hope that every girl who pays for love will be rewarded with love.
About the author: Xiaoxiao, a naughty mother who loves life, likes to study psychology, has a baby on her left hand and handwritten text on her right. Pillow, a high-quality reading platform for women under the Yilin Group, women’s decompression pillow, your closest pillow friend! Public Account: Pillow Honey (ID: yilin-zhenmi)
