Introduction:
You are love, warmth, and hope. You are the April day of the world! ---Lin Huiyin "You Are the April Day in the World-A Praise of Love"
After watching "Angels Love Beauty" directed by French director Jean-Pierre Gennet, it was like a spring breeze, and my heart was warmed Shrouded in love, this poem by Lin Huiyin appeared in my mind, which is appropriate to describe the heroine of the movie who loves beauty.
is a film with French classic style and charm. Since its release in 2001, it has been screened in more than 40 countries around the world and won the European Film Awards for Best Picture, Best Director, and Best Photography. The French Caesar Award for best film, best director, best production design award. The movie
tells the story of Ai Meili growing up in a family lacking love. Due to childhood loneliness, she has many weird ideas and hobbies. After growing up, she worked as a waiter in a cafe. Her peaceful life was broken by a small tin box she accidentally found. She found the owner of the box after several twists and turns, and began to approach the lives of different people and help them. At the same time She also realized self-growth and found true love.
Some people have seen the preciousness of love in the movie, and some like the romanticism of the movie and the warmth of oil painting. I was moved by the power of personal growth reflected in the movie. This article will start from the perspective of personal growth and analyze how an ordinary, lonely little girl finds meaning in life in the process of helping others, and then breaks through herself, finds the true love of life, and gains self-growth.
1. A lonely childhood: living in a family environment lacking love, strong vitality builds a fantasy self paradise
Aimei was born in an ordinary French family, his father is a cold-faced veteran, and his mother is neurotic Primary school teachers. Her father only had skin-to-skin contact with her during physical examinations throughout the year. Aimei was too excited and her heartbeat accelerated. Therefore, her father judged that she had heart disease and refused to let her go to school. The mother taught her at home. In order to relieve his loneliness, his parents bought her a little goldfish, but because the little goldfish couldn't stand the depressive atmosphere of their home, he jumped out of the fish tank and committed suicide.
After her mother died unexpectedly, her father refused to interact with others, and indulged in her own small world. The outside world is so silent. Aimei would rather live in her own fantasy world and enjoy herself in her own imagination. . She used cherries as earrings, put the strawberries on her fingers and ate them one by one. She has a nuanced feeling for some small details. She imagines that the neighbor who is paralyzed in bed can suddenly get up, and imagines that the clouds in the sky are cute little white rabbits and clumsy little bears.
Aimei loves the camera her father bought for her, and spends all afternoon taking pictures on the roadside. Neighbors scared her that two cars collided because of taking pictures. When she found that the neighbor was playing a prank, she climbed onto the neighbor's roof, and while he was watching a football match, she kept unplugging and plugging in the TV antenna, causing the neighbor to collapse.
is hard to imagine, such a girl who has a lonely childhood at and lacks opportunities to communicate and play with her peers at , but does not lose her kindness, cuteness, liveliness and innocence , but still has a strong curiosity about the world . Ai Meili is in her lonely, closed, and sensitive self-world, changes her way to make herself happy, and protects herself with a fantasy paradise.
In her sensitive world, the ego is powerful. She taught us that people cannot choose their birthplace, but they can choose life and the attitude towards life. Fantasy can be a defensive weapon, loneliness can be a psychological armor , any experience of suffering can inspire strong vitality.
2. The process of helping others: starting from looking for the owner of a tin box, Aimei gradually finds meaning in life and completes her self-growth.
Aimei has been looking forward to seeing the wonderful world outside when she grows up, she leaves home , Worked as a waitress in a cafe. She likes to discover small details that others will never notice. She likes to be in dark moviesThe courtyard turned to observe the expressions of the audience.
She has developed some small habits of self-entertainment, reaching into a bag full of beans, breaking the crispy skin of caramel pudding with a small spoon, and likes to collect pebbles and rinse. Day after day, happy love and beauty continue to be company with loneliness.
One day Ai Meili was watching TV at home. The news was broadcasted that Princess Diana died in a car accident. The perfume bottle cap in Ai Meili's hand slipped and bounced on the wall of the room. A tile came loose, and Meimei was small from the wall. A small treasure box was found in the space. Inside were a few cards collected by a little boy 40 years ago, a toy soldier, and some marbles. Amelie made a wish that she will find the owner of the tin box and return the original. If he is moved, she will begin to participate in the lives of others.
This wonderful journey of finding people has opened up a new world for a beautiful life. In the process of searching, she discovered some little secrets of neighbors. They all have their own sad pasts, their hearts are lonely, and their lives are not easy. The life trajectory of loving beauty has thus changed. has helped many people and became a guardian angel:
1. Helped the elderly in the sixtieth year to find happy childhood memories and improve family relationships
love beauty and build up courage, Knock on the door of a family of neighbors and ask what kind of person lived in my room 40 years ago. With the help of the neighbors, Aimee finally found the owner of the small box. She put the box in the public telephone booth and dialed the phone. When the old man in sixties passing by the telephone booth answered the phone, she found the box.
The moment he opened this small box, he cried with joy. The box opened his childhood happy memories and prompted him to improve his relationship with his daughter. He sighed in the cafe that the guardian angel must have helped him, and Aimi pretended to drink coffee while she was full of pride and excitement.
2. Help the widowed lady who is frustrated in her life and find the lost love
The lonely widow woman downstairs tells Amelie that she once loved her husband, but betrayed her and eloped with others, and finally died in a car accident. She took out the love letter her husband had written to her and read it to Aimi. Aimei was moved by this sincere feeling.
She saw the news of a letter written by a mountaineering team decades ago and was inspired by the news that she saw the light on the TV. She cut it into a letter written to this lady in her husband’s tone, expressing regret and returning home. Wish. The woman received this letter from her husband who had passed away for more than 40 years and confided to Aimi happily.
3. Help the elderly with fragile bones and feel the colorfulness of life
Mr. Dufayel, who is known as the "glass man", because his bones are fragile like crystals, he has been almost closed for more than 20 years. Ai Meili saw the old man's loneliness through the window.
So, she recorded some healthy and lively sports figures for the elderly in nature, and specially recorded a video of a disabled person who lost a leg indomitable, strong and optimistic, walking with artificial legs, elderly deeply felt positive An optimistic spirit of life adds hope to life.
4. Help the self-enclosed father, walk out of the house and embrace the world
Love the beautiful while helping the neighbors, but also realize that his father needs love and care. She secretly took Santa Claus from her yard, and commissioned an air hostess to take a group photo around the world and send it back to her father's house. When his father saw the pictures, he was surprised and sighed, and finally had a yearning for the colorful world, and he dragged his suitcase to travel.
Aimei silently helps family, neighbors, and friends. All those who have been helped by Aimei believe that this is a miracle, and they regain their hope in life.
tin box is like oneA Pandora’s box, from here is the kindness and empathy of who love themselves and others, helping them to regain the beautiful memories of life, relive the touching moments of life, and also find family affection and love. And friendship . At the same time, she was also moved by these beauty and found the meaning of life. When she completed a mission, she realized her own value. This kind of inner happiness made her grow up gradually.
The joy and sense of value in helping others can sublime one’s thoughts and find the meaning of life , allowing people to walk out of their own small world, pay more attention to the surrounding environment, approach the hearts of others, and establish a relationship with others The connection of love, using your own energy to influence, help, and achieve others, also completed self-growth in this process.
3. The closed breakthrough: With encouragement, she breaks the shackles of self-protection and bravely pursues true love
in the process of loving beauty and helping others, treating the world with kindness, and she also feels the world’s kindly cohesive love . One of the main lines of the movie is the warm story between Ai Meili and her neighbor Mr. Dufayel. When Aimei helped Mr. Dufayel, the old man also used his own life experience and wisdom to encourage Aimei to pursue true love.
Mr. Dufayel shared his own paintings and understanding of painting with Amelie. Amelie also likes to share her new discoveries and ideas with him. The old man repeated the same painting every year, saying that the most difficult thing in his painting was the little girl holding the cup, who was different, as if his heart was somewhere else. At that time, Ai Meili was standing next to the old man, she was also under a quilt and wanted to drink water. The image in the painting was actually a metaphor for Ai Meili, who lacked the opportunity to contact with children when she was young, which led to her self-enclosure.
By chance, Aimi picked up the boy Nino's accidentally lost photo album. She felt that the boy had a lot in common with herself, both were lonely, had quirks, and paid attention to observing the small corners of life. Nino likes to collect footprints on the concrete road, including funny sounds. He also likes to find the photo fragments discarded by others on the side of the instant photo booth, and then take them home and reassemble them into complete photos. These complete photos show the difference. His life tells different stories.
, but Aimei hides this love in the bottom of her heart, she dare not confide her true feelings, she dare not directly kill the lost and found the phone number left by Nino, return the album to him, but designed a small game, let Nino found himself. Even when the boy came to the cafe to identify her according to her note, she did not have the courage to admit it.
Mr. Dufayel discovered Aimee’s cowardice and withdrawal in love, so he recorded a video and told Aimee: her heart is not as fragile as glass, she should knock on the door of life and pursue it bravely Own true love, otherwise her life will be as dry as his bones if she misses the opportunity. With the encouragement of the old man, Aimei boldly accepted the boy, and the two loving hearts melted together.
Love others and also love yourself, so that the power of love will continue to emerge. The kindness and sincerity of the love of beauty helped the neighbor to restore the beautiful yearning for the world, and the neighbor also gave back the love of beauty with the feedback of love. The power of love is wonderful. German philosopher Jaspers said in "What is Education" that the essence of education means: A tree shakes another tree, a cloud pushes another cloud, and a soul awakens another soul. Isn’t it the same with love?
4. The enlightenment of this magical movie on reality
Looking at the beautiful family environment and growth trajectory of love, the reason why she has completed the great transformation of her life is derived from She found a meaningful life, walked out of her small world, stretched out her energy, and explored a better world. started from returning to strangers the treasure that she had collected more than 40 years ago. She helped the blind cross the road, described the scenery on the side of the road in detail, helped the father to go out of the house and travel around the world, and helped the broken-hearted person to get out of the shadows and start a new relationship. People see the outside world and help the frustrated give upThe woman finds hope and helps the mentally handicapped workers who are being bullied.
Her life is so meaningful and passionate every day. How can lead a meaningful life? This movie brings us four enlightenments:
1. Establish interpersonal connections and gain a sense of belonging
Psychologist Wu Zhihong once said: If you find that your self-boundary is too narrow and you want to expand it, you can continue Try to change to a variety of new environments to establish a good relationship with the people in these new environments.
Each of us is an individual, and 's sense of belonging comes from our connection with others , for example, we have the support of family members, affection, friendship, love, and build a certain kind of telepathy with others. Or if we are in a group, we will also have a sense of belonging. This sense of belonging comes from the care, understanding, and trust of others at . When you encounter setbacks or difficulties, if someone helps you, you can go Talk and ask for help.
loves beauty. He cares about her father, colleagues and neighbors, and neighbors also care about her. It is in the transmission of the amount of love that she breaks the state of lonely self, finds the feeling of being cared for, and finds a sense of belonging. From being alone, into another world of interpersonal communication.
2. Establish the goal of life and find the meaning of life
The turning point of this movie originated from the broadcast of the television news about Princess Diana's death. Aimei discovered the wonderful little box, thus establishing the number one in life. A clear goal is to find the owner of this box. With the support of this belief, she overcame her own shyness and went to knock on the neighbor's door to inquire about the owner of the box. When she finally found the owner of the box, the bright music of the movie rendered the color of the sky, showing how excited her heart was, so she found the meaning of life.
"The Ten Most Influential Books in America" Author of "The Meaning of Living Life" and founder of "Meaning Therapy" Victor E. Frankel once said: The more people forget themselves-to join in To a certain cause or dedicated to the person he loves-the more human he is, the more he can realize his value.
devote yourself to our life goal. This goal can be the goal you strive for in your life, it can be your goal for the past year, or this month's goal, or the most important thing at present.
When you have a goal, you will move forward towards the goal. You may trudge through the mountains and rivers and overcome obstacles, but you will feel the width of your own life is expanding, the tenacity of life is also increasing, and your self will be more and more. The stronger.
As Nietzsche said: "He who lives for what he knows can survive."
3. Use your love and strength to help others
The author of "One Year Ten Years", from the media. When Cat was working on the WeChat official account, he received feedback from many readers, saying that his articles can give people a lot of power, which makes him feel very excited. More and more people send him thanks, his self The sense of value has become stronger as a result. He said: "Helping others is a very meaningful thing. Some people with insufficient inner energy can often help others to make their hearts more sunny, and thus have a better state."
love Although her beautiful childhood was unfortunate and lonely, she was not cynical, self-pity, self-deprecating, but did her best to bring others warmth. When she helped to find the owner of the box, she suddenly had a wonderful feeling that her heart was so harmonious, the world was so beautiful, and an impulse of love surged in her heart, like a desire to help all mankind.
The author of "The Road Fewer People Walk", clinical psychologist M·Scott Parker, believes that love is a willingness to self-improvement to promote the maturity of the self and others.
can not only change itself, but also changeOthers, this is the great power of love. As a line in the movie said: If is destined to be alone, then I am willing to love the world.
4. Tell your story and continue writing your life script
The word "life script" is a concept proposed by Canadian psychologist Eric Byrne. He believes that the life script is our own life plan formed in childhood.
psychologist Chen Haixian believes that each of us is actually telling our own story, each of us has our own life script, and in this story we are the protagonists.
In this movie, Ai Meili is particularly good at telling stories to herself. She sees herself clearly in the small world of her own imagination, and slowly learns to face reality in the real world, change herself, modify her life script, depict Tell yourself one story after another.
Tell your story, we can change the protagonist of our story, the plot of the story, and the trajectory of life.
Ending:
Roman Roland said: "There is only one true heroism in the world, that is, to love life after knowing the truth of life."
is born free, but is always in chains. In all likelihood, there are unsatisfactory lives. Everyone can't choose their own origin, parents, family environment, everyone has their own pain and sorrow, but we can pursue a meaningful life and choose to live a happy life. If you establish life goals, use kindness and trust to build relationships, use love to help others, tell your own story, and be a guardian angel like a beautiful woman, then will warm others at the same time. Illuminate yourself .
