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We often say " mother's love is like water, father's love is like a mountain ", mothers can make children feel the warmth of home, and fathers can give them Brings a sense of security, so in the hearts of children, parents are equally important and are an indispensable part of the family.
Nowadays, the prevalence of "widowed parenting" has led to the lack of paternal love for children. This is the negligence of the family and the failure of the father. Although in the family, the father is more strict with the child, but this kind of strictness is exactly what the child needs.
What responsibilities do fathers need to fulfill during the growth of their children?
First of all, fathers should give their children enough sense of security and courage
Fathers have always played the role of indomitable and omnipotent in the family. They should bring security to their wives and children and let them feel the warmth and happiness of the family.
And children, under the long-term influence of their fathers, can inspire their courage to explore the world. Therefore, giving children a sense of security is the primary duty of the father.
Secondly, fathers should teach their children what responsibilities are and what they should be. As the “leader” in the family, the father is also a role model for the children. Therefore, the father should set a good example from himself and teach his children to take responsibility and be responsible. people.
and responsible and responsible people will be more likely to succeed in the future life path than those without responsibility and responsibility. All this stems from the teachings of his father when he was young.
Finally, fathers should also give their children the courage to make a comeback after failure.
Father’s love is like a mountain, and supports and encourages children silently. When children face setbacks and failures, fathers will not use words to comfort them like their mothers. The child, or give the child a hug, but the father will silently support the child with actions, give the child infinite strength to overcome difficulties and setbacks, and give the child the courage to make a comeback.
Therefore, the father is an indispensable part of the child's growth, and it is also an effective help to help the child become more and more courageous.
But in real life, not all fathers are like this. There is such a boy who made the wish of " I hope my father will die soon " on his birthday. What is going on?
"I hope my father will die soon." The 5-year-old boy’s birthday has become the anniversary of his death.
Liangliang is 5 years old this year. He originally had a happy family, his father had a successful career and his mother was gentle and virtuous. Although Dad is usually very busy, he can still feel the warmth brought to him by his family, but six months ago, all this changed.
Father’s company suddenly announced bankruptcy half a year ago, and he was still in debt. Such a gap caused Liangliang’s father to fall into discomfort. He often used alcohol to relieve his troubles, and every time he went home drunk, he would punch and kick his mother. Choosing to leave this home, only Liangliang and his father are left.
's mother's departure did not make her father repent, but vented all her grievances on Liangliang, who became a tool for her father to let out his breath after drinking.
On Liangliang’s 5th birthday, he hoped that his father could change and celebrate his birthday with his mother as before. But my father still went out to drink, and went home after drinking, venting his grievances on Liangliang as always, using a leather whip to beat Liangliang, and the more he beat him, the more fierce he was.
When Liangliang was admitted to the hospital and admitted to the ICU ward, he had almost no vital signs. The nurse conveyed Liangliang's last sentence: "Today is my birthday, and my wish is to hope that my father will die soon." In this way, Liangliang's 5th birthday became his anniversary.
cute dad has something to say:
From Liangliang's tragedy, we can see that Liangliang's father undoubtedly used him as a tool and punching bag to vent his emotions.
For children, parents can bring them a sense of security and also a haven for them. But if even their most trusted parents can’t let them rely on,Then it is easy to leave a bad impression of the world in the heart of the child, which is undoubtedly detrimental to the growth of the child.
We often say that birthdays have extraordinary meaning for every child, and they are also the most anticipated day of the year. In their hearts, birthday wishes are very precious and the easiest to achieve. However, Liangliang made the wish of "I hope my father will die soon" on her birthday, and it makes people shudder to think about it. What do you think of as parents?
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