The film "Xia You Qiao Mu Ya Wang Tian" is based on the novel of the same name, starring Wu Yifan. Specifically, it expresses the story of Xia Mu, Shu Yawang, and Tang Xiaotian's emotional entanglement during their youth. Many friends are sympathetic to Shu Yawang's experience, learning from Tang Xiaotian's perseverance in feelings, and admiring Xia Mu's selfless dedication to love, highlighting the great love spirit of selfless dedication.
However, I watched this emotionally tangled movie and found that what the movie expresses is: promotes that women in the workplace must know how to use the law to protect their own interests when they encounter problems. In the face of sudden feelings, you must refuse in principle and cleanly. Otherwise, the loved ones and the loved ones will be hurt. Indirectly reflects the lack of self-protection consciousness and lack of personality. Why does say this? Let's take a look at the ending of the three main characters of the movie. Character analysis of
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1, Natsuki
starring Wu Yifan, looks handsome but introverted, because of changes in the original family in childhood, the autistic and withdrawn personality. Under Shu Yawang's tender care, she stubbornly fell in love with Shu Yawang. Willing to give everything for her. And in the movie, for Shu Yawang, impulsively walked into the prison. Everything explains the selfless dedication of great love. I would rather sacrifice myself for love. It is also an important point that the movie highlights, promoting the beautiful meaning of love.
The role of Natsuki, is also more common in our reality, representing the part of men and women who yearn for love in adolescence. They always regard love as the whole of their lives. For the other side, regardless of whether there is a result, the moth ran into the fire like a fire. In the end, like Natsuki, he hurt himself . However, in the movie Xia Mu, in other words, his dedication and love are selfish desires. Because it is based on Shu Yawang's disagreement with the person she loves.
Xia Mu witnessed her mother's suicide when she was a child, causing depression and autism, introverted personality, weird and withdrawn, according to "Enneagram", Xia Mu's environment and personality characteristics are more in line with thinking personality. But everything must have a basis, then we will analyze what he did in the movie.
1, this thinking personality has a main characteristic that it has no interest in everything in society, unless one is focused on things. And like to be isolated from the world, keeping a certain distance from everyone. Just as Shu Yawang first came into contact with Xia Mu, Xia Mu stayed at home all day, closed the curtains, and focused on his toy gun.
2, thinking-type personality is more sensitive, when other people's words touch the deep heart, they will be unconsciously afraid and more paranoid. is like the moment when Shu Yawang asked Xia Mu if she remembered her mother, Xia Mu trembled and screamed frantically with Shu Yawang desperately. After that, she hated Shu Yawang even more.
3, and that is, this kind of personality needs a certain distance from other people in order to make one feel safe. Therefore, in the face of other people's contact, they will hide their feelings, just as Xia Mu refused the girl's gift without looking back at school. This kind of personality also likes to distinguish between right and wrong things and their responsibilities and obligations to oneself clearly. Just like Shu Yawang visited Xiaotian, Xia Mu ignored Shu Yawang's state at that time and said directly: Deserve it! typically does not want to contact other people and things.
4, and this thinking personality is fearful, and its core personality is doubtful personality. means that because Xia Mu was deep in his heart, it was the last moment when his mother hanged himself, so that he did not receive enough mother’s care in his childhood, did not acquire the tenderness and tenderness of motherhood, so he remained suspicious in the face of anything. Attitude, so as to avoid getting hurt. In the movie, for Shu Yawang, at the beginning, he had no trust and said nothing to her.
When I gradually trusted Shu Yawang, I went to school and didn't trust other people. And this kind of personality will produce two kinds of extremes: is more and more afraid, and will evade to face it. Another is to be able to actively resist under pressure.
When Xia Mu first faced the pursuit of Shu Yawang, he was punched by Qu Weiran, but he was only a linguistic point of view, but actually did not dare to fight back, but when Qu Weiran hurt Shu Yawang,She couldn't help Shuya Wangla, and went straight to get Qu Weiran into the hospital. This is the performance of skeptical personality, and the core point is: very loyal to friends, even if you are afraid, you will sacrifice your self-interest to help your friends. When it ends, Xia Mu needs to stay in prison for 7 years.
And after Xia Mu's behavior, he clearly knew that he was in jail. He also told Shu Yawang sensibly: not going to the hospital killed three people, and he acted on his own, but he was alone. In other words, in the face of this tremendous pressure, Xia Mu was not impulsive, but very calm and rational. This is also the core point of this personality.
But why not put Qu Weiran back? It can be seen from this that the direction and ending of all things have a lot to do with Natsuki's lack of personality. It has little to do with legal consciousness.
Therefore, the role of Natsuki tells us that it is normal for to be ignorant of feelings in adolescence, but don’t confuse friendship and love. And, in the face of love, you must understand everything about the other party and act under the rules of the law. Otherwise, it will only hurt the other party and yourself. Second, there must be a rational impulse. Looking at the ending of Natsuki, we know that we should face the stress rationally.
2, Tang Xiaotian
Does this character look like an "honest person" in reality? Reading, going to military academy, studying. Even Shu Ya looked at him, that is, the two of them hugged and ran wildly in the wild, as if they were beaten as dead dogs by his father.
Knowing that Shu Yawang was insulted by Qu Weiran, he returned from the army and repaired Qu Weiran severely. He did not dislike Yawang and was still willing to marry her. It seems so kind and innocent. Treating love seems ordinary and true. There is also the great manly hardcore ideal-to be a real soldier. Typical honest and self-motivated good man.
At the end of the movie, is still unable to be with Shu Yawang. He chased Yawang’s train frantically at the railway station. Even if Shu Yawang was moved by his past, the thick layer of glass and the slow-to-fast train blocked their overlap. The thick layer of glass, It is like the resistance of two people's lives; and the slow-to-fast train is like it can only move forward without returning to the past. How is this scene of
similar to that of Shu Yawang when Tang Xiaotian was in the military academy? The ending seems to be doomed by Buddha. But Tang Xiaotian, who seems to be an honest man, is obviously a soldier, but his legal consciousness is also weak. Not only did he not request legal sanctions against Qu Weiran, but Qu Weiran almost gave the design an account. Can only run wildly on the street, screaming up to the sky. And this is still a military marriage!
This may be deliberately done by the movie. But it also proves that he has no legal consciousness, nor does he have the hard-line style of a real man. Only an "honest person" formed under the persecution of his father.
From his childhood attitude towards exercise, his state of study, and even at the end of the movie, even after his fiancee was hit so hard, he still went back to school for his career. It can be seen that it is for the ideal of work. raw. Generally speaking, the personality of this type of person is a hard-working personality.
An obvious characteristic of this type of personality is that you are very devoted to something, so you won’t spend extra time in other areas. For example, Tang Xiaotian's goal is soldiers, so everything he did when he was a kid was prepared for this. I am full of hope for my ideal goal. Bearing hardships and standing hard, working hard, always have a positive image.
For example, when Tang Xiaotian was doing push-ups, Yawang sat on his back and was able to persevere, indicating that he was hardworking. As well as his performance when he was caught and beaten on a date with Yawang, it also proved that everything he did was not his own will, but to satisfy his father's expectations. This is the cradle of hard-working personality growth: it is a capable child in the eyes of parents, just because the performance of hard work is better. So this kind of personality likes to show off to prove how good he is, thus lacking true self-expression.
In addition, the hard-working personality is slightly deceptive to the characteristics of love. Because love will be magnified by them tens to hundreds of times, but their heart is not affected. For example, Tang Xiaotian said he loved Shu Yawang, but Yawang's tragic ending did not see Tang Xiaotian sincerely comforting him. In other words, the love Tang Xiaotian showed was not his true thoughts.
Even for ordinary people, the first thing is to be angry, and secondly, to abandon anything to accompany your lover. Instead of talking about love in your mouth, but throwing the one you love aside, facing the consequences of the disaster of life alone? So only when Tang Xiaotian woke up at the train station later, and the emotions lost because of his ideals came back again, did he notice how much elegance he needed in his heart. So Tang Xiaotian's ending is also destined for his personality. It will take a long time to suffer.
Tang Xiaotian's role in marriage brings us: represents the image of many honest people. But is it really the pot of the three words Honest? In fact, it is not, it is that you did not put feelings first. Instead, work or other things can eat away your feelings. Second, compare it with Xia Mu: Facing the same thing, Xia Mu accompanied, helped, supported, and even sacrificed his own interests to protect Shu Yawang and love Shu Yawang; and Tang Xiaotian, what did he do? Anger, punches, verbal threats, running on the street and screaming up to the sky, bearing Yawang on his own side, always seemed to be sympathetic to Yawang. After weighing the pros and cons, you are willing to choose Xia Mu or Tang Xiaotian. Therefore, the ending is doomed.
, one of the protagonists of the movie, is played by Lu Shan, who has the perfect intellectual beauty of oriental women. The core content of this play revolves around her. The performance in this drama represents many female friends in the workplace in reality.
This is what I got after watching the movie. On the whole, the movie uses Shu Yawang’s growth and ending to set off the intermediate process and tells our weak female friends that in the face of workplace harassment and insult, we should Taking up legal weapons to protect yourself, instead of choosing to escape and endure, will only hurt everyone around you.
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Judging from the whole plot, Shu Yawang is suffering so much damage, and she is soft-hearted and not wicked. And when I met Xia Mu when I was a part-time tutor, even if I was bitten by Xia Mu and refused, I would face it with a smile. When Tang Xiaotian was riding a bicycle with Yawang and Xia Mu, he took care of Xia Mu when the car was overturned. Dedication and enthusiastic help to colleagues undoubtedly does not reflect Shu Yawang's personality as a giver.
This kind of personality is worthy of the name of enthusiasm. It can be seen from the attitude of taking care of Xia Mu. is sympathetic, likes to help others, can empathize with others, and sacrifices himself unconditionally. is just like after she was insulted, in order to avoid being jailed for Xia Mu, she wronged herself and agreed to marry Qu Weiran who hurt her.
And in the process of getting along with Xia Mu, whether it is to teach Xia Mu to get the approval of Tang Xiaotian, or when Xia Mu is riding a bicycle, or when the company is performing, the purpose of Shu Yawang is undoubtedly hoping to be protected and loved, and to be with others. Agree.
Moreover, when getting along with Xia Mu, there is a detail that Shu Yawang's temptation to Xia Mu after washing her hair is to get Xia Mu's attention. And in the contact with Xia Mu, drawing patterns on Xia Mu’s face and the same bed as Xia Mu, these are the characteristics of giving personality
Also, because he helped Xia Mu, Shu Yawang felt very happy, and told Tang Xiaotian that Xia Mu has a talent for shooting I was very proud. Although he regards Natsuki as his younger brother. However, what he did will give birth to seeds of love in Xia Mu's heart. Let this drama have a follow-up. This is also the characteristic of this personality. This personality of
is also caused. Shu Yawang will unconsciously change her mind and hurt herself to cater to others for others. And he is extremely dependent on others and does not have his own opinion, so when is violated, the first time he chooses not to use legal weapons to protect himself.
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When Shu Yawang first contacted Qu Weiran in the company, he still accepted the offer even though he did not like him, and agreed to marry Qu Weiran after being insulted. Several things that seemed to have nothing to do with each other, the damage they suffered formed a ladder of stone steps, and Shu Yawang gradually suffered more damage.
From psychology, this is the waiting threshold effect. Because of Shu Yawang’s personality, it’s the first time that the unkind Qu Weiran met each otherWhen contacted, I didn't know the cruel rejection. This resulted in a series of evil consequences. Although Qu Weiran represents malignancy, if Shu Yawang directly refuses and shows offensiveness in disguising herself when facing this malignancy for the first time, the following list of things will change a lot.
This is the same as many female friends in our workplace. Because of personality formation, they cause embarrassment, consider others, etc., so they don't know how to refuse. Thus making yourself more hurt. Just like, when someone initially touches your hand, if you don't resolutely resist, the other person will touch your waist, and you will gradually acquiesce in unknowingly and bear all this yourself. This is the source of harm.
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There is another reason for the idea, which is the weak legal consciousness. If you directly use legal weapons to protect yourself after being hurt for the first time, there will be no more things like Xia Mu and so on.
Summary:
compares the behaviors caused by the different personality environments of the above three characters, it is not difficult to find that the end of the matter is doomed. This movie actually tells our female friends in the workplace how to protect themselves. It's just that the film embodies the positive energy of this propaganda through a series of hurtful practices. It also reflects reality. Both men and women who are in love should be company and lead by example.
