Sisters, which episode of the TV series "Alley People" have you caught up with?
Have you watched the episode where Xiao Ting is going to follow Lin Dongzhe to Guangzhou and is scolded by her father?
Although Huang Ling did not support Xiaoting's choice, she saw that her daughter was so sad, so she still comforted her.
This conversation touched my old mother very much.
She explained that the obstruction was not because Lin Dongzhe was not good, but because she was worried that if her daughter followed him even though her job and household registration were not settled, she would be looked down upon by the Lin family in the future.
It is said that Xiao Ting has always been a good girl. How did she make this decision?
is actually not surprising!
Xiao Ting suffered deeply in a family that favored sons over daughters. The grandparents only let the boys in the family eat meat, as long as she was full. Her father was a foolish and filial man who only encouraged her but did not bless her and cared very little about her.
The lack of security and the company of Lin Dongzhe finally found a place for her heart.
Therefore, many netizens said that Huang Ling's worries are purely unnecessary. It is an indisputable fact that Dongzhe is good to Xiaoting and loves Xiaoting.
But my daughter is my mother’s darling!
Huang Ling has suffered in this family for decades, but she did not transfer her bitterness and hatred to her daughter.
instead tried his best to give her good things, not wanting his daughter to follow in his footsteps.
This also makes me have some respect for Huang Ling!
From the relationship between Huang Ling and Xiao Ting, we can actually learn a lot about raising daughters.
Only by self-reliance
can we have a firm spiritual world
Although Huang Ling has the forbearance and grievance of a typical Chinese mother, she actually has a clear mind.
Huang Ling's father-in-law and mother-in-law have never supported Xiaoting's continued education, thinking that girls can just go to a vocational high school.
But Huang Ling said to her daughter: "I have a salary, you can read it as long as you want."
When she stopped her daughter from going to Guangzhou, she also cited the example of her good sister Song Ying getting up early and greedily selling breakfast at night, just to let Xiao Ting understand her good intentions.
In that era when "female consciousness" was not advanced, Huang Ling continued to provide her daughter with luxurious spiritual energy.
was admitted from No. 1 Middle School to Jiaotong University, and then to the public examination. Her life is no worse than her brother Zhuang Tunan.
There is a saying in "Raising Girls": "Your daughter is unique and unparalleled in the world. She came into this world for a special reason. She came to discover the meaning of life and realize the value of life."
a The value of a girl is by no means limited to marriage, children and a stove, but more importantly, becoming an economically independent and independent-minded individual.
Although independence does not equal happiness, it can give you the confidence to make those who bully you unable to do anything to you.
Give her a sense of security
Let her know that she will always have someone to support her
The background of the story of "Alley People" is in the 1980s, when the entire society was enveloped in the idea of favoring boys over girls. There are many examples of boys going to school and girls doing farm work at home.
But Huang Ling has always tried her best to protect her daughter and give her a sense of security.
When Xiao Ting was no longer taller than the table, Huang Ling's family went to celebrate her mother-in-law's birthday. Not only did her mother-in-law's family not entertain her, they instead made Huang Ling busy cooking and making steamed buns. Xiao Ting was the only one who helped her.
After finally finishing their work, Zhuang Chaoying and Tunan were about to stand up and give up their seats, but their mother-in-law pressed them down and asked Huang Ling, who had worked hard all night, to take Xiao Ting to the kitchen for dinner.
Although they are in the same room, they are like two worlds separated by a door.
Everyone was enjoying themselves inside, but outside Huang Ling and her daughter could only sit next to the low stove and eat.
was afraid of affecting her daughter. Huang Ling's sadness flowed into her heart, but faced her daughter with a smile.
Another time, her mother-in-law sprained her foot and wanted Xiaoting to come and live with her. Although Huang Ling didn't say it clearly, she knew what she had in mind.
refused directly, because in her heart, her daughter is not anyone’s free labor.
This is the most difficult thing for Huang Ling and also her greatest. Her protection of her daughter is not against the entire family, but also her ignorant thoughts.
Otherwise, how could Xiao Ting happily tell Huang Ling during the "late night conversation": "My aunt said that I am better than her, and I have a mother who protects me."
Although Xiaoting did not enjoy the love of her grandparents or even her father, she knew that her mother would be behind her if she needed it.
Cultivate interests and hobbies
Make her soul richer
If learning can make children walk more steadily, having hobbies can allow them to gain more scenery along the way.
Huang Ling not only supports Xiaoting’s studies, but also supports her interests and hobbies.
Xiao Ting likes to sing, so Huang Ling agreed that she and Lin Zhedong should go to the Children's Palace to perform. After the
TV station aired, the neighbors gathered around the TV to watch it together.
When everyone praised Xiao Ting, Huang Ling didn't say anything, but she smiled happily.
Xiaoting can dance, so she becomes an audience member at the dance.
Even in that era when black, white, and gray were the mainstream colors, televisions were not popular.
Huang Ling used her love to raise Xiaoting into a child who loves singing and dancing.
Pay attention to her emotions
Girls need more delicate care
Everyone likes to say that boys should be raised in rough areas, while girls should be raised in fine areas.
Huang Ling is also very delicate.
Huang Ling lives frugally and eats snake melon until she vomits to save money. Song Ying already carries a small leather bag, but she is still carrying an old-fashioned blue cloth bag.
But when my daughter was growing up, she never lacked what she needed.
Xiao Ting has a variety of hairpins and two pigtails, and she is also very energetic.
The students in the class mainly wear gray clothes, but Xiaoting has many bright skirts.
Adolescent girls will be more sensitive and delicate, and Huang Ling is always paying attention to her little secrets and sense of self-protection.
Once she showed Song Ying a newly bought washbasin. Song Ying thought it was a colleague from the workshop who got married. Huang Ling bought it as a gift. Huang Ling explained: "I bought it for Xiaoting. As a girl, she needs one for herself." basin washing".
During the Chinese New Year, her mother-in-law arranged for Xiaoting to share a bed with her two cousins. Huang Ling didn't want to, so she slept in the living room all night with Xiao Ting in her arms.
Huang Ling really touched me. She knew that this was not just a matter of avoiding suspicion when her daughter got older. Her daughter's resistance also made her unbearable.
Finally, I would like to say that the valuable thing about Huang Ling is that she can rely on the power of the word "mother" to use to block the restrictions and prejudices against girls in traditional society. allows Xiaoting to live a better life.
She saved not only her children, but also the first half of her life.
also made me, as an old mother, more determined about one thing:
You can’t just raise girls to be princesses, but also let them be their own heroes!
Raising a daughter rich is not only material, but more importantly, spiritual and intellectual.
Because a girl is full inside, the spiritual world will naturally be full and the world will be bigger. Sisters, which episode of the TV series "Alley People" have you caught up with? Have you watched the episode where Xiao Ting is going to follow Lin Dongzhe to Guangzhou and is scolded by her father? Although Huang Ling did not support Xiaoting's choice, she saw that her daughter was so sad, so she still comforted her. This conversation touched my old mother very much. She explained that the obstruction was not because Lin Dongzhe was not good, but because she was worried that if her daughter followed him even though her job and household registration were not settled, she would be looked down upon by the Lin family in the future. It is said that Xiao Ting has always been a good girl. How did she make this decision? is actually not surprising! Xiao Ting suffered deeply in a family that favored sons over daughters. The grandparents only let the boys in the family eat meat, as long as she was full. Her father was a foolish and filial man who only encouraged her but did not bless her and cared very little about her. The lack of security and the company of Lin Dongzhe finally found a place for her heart. Therefore, many netizens said that Huang Ling's worries are purely unnecessary. It is an indisputable fact that Dongzhe is good to Xiaoting and loves Xiaoting. But my daughter is my mother’s darling! Huang Ling has suffered in this family for decades, but she did not transfer her bitterness and hatred to her daughter. instead tried his best to give her good things, not wanting his daughter to follow in his footsteps. This also makes me have some respect for Huang Ling! From the relationship between Huang Ling and Xiao Ting, we can actually learn a lot about raising daughters. Only by self-reliance can we have a firm spiritual world Although Huang Ling has the forbearance and grievance of a typical Chinese mother, she actually has a clear mind. Huang Ling's father-in-law and mother-in-law have never supported Xiaoting's continued education, thinking that girls can just go to a vocational high school. But Huang Ling said to her daughter: "I have a salary, you can read it as long as you want." When she stopped her daughter from going to Guangzhou, she also cited the example of her good sister Song Ying getting up early and greedily selling breakfast at night, just to let Xiao Ting understand her good intentions. In that era when "female consciousness" was not advanced, Huang Ling continued to provide her daughter with luxurious spiritual energy. was admitted from No. 1 Middle School to Jiaotong University, and then to the public examination. Her life is no worse than her brother Zhuang Tunan. There is a saying in "Raising Girls": "Your daughter is unique and unparalleled in the world. She came into this world for a special reason. She came to discover the meaning of life and realize the value of life." a The value of a girl is by no means limited to marriage, children and a stove, but more importantly, becoming an economically independent and independent-minded individual. Although independence does not equal happiness, it can give you the confidence to make those who bully you unable to do anything to you. Give her a sense of security Let her know that she will always have someone to support her The background of the story of "Alley People" is in the 1980s, when the entire society was enveloped in the idea of favoring boys over girls. There are many examples of boys going to school and girls doing farm work at home. But Huang Ling has always tried her best to protect her daughter and give her a sense of security. When Xiao Ting was no longer taller than the table, Huang Ling's family went to celebrate her mother-in-law's birthday. Not only did her mother-in-law's family not entertain her, they instead made Huang Ling busy cooking and making steamed buns. Xiao Ting was the only one who helped her. After finally finishing their work, Zhuang Chaoying and Tunan were about to stand up and give up their seats, but their mother-in-law pressed them down and asked Huang Ling, who had worked hard all night, to take Xiao Ting to the kitchen for dinner. Although they are in the same room, they are like two worlds separated by a door. Everyone was enjoying themselves inside, but outside Huang Ling and her daughter could only sit next to the low stove and eat. was afraid of affecting her daughter. Huang Ling's sadness flowed into her heart, but faced her daughter with a smile. Another time, her mother-in-law sprained her foot and wanted Xiaoting to come and live with her. Although Huang Ling didn't say it clearly, she knew what she had in mind. refused directly, because in her heart, her daughter is not anyone’s free labor. This is the most difficult thing for Huang Ling and also her greatest. Her protection of her daughter is not against the entire family, but also her ignorant thoughts. Otherwise, how could Xiao Ting happily tell Huang Ling during the "late night conversation": "My aunt said that I am better than her, and I have a mother who protects me." Although Xiaoting did not enjoy the love of her grandparents or even her father, she knew that her mother would be behind her if she needed it. Cultivate interests and hobbies Make her soul richer If learning can make children walk more steadily, having hobbies can allow them to gain more scenery along the way. Huang Ling not only supports Xiaoting’s studies, but also supports her interests and hobbies. Xiao Ting likes to sing, so Huang Ling agreed that she and Lin Zhedong should go to the Children's Palace to perform. After the TV station aired, the neighbors gathered around the TV to watch it together. When everyone praised Xiao Ting, Huang Ling didn't say anything, but she smiled happily. Xiaoting can dance, so she becomes an audience member at the dance. Even in that era when black, white, and gray were the mainstream colors, televisions were not popular. Huang Ling used her love to raise Xiaoting into a child who loves singing and dancing. Pay attention to her emotions Girls need more delicate care Everyone likes to say that boys should be raised in rough areas, while girls should be raised in fine areas. Huang Ling is also very delicate. Huang Ling lives frugally and eats snake melon until she vomits to save money. Song Ying already carries a small leather bag, but she is still carrying an old-fashioned blue cloth bag. But when my daughter was growing up, she never lacked what she needed. Xiao Ting has a variety of hairpins and two pigtails, and she is also very energetic. The students in the class mainly wear gray clothes, but Xiaoting has many bright skirts. Adolescent girls will be more sensitive and delicate, and Huang Ling is always paying attention to her little secrets and sense of self-protection. Once she showed Song Ying a newly bought washbasin. Song Ying thought it was a colleague from the workshop who got married. Huang Ling bought it as a gift. Huang Ling explained: "I bought it for Xiaoting. As a girl, she needs one for herself." basin washing". During the Chinese New Year, her mother-in-law arranged for Xiaoting to share a bed with her two cousins. Huang Ling didn't want to, so she slept in the living room all night with Xiao Ting in her arms. Huang Ling really touched me. She knew that this was not just a matter of avoiding suspicion when her daughter got older. Her daughter's resistance also made her unbearable. Finally, I would like to say that the valuable thing about Huang Ling is that she can rely on the power of the word "mother" to use to block the restrictions and prejudices against girls in traditional society. allows Xiaoting to live a better life. She saved not only her children, but also the first half of her life. also made me, as an old mother, more determined about one thing: You can’t just raise girls to be princesses, but also let them be their own heroes! Raising a daughter rich is not only material, but more importantly, spiritual and intellectual. Because a girl is full inside, the spiritual world will naturally be full and the world will be bigger.
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