In "Yong'an Dream", Li Di finally exposed his scumbag nature in front of Shen Shu. He pretended to be too good before. Once he discovers that others threaten his own interests, he can even attack his own flesh and blood. If He hadn't discovered Li Di's conspiracy and Shen Shuo ha

" Yong'an Dream ", Li Di finally exposed his scumbag nature in front of Shen Shu. He had pretended too well before.

Once he discovers that others threaten his own interests, he can even attack his own flesh and blood.

If He Shi hadn't discovered Li Di's conspiracy and came to the rescue, maybe she would never have understood until her death that she and the child in her belly were not an accident, but Li Di's long-planned plan.

When Li Di found out that Shen Shu was investigating him and had evidence, he became furious and violently abused Shen Shu, even wanting to strangle her to death.

But he did not strangle her to death after all, not because of softness of heart, nor because of the relationship between husband and wife, but because he had not yet found the evidence that Shen Shu had hidden about himself as a criminal.

So in the end, in order to get the account book, he did not hesitate to threaten Zhou Shuan with Shen Shuan's life.

Such a villain, Shen Shu is really unkind to others.

Marrying down

First of all, I want to talk about getting married down. Girls should not get married easily.

Because getting married is a sacrifice in itself, and it also implies a risk.

will not only allow you to lower your original living standard, but may also allow you to see the evil of human nature that you have never imagined.

Because in reality, many mothers-in-law will not treat you well just because you are marrying down. Instead, they think that you are marrying off because your son is capable. In their eyes, you are not marrying off, but rushing to marry your son. .

will not only not give you a lot of respect, but will also look for a sense of superiority in front of you because of your pitiful inferiority complex.

Secondly, poverty will also limit a person's knowledge and cultivation, so the education and family tradition of the family after marriage are also greatly reduced.

In "Know or Not", there are four daughters in the Sheng family. Only Ru Lan, who talks about being a legitimate daughter all day long, is married down, and the rest are married up.

But even if Ru Lan had the support of her mother-in-law, and even if Wen Yanjing was just a poor boy, Ru Lan still had to suffer all the humiliation from her mother-in-law.

Even though the servants in the house in the capital were bought by the Sheng family, Rulan's mother-in-law still lived there with peace of mind, and she often enforced rules for the pregnant Rulan.

Moreover, on the day when Rulan returned home after marrying Gu Tingye in Minglan, she found that all her sisters were in grand carriages, but she only had a shabby little sedan.

At that moment, she had been wronged because of poverty, family status, and even more because of being married off. Such a moment was definitely not the only one.

Because her eldest sister was married to an Earl's Mansion, and Mo Lan, whom she looked down upon the most, was also an Earl's Mansion. Minglan, the most inconspicuous member of the family, did marry the best one. She went to the Hou Mansion and got a royal title.

And she was once the proudest legitimate daughter of the prosperous family, but in the end she married a poor man. Many people said that she was the only one who married for love.

In fact, she was the only one who only had false love, because that love was also false, because later Wen Yanjing was transferred, Tian Gaoyuan was far away from the supervision of the Yue family, and he later took a concubine.

Rulan's initial infatuation was ultimately a mistake.

Some people say that it is not necessarily a good idea to marry the other three orchids. It is true that every family has its own problems.

But only Ru Lan’s suffering is the most risky and the least worth it.

Although the others are not pretty on the inside, they are at least beautiful on the outside. Hua Lan later changed her husband’s gender, and her life got better and better. Although Minglan’s stepmother was difficult to deal with, Gu Tingye had nothing to say to her and took good care of her. of.

Only Mo Lan fights with his concubines every day. Although Mo Lan has many concubines, she made all of them herself, because almost all of them were given to Liang Han in order to please him.

And Rulan is indeed what Wen Yanjing wants.

This is the difference. In fact, if Mo Lan had not learned Lin Sushuang's methods, her life would not be so bad.

So you must be careful when thinking of marrying a girl.

And Shen Shu in "Yong'an Dream" was originally a wealthy flower in the capital. She was born in a prince's palace, but in the end, because of her marriage, she not only harmed the Shen family, but also harmed herself.

Can a poor family really not marry?

What I said above is that you should be cautious when marrying, not that you must not marry from a poor family.

Shen Shu in "Yong'an Dream" has been married twice in her life, and it happened that the husbands she married twice came from poor families.

For the first time, her marriage was calculated by someone. For the sake of fame, she was also blinded by Li Di's disguise, thinking that she was marrying for love.

Finally discovered that Li Di was never a good man.

Her first marriage was not satisfactory, and it even made her feel that men in this world were unreliable and not sincere.

But there are always exceptions in this world.

And Zhou Shuan is the exception.

Shen Shuan married Zhou Shuan for the second time. This time she had a happy life with loving husband and wife and children. Zhou Shuan also realized his ambition of being a wife and a son.

This time Shen Shu finally married the right person.

So not all poor families cannot marry. Poor families like Li Di cannot marry, but poor families like Zhou Shuan can marry.

Therefore, girls with these three characteristics from poor families must be careful about marrying.

Characteristic 1: No real talent but practical learning.

Regarding Li Di, there is this introduction in the original work:

Li Di is a first-class player in terms of scheming, city government, and means, but he lacks true talent and learning.

Therefore, Li Di would not have been able to get into the imperial examination, let alone become a Jinshi.

His Jinshi was actually obtained by Shen Wenqi who loved his daughter and was reluctant to let her marry into a poor family without fame, so he secretly cheated with the examiner.

Moreover, Li Di not only lacked real talent and learning, he also felt at ease with the fact that Shen Wenqi helped him cheat, and even used this matter as a threat to Shen Shu in the future.

People like this are not only selfish but also ruthless.

Later, he was able to rise up in the officialdom, secretly because he helped Queen Xu do things, but in fact, Shen Wenqi's promotion was indispensable.

In other words, if he had not married Shen Shu, he would not have achieved such achievements. Without marrying Shen Shu, he would be nothing.

Feature 2: Wolfish selfishness.

Li Di was the person chosen by Queen Xu, the person she used to choose to give to the Shen family's daughter.

Queen Xu designed Shen Shu to fall into the water, and then asked Li Di to hide in the dark and wait for the opportunity to dive to save Shen Shu. Then she publicized the incident and ruined Shen Shu's reputation.

There was a reason why Queen Xu singled out Li Di among many poor families.

Wang Guang, the adviser to the sixth prince, placed the household registrations of several people in front of Queen Xu.

Queen Xu screened them one by one and kept shaking her head. She was not satisfied with any of them. After a long while, she picked up Li Di's household registration alone.

A wolf-like son of a poor family is much better than those sons of petty officials, not to mention, he has a huge leverage in her hands.

This man bribed officials, tampered with household registration, and boldly concealed the fact that he had married a wife.

Queen Xu curled her lips and said to Wang Guang: "Bring him to see me."

It can be seen that Queen Xu chose Li Di for two reasons. One is because he has a wolfish nature and is ambitious and wants to climb up. More importantly, he can only rely on himself, and this person is willing to do whatever it takes to climb up.

It turns out that it was not Empress Xu’s fault that Li Di got a wife and married her, but was the result of his early morning preparations for going to Beijing to take the exam. He had originally planned to be Chen Shimei and find a capable Yue family in the capital to help him get ahead.

Li Di falsified his household registration and thought he had done it perfectly, but he didn't expect to be found out by Queen Xu's people. In addition, in order for him to successfully marry the Shen daughter, Queen Xu had done a good job of hiding the household registration for him.

But at the same time, Li Di's household registration issue also became a big handle in Queen Xu's hands.

This is the truth behind Queen Xu’s selection of Li Di, because this man is not only ambitious, but also shameless, ruthless, and unscrupulous. The key is that the poor family still has leverage and can be better controlled.

Li Di thought that he would rise to prominence from then on, but little did he know that he was just an insignificant chess piece in the hands of Queen Xu.

Therefore, remember not to marry a poor family like this who is ambitious but will do whatever it takes to achieve the goal without a bottom line.

Because in his eyes, you are just a stepping stone for him to rise to the top.

This kind of person will never fall in love with you, because he only loves himself.

Feature 3: Very good at sweet talk.

There is another very remarkable feature about Li Di, that is, he is very good at sweet words. It was his sweet words that impressed Shen, a wealthy woman in the capital, and made her feel that it was worthwhile to marry like this.

It's a pity that Shen Shu was deceived by his sweet words.

After Shen Shu fell into the water, the whole capital knew about it the next day. After that, Li Di ignored Shen Shu's reputation and went to Shen's house every day to say that he wanted to marry Shen Shu.

Shen Shu was naturally unwilling at first, but good girls are also afraid of pestering men. Li Di pursued Shen Shu for half a year, using various tricks, and finally made Shen Shu blush and agree to marry him.

After getting married, he coaxed her with sweet words every day. As for Li Di's sweet words, the original book has this description:

During the four years of their love, for more than a thousand days and nights, he would give her the sweetest candy in the world every day. .

So today, no matter what sweet words or vows she heard, she couldn't taste it anymore.

Her heart was like a calm lake. Even if someone threw huge rocks into it and caused some waves, it eventually returned to calm.

The reason why Shen Shu remained unmoved by the sweet words of her later suitors was not only because she had been heartbroken by Li Di before, and had lost her yearning and trust for love and men.

What's more important is that none of the men she met later were as sweet-talking as Li Di.

It can be seen that Li Di is very good at sweet talk and disguise.

Therefore, in love, girls should not listen to how many sweet words the boy says to promise each other, but to see how much he has done for you and how much he has done for your future.

I have a best friend. Her ex-boyfriend was a scumbag. The scumbag’s biggest weapon was to kneel down. Every time he cried and knelt down, my best friend would become soft-hearted. But later, my best friend finally recognized the true nature of that man. Now, Live a happy life.

Therefore, when faced with some men who are very passionate in pursuit, and use many methods, sweet words can make people fall into love, and they will kneel down at every turn, such men must be cautious.

Because a man with true backbone will not put down his dignity so easily, and someone who truly loves you will not force you to do so.

Compared with Zhou Shu'an's later desire to marry Shen Shu, Shen Wenqi's attitude was different, because Zhou Shu'an really had deep feelings for Shen Shu, and it can only be said that men know men best.

Li Di walked in front of the Yunhou Mansion all day long, looking at her with deep affection, but in Shen Wenqi's view, this was tantamount to forcing him to marry his daughter. But compared with what Zhou Shuan said yesterday, "This junior knew that she was limited by the world's eyes and etiquette, so he couldn't bear to force her. After thinking about it again and again, he had no choice but to put the prepared betrothal gift back in the warehouse." It's no wonder that Shen Wenqi would say "Use your love to the best." Four words: "deep".

Compared with Li Di's publicity at the beginning, Zhou Shuan's forbearance and restraint are the real deepest feelings.

is also from a poor family, so why can Zhou Shuan marry?

Because Zhou Shuan is not only really talented and knowledgeable, he is really ambitious and ideal, and he is on the right path.

Zhou Shuan is not young yet, why has he never married a wife?

Not only because he had missed Shen Shu, but also because he had determined not to have a family without an official position, so he studied hard for ten years and finally won the top prize.

"Scholar, everyone wants to hold the purple ribbon and gold seal, seal his wife and son, and shine on the family lintel. But this is Chang'an. If you pick anyone on the street, they are all high-ranking disciples who cannot be offended. I have to know where I am at all times. Why is it my turn to sit here? The year I was first appointed as the Minister of Dali Temple, I was assassinated seven times.In addition, there are people who rob and escape from prison. If something goes wrong, someone will come to the saint and read my book. "

It can be seen from Zhou Shuan's words that he not only has real talent and learning, but also has ambition and ambition. The most important thing is that he has the backbone and only relies on himself.

Unlike Li Dikong, who is ambitious but does not want to improve himself , but thinking about how to cling to the powerful and how to find a reliable in-law for himself.

Even if Zhou Shuan won the top prize, he would be cautious and only rely on himself. He would never think of relying on others, so such a man can be married.

So When a girl encounters a poor family, she must open her eyes to see clearly whether that person is Li Di or Zhou Shuan. I hope that girls all over the world will find a good man in their lives.