"If Running Is My Life" poked the backbone of many people.
Chen Xiaoyi's role as Zhao Lao Er is probably the most disliked character in the whole show, but there are a lot of Chinese-style parents out there. They will only deny and attack their children, and do not understand the importance of encouragement and humor in this life. Of course, the thinking pattern of these traditional parents is related to the times, and they grew up in this way. They were constantly whipped and intimidated by their parents of that generation. They can only sow melons and reap beans, and pass this self-righteous majesty from generation to generation.
The tragedy of Chinese-style parents is that they strictly adhere to the dogma of "I am for your own good."
The old mother played by Chen Xiaoyi is just like this. She can't get out of this dogma and sinks deeper and deeper. She regards her parents as a kind of authority and power.
Her daughter was admitted to a key university in Beijing by her own ability and earned tuition and living expenses through work-study studies. She received no encouragement, only suppression.
From a young age, you have to control your studies, and when you fall in love and find a job, you have to cast a dragnet, and you can only implement it according to your parents' wishes.
Such a family atmosphere is suffocating.
When parents treat their children, they do not manage or control them, but they guide them step by step, focusing on the big and letting go of the small.
As long as children do not make principled mistakes, in other aspects they will grow up through setbacks. The era of
is also different.
Nowadays, babies are involuted from the womb by various chicken-baby parents. They listen to all kinds of prenatal education music and attend various classes after they are born.
Then there are various battles on the score track.
A lot of the pressure on scores comes from parents, because this is important data for parents’ face, parents’ vanity and desire for comparison.
Not to mention, this kind of vanity will become rampant and become the main theme of the entire family. Grandpa and grandma will show off with it, go to the square dance sister group to cheer, and the circle of friends will spread the news with great splendor. .
In the play, the old mother first went to Beijing to live in her daughter's dormitory, offending all the classmates around her.
forced her daughter back to her hometown because she wanted to make her daughter's self-confidence collapse and destroy her daughter's will. Then in my hometown, I will live according to my mother's wishes.
The ideological gap between big cities and hometowns is here. In fact, my daughter is not bad at ability, especially under the high pressure of her mother, it is not easy to achieve such results. She longed for recognition and encouragement, but never got it. Otherwise, the achievement would have been greater. Looking for a job in a big city means you have to go through a trough period and a running-in period. Where can you get it right in one step? Not so for the old mother. She brought over the rules of human relations from her hometown and morally kidnapped her daughter's boyfriend at the time.
After Beijing became a wasteland, my daughter was forced to return to her hometown.
The old mother began to mobilize the favors of her plastic sisters. At the dinner table, she would first praise her daughter to the sky, and then arrange the blind date list.
You see, this kind of parents' affirmation of their children only exists at "social dinners". There is too much insincerity in this kind of praise. How can there be sincerity in the talk of a group of vain people? Her daughter is her tool.
's daughter was rebellious and ruined the blind date. Her mother's plastic sisters turned against each other one after another, and she was kicked out of all group chats.
In the end, the daughter decided to treat the other person the way he was treated.
She responded to her mother's various denials and suppressions against her.
If a mother does not respect her daughter or women, then she will receive the same critical attack. See if her humanity is shocked and then have a little reflection.
Too many Chinese-style parents place their own unattainable ideals and dreams on their children, regardless of their own wishes.
They are unhappy all their lives. Only those who are unhappy and have a strong desire to control want to destroy others.
Many things that go against expectations can lead to family tragedies. Even if a submissive child survives his school days and enters the society, he has poor resistance to stress and lacks self-confidence, he will completely collapse and have a psychological collapse. At this time, there will be no room for turning.
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