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A few days ago, the entry "Lin Mansion Household Rules" suddenly became the number one hot search on Weibo.
was curious and went in to take a look, and found that it was another strange blind date experience.
A girl went on a blind date with a boy. Not long after the two contacted each other, the boy's mother approached the girl and had a jaw-dropping conversation.
This mother said that her precious son had never been in love before, and she added a girl to help her son check:
" Our child has been protected and raised by us, and I don't want him to be deceived by a bad girl ." "
Later, the boy's mother introduced that her son had turned 30 years old and said that this age "is the time to be charming."
When the girl saw this fight, she thought it was because her mother, a newly graduated post-00s generation, was worried, but she didn’t expect this to be the case.
Then they started talking about work and family. The man’s mother was not very satisfied with the girl’s job in a private school because her son’s job was a career editor with a monthly salary of more than 4,000.
The man’s mother feels that her son is an iron rice bowl, and the girl will have to rely on her son to support her if she loses her job later.
then started to pick on the girl for being too thin and difficult to have children, saying that she would be asked to eat more after getting married.
Then she asked the girl if she could cook, which was very important to her, because:
"Any daughter-in-law who wants to enter our house must be someone who can cook and clean the house."
She learned from the girl's parents He knew that the girl couldn't cook, so he started preaching to let the girl learn to cook and remember her son's taste. Don't just cook those few things. She and her husband's taste should also be remembered.
The girl didn't say a word. The other party kept typing, and finally said the "Lin Mansion House Rules" that was on the hot search.
The house rules she sent to the girl were 98 pages long, covering everything from basic necessities, food, housing and transportation to the taste preferences of the family of three, how to treat guests, etc., every detail must be set out, and the daughter-in-law was stipulated to get up at 4:30 every day to make breakfast. There are regulations even on what soy sauce to use for cooking.
There are many regulations that make people speechless. For example, in terms of travel, as his wife, you don’t even have the freedom to choose which car to take:
(1) You need to walk within 3 kilometers;
(2) 5-10 kilometers can be Take public transportation;
(3) You can drive for more than 10 kilometers (the car key is in the hands of the father, and you should apply to your father in advance if you need a car);
(4) When traveling for long distances, you should buy hard train seats in advance;
In case of special bad weather Or in special circumstances, a written application can be presented to the father. The father has the right to object.
I can only say that being a nanny is not so miserable.
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The "Lin Family Rules" stirred up a lot of waves. Even though many people are unbelievable and doubtful, this incident still makes the public full of indignation because there are many similar things.
A few days ago, I saw a local mediation program, and its level of cruelty was unexpected.
The person who came to see the mediator was Aqiang, a boy in his 30s. Three years ago, he met the girl Xiaomei through a matchmaker.
The two got together quickly. The man's family gave the woman's family a gift of 188,000 yuan and made an appointment to get a marriage certificate.
However, since Xiaomei was not of legal age for marriage yet, she did not get the marriage certificate that time. The two parties agreed that they would get along together until Xiaomei could get the marriage certificate.
The two parties also signed a contract, agreeing that if Xiaomei and Aqiang did not obtain the certificate within one year, the 168,000 yuan in the betrothal gift would be refunded.
It’s just that Xiaomei was not very happy living in Aqiang’s house. She kept clamoring to go home for three days and went back and forth for three years without getting the certificate. So Aqiang went to the mediator to get the bride price back.
Aqiang came to Xiaomei's house with the mediator. Xiaomei's parents said that it was not Xiaomei who was unwilling to take it, but that Aqiang regretted it now that they were living together. They also said that if Aqiang wanted to take it now, Xiaomei would go immediately.
The mediator then realized that Aqiang did not want to get married and asked them why.
Aqiang's mother said that Xiaomei can't do anything and can't teach well, so how can she take care of her son in the future?
Aqiang said that Xiaomei's parents concealed Xiaomei's situation at first, and now they are exhausted mentally and physically.
It turns out that Xiaomei seems to have some mental retardation. She doesn't know currency, can't read time, and can't take care of her personal hygiene well.
But Xiaomei’s mother said that from the beginning, she explained that her daughter was a little “unclear”, not to mention that Aqiang didn’t know after three years of getting along with her? If you mind, why didn't you say it at the beginning, but you only had an opinion after living together for three years?
Everything is probably sorted out now.
Xiaomei’s parents found Xiaomei’s in-laws early, probably hoping that their daughter would have a good home.
But to put it bluntly, Xiaomei's situation is not suitable for marriage at all. She probably doesn't understand the meaning of marriage. If she insists on letting her daughter live in another family, her parents are actually shirking the responsibility of taking care of their daughter.
Aqiang's family also had their hands full. At first, they approached Xiaomei with the mentality that it didn't matter if they didn't have a clear head, as long as they could have children. However, since there was no movement in Xiaomei's stomach for three years, they didn't want to delay and regretted it.
In the end, after mediation, Aqiang's family received the 68,080 yuan gift returned by Xiaomei's family. The two parties shook hands and made peace, ending with dignity.
Among them, the most pitiful and innocent one is Xiaomei.
She may not quite understand what happened, nor does she have any right to make decisions. She is pushed back and forth by her parents and the Aqiang family.
The program also aroused heated discussions among netizens. Some netizens said bluntly, "Xiao Mei is obviously not willing. It is Xiao Mei's parents who are willing. How about letting her parents take care of this Aqiang." "It's still the Xiaomei incident, and the essential contradiction is still the difference in 's different understanding of the position of women in marriage.
Many older generations believe that when a girl marries, she is the daughter-in-law who has to take care of the family affairs. To put it bluntly, she means "servicing the whole family."
The meaning of "a daughter-in-law becomes a mother-in-law" is that the son marries a wife, the mother is promoted from daughter-in-law to mother-in-law, and she can finally transfer her housework to her daughter-in-law.
Many husbands also think that if the man takes care of the outside world and the woman takes care of the house, they can avoid worries by marrying a good wife and mother.
But all human beings are created equal. Why are girls destined to take care of housework for another family when they get married?
What's more, many women now have their own jobs, they also have their own careers, they live independently and live well, so why bother to get married and make themselves unhappy?
With the development of society, people are increasingly aware that marriage is not about letting a girl be the nanny of another family. Marriage should be about two people forming a small family together and working together to run .
Therefore, when old and outdated ideas like "Lin Family Rules" reappear, it will naturally arouse the disgust of many people.
In the final analysis, the essence of marriage is actually a cooperation or exchange of interests between two people, or even two families, and cooperation always needs to be negotiated under the conditions of mutual benefit.
For individuals, improving their social value will also give them more room to choose partners.
Recognize yourself, respect each other, and be neither humble nor overbearing is the way to cooperate.
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