, let’s share a short story: During the Spring and Autumn Period of
, a disciple of Confucius Xiansheng was named Zhong You (Zi Lu). In his early years, he was from a poor family and often ate wild vegetables.
Despite this, the filial Nakayu was worried that his parents would not have enough to eat, so he often bought rice back home from a hundred miles away to honor his parents. Soon after the death of
's parents, Zhongyou became a high official, and never worry about eating and drinking.
, who has a good life, is not complacent about it. Instead, he often thinks of his parents and sighs, even if I want to eat wild vegetables now and want to carry rice for my parents, how can I get what I want?
Confucius admired him and said that Naka-Yu served his parents, it can be said that he did his best in life and missed him after death!
This is the story of "One Hundred Miles" in history.
grew up, we have heard a lot of similar stories about filial piety.
However, with the ever-changing progress of material and thinking, we who have always regarded Baishan filial piety as a traditional virtue, how are we in our understanding and implementation of filial piety? The movie
I would like to recommend to everyone today may give us some inspiration and reflection.
"Happy Fun"
There is an elderly man living alone in Zhangzhuang, Lunan, Guo Lin, who was 86 years old at that time.
Her daily life is to listen to the radio, take soles of shoes, worship Bodhisattva, and wipe old pictures on the wall. Although the days of
are monotonous, they are also enjoyable.
Guo Lin has six children. The eldest, fourth, and sixth rarely come back when they are away all year round. The third and fifth live near her, and the second son who teaches is the nearest to her, next door.
Guo Lin's ordinary days ended in an unexpected fall --- because of a broken leg, Guo Lin's life became unable to take care of himself.
After her mother fell, the second child quickly summoned his younger brothers and sisters to come to his mother's house to discuss the next support matters.
After some accusations of your coming and going, the three children finally decided to send Guo Lin to the nursing home, and the second son came forward to pay the deposit first.
Guo Lin, who is unwilling to live in a nursing home for the elderly, carefully discussed with his children whether he could live with his three children instead of going to the nursing home.
The three sons and daughters who were too troublesome simply and rudely rejected the mother's request, but due to their inescapable responsibility, they finally reluctantly reached an agreement to wait for the mother in turn until the nursing home had a bed.
In desperation, Guo Lin, who is inconvenient and has no right to speak, simply packed a bag of personal clothes, and took the inextricable Bodhisattva to the third son's house.
Before she left the house, the second daughter-in-law came over shyly and took away the old lady's room key, saying that she couldn't live at home, and the old mother just moved in by herself.
came to the third house. Before the luggage was taken in, the third daughter-in-law threw Guo Lin's package into the storage room on the grounds that there was nothing missing.
can't take care of himself because of life, everything about Guo Lin's is dirty and untouchable in the eyes of the third daughter-in-law.
prepared separate dishes for her for dinner. The used towels were picked up with tongs and thrown away.
In the end, even the bed sheets, duvet covers, towels and other daily necessities used by Guo Lin were thrown into the garbage by the third daughter-in-law with disgust.
retrieved his luggage from the third storeroom, and Guo Lin was sent to his daughter's house.
all said that her daughter is the intimate little quilted jacket of her mother.
The daughter who is not from a wealthy family wants to be better to her mother.
But not long after Guo Lin's arrival, the son-in-law "found" that the money in the commissary cabinet was 50 yuan less.
asked his wife, but the mother-in-law would admit it in one bite. (Whether Guo Lin's money is taken, there is no specific explanation in the movie, but based on Guo Lin's personality, the editor guesses that she is doing it for her grandson (the trail).)
is between her mother and her husband. When I was in a state of desperation, a bigger blow came again-the old lady had a stroke.
Although Guo Lin's body has not suffered more physical damage after the hands of a century-old Chinese medicine doctor, he inexplicably left a sequelae---laughing disease (always laughing out of control).
Mother’s increasingly serious condition made her daughter who lives in the same place almost collapsed, like her brother and sister-in-lawThrowing her mother here like a baggage, indifferent, she wants to manage but feels helpless.
In despair, the daughter even "cared about" the mother's life and death.
Guo Lin, who has always been sober-minded, has actually seen her daughter's anxiety and embarrassment a long time ago. Only because of the helplessness and embarrassment with nowhere to go, she had to stay cheeky at her daughter's house for so long.
In order not to hinder his daughter's family, Guo Lin returned to Zhangzhuang again with his luggage. The
house has long been occupied by the second son's family, and Guo Lin, who has nowhere to live, can only temporarily live in the second son's house.
however.
Guo Lin’s untimely laughing sickness and inability to take care of himself all became the reasons for the second daughter-in-law to swear.
In order to stay away from this obnoxious trouble, the second and second husband and wife made a concerted effort to move Guo Lin into the bullpen, and "smoothly" put rat poison on the old mother's bed.
Under the slanting shadow of the lonely lamp, the distressed second child asked the old mother with complicated thoughts: Mom, do you hate me?
old mother: Jing said silly things, my son.
Finally, the old lady didn't forget to take off the bracelet on her hand, leaving it to the second daughter-in-law who didn't like her anyway.
the next day.
The car from the nursing home that Guo Lin had been waiting for for a long time finally arrived.
and she did not wait until this day.
According to the customs of Zhangzhuang, the death of an old man over 80 is called "hi", and the 86-year-old Guo Lin is no exception. After a brief and perfunctory remembrance, a group of cold and numb people finally waited for their long-awaited carnival.
and the group of demons on the stage are opposite to the flurry of dance, is the kindly smile of Guo Lin's photo...
This is a movie that will make people's heart long after watching it, and it is a magical coat that runs through the whole film. Under the circumstances, it always makes people unconsciously think of the innate emotion of human beings --- motherhood. The Guo Lin in the movie
has a statue of Guanyin Bodhisattva with him, whether he has good legs and feet or when he goes to live with his children. Because one of her daily compulsory courses is to ask the Bodhisattva to bless her children in peace.
This kind of prayer from the heart never stops because of her own illness, the coldness of her children, and the passing of life.
Until the last moment of his life, Guo Lin was still praying for the last time on the statue of Guanyin who was thrown to the head by his son, asking the Bodhisattva to protect his children and their health.
Let's look at the daughter-in-laws who hate Guo Lin so much.
as mothers, they love their children wholeheartedly like Guo Lin.
The second daughter-in-law can't wait to occupy the old house of the mother-in-law, in order to free up her house for the son and daughter-in-law.
The third daughter-in-law has not let her daughter go out to work because she is not assured that her daughter will go out alone for fear of unfamiliar and unsafe life.
After her daughter left home privately, the third daughter-in-law sprinkled all the grievances that had nowhere to vent on the innocent mother-in-law.
has always been only old and small, but small and old. When the daughter-in-laws in
treat their mother-in-law badly, have they ever thought about their future end a little bit?
may not be available.
Because Guo Lin's second daughter-in-law followed her footsteps shortly after Guo Lin's death --- fell down and broke. There was no one around
.
This silent than sound ending makes people wonder whether to be happy or worried. In the past, there was an old saying in rural areas that there is no difference between the eaves and the water. The behavior and ending of the second daughter-in-law of
is reincarnation and destiny.
In addition, the film has a particularly pungent point --- about life and death.
After Guo Lin fell, the second son was entrusted by his brother and sister to hurriedly went to the nursing home to check in for his mother.
Due to the shortage of beds, the second child who had paid the deposit was led by the hospital to see the reserved bed. Only after seeing the seriously ill old lady Hu, there was no sign of "going", and Guo Lin could only wait for this one. Only after the death of Mrs. Hu can he live in.
So in the later stage of the film, there were several scenes of brothers and sisters coming to inquire about Mrs. Hu's death.
One who deserves to die in everyone's eyes, but hasn't died too lateThe lonely old man, what kind of suffering should it be to live alone in the world?
In the face of poverty and loneliness, the lives of these old people are like grass mustard ants, without dignity at all.
and Guo Lin’s daughter, when she was almost down on the ground under the burden of life, she hinted more than once to her mother that if I got to this point, I would die, and I would never drag my children... It's not surprising that a daughter like
can ask her mother "Do you want to die?" later.
saw some comments saying that after watching "Happy Fun", I think poverty is the original sin.
If all the children of the Guo Lin family in the film are well-fed, then supporting her will not become a burden to the children, not a burden, and there is no question of whether she is a burden.
However, poverty is certainly one of the main reasons for Guo Lin's tragic fate, but it is probably more terrifying than poverty.
Don’t believe that you turn on the TV or follow the daily social news on the Internet. The endless family disputes and the problems of empty-nest elderly people who have nowhere to rely on are also plagued by urban people with relatively superior material conditions.
The heart is broken, no matter how good the heart is, it is useless.
Before this, perhaps we have seen countless different kinds of deaths in other film and television clips, but this "have to die" ending in "Happy Fun" really makes people feel very sad, heavy, and powerless.
(Editorial Department of Rotten Tomatoes Movie: Do not like things)
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