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2023-07-25

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It was another day "moved" by maternal love. A mother, in order to make corn juice for her child, manually peeled the kernels of 4 ears of corn, and even peeled off the outer skin of each kernel completely. The corn juice made in this way has a delicate taste, and children love to drink it. She herself was moved, "This is not ordinary corn juice, but a mother's love, a great mother's love!" We can do the math. Generally speaking, there are about 500 to 700 corn kernels in one ear of corn, and 2000 to 2800 kernels in four ears, with an average of 2400 kernels. If the time to peel 1 kernel is about 4 seconds, the time to peel 2400 kernels is 9600 seconds, 160 minutes, 2.67 hours-this does not count the time to peel 4 ears of corn kernels. lasted nearly 3 hours, peeling one grain after another, unpretentious and boring, just to let the children drink a bunch of high-quality corn juice. Who can see and not be "moved"? Are you still human if you are not moved? but, wait a minute? What is the filter of the wall breaker for? Isn't it just used to filter the dross? Not to mention the broken wall machine, even my 200-odd pocket soybean milk machine is the same, even the belt grains are smashed to pieces. Also, isn't drinking corn juice just for the dietary fiber absorbed in it? Doesn't peeling off the skin destroy the nutrition? does not use tools, does not talk about science, and seems selfless, but it is actually unnecessary. is still a netizen explaining the mystery, "Some useless hard work."

is not so much a great maternal love, but rather that she is really idle, too idle, and she has time to sit in the kitchen and peel corn for 3 hours. It's okay if she admits that she is idle, but she insists on crowning it with maternal love, "I spent 3 hours making a bowl of corn juice, I am really an amazing mother." People who are used to touching themselves often do some confusing behaviors. For example, I saw a mother who made dumplings by herself, and let her son and husband eat after making dumplings. The leftover fillings were not enough, so I had to roll out some noodles and eat by myself. worked hard for a long time, and he only ate some mixed dumplings and noodles, but he was also very happy to see the father and son eating to their satisfaction.

In the end, she was very emotional, "Is it true that after becoming a mother, people will gradually become like this (holding on to their husband and children first when eating)?"

She wrote this in a very proud tone, thinking that it is a virtue to hold on to her husband and children first when she can make delicious food, and it is a virtue that only mothers can instinctively burst out. But what age is it, why can't we be treated equally after eating dumplings? The whole family packs and eats together. Is it difficult to cook noodles together? This kind of people are simply self-deprecating. They misinterpret and underestimate the connotation of the roles of wives and mothers. No one asks them to sacrifice, but they themselves insist on self-sacrifice, and they are all cheap and unnecessary sacrifices. made herself look like a pissed off daughter-in-law, willing to be a second-class citizen at home, and then insisted on telling it as a merit, in an attempt to gain everyone's approval. If you say , you can only get sprayed, and you can't get anything else.

Self-impressive devotion not only exists in mothers, but also exists in large quantities in intimate relationships. I have a friend who complained to me that he was very nice to her husband, but he didn't appreciate it, "I even squeezed toothpaste on him in the morning..." "Why did you squeeze toothpaste on him?" I asked her back. "Doesn't this mean that I treat him well?" She was wronged. "But did he feel okay?" Apparently not. There are tens of thousands of ways to be nice to a man, the cheapest and lowest level is the most meaningless. As soon as he had conflicts with them, she would show this kind of thing to prove how good she was to him, and how irritated he was. "Then don't squeeze me in the future, okay? It's not like I don't have long hands." She continued to do this, continued to move herself, and continued to use it as a moral stick in quarrels, "I already squeezed toothpaste for you..." Well, the cycle came back again. Their marriage could not escape divorce in the end, she cried to him how good she was to him, and I said that you deserved the divorce because you were so "good" to him. Why doesn't treat him "bad"? Why lose the ability to be "bad" to a person? These are the questions she should be asking herself.

A person has a deep motivation and logic to do something. Why do some people like this kind of cheap self-impression? Generally speaking, this is because the person's sense of self-identity is not enough, so there is a great need for external affirmation. When a person doesn't really enjoy being a parent or a lover, they don't really know how to satisfy each other, what they care about is how to satisfy themselves. Does the kid need a 3 hour old corn juice? No, it's my mother who needs it, and my mother thinks it will make me feel great. Do men need their wives to squeeze toothpaste for themselves every day? No, it's my wife who needs it. My wife thinks it will make me feel very virtuous. but is this stuff free? No, they all come with a price. Behind the logical chain of "I do what for you" is the psychology of waiting for rewards, "I have done all this for you, so you have to do something for me." What a virtuous wife needs is a submissive husband. If she doesn't get one, she will be very disappointed. If the other party fails to do so, they will quickly turn into victims, disappointed, sad, dissatisfied, and sad, making the other party inexplicably feel guilty. Then they will use this guilt to achieve the purpose of controlling the other party's behavior. For example, a mother who likes to move herself often likes to engage in moral kidnapping in the end. When the child does not listen to her, or does not give her the desired return, her grievances come, "I have done all this for you, but you still disobey me." The more you indulge in moving yourself, the easier it is to ignore the other person's feelings. In the end, the relationship will be completely destroyed, and no one will really get pleasure from it. Those who are moved by themselves will get disappointed, and those who are paid will get pressure. So, beware of self-impression, which is often a trap of self-restraint. True love is restrained, measured and measured, given just right, not heavy or excessive.

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