Does the child have to win at the starting line? In "Growing Up With You", 4 groups of families tell you

life is proceeding in an orderly manner, and many post-90s have also been promoted to become mothers and fathers. The change of identity and the anxiety of parenting are also in front of everyone.

Especially when women get together, as long as the topic is about children, from eating and drinking, to school district housing and further education, it is basically endless.

is often seen by single people, under the pressure of the atmosphere, the anxiety of fear of marriage arises.

Is parenting really scary? "Growing Up With You" may tell the voice of many parents.

The reputation of the play is mixed, and the overall evaluation is not very satisfactory. The parenting methods of the 4 families have aroused heated discussions, especially the behavior of Bao Dad.

The father with the best reputation Xi Bin

​​The economic conditions are getting better and better, and parents are paying more and more attention to the education of their children.

Whether in movies or in real life, the education of 's children is a top priority for the whole family.

Knowledge changes destiny, this is the truth that every parent believes in. In order to let their children learn more, parents can be said to be eighteen martial arts, and learn about everything.

Xi Bin was praised because he didn't like to educate his children in advance.

Rationally speaking, he respects the child's childhood very much, does not deprive him of this short-lived happiness, and does not let Xi Wang accept too much things that do not belong to his age.

, on the other hand, looks at some parents in life, always adhering to the concept of "winning at the starting line". In order to make children more outstanding in the crowd,

has basically filled up remedial classes and interest classes.

even thinks the opening stage is very important. If you miss it, you will fall behind other children, and the family will be confused.

looks at other people's children's talents and many parents will follow the trend, and gradually it has become a trend.

Everyone ignores the child's own feelings, what is the interest? may be put on the shelves by parents without many children figuring it out.

Su Xing and Xi Bin have different philosophies, and there is a debate about the early education of children.

But those who are attentive will find that during this process, no child has asked whether the child is interested in this matter.

or, in other words, whether it is from the heart, willing to do this within limited energy, is basically the parent's own ideas imposed on the child.

Xi Bin's philosophy is "happy", doing what he likes at a carefree age, and creating a warm childhood for his children.

Therefore, his praise has never been stingy, he has always encouraged hope, and it is worth learning from every parent.

The most speechless father Li Qiang

​​Li Qiang is a person who is addicted to DB, and Shen Xiaoyan is a foreign woman.

The two had different views, the woman got tired of his laziness and laziness, and finally the two ended their marriage.

From a certain point of view, Li Feifan is a child of a single-parent family, but Shen Xiaoyan did not leave with her son in order to give the child a complete home.

Li Feifan studied very hard, but his father Li Qiang was very irresponsible, like a shopkeeper.

has no stable income, and he doesn't care about his children at all. 's restraint on Li Feifan is simple and rude, which is to keep him at home.

Shen Xiaoyan has supported the entire family by herself, and is also a true portrayal of many women.

all say that a good childhood heals a lifetime, and a bad childhood requires a lifetime to heal.

Li Feifan is considered a "little genius" in the eyes of many parents, but I don't think so. The changes in his original family accelerated his growth.

If father and mother were in harmony, he could have lived a carefree life.

But because of Li Qiang, the whole family was in ruins. Li Feifan sympathized with his mother's hardships and could only repay it with good grades. At such a young age,

is so sensible that it makes people feel distressed.

It is said that Li Qiang will change in the later stage, but what will happen to Li Feifan in the future? may be experienced by people who can feel the same way.

is still unknown as of now. It can be felt that at such a young age, he is not as happy as we imagined. The person who

deprives of all this is the misfortune of the original family.

loves his stepfather Jiang Bo too much

Compared with Li Qiang, a stepfather, many viewers like him, and his great love is admirable.

He Jinghua married Jiang Bo with his daughter after the divorce. After marriage, a son was born, and the family of four can be described as happy.

After his son was born, he lived in the doting of his grandfather and grandmother. Compared with children of the same age, Jiang Siyuan has many problems.

chases and feeds while eating. Every day, he is either playing or playing games.

For He Jinghua's daughter, is not Jiang Bo's biological son, but this stepfather loves him very much.

When his daughter sneaks out, he will follow him secretly, for fear that the other party will encounter a bad person. When

takes care of his son, he can only speak more rationally than his mother-in-law and his father-in-law.

In addition, in the whole family, He Jinghua sang " white face ", Jiang Bo sang "red face".

Although this man is insignificant in terms of family status, he does his best to take care of the children. Compared with Li Qiang,

should not pay too much attention.

left him alone, because he was under the fence, and his right to speak was very light.

But parenting like this isn't true love, it's pushing the child to a point where he can't control it.

It is good for a father to love his children, but has no binding force and it is only a matter of time before he goes astray.

In life, many parents have encountered such problems. Thinking that the child is ignorant, there is no need to restrict too much, as long as the can stop crying, any conditions will be satisfied as much as possible.

Often in this gap, the child has no binding force and grows like a weed.

said a little more seriously and then tears fell, as if the person who did the wrong thing was the parent, and it was embarrassing for outsiders to see.

To be more rational, the show vividly describes the "pros and cons" of Chinese-style parenting.

The conditions of the original family and the way of parental education have led to different trajectories of children, which have also been reflected in real life.

Many parents long for their children to become better and better and become the brightest among their peers. It seems that few people have asked the child what kind of thoughts are in their hearts.

Are these deliberately arranged roads really acceptable to children?

sent the children directly to the cram school regardless of whether they were adaptable or not, trying to cultivate a type who was proficient in everything about piano, chess, calligraphy and painting.

In fact, the academic performance can only be used as a reference. It is an achievement at the current stage, and cannot judge the talent of the children.

Over the years, some parents have even led their children to do IQ tests. The talent of

is very subtle, and intellectual development is not "pulling the seed for growth". Excessive testing will only make children tired of learning from the bottom of their hearts.

Learning is to increase children's experience and broaden their horizons, but some people use it for comparison.

Whose child signed up for the so-and-so interest class and has already won the starting line. Whose children have good academic performance, it seems that their IQ is very high, and they have inherited their parents' genes. Many similar words of

have become the idioms of the entire social group.

I think learning is good, I can only say that this child is good at learning, it does not mean that other children are of poor quality.

Everyone has different personalities and different perceptions of things. The bondage of parents is a fortress, ignoring the happiness of their children, which is worth thinking about by everyone.

is the right choice to be friends with children from the perspective of a friend, and to listen to the voice of the other party.

Every child should come to this world because of love, not because of their parents' long-cherished wishes and unfulfilled dreams.

's carefree childhood, that is, a short period of time, it is better to cultivate children on the right path than to hope that children will become dragons and daughters will become phoenixes.

Identify the right and wrong in life and give a good "tutor" instead of excessive spoiling.

What kind of environment creates what kind of character, parents are the first mentors of children, and the influence of words and deeds on children is very important.

A man who doesn't know what the future is, let him be happy to be himself. In the process of

, if they encounter something they like, parents can guide them gradually instead of imposing them on their children.

It is very likely that the children were originally interested, but after such a tossing, the children showed conflicting behavior.

Most parents feel that they know more than their children, but in my opinion, the best way to get along with children is to be friends with each other.

Children also have an independent mind, and respect for each other can make him grow up.

Excessive spoiling is not a good thing, children have their own way of growing up. Through these 4 pairs of families, every parent should re-examine the relationship with their children.

The world of children is very naive, and this innocence is invaluable in the materialistic life.

made them realize the cruelty of society prematurely, winning at the starting line, and stimulating their children's fighting spirit through comparison is not a rational behavior.

Everyone has no chance to choose their origin, but they can create a happy future with their hands.

"Growing Up With You" is worth savoring by everyone. In ordinary life, don't use "burdens" to embellish your childhood.