"Thank You Doctor": Parents' strong desire to control is a double-edged sword that stabs their children and themselves


Yang Mi " thank you doctor " in a plot, I saw my blood pressure soar:

Fang Nan, an 18-year-old boy, claimed that he had a headache, and his mother took him to the hospital. After the preliminary examination found no problems, the doctor suggested that his mother take Fang Nan Do a brain CT.

Fang Nan's mother looked at the healthy child and felt that he was just trying to avoid school, and there was no big problem - "He is pretending to be sick!"

So mother took Fang Nan back to school after Soon, Fang Nan fainted in class.

CT results of the brain showed that Fang Nan had massive bleeding in the posterior fossa. Experts concluded that Fang Nan had only 4-5 days left to live.

's mother broke down...

In a Chinese-style family, parents' super-controlling desire is already a common phenomenon. In thousands of years of civilization, fathers, as the patriarch, have the absolute right to speak, deciding the choices of their children's career, marriage and other key moments, and even the life direction of their grandchildren.

In today's modern civilization, although children seem to be able to have an equal dialogue with their parents, this dialogue often only exists after adulthood, and children before the age of 18 rarely gain enough right to speak in front of their parents.

Under the terrifying desire for control of parents, children are more appendages to their parents' lives than independent individuals. Xiao Yan, the heroine played by

Yang Mi, regretted that she did not insist on persuading Fang Nan to do a brain CT for in-depth examination - she wanted to do her best to win a chance for this 18-year-old young life.

A group of people contacted authoritative experts around the clock and consulted literature and materials. With their efforts, they moved the medical staff of the general practice to find a way with her, and even contacted foreign expert teams.

In the end, when the hero and heroine worked together to find the precious information, Fang Nan's heart stopped because of the deterioration of his condition.

Because he failed to save Fang Nan's life, Xiao Yan, as a doctor, was heartbroken, even for outsiders, Fang Nan's mother's mood can be imagined.

Some people may say that controlling parents will only be angry because things are not within their control, and will never collapse because of their own problems.

The author thinks this view is too extreme. After all, the ultimate goal of control is not to let their children lose their lives - maybe they are flawed as parents, but as parents, the feelings of worrying about their children are always the same .

From squat to toddler to 18-year-old handsome boy, Fang Nan's mother will never put in less effort than anyone else. In the

play, Fang Nan's mother always felt that her son's death was caused by preventing her son from doing a brain CT, and she was emotionally broken and wanted to commit suicide. Under the persuasion of the male and female protagonists, she knew that her son was born with Masquerade Syndrome, even though she filmed CT I can't diagnose it, so I'm a little relieved.

But I think it's hard to be happy for the rest of her life, even if she can let it go.

Those bits and pieces of controlling the child will become the sharp blade that keeps stabbing her.

So...may there be less control and more equal dialogue and understanding between our parents and children.

thank you doctor