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, fans asked me a question, if An Lingrong was born in a family like Nianfu, would he become the second Huafei ?
I think this is a good question.
How much influence the family environment has on a child can be seen from An Lingrong and Concubine Hua.
Although we cannot discuss some human nature based on the theory of family origin, the truth I found from my current superficial understanding is:
A good family environment, a good relationship between parents, give children enough care together, and establish a relationship with them. The sense of boundaries between people and things;
The inner world of children will feel very safe, and they will have confidence in the people around them, thus forming a secure attachment relationship.
She will believe that she is good, and she will believe that others are good. In the process of growing up,
may suffer some setbacks and injuries, but in the end, he has a great chance to come out, and he is still full of hope in life.
such as Zhen Huan is this type.
Looking back at Zhen Huan's scene at Ganlu Temple now, I think it is a kind of proof that he has regained hope in life after being hit.
Just because of the needs of the plot, Zhen Huan was quickly pulled back to the Colosseum and participated in the competition again.
Actually, besides Zhen Huan, there are two extremes.
One is a person like Concubine Hua, who is arrogant because of excessive self-esteem, and the other is a person like An Lingrong, who commits suicide because of excessive self-improvement.
The two are actually interoperable in nature. The critical point of
lies in the grasp of security and love: one comes from the family of origin and the other comes from the self.
Let's talk about Concubine Hua first.
Hua Fei is a typical family doting. Children who grow up in such an environment feel very secure and feel that everything must be centered on her.
She will only compromise when she treats people with higher status than her, and she will be ruthless when it comes to people who are not as good as her and rob her of interests.
For example, when the emperor first glanced at Fuzi, she asked Zhou Ninghai to get rid of him.
The reason why she is enemies with Zhen Huan, Shenmeizhuang, , An Lingrong and others is also because these people are robbing her of the emperor.
She said that they can serve the emperor, but no one can take away the emperor's heart, especially the sincerity the emperor has for her.
She hated Zhen Huan so much because the emperor gave Zhen Huan a unique preference, and she felt that her status was threatened.
A person with such a character as Concubine Hua is used to having to revolve around her in everything, and likes to listen to good words and flatter her; She used to use power to punish others.
For example, walking in the imperial garden, Songzhi saw that the green chrysanthemum gifted to Shenmeizhuang mistook it for her, and praised Hua Fei very happy.
But after Concubine Hua knew the truth, Songzhi was so frightened that she had to fan herself to let Concubine Hua vent her anger.
treats her think tank, Hua Fei not only has no sympathy, but also often gives them "humiliation homework".
For example, she humiliated Cao Guiren, smashed things directly on the other party's head.
She can not only use , Princess Wenyi, , to win favor, but also scolded Cao Guiren viciously: If others have children, you have children too.
So Cao Guiren defected to Zhen Huan, so I can't completely blame her, it was Concubine Hua who pushed her over.
treats Libi with the same attitude: if you don't speak, no one will treat you as dumb.
When Libi lost her use value, she directly said that the other party was crazy and only thought about how to get out.
Concubine Hua is completely self-centered, and the consequence of not treating the people around her as people is that no one dares to tell her the truth, and few people will really believe her and are willing to help her.
At the end, the power collapsed and she could only be a victim.
So, why do you say that An Lingrong is the opposite extreme of Concubine Hua?
Because An Lingrong has never been cared for in her native family, which leads to her serious lack of self-security.
When others give a little warmth, she will use her best things to repay others, which also brings some emotional pressure to others. People like
think a lot and think carefully, and anything will be magnified in her eyes.
For example, after she killed Yu Ying'er heard Shen Meizhuang say she was ruthless, for example Chun'er moved to Suiyuxuan, saying that my personality and sister Wan were more compatible, for example, she gave the emperor a bedclothes and was laughed at by Chun'er...
In short, she was often trapped in her own world and couldn't get out, always feeling that she was not good enough.
Compared with Concubine Hua's arrogant and domineering personality, An Lingrong is careful to hide his personality and never dare to reveal himself on the surface.
Because she has no confidence in herself, the whole person is a twisted posture, and she does not dare to brush her sense of existence.
The first time he went to bed, An Lingrong was shaking.
I think it's because she's really scared.
, a person who has been cautious and has been shrinking behind the scenes is suddenly promoted to the front of the stage as the second protagonist, how can he not panic?
When Zhen Huan asked her to sing for favor, she was actually very scared, and said to Zhen Huan, "Sister, why don't we go back, I'm afraid, I'm afraid I can't do it myself."
Since when did An Lingrong have a little confidence? With the support of the queen,
gradually came to prominence, because she believed in the power of authority, but because she was controlled by others, she still had no sense of security. When
had to seal Concubine Ori , she couldn't attend the ceremony because of her pregnancy, she said, "It's because I'm not worthy.
I'm not good, I'm not worthy, it has become An Lingrong's common phrase.
This is a typical characteristic of imperfect self-view and serious lack of sense of security.
Actually, in the end, Concubine Hua gradually became like another "An Lingrong".
Because the emperor wanted to attack Nian's family, he also showed a different attitude towards Hua Fei.
So, from the very beginning, Concubine Hua completely believed that the emperor loved her, and then she began to doubt whether the emperor still loved her. Is it because she was not doing well enough, or did her brother do something wrong?
She began to doubt herself, and her whole person became extremely sensitive and insecure.
She didn't even think about whether it was her own problem, and she fell into a thinking trap.
Why did Concubine Hua become like this?
When I carefully looked back at Nian Gengyao's attitude towards Concubine Hua in " The Legend of Zhen Huan ", I gradually noticed something.clues.
Most of the ups and downs in Concubine Hua's life are family, and her elder brother Nian Gengyao helped her to cover it up. When
met an opponent like Zhen Huan, Nian Gengyao could say harsh words: Zhen Yuandao 's daughter can't get along with you, so I can't get along with him.
He didn't even ask why, but he naturally wanted to help his sister get justice.
In the family unit, when the child is bullied by the outside world, it is okay for the whole family to agree to the outside world, but it is also necessary to clarify the specific reasons.
If the child makes a mistake and the parents blindly protect the calf, it will only make the child develop a more arrogant character.
Therefore, Concubine Hua's own self-view is not perfect. In her world, those who go against her will are enemies. If she can't figure it out, her family will help her.
And Zhen Huan's parenting method is more cautious: it is a kind of strict self-discipline, but also a kind of teaching by words and deeds.
This is the boundary set by Zhen Huan's parents.
So you will see that Zhen Huan returned to the palace in the later period to teach the fourth brother is the same by words and deeds, is also to give security and care as the main direction.
If An Lingrong grew up in Nianfu, would he become the second concubine of Hua?
of course.
Because Nian Gengyao is arrogant and does not know it, he is even more indulgent to Concubine Hua, without boundaries, and the disaster of Nian's family was buried early.
And Concubine Hua herself does not have much wisdom in life. Her life is smooth and she dares to be herself, which is based on the power of the family.
Once the building overturns, Hua Fei will not be spared.
So, in the end, Concubine Hua had to die.
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