's "Ripple Heart", Pan Xiaochen finally broke up, Zhang Fan and Lin Senxiu succeeded, and Luo Xiaoxiao also found her own happiness.
When it comes to love, or staying together, or cherishing each other, there are actually the best arrangements somewhere. It's just that many times, we always make wrong decisions and choices because we are not transparent enough, so that we force what we shouldn't force and miss what is worth cherishing.
If we can understand more about the truth of love, maybe on this emotional road, we can bloom the flowers of happiness earlier and avoid many detours and suffering.
Really, after watching the drama "Ripple Heart", I think it tells us a few things about love.
01 Don't make excuses for not loving.
Love is beautiful, but many times, if you don't love it, you don't love it anymore. It doesn't matter how sweet the past you have, how long you have been in communication and dedication, how many memories you have to cherish.
Pan Xiaochen and Wang Jun have been in love for seven years. If there were no twists and turns in the middle, they should have entered the palace of marriage long ago and become a real couple.
But precisely because they failed to enter the marriage hall, Pan Xiaochen became more and more uncertain about Wang Jun. Because she felt that Wang Jun had changed, he gradually lost his enthusiasm and concern for her, and she began to feel his love.
However, Pan Xiaochen still wants to marry Wang Jun. She said that they have only been in love for too long, and their relationship has entered a dull period, not that they really don't love them anymore.
Look, this is Pan Xiaochen's excuse for not loving. In fact, she herself doesn't have much confidence in this reason, otherwise, she wouldn't suffer to go to see a psychiatrist and struggle with severe hair loss.
A lot of girls in love like to ask their boyfriends if they love them and how deeply they love them, but what I want to say is that it doesn't make sense to ask this question a hundred times, and the real answer is your own feelings.
Although feeling is a relatively subjective thing, it is quite reliable when measuring love. If you frequently feel that the other person does not love you in the process of being in love, then he does not love you anymore, and this feeling cannot deceive anyone.
Pan Xiaochen has been making excuses for Wang Jun's dislike, but she never thought that the reason why she deceived herself so much was whether she was reluctant to give up Wang Jun or their seven years of dating. It turned out that she was just used to being with Wang Jun, and she no longer loved Wang Jun now.
This is why Pan Xiaochen knew that Wang Jun arranged her meeting with Yang Wanqing and wanted to force her to break up through Yang Wanqing's intervention, but she still wanted to keep him. Because she is not retained for love, but for the sake of habit.
Fortunately, in the end, Pan Xiaochen faced his heart and the fact that Wang Jun no longer loved her. They chose to be friends. Instead, they got along more comfortably and lived a better self than when they were in love.
So, sometimes, breaking up isn't necessarily a bad thing. Don't make excuses for not loving, in order to better face your heart and not go further and further on the wrong road.
02 Don't take touching as love.
Luo Xiaoxiao is a very kind girl with a sense of justice, and at the same time she also has a side that will retaliate. The married Qi Lei disguised himself as a single man and appeared in front of Luo Xiaoxiao. Luo Xiaoxiao, who was almost fooled, vowed to make him pay the price.
It was at this time that there was a problem with the dog food sold by Qi Lei's company. In the spirit of seeking justice for himself and the victim, Luo Xiaoxiao tried every means to enter his company to find evidence. In the process, she met Zhou Haoyu. Zhou Haoyu is Qi Lei's younger brother, and his "scum" is even worse than Qi Lei's.
Zhou Haoyu manipulated the shelves in the company's warehouse to make the shelves collapse when the girls were arranging the shelves, and he appeared in time to stage a "Hero Save the Beauty" to impress the girls' hearts. And he didn't really have any sincerity towards those girls.
Luo Xiaoxiao was also one of Zhou Haoyu's chosen targets. When Zhou Haoyu blocked the shelf for Luo Xiaoxiao, Luo XiaoxiaoXiaoxiao was so moved by his recklessness that she quickly fell in love with Zhou Haoyu, and in order to be with Zhou Haoyu, she gave up the idea of retaliating against Qi Lei for making his company go bankrupt.
If it wasn't for Qi Lei's guilty conscience trying to keep Luo Xiaoxiao away from his life, and letting Luo Xiaoxiao see Zhou Haoyu clearly, either intentionally or unintentionally, then with Luo Xiaoxiao's determination to Zhou Haoyu, she would have become Zhou Haoyu's trophy. It is conceivable how much damage she will suffer in the end?
Many girls always confuse emotion with love, and think that if a boy spares no effort to help her save her, they will be with him, which is really a very unwise approach.
First of all, being moved is not the same as love. Touching is the gratitude of the benefactor to the benefactor, and love is the attraction between equal parts. If a person helped you or saved you, you should be grateful to him and repay him, but you must understand that this has nothing to do with love, otherwise, it will easily lead you to love the wrong person.
Secondly, it is easy to give people with ulterior motives an opportunity to be moved as love. Just like Zhou Haoyu, when he acted in a play and touched the other party a little, the other party was willing to give up on him. How terrible is this?
Therefore, girls must learn to distinguish between touching and love. This is not only to protect yourself, but also a responsible attitude towards love.
03 Don't fantasize about scumbags.
Under Luo Xiaoxiao's planning, both Qi Lei and Zhou Haoyu finally paid the price for their actions. This ending can be said to be very satisfying.
However, before that, when Luo Xiaoxiao went to Qi Lei's wife, she was not surprised by her husband's betrayal. This shows that it is not the first time for Qi Lei to behave like this, but his wife has always had illusions about him.
How did Qi Lei treat his wife? After his wife found out about his relationship with Luo Xiaoxiao, he once told his wife that only he could give her the life she wanted.
He said this to tell his wife that if she wants to recognize the reality and continue to live a rich life, she can only turn a blind eye to him. This also shows that in his heart, he does not love his wife, nor does he respect her enough, and even regards her as a woman who covets material things.
What could hurt more than a husband treating him like this? I think it is precisely because of Qi Lei's attitude that his wife is thinking of divorce. But even if they wanted to divorce, his wife didn't think about Qi Lei so badly. She thought he could still be responsible for what he said, so she asked him to buy a shop for her.
But what about Qi Lei? He agreed on the surface, but he didn't take it seriously at all. He just made a phone call to ask about the price symbolically, and then nothing happened. A man like
who doesn't take his wife seriously, even if he did something wrong, he wouldn't really feel guilty. He may confess to his wife, and even cry, but this is just a means for him to temporarily calm things down, not his true heart.
But there are some women who eat this kind of thing. The man swears and says a few sweet words. He forgets all the pain and grievances of being hurt, and he continues to fantasize about him, thinking that he will really be a prodigal son.
The fact is, this is the essence of such a man, he will not change at all, you have illusions about him, you are irresponsible to yourself, wait for one day when you are completely desperate, or he doesn't want to pretend anymore, he Also complacently laugh at you stupid.
Look at Zhou Haoyu and Qi Lei, they were still blaming Luo Xiaoxiao until the end, completely unaware of their fault.
So, woman, when you see the essence of a scumbag, you must leave decisively, stop the loss in time, don't have any illusions about him, don't want to use your love to influence him, it's useless, Because some people's scum has been engraved in their genes.
About the author: meets Acacia, a woman who likes to read and write. She focuses on the creation of articles in the emotional direction of film and television and the analysis and answer of questions in the emotional field. I hope my words can accompany you warmly.
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