Super rich, super handsome, but abuse you, can you?

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Whenever a male star makes an unspeakable sex scandal, on the Internet or in real life, you can always hear this kind of dialogue: "If it were you, would you be okay?" "Who treats you like this, are you OK?" "What is the most you can accept from him?"... At times like

, I want to say to those who disagree: Armie Hammer Get to know ?

is fine now. The story of Armie Hammer and his family has been so shocking that a three-part documentary was made to wake up the world, titled "House of Hammer" (House of Hammer). Everyone, both men and women, should take a look to see how cruel and perverted people who are so-called rich and handsome can be.

About Armie Hammer, you may not be familiar with this name, but you must be impressed by this face. He is the tall and handsome twins of wealthy children in " social network ", one person plays two roles; he is also the charming young American scholar Oliver in " please call me by your name".

In that picturesque film, in the eyes of a seventeen-year-old, Armie Hammer has an irrepressible fatal attraction as sweet and poisonous. He was tall, handsome, with eyes that seemed to be forever telling you a thousand words, sometimes melancholy, sometimes wild. He has the best education, he can read you when you play Bach, he understands what you write when you write Shelley, he plays tennis beautifully, he rides a bicycle, and he Sexy and rambunctious dancing with strangers...

Armie Hammer is good at roles like that, and he's adept at all those high-born, personable characters -- a natural strength indeed. It is difficult for other male artists from the bottom to have the noble temperament that he has infected since childhood and revealed in his bones. Because, he is indeed a wealthy family.

It is difficult for Chinese people to empathize with to the arrogance of European and American wealthy and wealthy families for their surnames, but the Hammer family is undoubtedly the best among them.

As a rich oil tycoon, since his great-great-grandfather, the Hammer family has been stirring up the national situation in the United States. The great-great-grandfather was one of the important figures of the Soviet Communist Party in the United States. The party of the great-grandfather was the only private event that Prince Charles and Princess Diana attended in the United States. Once upon a time, the men of the Hammer family went in and out of the White House, Buckingham Palace, and even the Kremlin. The all went home as if walking on the ground.

However, this documentary mainly introduces how Armie Hammer, as the Jin Sun of the Hammer family, is also a charming male star, how Armie Hammer upholds ancestral sin and decay, and the episode "Fifty Shades of Grey" And the wickedness of "Room N", trampling on women's bodies and destroying women's personalities.

Seriously, to this day, everyone is familiar with the words "objectification of women", because they say too much, and even give birth to aesthetic fatigue, many people feel that it is a big deal. But after watching this documentary, I really re-acquainted with the eerie and terrifying nature of these four words. It can directly make every pore of yours feel the gust of wind in the sweaty dog ​​days.

In front of the public, this is a respectable family of several generations: men in suits and shoes, imposing men, elegant and beautiful wives, and beautiful and lovely children. They are the top tycoons, philanthropists, Ph.Ds, who donate generously to build parks and libraries.

Privately, every generation has its own sensationalism: great-great-grandfather accused of murdering pregnant woman; great-grandfather's second wife accused ex-husband in divorce testimony, "suffering severe physical violence and being punched in the head with a metal pipe" , and the tycoon monitors the phone of the whole family and demands absolute obedience from everyone; the grandfather beats his wife all the year round, throws a promiscuous drug party, and his 7-year-old daughter wakes up in the morning and opens the bedroom door, not knowing if she will Seeing drunk and ugly human bodies all over the floor, it was the mother who was knocked to the ground again, bleeding profusely. He even made his young daughter hold the phone book as a target for him to shoot for fun. Of course, he was also accused of murder; his father was often jealous and fought with his grandfather at promiscuous parties, and it was rumored that he also made all kinds of bizarre prostitutes, including the "throne", for excitement, and fought in cold blood after the death of his great-grandfather.The inheritance rights are arbitrarily deprived of other family members, and the degeneration of the family is exactly the same.

And Amy, who recklessly posted videos of himself taking drugs and sexually abusing himself on social media, without fear of being punished. He has a beautiful wife and two lovely children in public, but keeps chasing young and beautiful girls in private. He sent them private messages, made them fall into the dream of "top male stars falling in love with me", and then controlled and abused them step by step. He even called himself a cannibal , and planned to find a surgeon to remove two ribs from his then-girlfriend and use it for barbecue.

"I am a Hammer", this arrogant self-proclaimed, allows them to be magnanimous as devils in the world.

I am most impressed by the women who stand up in the documentary. They are the daughters, ex-girlfriends, maids of the Hammer family... without exception, they are all people who have been hurt or even destroyed their lives. They have different identities and suffered different injuries. They each tried their best to save themselves and find a way to break up their relationship and rebuild their lives, and then bravely stood up to reveal the truth. But when it comes to the men who hurt them, they still seem to be full of contradictions - on the one hand, they clearly felt danger, and then they were abused, bullied, and their lives were threatened. Possessing irresistible charm, handsome, funny, enthusiastic, spending money, standing at the top of wealth and power...

This is an unavoidable human nature: the opposite is a thief, disheveled, short and fat. Men, every woman is instantly on guard; but a handsome, handsome and sexy high-level elite swoops for you and is known to be no liar yet, he does have everything he shows, and everyone is madly jealous of what you can get his favor. Can you stay awake to him?

Well, this is too hard. (At this moment, please close your eyes and imagine: your favorite male star, the most greedy body, the most craving tiancai said to you, I like you so much, I want to be with you, love you forever, you Will you do a little thing for me?)

Indeed, handsome men and rich and powerful men usually have privileges, and men who have both, this privilege can be multiplied tenfold. Armie Hammer is. Just like his ex-girlfriends in the documentary, all of them have the beauty of female stars, the talent and decency recognized by the public, and they must have no shortage of suitors in their lives. But when they were hurt by Armie Hammer, they almost had the same mentality -

found in a lively online chat that when the other party talked about pets, slaves, bondage and other out-of-bounds language, although they felt offended, but He couldn't help but make excuses for the other party, thinking that he was just too emotional and too fond of himself to say anything. I even felt a little bit of joy in my heart, easily fascinated by such a superstar standing on the top of wealth and charm, making him want to possess me so thoroughly, doesn't it just prove his attractiveness?

Even when he is really hurt, the first one or two times, even though it is so painful and humiliating, he will still defend the other party in his heart, convincing himself that this is just a special fantasy and hobby of a sexy man, and it is difficult for him to To get such an immortal fate, of course, you should try to understand and accept it. Because of this, they will be constantly entangled by Amy and keep repeating the same mistakes.

Remember the Peking University girl who was killed by her boyfriend PUA three years ago? The arrogant girl who was originally confident and beautiful was enthusiastically pursued by seniors with superior family background, good looks, good luck in Peking University, and excellent abilities. Even if it wasn't for Cinderella to meet Prince Charming, at least this boyfriend was something she could touch. A surprise choice. How good is this senior's family background? After taking the entrance exam to Peking University, he was admitted to the Liberal Arts Program with a 30-point drop. After entering the school, he was elected as one of the top three school-level students of Peking University. He didn't take a single step - in a place like Peking University, where the savage battle was fierce, to be able to do this, whether it was his family or himself, he had to have a strong ability to operate. This young man did not live up to his ability. He directly committed his girlfriend PUA to suicide, and was therefore detained and brought to court for the crime of abuse.

Even though his family background is nothing compared to Armie Hammer, they have the same caliber of mentally manipulating girlfriends, he also openly said to his girlfriend, "You are one of my dogs", constantly humiliating her and trampling her until he tortured a healthy and excellent Peking University girl to the point of a nervous breakdown and suicide.

If it wasn't for the uproar caused by her death, it is foreseeable that this man would still be able to get away smoothly without sticking to a leaf, and he might still be in the top ranks and become famous and start a family in the future.

This is the terrible thing about high-quality men who do evil - ordinary men who do evil are easy to look at objectively and peel off their cocoons; when high-quality men do evil, it is very likely that even the client himself will doubt himself: he shouldn't be doing it on purpose, right? Does someone as good as him still need this?

Moreover, most ordinary people encounter this kind of crushing emotional control and torture, which is long and gradually deepening. In the end, when you collapse, you don't know how you collapsed, and maybe you will be surrounded by people around you. Accusation of being vulnerable, busy, withdrawn, paranoid, and money-worshiping drags down a good partner.

When I was just graduating from college, there was a girl of the same class who had such a tormented relationship.

The other party is a returnee executive from a famous school in a listed company. He is handsome and high-paying, and he doesn't say it. When he says his name, everyone in the industry knows it. When his father's name is spoken, it is even more familiar. The female classmate is of course very beautiful, with a tenth grade on the piano, and she is full of literary and artistic sense.

In the eyes of outsiders, men treat her very well. When other classmates were still crowding into renting houses, she had already lived in the mansion on the second ring road of , drove a red Mazda , and went in and out of the most luxurious places in Beijing at that time. Accompanying her to her hometown to meet her parents is sincere. But within two years, I heard that she was suffering from depression, and everyone couldn't figure out what she could be depressed about when things were going well. In another year, another best friend who was close to her came to me, because they knew that I had a very good friend who was a dermatologist at , a top-three hospital in . My best friend, Ai Ai, was having a hard time opening her mouth and wanted to ask my friend for help to take a low-key look. Later, she found out that it was the girl who found a good husband who was infected with a hidden disease that could not be cured for her life, and she was in pain.

Later, the girl finally made up her mind to break up and changed her life in a city. We met once before we left. She was well-dressed and delicately dressed, but her face was gray, her eyes were sunken, her hair was meticulously tucked behind her head, and her wrists were so slender that only bones were left—in just three years, her eyes seemed like Life has passed. After that, she lost contact with all her classmates, as if she was determined to cut off everything in the past.

I still don't know what that man did to her. But at the moment of separation, she was still in a state of panic, often lost her mind and lost her mind, and was depressed before getting old, all of which made me very sad.

no, of course this doesn't mean that everyone should find an ordinary man who will be less risky. We just need to recognize one thing: success has nothing to do with good or bad character. Just as bad guys are sure to get old, bad guys can also be successful, which is the norm in this real world.

escape is also a compulsory course for modern women in love.

meets the wrong, eccentric man, the richer, the more successful, the faster he has to run. Don't take chances. Seeing their decent and graceful appearance in public, they think that their foul language and self-disclosure in private are just because of your true temperament.

On the contrary, no matter how much the man on the other side makes you confused, once he makes you feel faint fear and signs of violence, don't hesitate to run as far as you want - is here for these people Say, success is their body armor. The more successful the perpetrator is, the more tragic the victim's experience will be.

As you can see from the Hammer family, they are well versed in everything from mental control to physical abuse, and with the barriers of power and knowledge, the game is on the edge of the law, and the most shrewd prosecutors may not be able to obtain conclusive evidence. Armie Hammer was exposed and attacked like this, and he was not imprisoned, but was sent to the rehabilitation center. When the time passes, he may be a hero again.

is reluctant to give up the halo of the fifth diamond king. In the end, what he has to give up may be his whole life.

Can you do it?

I really can't, I'm too afraid of pain! !

Wang Xin (@reverse pants position)

The writer, has published the novel collection "Beijing Women's Guide", the novel "Live Quietly in the Uneasy World", and the essay collection "To the Life We Always Get Stuck"