"At 5:59 in the morning, I became an orphan."
This is a Weibo post by singer Liu Wei.
On October 21, his father passed away due to ineffective treatment at the age of 67.
In the early morning, Liu Wei was still praying for his father on Weibo.
still didn't make it to dawn...
When I saw Liu Wei's sentence "God really doesn't love me", I burst into tears instantly.
In just over half a year, he lost his parents.
At the beginning of the year, his mother's cancer recurred, and Liu Wei chose to quit the entertainment industry to take care of him wholeheartedly.
In April, my mother passed away.
Before he could overcome the grief of losing his mother, he faced the fact that his father left.
At the age of 36, he has wandered around the world since then, and can no longer find a way to his parents.
is heavy and brutal.
This kind of helplessness and sadness can be experienced more deeply in middle age.
When I was young, I always thought that my parents would not grow old and would stay where they were.
When people reach middle age, they realize that every step forward is one step closer to goodbye.
人到中年的心酸
从父母生病开始
何炅曾说过一句话：
“我们现在能这样轻松偷懒，就是仗着父母还健康。”
父母健在，生活总有人兜底。
When our parents get sick, the hardships of life multiply on us.
This is also a proposition that every middle-aged person cannot escape.
Looking back on the past few years, every time classmates and friends gathered, they talked about tourist attractions and gourmet restaurants.
The topics that are talked about now have become the illness of parents and the sudden death of relatives...
All kinds of changes are only a few years old.
The most worrying thing is that the elderly in the family are sick one after another, and there is no buffer time.
I have a friend whose child is still in kindergarten.
Last month, when her father was diagnosed with cancer, she accompanied him to see a doctor for surgery, and struggled for a month.
Dad will be hospitalized for chemotherapy next week, she and momLiu takes care of the child and temporarily lives at his mother-in-law's house.
Not long after, my mother-in-law fell again and she has to be hospitalized.
She and her husband have to pick up and drop off children and take time to the hospital to take care of the elderly, so they are helpless.
I couldn't hold it anymore, a friend cried to me on the phone:
"Why does bad things always catch up with my family, why can't life let me go?" Went to the hospital to deliver meals to my father and mother-in-law.
This is the world of middle-aged people, and it takes time to crash.
In addition to the mental pressure, the more realistic one is the financial overwhelm.
I have a former colleague whose mother was seriously ill and was hospitalized. The cost of a day was four or five thousand.
He emptied all his savings and borrowed it from people he knew.
Even so, it's still a bottomless pit.
Once the doctor asked him to choose two medicines, the cheaper one would have some side effects.
He calculated the money on hand and the next treatment cost, and chose the cheaper one.
That night, he couldn't sleep when he saw his mother tossing and turning in pain in bed.
A big man had to hide in the hospital stairwell and cry.
When people are middle-aged, they are afraid that their parents will get sick, but they are even more afraid that they will not have enough money to treat their parents.
In the face of serious illness, we understand our insignificance and incompetence.
生病不可怕
可怕的是被迫告别
康辉在写给去世妈妈的文章中，有一段话：
“人到中年，像这样的意外本不属于意外。
但无论做了怎样的Psychological preparation, at that moment, there is still too much pain, too much reluctance and regret.”
Parents are getting old, and many people are psychologically prepared for their parents to get sick.
The real fear is that illness will accelerate the separation between us and our parents.
On the streets of Zhengzhou late at night, a 32-year-old middle-aged man squatted on the ground, covering his face and crying.
When a passerby asked the reason, he didn't care to wipe his tears and said:
"I'm very uncomfortable, my dad has cancer, and he has undergone 4 chemotherapy, but no improvement."
"I drank some wine today to vent , deal with my mood."
"Today, when my family is not around, I am crying here, my family is here, I dare not cry..."
Even just thinking that my father might leave one day brings tears to my eyes.
Home is only when parents are there.
Even at the age of seven or eighty, the most fearful thing is to say goodbye to your parents.
saw a tearful video not long ago.
A 101-year-old mother in Hunan passed away, and her 52-year-old son stood by the bed crying and shouting:
"I don't have a mother anymore, you don't care about me anymore..." The one who underpins our lives.
It's no wonder that Fei Yuqing , who lost a close relative, chose to quit the entertainment industry.
He said:
"Without the attention and sharing of his parents, the splendid stage makes him feel more lonely.
applause can't make up for my loss." .
So even if you give everything, as a child, you want to prolong the life of your parents.
An old man in Hubei was taken to the hospital by his son for treatment.
Because the medical expenses are too expensive, he does not want to drag his children down and plans to give up treatment.
After his son learned about it, he knelt on the ground and cried heartbreakingly, begging his father not to give up.
Parents are afraid of becoming a burden to their children, so why are children not afraid of losing their parents?
Between parents and children, there has always been love going both ways.
It's just, parents and children have a long-term relationship, and in the end it is a parting.
You and I will never be able to avoid it.
If you leave, it is inevitable
At least don't leave any regrets
There is a saying:
"All the love in the world points to reunion, only parents' love points to separation."
The days when I was galloping forward, their lives were shrinking, the more I thought about it, the sadder.
always thought that they were a long way off.
Original, but in a flash.
How to face the farewell that will come one day?
remembered that Ma Yili was asked in "The Reader", what would happen if his parents were gone?
She said with tears in her eyes:
"If I can leave no regrets, this is the best ending." How many people
, because missing the last side left a lifetime of pain that can't be healed.
Huo Siyan once said on the show that she never eats bananas, and even sees bananas and tears. Behind
is a heavy story.
When her mother died when she was 19, she couldn't make it home for the last time.
When she went back, all she saw was a portrait of her mother on the table with a handful of bananas under it.
Banana, for her it was the loss of a mother.
Grief is always there and never goes away with time.
We always have the illusion that Japan is a long time coming, and some time is spent with our parents.
until I crossed the hill and found that no one was waiting.
Kang Hui once mentioned his mother in the episode of "The Reader".
He wasn't there when his mother died.
In memory of his mother, he wanted to pick a photo with his mother from his phone.
found that the album was full of various photos, except for the photo with his mother.
always thought about the next time, never thought to say goodbye so soon.
After Kang Hui was sorting out his mother's belongings, he deliberately left a sweater.
When I miss her, I put a sweater on my body, which is the smell and warmth of my mother.
Rather than regret afterwards, it is better to fulfill their wishes while they are alive.
has something in his heart, and he doesn't hesitate to say it to them.
Liu Wei resolutely quit the entertainment industry when his mother was still alive.
The career can be repeated, but the company cannot wait for it.
During his mother's treatment, he took good care of him and recorded his daily moments with video.
Finally, his mother died in his arms.
In the last moments of his life, he left behind the eternal good times with his mother.
Today, he celebrates his mother's birthday and Mother's Day as usual.
In the night when he can't sleep, he will fall asleep watching the video of his mother's happy play.
said goodbye with no regrets, but only full of love left in his heart.
Even if his parents are no longer in this world, they will still love him in another world.
once saw a passage that touched me deeply:
"When we were young, we couldn't speak, and our parents took the trouble to teach them; when our parents were old and wanted to learn WeChat, we said we shouldn't play if we couldn't learn.
Carrying, carrying; when parents are old, it is difficult for us to push them to play in a wheelchair.
When we were young, we were sick and our parents went bankrupt and they had to heal us; It can save a few years..."
Honor your parents as early as possible, and don't regret it until you lose it.
While my parents are still alive and healthy, I will show them the world and accompany them more.
Even if there is no time, there is at least one phone call to say hello.
Don't forget to take your parents to check-ups regularly.
In the second half of life, parents are the greatest happiness.
Click on "watching" , I wish every pair of parents can live happily ever after and grow old healthily.
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-