An family, An Xin, is beautiful, gentle and dignified. She just sits there quietly and has a ladylike temperament.
To her family, she takes good care of her; to her brother-in-law Jiang Defu, she will not deliberately flatter; to her husband, she can go to Xiaoheishan Island with him, and even if the conditions there are extremely difficult, she will maintain her final dignity with diligence and virtue. and clean.
Many people said: "In the TV series "Parents Love", An Xin is almost a perfect woman. If she is 'An Jie', she will also live happily with Jiang Defu for a lifetime, even compared to An Jie and Jiang Defu. When we are together, we will be happier."
An Xin is very good, compared to her grumpy younger sister An Jie, An Xin is indeed easier to get along with people, and it is easier to make a family harmonious. But An Xin is not suitable for Jiang Defu.
If An Xin was An Jie, and if she married Jiang Defu, they would probably be able to finish their lives. But for An Xin, she doesn't feel as happy as An Jie does.
An Xin's inferiority complex
An Xin and An Jie have obvious personality differences. On the surface, they are gentle and demure, and outgoing and self-willed. But in fact, An Xin is prone to inferiority complex and sensitive, An Jie is very carefree in this regard, and this is the biggest difference between the two of them.
Regarding the matter between Jiang Defu and An Jie, An Xin was always opposed to it before he recognized Jiang Defu. Even at the beginning, An Jie just went to the dance. At that time, before Jiang Defu appeared, An Xin had already shown great dissatisfaction.
An Xin believes that when An Jie went to the dance, it was sent to the door for others to choose, which was really pitiful and uncomfortable. An Xin's idea, her brother and sister-in-law did not agree, so they had some disputes that night.
Later, Jiang Defu fell in love with An Jie at first sight at the dance, and he began to pursue An Jie.
In order to help Jiang Defu, Director Yang assigned An Jie a task to invite Jiang Defu to report on his heroic deeds. After An Xin found out, he persuaded An Jie that if he was interested in Jiang Defu, he should go to him.
sounds fine, but An Xin also told An Jie that others don't believe that An Jie is not in love with Jiang Defu, that's because her explanation is not firm and thorough enough. An Jie told An Xin that Secretary Yang said this matter was a political task, and An Xin immediately retorted: "How can a political task be handed over to someone like us."
Finally, An Xin asked An Jie, "Do you think others have As his object, you have a lot of face?" Hearing An Jie's answer, "It's a little bit", An Xin asked again, "Is this feeling good?" At this time, An Xin's tone Already very lonely. Why is
lonely? Because of inferiority.
An Xin said that he was helping An Jie to sort it out, but whether An Jie attended a dance or was pursued by Jiang Defu, An Xin's starting point was to prevent An Jie from becoming an officer's wife.
On the surface, she was concerned about An Jie, but in fact her reaction was all from her inferiority complex.
If An Xin's focus is to care about An Jie, then he should find a way to know what kind of person Jiang Defu is, and he can also encourage An Jie to learn more about Jiang Defu first. Obviously, An Xin did not. In her consciousness, An Jie should not have given herself the opportunity to marry an officer, because the An family is "like this".
An Xin never expected An Jie to marry an officer like the Antai couple. She never expected it, because she thought it was impossible at all. She would rather the Jiang family draw a clear line with Jiang Defu as soon as possible, rather than flatter the other party in exchange for any interaction with the other party.
This is, because arrogance, so inferiority complex.
An Xin's attitude did not change until Jiang Defu went to An's house for the first time. That's because she saw that Jiang Defu was very easy-going and funny, which broke the line she had drawn before. She knew that if Jiang Defu and An Jie really became husband and wife, he would never bully An Jie, nor would he treat the Jiang family differently.
An Xin's sensitivity
An Xin's inferiority complex is eliminated, but her sensitivity isIt didn't go away so easily, and this sensitivity even accompanied her for quite a long time.
After Ouyang Yi returned to Qingdao, he invited the whole family to eat western food. At that family dinner, An Xin and An Jie had a quarrel in the bathroom. The reason for the quarrel was: Jiang Defu didn't know how to eat Western food, he wanted a well-done steak, and he asked the waiter for chopsticks. Except for An Jie and An Chen, everyone in the An family showed some mocking expressions. And An Xin, who has always been steady, also showed a mocking expression.
An Jie asked An Xin in the bathroom, "What were you laughing at just now?" An Xin refused to admit it, and the two quarreled. In the end, An Xin said to An Jie, "Aren't you the wife of the head of the regiment? When you become the wife of the commander, it will not be too late for you." That Anjie is not wrong.
Others make fun of Jiang Defu, An Jie can bear it, but An Xin is her closest sister, so when she caught that expression, with her character, she couldn't pretend that nothing happened.
An Jie knows her position very well. She is married to Jiang Defu, and her husband takes good care of her, so she should protect him.
But An Xin thinks that An Jie asked her so domineeringly because of her identity change. She clearly knew An Jie's character very well, but she still said something like that back to An Jie, not because An Jie was too domineering, but because she was too sensitive.
An Xin and An Jie are both pregnant. At the dinner table, An Tai and his wife said that one after another happy events at home were all thanks to Jiang Defu. Ouyang Yi felt very uncomfortable hearing this, and An Xin was the same. The expressions of their husband and wife explained everything.
On Xiaosongshan Island, An Jie was pregnant with twins. Jiang Defu knew that An Xin was clean and attentive, so he suggested to her on Xiaoheishan Island to take care of An Jie's confinement.
Ouyang Yi made a few complaints about this. He thought it was obvious that An Xin was treating An Xin as a maid. An Xin did not agree with him at first, but Ouyang Yi said, "It's you, can she come and serve you? ", which made An Xin fall into silence. She told Ouyang Yi with her sad look that he was right.
Since Jiang Defu broke into An Jie's life and became her husband, An Xin's mood when facing An Jie will never be easier. An Jie's words and actions, An Xin may speculate and doubt at any time, and will be involved in the aspect of identity at any time.
An Jie is tired, An Xin is even more tired.
If An Xin marries Jiang Defu, she will not be able to get happiness
If An Xin's daughter to be married is An Xin, An Xin's inferiority complex is destined to have little chance of her dating Jiang Defu.
At the beginning, Director Yang asked An Jie if he would go on a blind date with Jiang Defu. At first, Director Yang's tone was not very kind. Although An Jie was arrogant and arrogant, she was embarrassed and innocent, which made Director Yang feel embarrassed. He became gentle with her at that time, and was afraid that she would have any ideological burden. She wants to.
If it was An Xin, it is very likely that Director Yang's tone would make her refuse to have a blind date with Jiang Defu directly.
Even if she agrees to have a blind date with Jiang Defu, and then has a formal relationship with him, until she finally marries Jiang Defu, her sensitivity will gradually become a sharp blade that hinders the development of their relationship.
Between Anjie and Jiang Defu, Anjie's family has never been a taboo between them. Every time Jiang Defu talked about it, An Jie didn't take it to heart. If she didn't want to hear it, she would openly make a conditional exchange to Jiang Defu: she would not say that Jiang Defu was divorced, and Jiang Defu was not allowed to say her origin.
When An Jie and Jiang Dehua didn't get along well, Jiang Dehua would use An Jie's background to ridicule her and quarrel with her, and An Jie would fight back loudly. Afterwards, An Jie didn't take it to heart.
This is the foundation on which their aunt and sister-in-law's relationship has gradually become deeper. The relationship between An Jie and Jiang Dehua is getting better and better, and in turn, the relationship between An Jie and Jiang Defu has deepened.
Later, Jiang Weiguo and Jiang Weidong also talked about An Jie's background. As a mother, An Jie, she smiled and didn't take it to heart either.
But these, An Xin can't do it. When they talk about her background, and even when someone mocks her, educates her, and quarrels with her, she will feel deeply hurt and will leave a path in her heartshadow.
time and time again, if things go on like this, it will inevitably affect the relationship between husband and wife.
Jiang Defu is a good person worthy of trust. He knows how to be humble and considerate of his wife. On the other hand, he is also a man with backbone, and at the same time is good at reading people's hearts.
If his wife was so easy to feel inferior and sensitive, she wouldn't yell when she was angry, but she would keep the other party's words in her heart again and again, and then she was alone in pain. Then Jiang Defu would be at a loss, he would not know how to get along with his wife, he would be cautious, distressed, and tired.
In such a marriage, An Xin will not be happy.
An Xin and An Jie's happiness
An Xin's inferiority complex, she is trying her best to cover up with self-cultivation and pride.
An Xin's sensitivity cannot be changed overnight, it needs to go through years of tempering and the test of family affection.
And her husband Ouyang Yi, why not? It's just that compared to An Xin's elegance and restraint, Ouyang Yi used to cover up her inferiority complex and sensitivity with disdain and disdain. An Xin and Ouyang Yi belong to the same kind of people, they know each other and are similar to each other, so An Xin quit her job and went to Xiaoheishan Island with Ouyang Yi, no matter how hard or tired she felt, it was worth it.
The tempering of life, the precipitation of the years, and everything An Jie and Jiang Defu have done for them finally made An Xin and Ouyang Yi completely relieved. An Xin's inferiority complex and sensitivity completely disappeared in her ideology.
And Anjie, she lived in peace under the protection of Jiang Defu, she herself enjoyed this state, and she never felt any loss or discomfort. In An Jie's heart, the stability that Jiang Defu brought her was the most common care a husband gave his wife.
But if it was An Xin, she wouldn't be like An Jie.
why? I think it can be explained by the words of psychologist Carl Jung: Everyone reacts differently to receiving sunlight, some people find it dazzling, some feel warm, and some even avoid the sun.
Jiang Defu is very good, An Xin is very good, but if An Xin replaces An Jie, it will be difficult to achieve a happy marriage.
An Jie and Jiang Defu, An Xin and Ouyang Yi, they have been together for the rest of their lives, and they are all good matches.
A happy marriage is like this, no matter how many good times and hard times have passed, in each other's eyes, he (she) is always the right person.
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