A while ago, some netizens summed up a shocking sentence:
Celebrity marriages all start with "children".
took stock of celebrities who have divorced in recent years, and found that there are quite a few examples.
Before 2020, Chen Sicheng will celebrate Tong Liya's birthday every year on Weibo, using nicknames like " wife ", " dear " and so on.
From the beginning of 2020, only " duoduo ma " is left. Sure enough, a year later, the two officially announced their divorce.
The same goes for Huang Xiaoming Yang Ying, who officially announced their divorce at the beginning of the year.
Huang Xiaoming, who has always been a high-profile show of affection, also called Yang Ying " daughter-in-law " in the early days, and began to become " beautiful mother " in 2019. There is no title after
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The netizens who came up with this rule saw the clue when Dong Zijian celebrated the birthday of Sun Yi in June this year, and immediately questioned their marital status.
Sure enough, two months later, the former golden boy and girl also officially announced their divorce.
Why can't most celebrities escape the "Blessing with a mother, it must be separation" law?
Because of the title between husband and wife, it can more or less reflect the change of family relationship.
Many couples have given birth to children, and the parent-child relationship takes precedence over the husband-wife relationship.
In 18 years, when Shen Jiani had a second child, Zhu Yawen did not forget to tease about his status at home, My fourth !
The little baby just arrived, and it justifiably occupied my love and took my seat. This is probably what many families will encounter.
I know a lot of couples who have a very good relationship before they have a baby. In the two-person world, you have me, and I have you. They go home after get off work and go on outings together during holidays. Among friends, they are immortal couples who are sweet and evil, and they are the proprietress of the dog food flagship store in the circle of friends.
However, from the day the child was born, a cute "third party" broke in, two people became three people, and a love was divided into two halves. The lover and the child who had a higher status would give the love to whom. A little more, it's really a dilemma...
In fact, families that put the relationship of husband and wife first are often happier. On the
reality show "I have you along the way", Tian Liang was asked by the host Kim Heechul who is more important to his wife and daughter. Tian Liang answered without hesitation, of course, is more important for a wife, because there is a Sendie mother to have a Sendie.
Miss World Zhang Zilin reached an agreement with her husband before pregnancy. Even if there is a child in the future, the family will be centered on us. After her daughter was born, Zhang Zilin would bring her baby every time she attended an event. She said: " brought the baby out to integrate her into the life of her parents, not the whole family revolves around her. "
I appreciate their answers and like them too In such a family relationship, between parent and child, I am with you, but I am not used to you. Between husband and wife, I love you and dote on you alone.
In a family, husband and wife are like the roots of a tree, and children are the branches and leaves. The so-called root is thick, branches and leaves are lush. The core of a family should be the husband-wife relationship, followed by the parent-child relationship.
John Jacobs.M.D., the author of "What You Need Most Is Love and Lies About Marriage" once said:
Many couples believe that children are an important bond to maintain a marriage, but in fact, on the contrary, children are a major influence on the harmony of marriage factor. The transition from couple to parent is the biggest challenge in the entire marriage.
Indeed, now that many families have children, couples put all their attention and energy on the children, regard the child as the protagonist of the family, exclude the lover, and put the parent-child relationship above the husband and wife relationship.
Think about the problem of the century for Chinese men: mother and wife fell into the water at the same time, which one to save first?
Another example is that the mother-in-law always thinks that "the son is mine" and "the grandson is mine".
If we can put the marital relationship above the parent-child relationship, then many family conflicts can be resolved smoothly.
“当然是先救我老婆啊？我妈妈有我爸救啊！。”
“婆婆，你的儿子不是你的，只有你丈夫是你的。”
我很喜欢翻黄磊的微博, because I can feel the warmth of their family.
Since taking his daughter Duoduo to participate in "Where are you going, Dad? ", Duoduo has left a deep impression on people. Many people have learned from Huang Lei. Regarding his daughter's education, Huang Lei said, has no exclusive trick, that is, father loves mother , and then the parents love a lot together.
In Huang Lei's eyes:
In the matter of marriage, love must be the foundation.
I am very opposed to couples becoming relatives,
My mother and daughter are my relatives,
My wife will always be my lover.
My wife and I are still a couple,
should be a couple all my life.
He is keen on cooking, and he cooks for Sun Li in different ways every day; he buys everything his wife likes to eat.
He will also compromise, everything his wife says is right, and it's no big deal for a big man to admit it.
As for Sun Li, although she gave up her career to focus on protecting her children and her family, she was still pampered by Huang Lei as happy as a princess.
Every day, watching how her parents love each other, she has grown into a gentle, kind girl who knows how to love others.
She will draw leaves for her grandmother with heart and attach the text "Grandma, I love you".
pushes his brother out for a walk and knits a woolen hat for him.
express her love freely and freely,
bathing in the nourishment of love, she will understand more about what kind of other half is worthy of love when she grows up, this is a virtuous circle .
I think whether it is a father or a mother, the original intention of having a baby is to let love continue, and then under the nourishment of love, the child grows up and leaves home and has a life of her own.
Therefore,
parent-child, at the beginning, it was a deep fate in life, and then it was a decent exit in life again and again.
husband and wife, from the initial acquaintance to the love, from the constant running-in to the mutual support, from the stranger to the end of the life, it is an increasingly intimate journey.
Finally, I hope all couples can be like the song sings,
collect every bit of laughter along the way,
save it for sitting in a rocking chair later,
let's talk slowly...
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