He Saifei: Abandoned by his mother when he was 5 years old, his father never married for her, and married his first love for 34 years

In 2001, a " mansion gate " was broadcast, which performed the ups and downs of a big family in troubled times. In the play, Yang Jiuhong 's ups and downs and the sadness of marriage also involve the hearts of countless people.

​​and Yang Jiuhong's actor He Saifei interprets the delicate, charming and tragic characters of the characters vividly and vividly.

​​Later, she starred in many TV dramas, many of which were as charming and ill-fated concubines, and her superb acting skills made these characters full and profound, leaving a deep impression on the audience.

​​also because of this, He Saifei got the somewhat joking title of "professional auntie".

​​took off her costume and returned to her own life, which seems to make people feel a little "life is like a drama, drama is like life".

​​In her childhood, although she was accompanied and loved by her father wholeheartedly, because of her mother's departure and economic embarrassment, it was like there was always a gray color under the sun.

​​The lack of maternal love made her a little sensitive, and some liked to pursue perfection, which became the background of her life. So how does she grow up? In the face of a sudden love that seems to be destined, how will she be sensitive to her life?

A childhood full of sorrows

In 1963, He Saifei was born in an ordinary family in Zhejiang Province. She was the second child in the family, with an older sister, and later her parents gave birth to a younger sister.

​​In those days, people generally lived a poor and simple life, especially in He Saifei's family. Her mother was a seamstress and made some hard-earned money to support the family by sewing and patching for others. And her father is a literary and artistic worker, and he doesn't earn much by playing and singing.

​​At that time, it was not easy for people to have enough food and clothing, and a few people had the heart to appreciate such a noble thing as art.

​​So, her father's career is a more marginal one, which makes their life extraordinarily hard.

​​Shortly after He Saifei was born, his mother contracted tuberculosis when he went to the countryside. The family was poor and could not afford much money. My father first sold his house and then bought his favorite sanxian . This means that for a long time in the future, he will not want to rely on Quyi to make money by walking the streets and alleys.

​​Later, the mother recovered with great difficulty, but unfortunately it happened again.

​​As the saying goes, "poor and poor couples mourn for everything", in fact, this is the most powerless and helpless background of life. Although

​​has seen the true love through adversity this time, it has made the couple have a deeper feeling for the poor life, and it has also deepened the contradiction between them. There were constant quarrels between them.

​​When He Saifei was 5 years old, they decided to divorce. That day, my mother put on a beautiful dress for He Saifei, and then took her out and said she was looking for her father, and everyone took a family photo together.

​​In the end, they didn't go to the photo studio. Mom took her to Dad's, and then left with her sister and sister.

​​He Saifei was immersed in the joy of taking pictures, but she didn't realize that something was wrong until her mother turned to leave. It was her mother who didn't want her!

​​When she was still young, she began to cry loudly. Dad stretched out his hand to hold her in his arms, and the man's eyes seemed to be filled with tears.

​​Since then, she and her father are the only ones left in the family. Fortunately, in her father's eyes, she is the whole of the world.

​​In order to earn more money for her to grow up and study in the future, her father no longer regards playing, playing and singing as his only career, but goes out to work as a coolie for others, pulling goods and fishing, and earning the hard work of sweating under the sun.

​​Someone persuaded him to find another one, so that someone could share the pressure for him and it would be less. But my father always said: "My daughter is young, I just want to take her well now, and I don't want anything else."

​​He Saifei suffered sudden changes in his life at a young age, and he also understood that some things would be different from now on.

's father is busy outside. At the age of five, she is not idle at home, cleaning the table, sweeping the floor and cleaning. She feels that after doing these things, she doesn't have to work hard when her father comes back.

​​grew up a little bit, and she started to step on the stool and cook on the stove, so that Dad could eat hot food every day after get off workmeals.

​​Later, He Saifei's father learned to start a small business, and the family's economic conditions were slightly better.

​​At this time, He Saifei is also growing up slowly. His father just wanted his child to be older and to be more receptive. Many things can be figured out. And he didn't want the child to have no mother to take care of him, so he thought about finding another mother for the child.

​​So Father He talked about one under the introduction of someone else. The other party was a gentle and virtuous woman. When I heard that he had a daughter, he said that he would treat the child as his own in the future.

​​was so focused on this point, he wanted to stay with the other party, and then once took the woman back home.

​​did not expect that He Saifei, who has always been well-behaved and sensible, heard that this aunt might be her future mother, so she was very resistant and rarely lost her temper with her father.

​​Xu is the shadow of her childhood. She cried to her father that she didn't want another mother, and they lived a good life with their father and daughter.

​​After her father, who always held his daughter in his hand, found out about her idea, he never fell in love again, and never said that he would find her a mother again. In this way, the father and daughter continued to depend on each other for life.

​​But it's not that He Saifei doesn't miss her mother, it's just that many times, she buries these things in her heart, just like the secrets of her youth.

​​In fact, these can be seen as the background color of He Saifei's childhood. His father is both a father and a mother, and he longs for maternal love and hides these deeply. This makes her more sensitive and strong when she grows up, and she has to do her best in everything.

entered the entertainment industry and showed his extraordinary talent

When his father was not busy, he would take out the piano, , erhu, , and play and sing a few songs. The family was often surrounded by the atmosphere of music.

​​grew up in such a family, and He Saifei was fascinated by the beauty of this art and cultivated some artistic cells.

​​And when she grows up, her father will hold her hand and teach her to play and sing a few songs. In this way, the initial fate between He Saifei and art should have been forged in this way.

​​waited for her to grow up. In order to train her, her father insisted on sending her to a professional vocal teacher to take classes in order to train her, while he worked even harder.

​​Slowly, He Saifei showed his unique interest and expertise in Yue Opera and , and he also mainly focused on Yue Opera. He has made great progress in a few years, especially playing the sanxian.

​​In 1982, when He Saifei was 19 years old, the Daishan Yue Opera Troupe was recruiting actors there. If he was admitted, he would not only be able to get a city hukou, but also a stable and decent job. So Father He hurriedly took his daughter to the interview.

​​It's a pity that the two people who were full of confidence were thrown a pot of cold water there. The Yue Opera Troupe recruited actors, and people mainly looked at singing skills, but He Saifei didn't have much systematic training in this regard, so he was brushed down. After

​​went back, He Saifei was a little frustrated. Her father saw it and encouraged her: "It's okay, this time it doesn't work, they will recruit in the future. If you really want to go, Dad will find you another teacher, and we will work hard and study hard. One year, next time, next time we will definitely succeed!"

​​So, the teacher looked for him, and He Saifei worked hard again. The next year, the Yue Opera Troupe came to recruit again, and He Saifei successfully entered that door.

​​joined the troupe. He Saifei's solid basic skills and beautiful face made her slowly emerge in the unit. She was highly valued by seniors and had more and more opportunities to take the stage.

​​Just as her career is getting better and better, her mother who has not been in contact for many years found her.

​​As mentioned earlier, He Saifei has only kept the thoughts of her mother in her heart for many years, but she will silently long for her mother to come and see her. Later, when she was admitted to the Yue Opera Troupe, she was particularly eager to share this joy with her mother.

​​Her mother used to be a seamstress and then opened a ready-to-wear store. He Saifei went over with an uneasy mood, thinking about finding a starting point to talk to his mother about the years of life.

​​ended up there, but her mother greeted her tailor-made clothes like an ordinary customer, in a polite and distant tone. She felt that her enthusiasm was poured out all of a suddenDestroyed, went home disappointed.

​​And this time, the mother asked someone to find her, hoping that she could tutor her sister Xia Saili , because she also wanted her younger daughter to work in the Yue Opera Troupe.

​​Although he was dissatisfied with his mother, He Saifei agreed and did his best to counsel his sister. After the divorce that year, the elder sister and younger sister took their mother's surname, and there was little contact between the sisters for many years.

​​But this time they get along day and night, their relationship is getting better and better, and they will soon be inseparable.

​​A year later, my sister was admitted to the Yue Opera Troupe as she wished. Later, one time, the actor who played with He Saifei took a long vacation, and he let Sai Li on the stage.

​​On stage, He Saifei played Zhang Yingying and Xia Saili played Zhang Sheng; one played Dan and the other played Tsing Yi. There is a tacit understanding on the stage, and the eyes are full of affection. But offstage, He Saifei said, the two of them looked at each other and laughed. The wonderful performance of

​​on the stage has made the sisters more and more famous. Once, they were invited by Mr. Deng Yingchao to be a guest at home.

​​was at Premier Zhou's house, and the two of them sang an excerpt to Grandma Deng, and they were praised by her old man, which gave them great confidence that they must sing the opera better.

​​In 1984, He Saifei filmed the Yue Opera film "Five Women's Birthday Celebrations", which officially entered the entertainment industry, and won the Chinese film " Golden Rooster Award ".

​​Two years later, " Dream of Red Mansions " started filming, in which she played Miaoyu , which gradually became familiar to the public.

​​In 1991, Zhang Yimou directed the movie " High Red Lanterns " casting. Someone recommended He Saifei to try it out. At that time, Zhang Yimou was worried about the candidate for the role of his concubine Mei Shan. After He Saifei's audition, Zhang Yimou immediately decided on her. In the

​​play, Mei Shan's coquettish delicacy and loneliness inside the high wall was vividly played by He Saifei.

​​And then Yang Jiuhong in 2000's "The Gate of the Mansion", also the joys and sorrows in the high-walled compound, left a deep impression on the audience, and she also got the nickname of "professional auntie".

met his true love, and worked hand in hand for half a lifetime. At the same time that

's career was advancing by leaps and bounds, He Saifei's love also blossomed. When

​​was in the Yue Opera Troupe, He Saifei was beautiful and good-looking, and there were many boys who admired her, but none of them dared to like her, and no one pursued her publicly. She is also Buddhist about it.

​​Later, she was invited to be a guest at her teacher's house and saw the family portrait on the wall. All four sons were tall and handsome.

​​He Saifei had a strange thought in his mind at the time: She felt that she would become a family with the teacher in the future, and that she would marry one of his sons.

​​And the next time I went to the teacher's house as a guest, I found a young man there. He introduced himself to her: "Hello, my name is Yang Nan ". Teacher

​​also greeted her and said, "This is my second child, Saifei, there are many topics between you young people, and you two can get in touch more in the future."

​​As the teacher said, the two young people came and went, and they had good feelings for each other.

​​He Saifei tasted the anticipation and shyness of love for the first time. Finally, when Yang Nan confessed to her, the two young people fell in love.

​​He Saifei was relatively simple at that time, and felt that true love was to love only one person in his life.

​​As a result, Yang Nan confessed to her once that he had a girlfriend before, but He Saifei got angry and ignored him. After

​​went back, He Saifei also slowly figured out that he would have one pair for the rest of his life, no matter what happened to him in the past. At this time, Yang Nan came to coax her, and she went down the steps, and the two young people got back together again.

​​Regrettably, her father, who held her in his hand since childhood, was unable to watch her get married. At that time, she had already taken over the filming and joined the crew, but there was news that her father was seriously ill.

​​couldn't get out of her body, and she was so anxious that Yang Nan comforted her: "Just shoot your scenes well, and leave the rest to me."

​​Yang Nan went to the hospital, guarding his father, taking care of him with all his heart and never leavingopen. However, after a few months, the condition worsened and the old man left.

​​He Saifei burst into tears. The most important man in her life was gone. She felt that the whole world was much empty.

​​Fortunately, there is Yang Nan.

​​The illness of his father this time made He Saifei see Yang Nan's affectionate and steady determination and determination for their relationship. The two lovers finally entered the palace of marriage.

​​At that time, they didn't have much money, and even the wedding photos were taken for free by allowing the boss to display the finished film in the window.

​​Even so, in the poor life, the husband and wife support each other, and there is always a little bright color in life.

​​At that time, He Saifei's career was in its infancy, and she belonged to the kind of role that was desperately the third mother. If she had a child, her filming would definitely be greatly affected within two or three years. She discussed with Yang Nan, thinking about not wanting children for the next few years.

​​Yang Nan understands her thoughts very well and supports her decision. Her in-laws, that is, her teacher and sister-in-law, also expressed their understanding when they found out.

​​In fact, they definitely want to hold their grandchildren, but they never interfere in the lives of their sons and daughters-in-law.

​​Moreover, since He Saifei married into the Yang family, they completely regarded her as a daughter. He Saifei's lost fatherly and motherly love was found again by her in-laws.

​​Later, as He Saifei became more and more popular, more and more directors approached her for filming, and she spent most of the year on the set. The increase in

's popularity has also made her a goddess in many people's hearts. And Yang Nan is an outsider, just doing ordinary work.

​​He Saifei is well aware of the insecurities that may be caused by the gap between the two. In addition to taking time to spend with her family as much as possible, every time she signs a contract with the crew, she will write the bank card number as Yang Nan's, so that all her remuneration goes to Yang Nan There. She once joked:

"My family is nominally the one who manages the money, but he (Yang Nan) spends it all".

After ten years of marriage, He Saifei's career has been very stable. At this time, they were getting older, and their views on many things gradually changed. She is more and more attached to the warmth of the family. She decided to have a child.

​​More than a year later, her son was born, named Huwa. Even Yang Nan felt jealous of her love for her son.

​​After the child was a little older, she joined the crew to film, so Yang Nan had time to bring her son. The family of three reunited in a different place and lived happily ever after.

​​Now, Saifei He, who has worked hand in hand with her husband for 34 years, is about to enter the age of sixty. In the early years, she had taken the initiative to reduce her work and returned to the family as much as possible to accompany her husband and children.

​​The years have left an elegant imprint on her body, and she reappears with a unique beauty, which is the power of time.

​​Now that she has a script she likes, she will still go out to film and leave more time for her family.

​​Her son is already a young man in his twenties. He has a stable job and often goes back to visit his parents. The family is just like in the past years.