text|Jing Ma
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When Huang Xiaoming and Yang Ying got married in 2015, it was said that they were wearing a million-dollar wedding dress, wearing ten million diamond rings, the whole wedding was worth 200 million, and half the entertainment industry came to help . This wedding is a classic!
Huang Xiaoming said when he got married: "Say 10,000 sentences of I love you, it is better to say one sentence and I will marry you".
After more than a year of marriage, on January 17, 2017, their son , the little sponge , was born.
But after the baby is born, the interaction between the two seems to be much less.
is often rumored that the two of them have separated after the child is three years old, and finally officially announced the divorce in January 2022.
Many netizens said that when Yang Ying married Huang Xiaoming, she was not famous at all, but with the help of her fame after marrying Huang Xiaoming, she gradually became famous, but Huang Xiaoming's reputation declined due to various reasons, it is estimated that the two people did not match .
The two are divorced, but they still have a common child, Little Sponge.
Although 's parents are divorced, the children still get the love and warmth of their father and mother.
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A few days ago, some netizens photographed Huang Xiaoming going to the kindergarten to pick up the child , talking to the teacher very humbly, there is no star air at all.
During the National Day holiday, some netizens even photographed Yang Ying taking her son Xiao Sponge to the parent-child playground to clip dolls.
Although Huang Xiaoming and Yang Ying are divorced, they care and love their children a lot. Both couples often accompany their children. I think this is actually a model for divorced families to educate their children.
Many couples have torn their faces during divorce, even because they are fighting for custody of their children, or are unwilling to raise their children. As a result, after divorce, the children can only live with one party, and the other party has very little time to meet or even chat. less time.
This is actually harmful to the child's heart. The child has a very strong love for his father and mother in his heart. If he is with his mother, he will subconsciously not mention his father in front of his mother, or when he is with his father, I don't ask my mother in front of my father, but my child is still hurt.
So after a couple divorces, the best way is to raise their children together like Huang Xiaoming and Yang Ying , and still give love and warmth to their children, so that children from such divorced families can have less resentment and less psychological trauma.
After divorce, couples must educate their children to avoid six misunderstandings to make their children mentally healthy.
The first misunderstanding is to slander each other. To the bone , but no matter how much resentment and hatred there are on both sides of the divorce, the children must not be involved.
Don't slander each other in front of your children, and don't hide your children so they can't find them.
This will affect the child's mental health, resulting in the child's psychological distortion and imperfect character development.
The second misunderstanding: excessive doting
Colleague Qin Feng divorced his mother when he was in elementary school. Later, his father reorganized the family and he mainly lived with his mother.
And my mother didn't plan to remarry after the divorce, but devoted all her energy to Qin Feng, and her mother worked hard to cultivate Qin Feng.
's mother's request to Qin Feng since he was a child is that tries his best to satisfy him. He eats poorly and wears poorly, but he must give the child a good meal and dress brightly.
It is precisely because of such excessive doting that Qin Feng always enjoys the things his mother gives him for granted, and goes to work.After that, I spent all my money before the end of the month, and then I asked my mother for money.
later talked about a girlfriend, and when the money for a relationship was not enough, he also asked his mother for it.
So he is the famous "gnawing old family" among our colleagues.
The third misunderstanding: raising children across generations
grandparents or grandparents love their children, but they will make the children lawless, and will easily become bear children.
The fourth misunderstanding: blame the child's problems on the family
For example, there are already a lot of toys in the house, but the child is still crying and shouting to buy all kinds of toys, some mothers say, because divorce is not good for the child There is influence, so this child will want to use toys to satisfy his empty heart.
did not know that this was originally a small influence, but the mother constantly hinted at , but it would make the child learn to threaten the mother in this way. If
blame all the problems of the child on the disability of the family, it will instead give the child negative psychological hints , making the child think that his family is abnormal, so it is right that he is not normal.
The fifth misunderstanding: Letting go
Letting go here does not mean simply stocking up, but it means that parents of single-parent families work harder, often work overtime, and even leave their children at home, thinking that as long as I give them food Just drink it.
Children's self-control ability is limited and needs the guidance of parents. Without parental guidance, children can easily lose control, it is difficult to persevere on the road of learning, and it is difficult to achieve anything.
The sixth misunderstanding: Talking is not a good thing
For example, tell your child that your mother will take you to the zoo this Saturday, but on Saturday, a client suddenly finds her mother and tells the child that her mother is going to work and has no time to take you. Go to the zoo.
put the child pigeon again and again, it is easy for the child to think that the mother must think that I am a burden to him, so every time I lie to me, and then there is no time.
According to the investigation of relevant departments, there are as many as one million children in single-parent families in my country!
Therefore, single-parent families raising children should pay more attention to the children's health. Don't criticize or slander each other in front of the children, and let the children stay with their father or mother occasionally.
let the children know that even if I get divorced, my parents still love me, so that such children can have less psychological problems and grow up more healthily.
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