与我一起做一个爱学习、愿成长的人
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人弱的时候，最玻璃心
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前两天，包贝尔朋友圈斥程青松 的新闻On the hot search.
said that he won the Golden Broom Award , and this award is specially awarded to bad movies.
Then, Bao Bell (suspected) scolded in the circle of friends.
If this melon is authentic, then I want to say: Bao Bell doesn't cry, there are many people who want to win this award, but they don't even have entry qualifications. Then, you are not as popular as Wang Baoqiang red, not without reason.
You must know that Wang Baoqiang also won this award in the past. He went to the scene to attend the "Golden Broom Award" award ceremony in person, and humbly said in his "recognition speech": "Thank you for the Golden Broom Award, and I have the opportunity to face the audience in person. Say sorry."
In fact, even if Bao Beier didn't respond, it would be better than the current situation.
I have always had a bad impression of Bao Beier, largely because he looks average, his acting skills are not good, and his speech and actions are still a little greasy.
Why is Bao Beier so sensitive and angry this time, while Wang Baoqiang is so generous and relaxed? A big reason is that he really doesn't have any works that he can handle.
From " Soldier Assault ", " My Brother's Name is Shunliu ", " People are on the Road ", " Chinatown Detective ", to the early "Blind Well", " World Without Thieves " and more Let him get the best actor's "Hello! Mr. Tree", Wang Baoqiang's acting skills and works are excellent.
and Bao Bell, what can you think of? What are the works that he has participated in and can be named?
When people are weak, they are most glass-hearted.
This is something that I also have a deep understanding of.
When I was in school in Lijiang, I went to high school for more than a year on the edge of the ancient city, and then I realized that the snow mountain I saw every day when I looked up was Jade Dragon Snow Mountain .
This is enough to prove how inferior I was at that time. I didn't dare to ask my classmates such questions for fear of being laughed at.
When I graduated from high school, only two or three families in our village had landlines. When I called home, I would call my neighbors first, and then the neighbors would call my parents.
After the college entrance examination voluntarily filling out the report, I needed to call my family to tell them the exact time I would go home. As a result, there was a power outage in that area of the school.
I discussed with my classmates in a low voice: "Oh, the power goes out, so I can't make calls?"
As a result, another male classmate heard this, he laughed and said to me: "You need to use Electricity? Hahahaha! You're laughing off my big teeth!"
At that time ( 17 years old ) I only knew that there was no need for electricity to make landline calls, and at the same time I felt very ashamed of my ignorance, and I wished I could find a crack to get in. .
Later, I went to college in Beijing, passed through Kunming, and stayed with relatives. That's my firstThe first time I saw the toilet, I couldn't flush it at all after pooping. I didn't know which button to press, and I researched it for a long time.
I finally researched it thoroughly, I can use the flush toilet, but one day my relative's toilet was blocked. I was at a loss after pooping and didn't know what to do.
My relatives told me that I could take a basin and flush it with water. After I filled the basin with water, I didn't know where to pour it.
I'm afraid I won't be able to operate it and will break the toilet of my relative's house.
The relative sighed and said, "Why don't you even understand the whole thing", and then helped me pour the basin of water into the toilet.
I was relieved to see the dirt in the toilet finally being flushed down the drain, and at the same time felt especially ashamed for my relatives to see my excrement.
The sighs and whispered reproaches of my relatives slapped my heart like a whip, and I took it as an insult.
Back then, my relatives had refrigerators, but I never used them.
My relatives asked me to take the meat out of the refrigerator to thaw. I looked at the hard meat and didn’t know what thawing meant. Then I came up with a solution: heat a pot of boiling water, and put the frozen meat directly into a pot full of boiling water. in the basin.
Relatives were happy and said that she couldn't think of such a way.....I think I may have done something wrong, and I was at a loss for a while, and was ashamed.
When I returned to Yunnan this year, I visited this relative's house and took the initiative to chat with them about these things.
I remember when I applied for national student loan , went to the teacher's office to get the form, but the teacher was busy chatting with others, I waited a few minutes and ignored me.
It was such a small thing that I felt offended, I threw the family poverty certificate directly in the trash can, turned my head and left. It was the teacher who realized that my movements were abnormal, helped me pick it out from the trash can, and coaxed me for a while.
Back then, I was very socially afraid and didn't dare to talk to strangers. Before you speak, you are afraid of being rejected, so don’t say anything at all. After all, many times, there is no need to talk to strangers.
At that time, you asked me to work in sales, I guess I just wanted to die.
In fact, social fear may actually be an inferiority complex.
But, slowly, I discovered that there are still benefits to talking to strangers.
For example, you can get some information from strangers that may save you from detours.
Another example, you can relieve tension and loneliness in the process of chatting with strangers ( especially in the hospital ).
Later, I subconsciously corrected my "fear of talking to strangers".
At the beginning, before talking to them, I asked myself: What would happen if the other party ignored me? Will I have a big loss? If it's just a loss of face, and this loss can be quickly forgotten, why don't I speak?
Then I became someone who could talk to strangers anytime, anywhere.
It took me nearly 20 years to finally become less self-abased and glass-hearted, and even, I became a little cheeky.
For example, when I go to visit a client, if I encounter a difficult kid who looks down on me, I don't get angry anymore, but try my best to stay calm.
Some opportunities that I may not be able to win, I am willing to win, no longer afraid of rejection.
I found that sincerity is really useful when strength is not enough.
Sincerity is also an important measure for others to give you opportunities.
works like this, picks a mate. You "want", then show the appearance of "wanting", and let others know.
For example, this netizen who left a message to me did just that:
Back then, the father of the child chased me with sincerity.
He did a lot of things to impress me, and he said to me very seriously: "I know that my education, economic conditions, etc. may not be as good as other people who pursue you, but I have a heart that truly loves you and wants to Take care of your heart for the rest of your life."
Although this relationship went downhill and ended badly, this kind of sincerity... is indeed the key to success in chasing women.
apply this sincerity to what you "want" to do, and you may succeed too.
Many people ( including me ), sometimes, die on the "glass heart" that hides from licking the wound and tastes the pain as soon as others refuse.
And, really don't care about being talked about.
Whether you sympathize with me or despise me, you can make irresponsible remarks, anyway, you can't kill me.
Someone once interviewed Jobs and asked him what kind of people he likes to hang out with.
Jobs Answer: I especially like to associate with smart people, because they don't have to consider their dignity.
Interviewer asks: Do smart people have no dignity?
Jobs Answer: No, smart people pay more attention to their own growth and keep an open mind at all times, rather than defending their face, not trying to prove "I'm right".
I didn't realize this until I was 30 years old, and I'm working hard to implement it now.
didn't understand what "vision" meant before. Now, in the process of being beaten by life, I gradually understand what "vision" is and what it means to an individual.
learn to be "bold, careful, and thick-skinned", so that you can "do whatever you want without breaking the rules."
Everyone wants to have the freedom to "lift the table if you want", but only if you have the ability to lift the table.
If you don't have enough confidence and strength, you still have to go back and clean up after you lift the table.
So, always remember what the "main conflict" of your life is, and stick to it.
solves it, those "secondary contradictions" are not a problem, you don't even want to flip the table, you even want to play two games with the people on the table.
Finally, I want to share this quote from Steve Jobs:
Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be limited by dogma - to follow dogma blindly is to live in the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the opinions of others drown out your inner voice.
The most important thing is to have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. Your heart and intuition already know what kind of person you really want to be. Anything else is secondary.
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This is the best encouragement Author of the best-selling books "Those that make you suffer, one day you will say it with a smile", "May you let go of the past and be worthy of the future", "May you have a journey and a retreat", "I'm divorced", "Yes" Your Rivers and Lakes Are Not Lonely - An Alternative Interpretation of Jin Yong's Martial Arts Novels" and the children's picture book "Mother's Home", Dad's House". With 13 years of experience in financial industry (management), he is the founder of a cultural information consulting company in Guangzhou and the co-founder of a cultural media company. Born in Lijiang, Yunnan, now lives in Guangzhou.
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