After watching CCTV's new drama "The Big Exam", it hurts how many parents who do not do their due diligence

Recently, I watched a TV series called " Big Exam ". The

drama starts with the senior high school students from the No. 1 Middle School and No. 4 Middle School in Jinhe County, Anhui Province. At the beginning, it tells the stories of Wu Jiajun, Tian Wenwen, Zhou Bowen, and .

In the face of the two "big exams" of the epidemic and the college entrance examination, how to hand in a satisfactory answer sheet is not only a big test for children, but also a big test for parents.

From the ways of getting along with several groups of families, we can summarize the similarities and differences in education.

1. The "tiger mother"

's mother Dong Bihua is very strong at work and very capable, and it is the same at home.

regularly presents his son Wu Jiajun with three kinds of fruits, a bottle of yogurt, and various nutritional and health care products. has to sit beside him to supervise in his studies.

found that his son put away the key and locked the door. Dong Bihua directly removed the lock cylinder , saying "there is no privacy between mother and son".

Wu Jiajun likes animation, and his dream is to be admitted to the animation school.

But the mother firmly disagreed, and she wholeheartedly prevented her son from taking the art test, and wanted his son to choose the safe choice of finance and computer. was anxious, and even slapped his son .

Dong Bihua's mantra is: mother is for you .

There was a time when my son couldn't bear it anymore:

"Can you say anything for my own good? Can you do anything? Have you considered my feelings? I have self-esteem."

She wanted her son to live according to her own wishes, but she never cared about her child's heart, nor did she understand her child's hobbies, which was undoubtedly a lack of education.

Belittling, preaching, beating and scolding...

In the eyes of some parents, these are just means to discipline their children.

can be tantamount to the most vicious humiliation in the world to adolescents who take their self-esteem beyond the sky, enough to destroy their lives.

Second, careless parents don't care. Tian Wenwen in the

drama is a day student. Although she is a senior in high school, she is the only one at home. Her parents took her sister to do business in Wuhan. She grew up with her grandmother.

After grandma passed away, she would rather live alone in grandma's old house than in her parents' new house.

Although she lives alone, she has not become rebellious due to lack of parental care, but is strong and independent. She is used to carrying things on her own and does not easily express her emotions.

Crying children have candy to eat. She who is too sensible and mature will not show her weak emotions, and the same is true in front of her mother.

When encountering a thief at home, she would calmly ask the aunt of the neighborhood committee for help. When the police took away the thief, Tian Wenwen also begged the aunt not to tell her parents.

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until Tian Wenwen was turned over by her mother Guan Yue, this trivial matter served as the fuse for the quarrel.

Tian Wenwen expressed her grievances over the years. Her parents worked hard all year round. Tian Wenwen and her grandmother depended on each other since childhood. Only Liao Liao can reunite with her parents a few times a year.

She envies that her sister has been living with her parents, and sheOnly with loneliness.

田妈妈责备女儿“太独”的时候，却不曾想过，为什么在女儿需要求助的时候，只能一次次向没有血缘的人求助呢？

Is that what she doesn't want to say? That's why she has nothing to say!

The children who are too sensible are flattering, fearful, and even desperate. is what children do around their parents in order to make their parents happy and satisfied. It is to take care of their parents' feelings, go against their own nature, and suppress themselves.

3. The father is a drag on the unsuccessful

Zhou Bowen is an academic master. He can study consciously without the supervision of his parents, and his grades are top-notch.

The father, Zhou Meiren, who failed to do anything, was oblivious to housework. He was addicted to playing games. Yes, not to mention caring about children's learning.

My mother is hard-working. She runs a small restaurant by herself. She is busy from morning to night and never lets her father work. After coaxing the son to coax the husband.

looked at his father who was addicted to games, and after persuading him many times, he did not have the slightest determination to correct it. Zhou Bowen no longer took the Huairou route, but quietly sold his father's game account and forced him to work for his mother.

Zhou Bowen, who grew up in such a family atmosphere, is actually full of resentment against his father's inaction.

However, nothing is absolute. Although Zhou's father is not very concerned about family affairs, he also gives Zhou Bowen full freedom and does not dictate his son's choice.

In a harmonious family atmosphere, Zhou Bowen can do what he likes without too much interference, which is the other side of family relationships.

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Psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott says that children look up to their parents' faces and see the children themselves.

Parents bring their children to this wonderful world, not only taking the responsibility of parenting, but more importantly, educating their children to become adults.

We all know that parents are their children's first teachers, and their personalities, behavioral styles, etc., all leave a deep imprint on their children's growth.

But no parent is perfect,

Controlling parents can't raise assertive children;

Parents who don't ask can't raise active children;

Ineffective parents can't raise secure children .

The "big test" of the epidemic is like a mirror, reflecting the life of each family.

Tian Wenwen suffers from loneliness alone, Zhou Bowen's witty game fanatic father, and Wu Jiajun tried their best to convince her mother that different families have their own problems to deal with, and these tiny fragments constitute the whole picture of life, and there are many small blessings in the fireworks.

noPeople can predict what will happen tomorrow, the broken family relationship will be repaired little by little, and those ununderstood knots will gradually reach a reconciliation. It's the imperfect parents that allow us to discover our own parenting from real people.