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However, Adler also said that it is not the external factors such as the environment that determine him, but himself. Since we were born as human beings, there will always be other ways of living.
understands the previous sentence from this sentence, and finds that the cognition of the family of origin is the key to determining the height of his happiness, because everything depends on his own choice.
However, asking everyone to reconcile with their own family of origin, especially the reconciliation scenes in many dramas, always makes people feel uneasy, always feels that there is a lack of persuasion, people always question, and hurts the family of origin Does it have to be reconciled?
It wasn't until I watched the TV series "The Canglan Jue" that I realized that all the reconciliations were so natural and smooth, especially whether to reconcile? How to reconcile? Little Orchid has given textbook-like answers.
Dongfang Qingcang is a monster in the Three Realms, because he has no emotions, and killing his father is the best proof. But for him, he doesn't like this kind of self, and this is only more and more apparent after meeting the little orchid.
Xiaolanhua took in Dongfang Qingcang, but she didn't know who the other party was, but only knew that it was a sinner who escaped from Haotian Tower. She dreamed that the sin immortal was arrested, and because she took in the sin immortal, she was disliked by the admiring Immortal Chang Heng, and woke up in fear.
Because of the concentric mantra, Dongfang Qingcang will perceive Xiaolanhua's emotions and experience it synchronously. Xiaolanhua's fear is also experienced by Dongfang Qingcang. His first reaction is that this is a feeling of fear, and it's been a long time.
It's been a long time since I said a sentence, which makes people feel a little distressed for Dongfang Qingcang. No one likes the emotion of fear.
Therefore, when Xiao Lanhua followed Dongfang Qingcang back to Cangyan Sea, she found that Dongfang Qingcang's memory of her father was very divided. On the one hand, he kept reminiscing about the good times when his father and himself kicked the wooden Juju, on the other hand, he hated his father for not approving him, making him suffer the pain of unrequited love, and carrying the notoriety of killing his father.
The first question is, how do you deal with the damage your native family has done to you?
For Dongfang Qingcang, his strength is because his father made him love him, but he does not thank his father, because his father made him a monster in the eyes of others, even the people of the Moon Clan call him Yuezun, he also knows that this kind of respect is just surrendering to his own karmic fire.
When his passions and desires began to take root again, there were entanglements and contradictions in his heart. He longed for family affection but resisted it, longed to be trusted and was suspicious by nature. At this time, Dongfang Qingcang was very much like you and me. When you realize that the family of origin hurts a lot.
No family of origin is perfect. If you say that there will be more or less injuries, how you treat these injuries determines your level of happiness. In the first half of Adler's words, happy people use childhood to heal their lives.
has a lot of doubts about childhood in Dongfang Qingcang's heart, obviously his father likes to play with him, but when he finds out that he has the talent to learn karma, everything changes.
Father broke his qin and killed Wu Gu who taught him to play the qin. The process of practising karma must be unrequited love, and he has suffered unbearable pain. He spent it in torment. It is easy to practice karmic fire, but it creates a scene of father-killing.
Dongfang Qingcang concluded that the reason was that his father didn't like him anymore, because when he knew that he was talented, his father said, "Why are you?" In Dongfang Qingcang's view, his father was not happy for him but full of disgust.
So how did Little Orchid do it? From Xiao Lanhua's point of view, if you have doubts in your heart, you must find the reason and solve the misunderstanding. She went to Lao Yuezun's old residence to find the answer, and found the broken qin, which has been repaired and has been hidden by Lao Yuezun's bedside.
Xiaolanhua deduced from this that Lao Yuezun did not dislike Dongfang Qingcang, there must be other reasons.
So, she found a way to see Lao Yuezun's soul, and Dongfang Qingcang, who followed him, refused to ask her father the truth at first, because he couldn't forgive his father for hurting him.
I have to admire Xiao Lanhua's communication skills first, and I will talk about this later. The communication between father and son is slowly unfolded under the leadership of the little orchid. There are many plots in this drama that seem to be routines but are not routines.
took the episode of Lao Yuezun meeting with Dongfang Qingcang, and did not directly ask Lao Yuezun to tell his compelled and his own dilemma, but in the story, let Dongfang Qingcang and Xiao Lanhua, Let us in front of the screen know that the difficulties of the Moon Clan at that time can only be solved by Karma, and Dongfang Qingcang, who is very talented in cultivating Karma, is Lao Yuezun's favorite son.
why is that sentence you? It's really mixed, Lao Yuezun is a loving father, not surprised by his son's talent, but knows the pain of cultivating karma.
Here, the misunderstanding between father and son has been solved. Xiaolanhua has a clearer logic. She never forgets another relative of Dongfang Qingcang, her younger brother Xunfeng. She wrote down everything Lao Yuezun said, which is convenient It was later restored to Sundae.
In Xiao Lanhua's view, at least Xun Feng knows the truth about the murder of his father, so that the misunderstanding between brothers can be solved and the estrangement can be eliminated.
Happy people use childhood to heal their whole life. In the process of growing up, they constantly examine past injuries and find the logic behind these injuries. They are not looking for a reason for the existence of the injuries, but sorting out the development context of the restoration events, so that they can remember them. When you are hurt, you can solve and correct your current cognition.
And the unfortunate people spend their whole lives to heal their childhoods. They use the hurt of their original family as an excuse not to grow up, and they will always be trapped in the quagmire and unable to extricate themselves, just like in the play, they are coerced and eroded by anger and Tai Sui.
Lao Yuezun saw Dongfang Qingcang, and also longed to be forgiven, kicked out Muju again, and relived the love between father and son again, Dongfang Qingcang gently kicked back and responded, Laoyuezun smiled contentedly, and his primordial spirit dissipated , everything works perfectly.
However, the plot didn't progress like this, Dongfang Qingcang held the wooden Ju for a long time and didn't move, even if Xiao Lanhua reminded him that Lao Yuezun's primordial spirit dissipated immediately, but he still didn't move, and finally Lao Yuezun didn't wait. The warmth he wanted.
The second question comes, in the face of the harm of the original family, do you want to reconcile?
Dongfang Qingcang saw Muju kicked over by his father, not that he deliberately did not forgive, but that there is a process in a person's inner change. It can also be said that after knowing all the reasons, his mood was complicated. He doesn't know whether to forgive or not?
can also say that at this time Dongfang Qingcang still can't completely forgive his father, he won't stab his father with the sword of fire, but it doesn't mean that he can forgive immediately. When the heart can think about whether to forgive or not, and the body does not express it, it must not be forgiven.
The reality is like this, hurting this matter, the party who is always hurt has a deeper memory, it is not that you said that you had to hurt me, I must forgive your hurt.
A lot of dramas here will force a reconciliation, so it will be difficult to make peace.
Dongfang Qingcang forgave his father and reconciled with his father, but not at the moment when the father and son were reunited, but at the moment when the immortals invaded Wangchuan, attacked the moon tribe, and the immortal moon war was about to break out, Dongfang Qingcang said In a word.
He said that at this time he felt his father's mood and knew his father's thoughts at that time.
Although Dongfang Qingcang did not say the word forgiveness, it was at this moment that he truly reconciled with his father. In fact, forgiveness does not mean reconciliation. Forgiveness is more about letting go of yourself. For those who are interested in forgiveness,
From child to adult, from child to parent, it seems like one cycle after another, and the children of the year began to return to their parents. The road, what kind of feeling is it, naturallyShowing empathy is the best reconciliation.
Many people think that Dongfang Qingcang has become a person because he recovered his emotions and fell in love with Xiao Lanhua. In fact, we have to see that Dongfang Qingcang has never used force to convince everyone of the Moon Clan. , to everyone to save him, make the whole person bigger and higher, and he is inseparable from his father, brother and decryption.
Little Orchid is like a leader of love, accompanying Dongfang Qingcang's seven emotions and six desires to regenerate and grow up in love. In the big concept of love, many details are given, all of which are textbook-like answers and methods.
was born as a human being and can always find a way to be born in the sun.
(the pictures are all from the screenshots of the TV series "Canglan Jue", if there is any infringement, please contact to delete)
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