Are there any women in the real countryside who are more miserable than Cao Guiying in "Hidden in the Dust"?

" Into the Dust " has experienced a slump at the box office since its release, and then it has made great strides, with the box office breaking through 100 million!

has now been removed from the shelves of the entire network! There was no official announcement about the reason for the removal, and everyone was talking about it.

Some said that the film sold badly and smeared the reality of the new countryside; some said that it did not conform to the background of the times, and there are so many poor people now; Rural people are still very kind and simple, etc. There are different opinions.

We will not speculate on the reason for the removal for now. I just want to chat with you, is there a woman more miserable than Cao Guiying in real life?

tells you a story about a woman by my side today. She is a person I remembered unconsciously when I watched "Hidden in the Dust". I was born in the 1970s and was born in the rural areas of northern Henan. This woman is my neighbor. Her name is Xiaoqiao. She is the second sister of my primary school classmate. She is seven or eight years older than me, so I call her Qiaojie when I meet her.

Qiaojie is not tall, with good facial features, she is not beautiful, but she is definitely not ugly.

but she's a mute!

is said to be caused by injections as a child. Because of this reason, she didn't go to school very much. I heard that she only read the third grade of elementary school, because she couldn't keep up with her studies and went home to help with farm work.

There were no deaf schools back then. Almost all the deaf and mute people in rural areas are mocked by outsiders and rejected and reprimanded by their families. When I went to play at my classmate's house, I met a few times. My classmate's mother was scolding Qiaojie, and even my classmates ignored the existence of Qiaojie, as if there was no such sister!

In my impression, Sister Qiao is a diligent person. She does everything at home, does laundry, cooks, cooks, washes dishes, feeds chickens and pigs, and works in the fields like male laborers.

Qiaojie can understand what people say, but she just can't say it. If she wants to say something, she will only dance with her hands and gestures, and sometimes her voice will be louder when she is anxious. At this time, someone will laugh at her, and her family will feel that she is embarrassing and scold her! The days of

have passed by, and Sister Qiao has become more and more silent, and she rarely hears her "woo woo woo" voice.

I also rarely see her because I left home to go to middle school. Occasionally, when I go home on weekends, I run into her and call her "Sister Qiao". She no longer wants to talk to me like she saw me when she was a child, but quietly turns her face away.

I guess, Sister Qiao probably won't have any friends in her life! Think about it too, my parents and brothers are disgusted, let alone outsiders!

has reached the age of marriage for men and women, so Qiaojie's family is naturally anxious. After all, my parents are getting older, and my brother has been married and separated, so staying at home is not a problem after all. The matchmakers before and after

introduced many of them, most of them were disabled, some had poliomyelitis, those with broken arms and broken legs, half-naive and half-stupid ones, and sister Qiao was unwilling. Her parents were also very angry: "Just like you, what else do you want to find? Who can look after you as a good boy? It's almost enough to live a life!" There is no woman who can stand on her own, even if you can support yourself, it will not work, there is no place for you at home! Some netizens on

said that rural women do not worry about getting married, yes, but not all. In the countryside at that time, all the family property belonged to the brothers. If your parents were gone, you would be a burden. You didn’t even have a place to live. What would you do if you didn’t get married?

is like Cao Guiying in "Hidden in the Dust", her brother and sister-in-law thought of a way to sweep her out and reduce a burden! Sister Qiao is probably in the same situation as Cao Guiying. She can't control her own destiny, only the fate that is arranged!

One Sunday at noon, my mother made dumplings in the kitchen and asked me to deliver them to Sister Qiao's house. "Qiao Xiao is getting married! Marry the three treasures at the east end of our village." In our village, it was a custom in the past to give dumplings to the married people's homes. Now it's all about treating guests and giving gifts, and I feel less of the human touch in the past! I still know a little about

Sambo.

is poor first!

has three brothers in the family, the eldest and the second married early and separated. He became a family for two older brothers, his parents died of serious illnesses one after another, leaving only three broken thatched huts and unpaid debts in the family. The two older brothers have good conscience. They gave Sanbao the broken thatched house. The two brothers shared the debt equally, but they also made a deal with Sanbao. They would not give financial help to Sanbao when they got married.The word "poor"!



Second is lazy!

Sanbao is the youngest and the youngest in the family, and the boss and the second are working hard, so he didn't do much. After the two older brothers got married, he became a soldier because of the care of the village, because his family was an old and poor household in the village. I was lucky in the army, and I got a job looking at the oil depot.

The third is timid!

Sanbao has a nickname. Our local dialect is called "old to tremble", which means that his legs are always trembling, and he is timid. At that time, there were few entertainment activities in the countryside. During the festivals, there would be big trees on both sides of the street and tall swings. Young people like to compare each other to see who can swing high.

Sanbao had just retired and returned to his hometown. Someone shouted, "Come here as a soldier!" Sanbao also rushed the ducks to the shelves. After a few swings, he came down and his legs trembled. Since then, he has been nicknamed "Old Trembling"!


Until now, there is still a joke circulating in the village, saying that Sanbao came back from the army to see his second uncle the next day.

Second Uncle asked: "Sanbao, when did you come back?" Sanbao replied: "Last night, Second Uncle!" Standard Mandarin , no problem. The second uncle scolded angrily: "My mother is a ****, when did you come back?" "One Heilai" is the standard native dialect.

I probably don't believe this to be true, but it's by no means a well-meaning joke, including the nickname given to him. Let's talk about it, what kind of psychology does the person who composes the three treasures jokes and nicknames him have? Could it be that

is the same as the person who laughed at the choreographer Kong Yiji? Compared with the villagers in "Hidden in the Dust", I am afraid they are even worse! Contempt and ridicule for vulnerable groups in the countryside are everywhere, and being surrounded by this kind of laughter and indifference makes you nowhere to run!

All in all, Sambo is a cowardly and inferior person!

When Sanbao asked someone to ask for marriage, Sister Qiao's parents did not agree with the marriage. The old people must be very clear in their hearts that marrying a person like Sanbao in the countryside will not have a good life. They have seen too many such things, after all, they are their own daughters!

But Qiao Jie agreed. She is disabled and bullied. She probably wants to marry a normal person too much. What's more, San Bao was a soldier, and she still wears the old military uniform with the torn collar all day after retiring. She is still very energetic. of. What happened to the Three Treasures, Sister Qiao should not know much, or she may be sympathetic to each other!

That's it, Qiaojie married Sanbao. Sister Qiao's tragic fate has just begun!

said earlier that Sanbao is a lazy man, and such people in rural areas are called "lazy people" behind their backs. At that time, the responsibility land was subcontracted to households, and it happened that her land was close to mine. When I was helping the family with the farm work on the weekends, I only saw the thin figure of Sister Qiao working alone in the fields, and other families were mostly young and old.

My mother asked Sister Qiao: "Where's Sanbao? Why don't you come to work in the field?" Sister Qiao pointed to the direction of the original production team with her "woo woo" gesture, probably saying that Sanbao was playing mahjong at the poker court.

"Let your brother talk about him, how can you live like this?"

Qiao sister lowered her head and stopped talking, and went to work on her own. At that time, the farm work was not like there are all kinds of machinery now, it was completely manual, and it was no different from the primitive society!

life has yet to pass, a year has passed, and the joy and yearning for a new life have long disappeared from the face of sister Qiao. Originally thought that marrying a healthy person can raise your head and be a man, someone loves someone, but now?

In the second year, Sister Qiao had a child. It was a girl who heard from her mother and said she was very handsome. Originally, Qiaojie and Sanbao were not ugly. Isn't it normal to have a beautiful child?

But one day my cousin told me a secret while chatting, and I was completely shocked!

I still remember that it was a Saturday night, I was playing with my cousin, and I didn't know why I talked about Sambo and Sister Qiao.

He said mysteriously: "Tell you a secret, no one else knows!"

"What?"

"One night I saw our village party secretary entered Sanbao's house, and then I heard Xiao Qiao calling!"

"What nonsense?"

"Really! I even sneaked under the window to stealListen! "

can't imagine it! But I can't believe it, my cousin lives next to Qiaojie's house! Two junior high school students, there is no need to deceive each other because of other people's family affairs.

In a blink of an eye, I went to high school, and Xiaoling, the daughter of Qiaojie's family, also She is almost five years old. However, rumors gradually spread among the neighbors, saying that Xiaoling does not look like Sanbao or Sister Qiao. Besides, Xiaoling is three years old. When the second child is added, according to Family planning policy A family without a boy in the countryside can still have another one, but the Qiao sister's house has been silent! Slowly, the neighbors said that "Sambo can't have a problem".

Sanbao became more lazy at that time, I don't go to the ground, I don't work, I play mahjong every day and smoke a cigarette. What's more, I often play Sister Qiao, but I heard that Sister Qiao doesn't cry or run, so I just curled up and let him play! Uncle I also looked for him, slapped him a few times and said some harsh words, but in the end it was nothing. It is said that after the village party secretary came forward, Sanbao calmed down a little. What my cousin said!

's mother was the women's director of the village at that time. In fact, her main task was family planning in the village. For example, if a woman of child-bearing age should have a sterilization operation, please let me know and bring me with you. They took them to the hospital in the county seat. Later, the family planning became more and more urgent. When the house was demolished and the animals were pulled, the mother voluntarily resigned.

In her words, doing these things will kill off the children! I support my mother's approach, then Sometimes things go too far!

Sambo came to my house and very rarely carried a bag of apples.

"Auntie, let me tell you something. "Then glanced at me.

"Hua, you go to your house to read first, and tell your brother Sanbao something." "I walked out wisely, but didn't go far, and secretly ran to the outside kitchen to eavesdrop.

"Aunt, see if you can arrange a sterilization operation for me, just say that I respond to the national family planning policy and take the initiative. sterilization. Back then, very few men were sterilized! "You know that people in the village gossip that I can't give birth, so if I don't give birth, it can be considered a contribution to the country." A helpless sigh followed!

"There's nothing wrong with that, as long as you're willing to do it! Besides, it's not my aunt who told you, don't be a little girl anymore, you've been a husband and wife for so many years, and a husband and wife are still a hundred days of grace! The days will be long in the future, When you are old and you are like this, who cares about you!"

"Well, I know, I know, it won't happen in the future.

The relevant implementation measures of family planning will be announced on the blackboard of the village committee every month. For example, who has done what surgery, etc., who violated the policy and how to punish, etc. Soon, another joke of Sanbao was circulating in the village, "Sanbao was gelded, hahaha"!

Sanbao did not kill him. Thinking of it, he stopped a rumor, but left a laughing stock that made him unable to lift his head! The bigger laughing stock of

is still to come. A year later, Sister Qiao was pregnant again and gave birth to a boy!

man They met, and some said, "Sanbao, you haven't done the surgery well, why did you miss a little bit, but fortunately you missed a kid! "Some people sincerely comforted: "No matter what, you are considered to be a successor to the Three Treasures!" "

I don't know anything else, but I just heard from my mother that Sanbao doesn't fight Qiaojie very much now. But I'm still lazy, not only lazy, but also enjoying it, cigarettes should be smoked with filters, clothes should be clean, every time Playing poker at the day card field, I feel at ease. The broken thatched house at home was also renovated into a tile house under the care of the poor households by the village committee. I stayed at home for a while during the summer vacation, and I rarely saw Sister Qiao. When I saw her, she was always working, weeding and fertilizing the fields, etc. I also met her young son several times, who was very lively and very lively. Smart, Qiao Jie can't speak, but the child's articulation is really smart!

thought Qiao Jie's life would go on like this, but it is a good home, at least the child brought her some comfort and hope!

But things are difficult Material, the hemp rope was cut at the fine point! Sister

Qiao's son died! It was the summer of the year I graduated from college. The weather in my hometown was record-breaking hot, and the children were running around looking for water to play with. Our village drowned. Two children, one of them is sister Qiao's son!

I heard from my mother that sister Qiao vomited blood. It turns out that people really vomit blood when they are extremely sad! Then I lay in bed for three days without eating or drinking, like dyingSame. Then the villagers never heard Qiaojie's "woo woo woo" sound again, and she came and went silently wherever she went, as if she had lost her soul.

Sambo has also changed. Smoking got worse, and he started drinking too much. When he got drunk, he beat Sister Qiao and scolded Sister Qiao for not working. When Sister Qiao was beaten, she didn't say a word, and the more she beat her, the more angry she became. Sister Qiao often had scars all over her face. The village committee couldn't handle it either.

After a few more years, the people in the village gradually lost interest in this family, and there was little gossip about Sister Qiao's family. For Sister Qiao, numbness or numbness of onlookers is actually a good state!

Later, I took part in work in other places, and I was usually busy and rarely returned to my hometown, and I hardly heard about Sister Qiao.

It wasn't until many years ago that I heard the rumors about Sister Qiao. To be precise, it was not about Sister Qiao, but about Sister Qiao's daughter, Xiaoling. I haven't seen her for many years. She was a stubborn girl when she was a child. At that time, her family was poor, but no matter how good she was, she didn't eat anything. They all said that this little girl has ambition and is stronger than her father!

It is said that Xiaoling did not go to school after graduating from junior high school, and went to work in the south, but did not return home for many years. I came back last fall and brought a man who seemed to be about the same age as Sanbao, saying it was her husband!

Xiaoling brought a lot of good clothes to Sister Qiao that she had never worn in her life, as well as gold jewelry, and bought a new color TV, refrigerator, air conditioner and other electrical appliances for her family. I heard that she also gave Sanbao 50,000 yuan! Sanbao also fussed in front of the villagers for many days, and everyone smoked when they saw them. "Three-five", you can't see them in the countryside!

However, it didn't take long for rumors to spread in the village, saying that Xiaoling was a sugar daddy in Guangdong as a junior, and there were even more ugly ones, saying that Xiaoling was selling there! During the period of

, Sanbao was doing pretty well, and she stopped playing Qiaojie. She often cooked at home and changed her into clean clothes. Until one day, the old party secretary came to Sister Qiao's house with nothing to do, and said he wanted to see if he needed help! That night, Sanbao got drunk and started beating Sister Qiao again, but Xiaoling couldn't stop her. In the end, Xiaoling's man kicked her husband to the ground, and Sanbao yelled: "Your mother is a piece of shit, and so are you. A piece of shit, it's a piece of shit!"'

The next day, Xiaoling and the old man left. Before she left, Xiaoling went to her uncle's house and left 50,000 yuan for her, telling her uncle to take care of her mother. Before she left, she knelt down to her uncle and said that she would not come back in the future!

The last news about Sister Qiao was in the 2000s. I can't remember exactly. As far as my hometown is concerned, apart from my parents and relatives, there seems to be nothing to miss.

Qiaojie went crazy at first. I heard that she was no longer silent, but began to curse loudly. Of course, she didn't really know how to curse. After all, she was a mute. She only said hoarsely: "***!" I've been dumb all my life, and I've learned to speak when I'm crazy, "***"!

In the Spring Festival that year, I went back to my hometown to celebrate the New Year. When I was making dumplings, I chatted with my mother, and my mother told me: "Xiao Xiao died, drowned in the river by the village, just like her son." I didn't answer, I turned around and lit a cigarette , I thought that Sister Qiao was probably going to see her son, I hope they live happily and happily there without being disturbed!