There is an old saying in China, "The dragon gives birth to the dragon, the phoenix gives birth to the phoenix, and the son of the mouse can make a hole." This sentence
emphasizes the importance of heredity, and also points out the important influence of family environment on the growth of children from the side. Parents are reliable, and most children will become talented. If the upper beam is not right, the lower beam will be crooked.
But in the recent hit drama " Big Exam ", the family of Xueba Zhou Bowen has subverted this statement.
"The Big Exam" tells the story of the lives of several high school families in a small county when they face the college entrance examination and challenges.
Among them, Zhou Bowen, played by Hu Xianxu , is a scholar who is rigorous and self-disciplined. Not only has his academic performance never bothered his parents, he is also a very sensible and considerate filial son in life.
In the eyes of many people, most of the parents of a schoolmaster must be a schoolmaster. After all, the focus of education is to teach by words and deeds.
But unfortunately, Zhou Bowen has an unreliable father.
His father would only sit in front of the computer and play games all day, and all the housework was done by his wife. In Zhou Bowen's eyes, his father was like a giant baby who had not been weaned, neither making money nor making money. Work and live under the shelter of her mother's tolerance all day long.
is also because of this, he is full of anger and disdain for his father, and even in order to get rid of his irresponsible father, he also persuaded his mother to divorce him.
The son is young and mature, and the father is like a giant baby. Such a "father-son contrast" makes many viewers ridicule their mother in the comment area: marrying a husband is like a son, and having a son is like a husband.
also has many netizens wondering: Can the unreliable parents of really raise reliable children?
and looking at the comments, many people said that there is indeed such a phenomenon around them.
In fact, we do not deny the importance of words and deeds in family education , but why can unreliable parents raise excellent children? I believe that in addition to the child's own talent in learning, the "unreliable" parents are also the reasons for catalyzing children's self-reliance and self-improvement. In the
play, Zhou Bowen's mother handles housework every day, and his father is addicted to games every day. The two do not put too much energy into the child's growth, nor do they take care of all the children's affairs, and this just trains Zhou Bowen's Self-care ability, he did not let his parents bother from study to life.
From a certain point of view, the parent's letting go provides a broad space for the son's growth, which makes him independent in everything he does.
This is: because the parents are "lazy", the child can only be forced to work hard, and because the parents are "weak", the child can only be "strong". In addition to
, some netizens also mentioned a more critical point, that is, although the father looks very unreliable, there is not much problem with the son's original family, especially the father and mother's. The relationship is actually very peaceful.
The wife indulges her husband's laziness, and the husband is reluctant to kill his wife. The way they get along has a kind of sweetness. There is such a scene in the
play.
After his husband cleared the game, his first reaction was to pull his wife onto the seat and shout to his teammates domineeringly: No one is allowed to open the treasure chest, my wife will open it!
When the wife drew the staff, the husband kissed his wife in front of his son, and the wife smiled. The interaction between the two completely broke the usual awkwardness and indifference when middle-aged couples get along.
Therefore, when we think about why Zhou Bowen was born in such a family environment, it is not difficult to understand the reason.
He has a mother who loves himself and a father who loves his mother. There is no shortage of love in such a family.
In many families in reality, there are countless middle-aged couples arguing with me, and there is no warm communication between them.There is also no worship and connivance for each other. Over time, the two people only have cold eyes and disgust when they get along. Families like
are like cages for children who have not yet developed their minds. Even if they want to use the college entrance examination to get rid of their original family, the way their parents get along will leave an indelible shadow on their minds.
In "The Big Test", Zhou Bowen was unfortunate when he met an irresponsible internet addict father, but he was also lucky, because parental love is the most stable cornerstone of a family.
The topic of this issue
Have you followed this show? Do you think outrageous parents can raise reliable children? Welcome to leave a message in the comment area!
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