When you are confused, you have to listen to what people have said. Dai Qian, the auntie in "Golden Years", is worth learning.

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In the past, I didn't particularly like to hear the words of "people who came here", I always thought they were preaching. But now I really like to chat with them when I am confused, because those life experiences have made me feel the power of the years and made me more conscious and rational.

In "Golden Years", Jiang Nansun has such a life mentor. The aunt Dai Qian played by Yuan Quan and really amazed me.

She is a completely independent woman, she will not give up herself because of the shackles of marriage, will not worry about gain and loss because of the other party's departure, and will not embarrass herself because of the world.

In the face of work, she knows what she wants, and in the face of love, she dares to give it a go. Such a woman's life is really enviable, and the life experience she has accumulated in these experiences is even more worthy of our study.

Let's take a look at the words she sent to Nansun today. Every sentence is very important, and every sentence is heartfelt.

When he was young and vigorous, he wanted to win or lose. Now that he is not young, he should also know that the sentimentality of the past is meaningless.

When we were young, we all liked to be emotional. Nansun was like this, Zhu Suosuo was like this, Wang Yongzheng was like this, and was like this. But Dai Qian told Nansun that such sentimentality was meaningless, because she also came here like this. Looking back, she realized that it was enough to do what she should do. As for others, it had nothing to do with herself.

Think about it, it is true, many things in life are not black and white, and there is no right or wrong. When we look at others from our own perspective, it is naturally incomprehensible. So at times like this, be yourself, don't interfere in other people's lives, and don't care too much about other people's evaluations. Be an indifferent person, such a life can be peaceful and happy.

life is like this, if you want to get the best, you can get the bottom, and you can't get the bottom. The greater the expectations, the greater the disappointment.

I like Dai Qian's appearance as a strong woman, especially her self-confidence and chicness when she taught Nansun the philosophy of life, which made me understand the meaning of women's struggle.

people, you always need to have some goals, I agree with setting yourself a goal that you can reach on your tiptoes, so as to give yourself more motivation to fight.

At this point, I like Zhu Suosuo's hard work. He does his best for the life he wants, which is the attitude each of us should have when running against the wind.

expresses the best, the most, not necessarily the most affectionate.

Dai Qian can see clearly about feelings. She told Nansun how to identify whether a person really loves her, not by listening to what he says, but by what he does.

Yes, we have long passed the age of listening to love, and the criteria for judging love and not love should be more realistic. To do this, we must be strong enough in our hearts, so that we can escape rational judgments.

It may be hard for a woman in a relationship to do it, but I think we'll grow up after a few things, just hope it's not too late.

There are so many people you have met, admired, talked about, and liked in your life, but not all of them can fall in love and become husband and wife together. Marriage is different, just enjoy it.

I like Daisy's free and easy emotional outlook. We will like a lot of people in this life. You don't need to feel psychological pressure because of this.

is like Zhu Suosuo and Ye Jinyan, I believe there is a relationship between them, no matter it is love or something, but in the end, the two choose to bless each other, which is also a happy ending.

Don't feel that love is not a pity, that may be God's best protection for you.

Well-intentioned is a good thing, but you also need to be mentally prepared, not all well-intentioned results will have the expected results.

I don't like Zhang Anren very much, not because of his poor family conditions, but because he has nothing but wants everything.

My aunt Dai Qian could see this very clearly, so she rejected Zhang Anren's design and told her this when Nansun begged him.

Yes, everyone should live on the ground, always trying to take shortcuts will only fall into the abyss, learn to accept, and learn to work hard, I think this is the beginning of our life changing.

There will be a return for the effort, but it may not, and there is still a need for setback education.

Everyone hopes that their efforts will be rewarded, and even hope that they will get twice the result with half the effort, but the reality is always cruel, and what we can get is not necessarily equal to what we pay.

So, don't get discouraged when you fail, you must understand that this is the normal state of life, and the truly strong will become more and more courageous, which is also the guarantee of our success.

is like a strong woman like Dai Qian. She seems to have everything and handle problems with ease, but in fact she has also experienced unknown setbacks. We can't just envy the brilliance in front of others, but we can't see the persistence behind others And forbearance, this will make you twist your mind and lose yourself in jealousy.

Sooner or later you have to face the world by yourself. When you are happy, no one may be willing to share it with you. When you are anxious and fearful, no one will share it for you. If you overcome it, you will see a wider world. .

For Jiang Nansun, although the family of origin cannot bring her happiness, it still gives her a life without food and clothing. Therefore, the sudden departure of her father and the bankruptcy of her family have changed her life drastically.

's aunt Dai Qian appeared in time to help Nansun solve the thorny problem, but she did not do everything, but let Nansun understand that some paths must be taken by themselves.

This truth I hope everyone can understand, as adults, we must overcome the barriers that we think we can't overcome, so that we can really grow. And on that day, you will also find that the world of adults is lonely, and no one can accompany you all the time. We must work hard to move forward in order to get out of the thorns.

You can't choose your birth, you're influenced by your parents, you're influenced by your family, and inevitably you have to start somewhere and start your journey. But where to go at the fork in the back is your choice. Every person you meet, every book you read, every movie, is working on you.

's aunt Dai Qian is a free woman in the new era, so she always hoped that Nansun and her mother could get out of the shackles of this family, especially after her father's death, she encouraged them to live their own lives.

Each of us is more or less influenced by our family, which determines which direction our future is going to take. But I always feel that your life should still be in your own hands, so that you can better love yourself and the people you want to love.

is like Dai Qian. She has the ability to help those who want to help at any time, but Nansun and her mother are at a loss when their father leaves and the family goes bankrupt. This is the difference, and it is also the meaning of hard work and strength for women.

Why get married? In the past, everyone had to have a work unit and have a stable income, preferably an iron rice bowl, with monthly salary, and after old age, monthly pension. Later, everyone gradually accepted the self-employed and accepted freelance work. These people work harder, because more work and more, you have to keep running your own business., because you have no basic protection. The relationship is the same, if you don’t get married and you want to maintain the relationship, you need more investment and concentration.

About getting married, this is the most classic word I've ever seen. Daisy's interpretation of marriage perfectly expresses the aspirations of modern women. In fact, many times, we really don't need a marriage, because we work hard enough and are strong enough, even a person can live well.

As for the relationship, if you like it, you can stay together. Even if you don't get married, you have to maintain it carefully. What's wrong with it? Moreover, without the shackles of marriage and the so-called security, everyone can love more purely and with more heart, so why not do it?

hope that every woman enters or leaves marriage because she really wants or doesn't want it, not because of other factors, because then you can be really happy.

Life has to have some regrets, otherwise it will be boring.

We are always afraid that we will have regrets in our life, and we always hope that everything will be perfect, but have you ever thought that if there are no regrets in this life, what is there to remember when you are old?

In life, the most memorable thing is probably the love that can't be found or lost and found. Each of us strives to get something, but we always lose something, which gives our life a breath and harmony. color.

Daisy, who has lived for half her life, understands this truth, so she lives calmly and confidently, and hopes that everyone can understand this truth and do everything with heart, but don't care so much about the ending, so as to be more casual and happy.

​In "Golden Years", there are two people who live very clearly, the man is Yang Ke, and the woman is Dai Xi. They have a common characteristic, that is, they have experienced a lot and accumulated a lot.

If you look at them, you will find that they have failed and succeeded, but they can always look forward and move forward. I think this is why they can always live transparently and gracefully.

When you are confused and can't figure it out, you might as well listen to what they have to say. Although these people's words may not be wise, they must have experience, which is worth savoring and learning.

Of course, I also hope that you can find a path that suits you. After all, everyone's life is different. As long as you can make yourself happy and satisfied, you are already a winner in life.

Let's cheer together, work hard together, and meet a better self together.

I'm Xiyan, a columnist, an older girl who is neither old nor old. I like to write warm words and do emotional programs. I have published "The rest of your life is about me", if you have a story, remember to come to me .