Author: Qin Dafeng Editor: Li Jin
Source: Marriage and Family Magazine
In the recent TV series " Punishment ", actor Cheng Yu's acting skills amazed everyone.
is a philanthropist on the one hand and a gangster boss on the other, Cheng Yu's look makes people shudder.
netizens exclaimed: The acting skills of the old actors never disappoint, every wrinkle speaks!
saw Cheng Yu's distinctive face, and everyone could immediately think of many familiar characters.
He is the lazy "Commander of the Three Armies" in " Beautiful Fields ", the criminal investigation captain Yan Haidong in " confrontation ", the village chief Tian Zhendong in " Xilinmen ", and the one in "Linhai Plateau" Xu Damabang , or the director of civil affairs Ma Hanshan in " No War in Peiping "...
Cheng Yu, who entered the industry because of his ugly appearance, even won the Feitian Award and Huading Award , but the business as a whole did not cause much splash.
and his wife Han Xuesong has a good family background, good looks, high education, and is the direct leader of Cheng Yu at work.
The two of them stand together, basically three words in capital letters: not a good match.
People always say that a marriage needs to be the right match to last long.
, but Cheng Yu and Han Xuesong, who seem to be mismatched everywhere, in the flashy entertainment circle, with decades of love, they live out their days with steaming fireworks.
Lei in marriage, such as weak men and strong women, gathering less and more, is not a problem for them.
Many people will wonder why many marriages that seem to be a perfect match do not end well, while some marriages that are not optimistic are often warm and long-lasting?
Perhaps, in the relationship between Cheng Yu and Han Xuesong, the answer to the question is hidden.
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Bai Fumei married a poor boy naked for love
Cheng Yu and his wife met in Harbin Repertory Theatre, but before that, their experiences can be said to be quite different.
Cheng Yu is a native of Northeast China. After graduating from junior high school, he went to the countryside to join the queue.
When the students around him are looking forward to becoming a teacher or a scientist in the future, Cheng Yu's dream is ridiculous.
He wants to be a craftsman who walks the streets and shouts "sharpening scissors and cutting kitchen knives", or a coachman, pulling the reins and riding the wind, not to mention more free and easy.
But fate played a little joke on him, Cheng Yu failed to become a craftsman, he became a slave artist.
is similar to the experience of many insiders, and Cheng Yu's entry into the industry is also "unintentional".
When he was 16 years old, he accompanied the school to take part in the recruitment examination of the Harbin Repertory Theatre, but his classmates failed but he was admitted.
was shocked when he heard the result, he chased the director and asked, "How did I get in?", To tell the truth, he was admitted because he was ugly, and the troupe needed someone to play the bad guy.
Facing this answer, Cheng Yu didn't know whether to laugh or cry.
Anyway, it's always good to have a steady job. Cheng Yu didn't think much about it, and happily went to the troupe to report.
From 1989, Cheng Yu, who had been in the troupe for more than ten years, could be regarded as a senior with deep experience. In the same year, the troupe came to a top student who graduated from the director department of Shanghai Theater Academy. She was Han Xuesong.
The two of them had nothing to do with each other, but one day on the way to work, they bumped into each other because they were in a hurry.
Cheng Yu saw that he bumped into a beautiful girl, and was so nervous that he was speechless. Han Xuesong couldn't help laughing at the naive Cheng Yu, and said "it's okay" first.
After that, Han Xuesong and Cheng Yu got to know each other. Cheng Yu, who has some vicissitudes of life, looks older than his actual age. Han Xuesong always jokingly calls him "Uncle", Cheng Yu is not annoyed, and responds cheerfully every time.
just laughed and made trouble, the two got closer and closer.
They discussed the script together and were convinced by each other's viewpoints; they strolled to the vegetable market together, and Cheng Yu cooked and cooked a delicious food. Cheng Yu likes Han Xuesong's sassy and neat, Han Xuesong likes Cheng Yu's tolerance and thoughtfulness.
No one can tell, exactly at which moment, they moved each other's hearts.
Ke Cheng Yu thinks that he is 34 years old, a proper old leftover man, and Han Xuesong, who is 7 years younger than himself, has good looks, high education and a bright future. Cheng Yu silently suppressed his thoughts.
did not expect that it was Han Xuesong who pierced the window paper.
had a chat, Cheng Yu felt that he was going to be a bachelor, Han Xuesong suddenly raised his head, looked at Cheng Yu seriously and said, "I won't let you be a bachelor, you have to be nice to me in the future." The starlight inside suddenly reflected into Cheng Yu's heart.
never came out since.
What status, appearance, money, in front of two lovers, everything is a cloud.
After a year of dating, they got married naked in the dormitory assigned by the unit.
In fact, Han Xuesong's parents once objected to Cheng Yu's family's "poor economic conditions and improper households", but in the end they could not resist the persistence of their precious daughter.
After the second year of marriage, a son was born.
all kinds of mismatches, in the face of steaming love, not worth mentioning.
can be ignored by the two people who are immersed in happiness. Even if the external conditions are put aside, in terms of personality alone, the two are not very compatible. Cheng Yu is easy-going, Buddhist, and goes with the flow; Han Xuesong has a clear plan and pursuit of his career.
This difference, not only did not alleviate after marriage, but further widened.
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The prosperous wife VS the unknown husband
After getting married, Cheng Yu was immersed in the life of "wife and children" and was extremely satisfied.
Han Xuesong is eager to tryWant to go further.
While working hard, she was admitted to 's graduate school in the directing department of Shanghai Theater Academy, and she became a postgraduate tutor step by step from a teaching assistant.
Her research papers have won many awards and achieved remarkable results. As a director,
has directed many dramas and sketches one after another, and won major awards such as the Outstanding Director Award for the National New Repertory Show and the Golden Lion Award .
For a while, Han Xuesong was in the limelight in the theater, and was paid attention and investigated as a key object, and was promoted to the vice president of Harbin Theater all the way.
Cheng Yu, who was in the same period, was not mediocre, but he did not make much progress. As a veteran of the theater, he is familiar with the job, but there is obviously no hope of promotion.
lived together every day, and seeing his wife's flamboyant appearance, it was false that nothing was touched, and Cheng Yu began to seriously think about his way out.
There are too many men in marriage who can't accept the success of their wives because of their inferiority, but Cheng Yu won't. In his eyes, his wife's achievements are also his pride, but at the same time, his wife's glory cannot be the reason for him to lie down.
Since 1996, he began to play some small roles outside one after another.
The troupe has many years of stage experience, which makes him familiar with the role, but due to the limitation of appearance, the role he plays is mainly a supporting role.
He also felt uncomfortable in his heart, but his wife reminded him: "There are only small actors, no small roles. Only when your acting skills are honed can you seize the opportunity." By the end, the income is also much more than that of the troupe period.
For Han Xuesong, when she fell in love with Cheng Yu, he was penniless. He is willing to work hard for her, and she accepts it readily; if he wants to live a peaceful life, then she can work harder to support the whole family. Therefore, she only requires herself, and never persecutes her lover.
For Cheng Yu, you don't have to ask me to make progress, you don't have to ask me to make more money, but I can't let myself lie down.
Many things have nothing to do with achievements, but only about trust and affection.
When Han Xuesong wants to shoot a new drama, he will definitely give Cheng Yu a look first; Cheng Yu will definitely discuss with his wife if he wants to take up the drama.
In a marriage, you are never afraid that the outside world looks mismatched, but you are afraid that the husband and wife feel that the other person is not good enough for them.
and Cheng Yu and Han Xuesong get along, not picky, only understanding and gratitude.
In 2003, Han Xuesong's parents died one after another. The strong Han Xuesong buried his sadness in his heart and worked hard to cover up the huge pain in his heart.
Cheng Yu turned off his mobile phone, turned off all the drama appointments, and wholeheartedly accompanied his wife through difficult times.
From passionate love to mutual marriage, in Cheng Yu's words: "I am your backbone, and you are my backbone. We are each other's greatest support at all times."
This is the most touching marriage appearance.
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The most comfortable way to get along is to support the other person to be himself
Although Cheng Yu has always ridiculed that he has no artistic skills and is not very diligent, his sense of responsibility is throughout.
When he was a drama actor, his performance was beyond reproach; when he was a film and television actor, he also worked hard.
There is a principle for him to take on the role. He never touches a role he is not sure about.
He said, that is the responsibility to the audience and to himself.
After polishing off a small role by a small role, Cheng Yu's acting skills became more and more superb, and finally ushered in his own success.
In 2003, he won the Outstanding Actor Award at the 23rd Feitian Awards for his role as the Secretary of the Township Party Committee in "'s Hope Field ".
In 2012, Cheng Yu starred in " cliff " and won the "Hua Ding Award for Best Supporting Actor" for his role as Gao Bin, and began to be loved by more audiences.
He was rated as a national first-class actor, and his income is enough to give his family the life they want.
is like this. The most frequently photographed scene is still drinking and chatting with friends in the fly restaurant.
He really doesn't consider himself a star.
He has said more than once that he doesn't understand art, but he just did his job honestly. In his heart, family, lovers, relatives, and friends are all in front of acting.
may not meet Han Xuesong, Cheng Yu will stay in the theater and live a peaceful life.
, but because he met the person he was willing to work hard for, he did not complain and did his best to do his best.
Today, Han Xuesong, the vice president of Harbin Theater and the secretary of the director department of Shanghai Theater Academy, is still the resolute and meticulous strong woman in the eyes of familiar people.
From young to old, Cheng Yu has worked hard all his life, standing with Han Xuesong, but there is still disharmony everywhere.
But so what?
Too many marriages die from fussing over the details. As long as you confirm that the other person is the right person, why not turn a blind eye.
What outsiders see is Cheng Yu being disheveled, drinking and smoking, but what Han Xuesong sees is that he plunges into the kitchen and brings out the most authentic flavor of the world. What outsiders see is that Han Xuesong is acting resolutely, but what Cheng Yu sees is that she is shining for her dream.
Cheng Yu often said: "My wife is too tolerant to me. I have many small problems, and she is always used to me."
Poet Wang Guozhen once said: Love that is not a good match on the surface is often harmonious, because such love often has a relatively deep internal reason; love that is a good match on the surface is often not harmonious, because such love produces The reason is simply because of a good match.
When you only use a mundane eye to examine whether a relationship is a good match, you often ignore the depth of it.
Marriage is like shoes, you know whether it is suitable or not.
It is the greatest luck to meet that vigorous and lifelong person.
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