Li Yifeng 's prostitution case was officially notified, causing an uproar.
There are people online who disagree, especially those who are loyal fans.
They plausibly believe that Li Yifeng is right, men, they all think about this in their minds, it's just human nature. Why can't you let it go?
As a 29 year old man, I think I have some say. Today, I will use the platform of Jun Ye, combined with my own experience, to talk about my views.
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I was born in a remote county, and my family was very poor. I was barely admitted to a second-tier university in the province, but I was already the first college student in our village, the kind that should make my parents proud.
My university is called "XX College" (the one named after the city, so you know it), the major is a certain engineering, and the classmates are basically male.
The school is located in a remote location, the quality of students is very poor, and the school style and discipline are also very poor.
My dormitory classmates are mainly locals in the city, and their family background is better than mine. They have been naughty and playful since childhood, so they will be screened by the college entrance examination and fall into this kind of school, barely getting a bachelor's degree.
These male classmates do not do business every day, hardly study, and often skip classes.
Under the action of hormones, the favorite thing for a group of vigorous men is to get together and discuss things that make men restless and excited.
For example, which girl in the school is good-looking and in good shape, and also shares some "resources" with a mobile hard disk.
Even the female teachers who gave us elective courses would be whispered, commented, and smirked, and the classroom atmosphere was weird.
soon, a handsome male classmate fell in love, went out with his girlfriend to open a room, and when he came back, he described the details to everyone vividly (the character is really rubbish), which made others envious.
What everyone envies the most is not those who have good grades and ability, but those who are "scumbags" enough to keep changing girlfriends and opening rooms.
At that time, I just came to the provincial capital from a small place, dressed in shabby clothes and had low self-esteem. In order to integrate into the group, I had to imitate them subconsciously.
The stories they tell add to my addiction and wake up my hormones.
Instigated by my male classmates, I really had similar impulsive thoughts, and when I passed those small foot-washing shops outside the school, it was not that I peeked inside, and my heart was eager to move.
, but in the end did not dare to take this step, one is timid and too cowardly. The second is that they are really poor, and they still rely on student loans to study. Where can I get the money.
At that time, I was full of desire and emptiness. It is no exaggeration to say that when I meet a dog on the road of , I can't wait to see if it is female or if it has double eyelids.
is like a beast in heat and swinging.
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The real turning point in my life was the summer vacation of my freshman year.
My father had an accident while working for people in the county town. He fell off the roof and was seriously injured and his leg was broken. Although
has received some compensation, he can no longer engage in manual labor, and his family lacks an important financial support.
mother hugged me and cried, and told me to graduate from college and have to rely on myself and have a bright future. I am her only hope.
(she didn't know my real situation at school, always thought I was studying hard)
This disaster broke my heart and I couldn't sleep for several nights.
Looking back on what I've done in the past year, I'm both remorseful and ashamed, wanting to slap myself to death.
That feeling is what the ancients said, being drenched in a head-to-toe wake up by a basin of ice water.
I realized that if this goes on like this, my life will be doomed, my parents, my whole family will be doomed.
Besides, there is a fundamental difference between me and the male classmates who are with me! What capital do I have to learn from their depravity?
Their family is local, they have resources and wealth, and if it's really bad, they can still find an ordinary job at home.
and me? I have no way out! And my parents are counting on me to support them.
After this disaster, at the beginning of my sophomore year, I felt a pain in the ass and changed my mind completely.
I no longer indulge in the low taste of the male classmates around me, nor do I want to accept their hard drives and short stories.
I don't even stay in the dormitory at all, I get up early every day to go to the classroom or the library and go back to bed very late.
I studied engineering, and it takes a lot of effort to master professional courses, but at that time I just wanted to grit my teeth and persevere, let myself indulge in knowledge, and move forward step by step.
My grades are improving rapidly, I have won the second and first-class scholarships in a row, but I have become an outlier among my classmates.
They thought I was "pretending", they thought I was a nerd, they stopped taking me to play, ridiculed me, mocked me, and some directly scolded me "no matter how much I learn, I can only go back to farming."
Thanks to my counselor and several required course teachers who gave me great confidence and kept encouraging me that I was on the right track.
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Entering my junior year, I started to study the postgraduate textbooks. Later, under the guidance of the teacher, I decided to take the postgraduate entrance examination, and the goal was a 985 university in this province.
After a very hard and excellent struggle, I was admitted in my senior year and became a graduate student of the 985 University.
The process of the postgraduate entrance examination was thrilling. I didn't take it easy, but I tried my best. Although my undergraduate school is very weak, with high written test and interview scores, it kills a large number of students in this school.
In those two years, I was obsessed with studying, postgraduate entrance examination, and even changing my fate, and found myself living as a person with a "clean heart and few desires".
Rarely have the hormonal turmoil that plagued me, the loneliness of sleeping alone in the middle of the night, and seldom have the leisure to look at those feet-washing girls. They have long since faded from my focus.
During the postgraduate period, the quality of my classmates has improved significantly.
Everyone is running around in the library and laboratory. In addition to chatting about tutors and topics, it is a normal little fun in life.
As for those provocative topics about "primitive impulse", they are ashamed to talk about it, no one mentions it, everyone is self-disciplined and rigorous.
In such a group, for the first time, I have a sense of belonging, and a sense of urgency that if I don't progress, I will be eliminated.
After graduating from graduate school, I successfully stayed on campus and became a university teacher on this campus I love, continuing to preach and teach.
Now, I have been working for more than a few years, I have a stable girlfriend (counselor at the same school), my relationship is stable, and I plan to get married next year.
give parents a fixed monthly living allowance, although not much, but enough to make them worry about food and clothing.
04
My story is over, so let's go back to the previous topic: As long as you are a man, as long as you can breathe and function normally, you can't escape the shit in your crotch?
My answer - yes and no. The key depends on your current state of life.
There is a saying in the ancients that "being full and warm and thinking about lust", in my opinion, I need to add a few more words: "When you are full and warm, and you are free, you will always think about lust."
If you are idle, idle, lacking in life goals and self-motivation, your mind is empty, and of course it is easy to be led by instinct.
is like going back to the most primitive state of animals, targeting mating and reproduction genes.
But, if you are determined, have the right and grand goals in life, and live a fulfilling and fun life, you have no time to think about those! Don't even bother to think about it!
will only have a flash of thought when you are idle and before going to sleep, but it will not make you obsessed or trapped in it at all.
My huge transformation is the most convincing proof.
In addition, as a man, the grade of the circle of friends is too important! Circles directly reshape your values.
a bunch of friends, they will only make you a rubbish that thinks with your lower body.
Everyone has fallen and you will be proud of falling. If everyone progresses, you will be ashamed of falling.
It's not difficult to explain why there are so many male stars who are "whoring prostitutes" in the entertainment industry.
In such a bad entertainment industry, these behaviors are just commonplace to them.
05
A few words of advice for young men from humble backgrounds:
The growth of every boy is lonely and twisted.
The age where you need to struggle the most is precisely the age when your hormones are the most exuberant and the most "unhappy".
Only by filling the brain with determined goals and the right things, so that it is no longer empty, can we overcome the instinctive impulse of the body.
The busier you are, the colder you are. And that's not a bad thing, and will allow you to focus more on the business at hand.
There is only a cliff behind you, there is no turning back, but the road ahead is long and difficult. Once you go astray, your trial and error costs are extremely high.
You have no choice but to abandon the original temptation, work hard, and move forward firmly.
One day in the future, the real happiness of the wife and children being on the kang head and the career rising steadily, is not much more pragmatic and reliable than the exciting fantasy of hugging and hugging now?
(narrator: Zhao Qian. Text arrangement: Ye Jun)
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I am Ye Jun, I have been in the system for more than ten years, and I will tell you the truth Workplace experience, honestly teach you to avoid pitfalls. Follow me, let you grow faster!
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