When Zhang Weichen was about to go abroad, Ren Duomei said to him, "I want you to pay me a salary every month, 20,000 a month is not too much?" The husband replied with a look of surprise, "Wife, you Why do you need so much money?"
Ren Duomei said frankly in the face of her husband's doubts, "I need to take care of everything at home, shouldn't I be paid monthly? I asked my friends about it. Now, the basic salary of an assistant is 6,000 yuan a month. According to my age, I have skipped a slot once, and I used to work only 8 hours a day, but now I have tripled the 24-hour system, right?"
Husband Still puzzled, he continued to ask, "Why do you want so much money?" Ren Duomei didn't answer directly, but spared a small circle, "Am I beautiful? Do I have any face when I take it out?"
Zhang Weichen naturally felt that The wife is beautiful and bluntly said, "Pretty, of course I have face." Ren Duomei knew that he had entered his own trap, and lured the enemy to go deeper, "230 yuan for rich cleansing foam, 1800 yuan for vibrating face wash, anti-wrinkle essence 1700 yuan, moisturizing cream 890 yuan..." Zhang Weichen had to disarm and surrender, "stop, stop, go, make a deal."
This wonderful conversation comes from the hit TV series " Their Names ". Ren Duomei is a housewife who is good at running a family and marriage. When all the housewives are complaining that they are exhausted every day and have no salary, Ren Duomei uses her super-high IQ and means to play with her husband and get A good "salary" of 20,000 yuan.
In Ren Duomei's view, this is the testimony and medal of her conquest of marriage. She thought she had mastered her own life, but she didn't know that it was Zhang Weichen who really held the power of life and death in this marriage. Ren Duomei never knew, "Monthly salary 20,000" was her husband's most ruthless calculation.
First, the wife's words follow
Zhang Weichen is a child who grew up in the city, his mother is capable and intellectual, and at first glance he is a cultural element, and he, with good grades, a good job, a good family background, and a handsome man, is the best husband for the perfect husband candidate. Such a "good man" was actually caught by a girl from a small town like Ren Duomei.
met Zhang Weichen, probably the life-saving straw in Ren Duomei's life. When she was a child, her father lost control of her emotions and beat and kicked her when she was drunk. Later, she was imprisoned for a hit-and-run accident because of drinking. The gloom and erosion of her original family left her with bruises all over her body. Tan Tian, her boyfriend at the time, was still a struggling young man with nothing. He couldn't nourish her with full love. What she needed was bread, enough bread.
Zhang Weichen appeared with bread. After
and Zhang Weichen were together, Ren Duomei quit her job and became a housewife with "every day". She feels that the true meaning of marriage is to strive to create a comfort zone for her husband, so that he has enough energy to deal with the difficulties at work, and when he comes home, he is a gentle town.
Ren Duomei thinks and does so. She is an absolute master in taking care of her husband, cooking rice, soup, shuttle bus, cleaning... omnipotent. Faced with all kinds of difficulties from her mother-in-law, she swallowed her anger. A wife like
is Zhang Weichen's ideal wife. Under the love, the husband and wife also have certain contradictions, but in the end, Zhang Weichen's victory ended.
Ren Duomei has not had children for a few years after marriage. Facing the double pressure of her mother and mother-in-law, Ren Duomei decided to design her husband. During the day, she deliberately hid all the family planning supplies on the bedside table. At night, her husband came back and found When the thing was gone, he got furious, left the room with the words "it's not the time to have a baby" and left the room.
Ren Duomei realized that she was slowly out of touch with the real world, and just got an interview invitation from Mulan, she decided to give it a try, Zhang Weichen said with a smile at first, "I support you, but I'm just worried that you will leave the workplace so much. , do you adapt
, but after a few days, he began to regret it, forcing Ren Duomei to submit with sweet words, he said:
"There is no other organization that understands my wife as well as I do. You are born with the ability to run a house, and I am I really don't want you to go out and be called by others. As long as my wife takes the money I give her every day, I miss going home. "
said a few words to dispel Ren Duomei's desire to go out to work. He raised her as a pet. He didn't want her to have too much contact with the outside world. He wanted to keep her within his controllable range forever. Only in this way can he satisfy his desire for conquest and satisfaction. Use his wife's obedience to make up for his own shortcomings.
Ren Duomei thought she was in control of her husband and family, but Zhang Weichen was actually a silent "PUA".
2. Wife's gentleness and kindness
As Zhang Weichen said, Ren Duomei is indeed a virtuous helper who manages housework. After marriage, Zhang Weichen went abroad to study, and the husband and wife were separated from each other. Ren Duomei not only did not complain, but also coaxed her mother-in-law very much. Happy; Zhang Weichen went abroad and did not return, and she arranged the world of the workplace; Zhang Weichen's mother suddenly fell ill, and Ren Duomei was still waiting for her. She is not a careful person", "she is not a vexatious person", at first glance shows Zhang Weichen's absolute trust and trust in Ren Duomei, but what is the truth behind it? Midea is absolutely trusted.
Under his emotional PUA and various control, Ren Duomei readily accepted the setting of a good wife and a good mother, and took this as a manifestation of his successful family management, gentle and virtuous, in the hall, and in the kitchen, How many men dream of being a good helper.
At the very beginning, one side was the virtuous helper Ren Duomei, and the other side was the passionate little sister. Zhang Weichen knew what he needed in his heart, and he chose Ren Duomei with great determination. , and righteously rejected the wishes of the younger junior sister Zhou Min.
What he loves is not necessarily Ren Duomei, but he loves himself who controls Ren Duomei. The most tragic thing about her is that she lives under the dual control of her mother-in-law and her husband at the same time. The husband cheats her on her giving and forbearance with sweet words, and the mother-in-law controls all aspects of her life with absolute power.
Ren Duomei can't decide what to eat, what cleaning utensils to buy, whether to buy a vacuum cleaner She can't make her own decisions, which perfectly interprets the suffocation and suffocation of a daughter-in-law under the control of her mother-in-law.
faced with this The mother and family, Ren Duomei has always worked hard, even though she was extremely angry, she still greeted everything with a smile. Once the ridges rise, that is the time to go to the supermarket. She had something in her heart, and absentmindedly accompanied her mother-in-law to the supermarket, while her mother-in-law was chattering, and finally found out that she was in a wrong state.
"Being a leisurely housewife at home, I don't even understand. Wei Chen is under a lot of pressure in the work unit. I think you are staying at home, and everyone is going to be stupid, right?" Insults have always been straight, without concealing them at all. Before putting them aside, Ren Duomei would only admit his mistake in an instant, swallow his anger, and listen to the lesson with a smile. But this time, she rebelled again. "I haven't done a lot of housework at home. I'm chatting with you and shopping with you now." in front of my son. In dealing with the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, Zhang Weichen, the scumbag, handled it beautifully. Zhang Weichen originally wanted to drop off his junior sister from get off work, but suddenly received a call from his mother, who confided Ren Duomei's attitude and impatience in the supermarket one by one.The pro blamed Zhang Weichen after listening quietly. Instead of helping his mother, he spoke for Duomei. "Maybe Duomei has something to do, I'll go back and ask her." did not escalate the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
After returning home, Zhang Weichen looked at Ren Duomei, who was unrestrained in eating and drinking, and took the initiative to bring up the incident in the supermarket. It's normal, don't care what she says, old man, like a child, don't take her words to heart."
From this point of view, this man is not bad. In the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, he coaxed the two sides in a few words. He didn't say bad things about Duomei in front of his mother, and he didn't say bad things about his mother in front of Duomei, which prevented the contradiction from escalating again.
wrote at the end
Zhang Weichen is a man who perfectly integrates the mother and the man with the strict control of his wife. He can not only appease his mother, but also please his wife. He is a typical middleman.
I have been thinking, why did Zhang Weichen with such excellent conditions and Zhang Weichen with online IQ and EQ choose to marry Ren Duomei? Whether Zhang Weichen was in school or at work, there were many girls who pursued him, many of whom had a good family background and were more in line with him, but he chose Ren Duomei.
Because Zhang Weichen has lived under the control of his mother since childhood, he needs a wife who can be controlled by him. Zhang Weichen learned to be submissive from his mother's strength, so he found a wife who obeyed. Ren Duomei is as capable as his mother in some aspects, but at the same time weaker than his mother in some aspects, allowing Zhang Weichen to achieve inner balance in marriage and relationship.
Ren Duomei will never know that "monthly salary of 20,000" is her husband's most ruthless calculation. Ren Duomei said that being a housewife requires a monthly salary of 20,000 yuan, and Zhang Weichen agreed; Ren Duomei said that she wanted to go out to work, and Zhang Weichen agreed, and she didn't say what she really didn't want her to go out until she was not hired.
Murakami Haruki once said, "What many people in the world sometimes need is not advice, but a warm agreement." Zhang Weichen never strictly prohibited Ren Duomei's decision, but used warm agreement to PUA her , praising her as the best wife, praising her for being filial, making her think that she can't live without him, to achieve the goal of "she can't live without him in the end".
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