Shu Ting said in " to the oak tree ": "We share the cold wave, wind and thunder, thunderbolt; we share the mist, flow, rainbow . It seems that we are separated forever, but we are attached to each other for life. The constancy is here: love - not only love your stalwart body, but also love the position you hold on to, the land under your feet."
While watching the movie " Hidden into the Dust ", I remembered this poem.
Anyone who has watched "Hidden in the Dust" will be moved by the "true love" between Ma Youtie and Cao Guiying. Is
love?
The two of them don't know what love is, where can there be any love?
So, which word is more accurate to describe their relationship?
A word came to mind: .
They don't understand love, and they rarely have any verbal communication, let alone any physical glue, but the interaction between them makes us seem to see the existence of "love". They are as humble as ants, and the way they get along with each other also tells us, what is marriage?
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What is marriage?
What are we getting married for? Don't you just want to find a partner to live with you? The two take care of each other, respect each other and never dislike each other. You have children and you share the responsibility of a family. You feel sorry for each other, and you will tell each other to "pay more attention to your body and don't be too tired." You will also encounter some setbacks, but no matter how difficult it is, the two of you can always overcome the past together. You form a home, and that home has become a haven for both of you, and a haven for your children.
Marriage is very simple, we all want to seek happiness in marriage, but in real life there are always people who tell you that marriage is too difficult, and marriage is so bitter. Where did
go wrong?
is the one we met isn't it? Are we wanting too much? Why can't you be kind to each other wholeheartedly? Is it that difficult?
Ma Youtie and Cao Guiying, they are both abandoned by mainstream society.
They met on a blind date. The so-called marriage is to get a marriage certificate , which is very simple.
Cao Guiying was thrown out like a "hot potato" by her brother and sister-in-law. When she didn't meet Ma Youtie, she lived in a wooden shed exposed to the wind and rain, and lived a life that was rejected by others and not a human being. She is not in good health, she has been suffering from qi deficiency all the year round and her body is cold, and one leg is lame. She suffers from urinary tract disease and is incontinent at all times, but has anyone thought about taking her to the doctor?
doesn't.
brother and sister-in-law don't treat her as a human being.
dislikes, looks down on, and wishes it had nothing to do with him, why should she marry Ma Youtie, because she is a burden, for a woman like her, it would be good if someone wanted her, and it was okay.
Ma Youtie, a rural old bachelor who is despised and despised by others, has almost the same situation as Cao Guiying.
They came together and added some luster and warmth to their lives.
On the first night of their wedding, Ma Youtie was lying on the bed, while Cao Guiying stood beside the bed so embarrassedly, they didn't say anything. Cao Guiying was afraid that she would urinate on the bed, that she would be disliked and bring trouble to Ma Youtie.
Cao Guiying sat on the donkey cart and was pulled by Ma Youtie to deliver paper money to her in-laws; Ma Youtie was going to donate panda blood, Cao Guiying felt distressed, "don't smoke it"; when Ma Youtie was hot, she would give Cao Guiying one first and let her It was hot to eat; Ma Youtie remembered to buy her a long coat, so that even if she urinated, she would not be seen by outsiders; Cao Guiying wrapped hot water in her clothes and waited for him at the entrance of the village, in order to keep the water hot, she ran back and forth many times;Together, they weeded and harvested wheat, supported and helped each other; they covered adobe with plastic sheets on rainy days; they worked hard to build a new house together.
is a very simple and simple way of getting along, but it can touch people's hearts directly, because they have no other ideas, they just think about each other wholeheartedly and feel sorry for each other.
This is rare in a marriage.
do not dislike each other, respect each other, support each other, and feel distressed and understand.
Isn't this what we've always needed in our marriage?
Ma Youtie and Cao Guiying moved us with their sincerity.
Of course they don't understand love, but they are in the same situation and can empathize with each other. They finally have someone by their side, and they just want to be good to each other wholeheartedly. There are no distracting thoughts, no desires, but instead we have the true feelings that we all hope for in the world.
met Ma Youtie, and Cao Guiying's life was considered complete.
died so unexpectedly, but after living with Ma Youtie, her heart was warmed. This kind of spiritual feeling is an experience she has never had before, and it is worthwhile to have such warmth in this life.
The same is true for Ma Youtie, Cao Guiying is alive, he still has a home, he is very busy, and the days get better;
When Cao Guiying is dead, his home is gone, the light in his heart is dim, and the days are getting better. More lifeless. Some people at
commented on "Hidden in the Dust": The romantic background of is to live side by side with .
walking together, can still live;
is gone alone, and the other person is not far from death.
They are also very romantic: Ma Youtie planted a flower in Cao Guiying's hand, saying that she can be found no matter where she goes. After Cao Guiying passed away, Ma Youtie planted another flower on her hand. The flower was an imprint, and it was also saying goodbye to Guiying, and even telling herself to remember that flower and don't lose it.
know each other, but let us see the most beautiful marriage.
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If people have more desires, they will complicate their life, and they will not be wholeheartedly good to people.
In real life, how many marriages are always full of all kinds of quarrels: conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, conflicts between husband and wife, conflicts in educating children, conflicts in doubting someone outside the other party, conflicts in disliking the other party for not being motivated . Sometimes there is no substantive conflict at all, just can't get used to each other, because a single sentence can make you cold and angry, and what's more, hit your wife with punches and kicks.
It's been a day of infighting, life is so painful, why are you getting married?
Marriage did not make them find happiness, but added a lot of burdens, making life very painful and tiring.
Think about it, what did you guys get together for?
Think about it, is it necessary to persist in such an unfortunate marriage?
Is it so difficult to have a true and sincere marriage?
How to manage a marriage, in fact, Ma Youtie and Cao Guiying have told us through their way of getting along. It's very simple: think of each other, love each other, he loves you, you should love her too, treat each other as another self, Take it seriously and you'll be fine.
But in reality, there are many people who can't do it, because people have too many desires, too many distractions, and want to get a lot from the other party. Considering your own position, it is difficult to achieve both. If
can't break in, they can only break up.
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Marriage is very simple and complicated. It depends on what kind of person you are and what kind of person you choose to live with.
If you want to have a happy marriage: must choose someone who treats you with sincerity, and at the same time you treat him with sincerity, you have goals and plans for your married life, both of you work hard and take responsibility, and learn to be an independent person Thinking adults, have their own opinions, can also think openly, take responsibility together, become more mature, and I hope you can live a good life together. Why is
"Hidden in the Dust" so popular?
How can such a flat film resonate with you?
In addition to lamenting the plight of the little people, we are more moved by their plain husband and wife's true feelings.
There are no two hearts, one heart, who doesn't want their marriage to be like this?
Today's topic: What impresses you most about "Hidden in the Dust"? Welcome to leave a message for discussion.
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★ Author: YIBAO; emotional original author, writing warm emotional things in this world.
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