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If the marriage is like Cao Guiying and Ma Youtie, then when the elders, when those irrelevant people who persuade marriage, say to me "you will always get married in your life", I will say: "Okay, I'm going to tie it and run."
But I, my elders, and the irrelevant marriage advocates all know that marriage, in most cases, is not like this.
The marriage between Cao Guiying and Ma Youtie is so moving because it is like a "perfect" template that exists in the world of Plato 's rationale , we have seen so many evolved from the "perfect" template Yes, all kinds of imperfect marriages, but so tender, so overflowing with each other's needs, so imperfect two people, but such a perfect marriage, we have never seen.
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Young people always say that love should be the icing on the cake, not just help. But often, those who can really interpret what love is, and truly express the word "love" in a full and moving way, are all the help in the snow.
is the icing on the cake, just like when you have no worries about food and clothing, and you have nothing to worry about, someone came to accompany you to do some interesting things and make your life more interesting, but if you don't have this person, you can also have Others can also have other interests, so this person is good for him, not him, it doesn't matter.
And to send charcoal in the snow, you are alone in the ice and snow, cold, hungry, lonely, waiting for a life-saving person to give you a bonfire, but not only no one is willing to give it, but even kicking you, just When you were almost desperate, the savior came. He held a flaming torch, wrapped you in a thick and warm coat, and said softly: Don't be afraid, there will be me in the future.
What he gave was not a little fun other than boring life, but the meaning of life, the value of continuing to exist, and the whole purpose of this life. You are 10,000% sure that in this life, there will be only one person, there will be no one else, only him, without him, there will be no more.
Cao Guiying and Ma Youtie, for each other, is such a help in the snow, I may not say that their mutual support is love, but in them, I really see what the so-called love should look like.
They are like two people who can't act at all. They were arranged for a scene without knowing anything about them. It is precisely because they don't know this is a play that they devote themselves to it and don't think about how an actor who can act should look and act. They just do it and live.
Just because they don't pursue love and don't expect love, they don't think about how people who love each other should love and what they should do when they love someone. They just treat each other with their true self in their hearts. Under the premise, he gave the most ordinary but fullest love.
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Before they met, Cao Guiying and Ma Youtie's lives were all a joke in the eyes of "normal people".
Ma Youtie is the kind of old bachelor I'm used to seeing in the village. He is poor, dull, and speechless, but he has a lot of strength and can carry the work. Called to drink.
Women don't look down on such a man, after all, who would want to marry a "donkey who can only work". That's right, such a person is like a donkey in the eyes of others, no one pays attention to their thoughts and moods, no one cares if they are lonely, no one respects them, giving him food and two rags to wear, If you don't sleep on the street, even if you treat him well.
A woman like Cao Guiying will be given various nicknames, "Crazy Ying", "Silly Ying", "Diaper Ying", although she is neither crazy nor stupid, butBecause of her disability, people classified her as an "abnormal person". In addition, she had no parents and no mother. Her brother, sister-in-law and sister-in-law were often beaten and scolded. She was kept in a shack like a livestock. No one cares. Who can treat a person who is treated like this as a human being, thinking that she also has feelings and needs to be cared for.
They were brought together by family members and matchmakers, like cleaning up garbage, like breeding animals. No one cares whether the parties are willing or not, they are no longer human, and there is still something to pick and choose, as long as the two families think it is suitable.
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On the first night of their wedding, Cao Guiying urinated on the kang, stood on the ground with two legs, half of her pants, leaned on the kang, and baked the pee-soaked trousers by the stove. .
Ma Youtie did not show disgust, nor did she beat and scold her like a livestock.
He took Cao Guiying to burn paper money for his parents and two deceased brothers, took out apples and twists for her to eat, and said softly: "Eat, the descendants won't eat it, the ancestors won't, eat it."
Cao Guiying may have felt for the first time that she was being treated like a person.
When she was buying wheat seeds, Cao Guiying peed her pants again. The villagers laughed at her that she "was scared to pee", so Ma Youtie took off his coat and put it on Cao Guiying.
finally someone realized her shame, forgave her helplessness, and blocked her cold words.
Later, Ma Youtie bought Cao Guiying a long coat, so that she would not be seen if she urinated her pants.
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Ma Youtie, and finally no longer just "a working donkey", he is regarded by Cao Guiying as a person who knows the cold, the warm and the heart.
Every time the person who "draws blood" comes, it is Cao Guiying who says over and over again that we will not donate.
Ma Youtie went to the city to get the newlywed furniture for his nephew. When he came back, it was dark. Cao Guiying was waiting at the entrance of the village with a hand power station.
The uncles and aunts who were resting at the entrance of the village chewed their tongues and said, "I can't wait to put it on my head and chain it to my trousers belt. I feel very distressed." Fresh.
The love and mutual affection of two "abnormal people" is ridiculous to those so-called normal people.
I think of the movie "Oasis", the male protagonist said to the female protagonist: "I came in because you attracted me, I want to know more about you, you are beautiful." Then someone commented: "The aesthetics of the male protagonist , so special."
has cerebral palsy because of the heroine. When
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was harvesting the wheat, because Cao Guiying failed to stack the wheat on the donkey cart, Ma Youtie got angry with her and even pushed her angrily.
But here you can see that Cao Guiying dares to have a temper, she is angry, she is angry with her husband like all young daughters-in-law, and ignores others. When
went home, she was limping along the road alone, twisting and not getting in the car. She had to beg and coax her before she forgave him again.
, for me, is the best cry. If a person dares to have a temper, it is she who has found a sense of existence in this person and knows that she is important. If she changes her brother and sister-in-law, no matter how bad she is to her, she can only bear it silently, how dare she be angry.
She finally knew in a down-to-earth manner that someone cared about herself.
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Their adobe house was built, and lying on his own kang at night, Cao Guiying said to Ma Youtie: "I never thought that I would still have my own home and sleep on my own kang in my life. "
I have been abused by others for half my life, I can't even think about it, I can still be loved and loved once in my life.
Ma Youtie promised: "When Baogu is broken down and sold in the fall, I will buy you a big TV before the New Year. When it's over, I will take you to the big hospital in the city, find a doctor, and take a good look at you. I didn't go to the city either, we went to the beautiful land of Langlang."
But Baogu hasn't sold yet, and Guiying is gone.
Ma Youtie finally planted a small flower with wheat grains in her hands, so that she could not throw it away whether she went to heaven or crossed Naihe Bridge .
Ma Youtie paid back the potatoes he owed others, paid back the eggs he borrowed from others, sold the buds, paid off the credit for farming, and didn't want the most beloved donkey.
People in the village said, you now have a house and food, and you can save it by yourself, which is good.
, but the house that was just built and didn't live in for a few days was pushed down by a cart. The life that the two of them worked hard to build was not worth a lot of money to others. The blood drawer came again, and Ma Youtie has followed. Gui Ying went.
The only hope in this life is gone, what else is there to do? He is in a hurry to see Gui Ying. In this world, there is no reason for him to continue to stay.
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's roommate said that when she watched this movie, she was afraid while watching it, for fear that something worse would happen.
But I think, don't be afraid, the most beautiful thing in this world has already happened to them.
met, is saved. No matter how long we have been together, if we can meet each other, we will not live in vain in this life, and it will be worth living more than many people.
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