Meng Fei: Women in the marriage and love market are more independent and better

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Meng Fei’s host style is decent but not rigid, humorous but restrained. This kind of careless and meaningful sense of scale can be imitated and difficult to surpass.

Recently, Meng Fei came to station B's first heterosexual dating program "90 Dating Agency" as the host of the "Help Love Group". During a "cloud recording" under an epidemic, Meng Fei accepted an interview online. From the discussion on the types of dating and friendship programs to the thinking about the collision of values ​​in marriage and love today, Meng Fei always gives his answers with both a rational attitude and a perceptual heart. In

's 11th year of doing this type of show, Meng Fei admitted that he would still be moved by certain scenes. He said that no matter what age people are, they will be moved by beautiful emotions. When he saw male and female guests holding hands, he would sigh from his heart: "It's nice to be young."

As for the current young generation, Meng Fei will take the initiative to understand their mentality, their culture, and their way of life, so as not to leave themselves behind, but at the same time empathetic. In his eyes, the best state of communication between generations is to understand each other and not deny each other. As a TV media person, Meng Fei is very serious when talking about the necessity of the mass media's blind date program. He even emphasized in front of the camera, "I especially want to answer this question." He believes that it is equally important to him to provide services to people who want to come and make friends, and to provide viewers with good-looking programs. It is relatively easy to pursue an indicator alone, but it is difficult to do both at the same time.

"90 Dating Agency": Knowing that "imperfection" is one of the mature standards

Entertainment: "90 Dating Agency" has a slogan-helping post-90s find 90 points of love, how do you understand this What about a slogan?

Meng Fei: I also like this slogan. I think there is nothing so new in life. Human maturity means many things. The first is to understand that life is imperfect and oneself is imperfect, and to live in harmony with imperfections. This is maturity. One of the standards, so I agree with this idea.

Netease Entertainment: Since the recording of "90 Dating Agency", what new status do you think girls have on the topic of marriage and love?

Meng Fei: For the samples I have come across, the women in the marriage and love market I see are generally more independent, better, and more individual. They grow up much faster than men of the same age.

Netease Entertainment: This time the program mode is a boy with more girls than boys. What do you think of this change in program mode?

Meng Fei: The young people of this generation, especially women, gradually understand that life is becoming more and more unwilling, and they will not lower their own requirements in order to complete the urging of marriage or to fulfill the wishes of others. In today's Chinese society in the marriage and love market, I prefer to read the stories of female protagonists, because, to be honest, the character images of girls on the Internet market are richer and more exciting.

Netease Entertainment: When was the last time you saw a guest successfully holding hands and was excited?

Meng Fei: My feeling is just one sentence, "It's nice to be young." As a staff member who has been doing this kind of show for 11 years, I will still be moved by certain scenes, which shows that no matter what age people are, they will be moved by beautiful emotions.

What is the best state between generations? Understand each other and do not deny each other

Netease Entertainment: Modern young people have a variety of ways to convey their emotions, such as liking cp or "paper people", not just putting emotions on the matter of love. What do you think about the "lonely but not alone" life of young people nowadays?

Meng Fei: I think the world is becoming more and more abundant. Today's young people can choose a lot more life content than our time. This is progress and it is good. There are a lot of content. It can even make up for some of our emotional space, and I also feel very happy to see this situation.

Netease Entertainment: Will you take the initiative to approach these emerging cultures?

Meng Fei: My work is inevitably exposed to it. My team is very young. They are a very important bridge for me to communicate with young people and maintain this state. I think it’s important to understand the society, understand some of their mentality, and not to make yourself seem outdated and empathetic at the same time.

Some young people, at least on the surface, are still willing to communicate with people like me. I think it is very important for two generations to communicate and not deny each other. I try to do this thing better. Young people will always be the future and direction of this era. It is necessary to know and understand them, so we have to do this work. I think it is normal for me to have a gap with them, but I understand that they are also normal.

So this is the best state between generations just mentioned? It’s good to understand each other and not deny each other.

Netease Entertainment: There are many ways for young people to get to know each other, such as through apps. What do you think is the necessity for this kind of mass media dating program?

Meng Fei: I especially want to answer this question, because this kind of program has two functions. First, provide services. Provided to people who want to come to blind date and make friends, to provide them with a service platform. Second, it provides good-looking programs to TV viewers and Internet audiences. The two are equally important to me. If only the service function is emphasized, and the aesthetic value or cognitive value of ratings is ignored, then we will start an offline service. Wouldn't it be okay for us to make an APP to make money? If we only demand good looks, and do not pursue service functions, it is very likely that a group of people will be acting, and the authenticity cannot be guaranteed. So it is relatively easy to pursue an indicator alone, but it is difficult to do both of these things at the same time.

I think my team has made a lot of efforts, and we will not deliberately pursue and create certain topics in the program to form certain conflicts. Our director team is adequate when selecting people. They have many indicators, such as their desire for emotions, their own stories, their own experiences, their attitudes towards certain things, and which ones are likely to be formed. Topic, not to find a bunch of people to give him the topic.

It’s really difficult to find people who like each other in the vast sea of ​​people.

Meng Fei: There were two families in the previous show, and their stories are very touching. This boy has been here many times, no girl has chosen her, so he has been here 5 times like squatting, and finally hold hands. But the moment he finally held hands, the whole audience was moved by it. Both of their parents who came to the scene reorganized the family, and his father's love for him, we have never seen that he is not his father's birth. He said at the scene that his father and his mother can actually have another child after they get married, but his stepfather told his mother that we don’t want it, so we will raise this child together. They just treat this son asAlready out.

And it happened that the girl he was holding was also a reorganized family. When her mother was pregnant, her father died unexpectedly. When her adoptive father married her mother, he had this child in his stomach. They did not take the initiative to mention this in the show, but when the topic of family reorganization suddenly came up, both parties were very excited. The last two of them were two of them. When they held hands, they were actually two families, and the four parents hugged each other and burst into tears.

When I talk about this topic now, I have this kind of physiological reaction on the skin all over my body, and the director on the scene can't cry. This incident remained in our memory for a long time. The two of them soon got married in Beijing and are now parents.

Netease Entertainment: The concept of "right to the door" has been valued again in the past two years. What do you think about this matter?

Meng Fei: I partly agree with the topic of "right to the right". Let's not narrowly interpret the term "door-to-door pairing" as a matter of "door-to-door". I think "door-to-door pairing" actually refers to the matching of many conditions. Of course, it does not mean that families with gaps must not come together, but that if the gap between their family backgrounds is too large, two people or two families have to work harder to get together. This Put forward greater demands on both sides. For example, differences in urban and rural areas, differences in education, occupations, regions, and so on. These all refer to the so-called "single-to-household right" and refer to this relative family condition. In fact, they should be taken into consideration.

Netease Entertainment: At present, the first-tier cities may account for the proportion of singles and it continues to lead. Do you think this kind of pressure to withdraw is directly related to economic and professional pressure?

Meng Fei: We need to reconsider and define what is single. If you are not married, you are single. This is a standard of definition; there is no boyfriend or girlfriend called single, which is another way to define it; there is another way to define it. There is no fixed long-term boyfriend and girlfriend. This is another defining standard. Which standard is implemented? I don't want to consider whether to get married or not as the only criterion for being single. I think that having a fixed emotional relationship is not called single.

Netease Entertainment: What are your expectations for your daughter's love and friendship?

Meng Fei: My biggest hope is that she likes to find what she likes, and like her. I think it's really difficult to find people who like each other in the vast crowds of people. Produced by

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