star is also a giant baby? The answer is noncommittal.
Yu Xiaotong , the young man Jia Baoyu in "A Dream of Red Mansions" first appeared in the public eye, with clear eyes and full of aura.
However, after his 13-year debut, behind him driving high and low, there are no more convincing works and the flow of constant enthusiasm for love. What
frequently appears on hot searches is not his acting skills, but his low EQ, bad temper, irritability...How did he break his reputation step by step?
01, caused Jin Chen to fall off the horse, Yang Yang left with sequelae
recently accidentally saw a variety show, in the show, Jin Chen pointed out that when filming the show a few years ago, he was caused to fall off the horse by Yu Xiaotong.
Four years ago, in "Back to the Sixteenth Century", Jin Chen, Yu Xiaotong, Li Zhiting and Lin Zhiling all participated in this travel variety show, and chose the Russian castle as a travel point.
Because of the rise, they choose horse racing. On the racecourse, except for Lin Chiling, who suffered a fracture from a horse falling in the filming, everyone else chose to mount.
However, in the process, Jin Chen's horse suddenly ran wildly, threw Jin Chen off the horse, and went to the hospital with a concussion.
At the beginning, the audience thought it was Jin Chen who was brave or did not hold on to the reins.
It was not until the recent "Perfect Summer" hit that Jin Chen pointed out that when Yu Xiaotong yelled while passing by Jin Chen, Jin Chen's horse ran out of control and followed Yu Xiaotong's horse.
caused Jin Chen to fall off his horse, and Yu Xiaotong himself was taken by the horse and ran for several kilometers.
Yu Xiaotong has been complained more than once for participating in variety shows. He and Yang Yang, who once played "Dabaoyu", have also participated in military shows together.
In this episode, because they lost, the people in the team had to accept poison gas punishment. The
program group asked the four of them to share three masks and spend 10 minutes in the cave where four smoke bombs were thrown.
At the beginning, one of the four of them felt that his lung capacity was good, so he didn't take it, but after a while, he couldn't breathe quickly, so Yang Yang gave him the mask. As a team activity,
tested the spirit of teamwork. However, within ten minutes of the gas release, none of the other two gave Yang Yang a mask.
One of them is the captain of the four of them, and the other is Yu Xiaotong. As a former colleague and friend of Yang Yang, he chose to "look with a cold eye."
And after 10 minutes, Yang Yang, who was dragged out of the cave, was already unstable, coughing, vomiting, and twitching fingers.
Even if the coach gave Yang Yang glucose water to induce vomiting, he still left his body with the root of the cough.
Until now, every season, Yang Yang still coughs.
is the same not only in interpersonal communication, but also in relationships. After many years, Yu Xiaotong in 1994 seems to have not grown up yet.
02, "big man" Yu Xiaotong, really did not grow up
Yu Xiaotong once took two girlfriends on the show, the sugar in the show attracted many cp fans, which attracted Zhou Zhennan "2G network" also Once on the hot search.
However, what is held in sweetness is his irritability and low emotional intelligence. With the exposure of the original family in the love variety show, many netizens have also seen the other side of Yu Xiaotong.
in " my kid ", with Yu XiaotongGirlfriend Chen Xiaoyun on the show. In the
show, he will help his girlfriend to tie his shoelaces; when his girlfriend unintentionally opens the "ex" song, he can get up quickly and stop quickly to grab the phone.
didn't snatch the cellphone, which made him angry, so he got out of the car and started yelling on the main road.
But when Chen Xiaojun showed him his cell phone, he started to lose his temper again, and blame Chen Xiaojun for not showing it to him earlier. The incident of
lasted for a long time. Yu Xiaotong even said:
"Can only his songs heal you? Or his people can heal you?" Discussion.
and the relationship between Xiaotong and Hailu in the previous paragraph of his sister and brother was also exposed to Xiaotong’s excessive control desire: Yu Xiaotong once used Hailu mobile phone to delete all the male contacts on WeChat, and asked him to do so. Video is also on when you sleep.
The overcast and irritable "General Ba" and "Giant Baby" have become the unanimous "evaluation" of many netizens.
From him, you can get a glimpse of the "truth" of his native family.
Yu Xiaotong’s mother once said on the show that her son would not want to get married if he was under 35, saying that she would hold the household registration book firmly in her hand.
At home, it is usually the mother Zhang Luo who has taken care of everything, and she bluntly prepares slippers for Yu Xiaotong every day, so that he can put on shoes as soon as he stretches his foot.
The eagle mother-like preference and doting, the spoiled Yu Xiaotong has also become open-minded. In love, she is also used to asking women and more accustomed to women's obedience.
03. What happens to the child if the parents desire excessive control?
Psychologist and philosopher Fromm once said:
"The opposite of education is manipulation. It is out of a lack of confidence in the growth of children’s potential and believes that only adults should guide children on what they should do and what they should not do. Children will get normal development, but such manipulation is wrong.”
Research shows that parents have excessive desire for control, and children grow up with poor independence, strong dependence, and low happiness index.
Excessive control of children, disrespect of children’s opinions, 360-degree monitoring of children with no dead ends, and fierce accusations when children make mistakes, etc., will bring indelible harm to children, easily making them stubborn and sensitive, and poor emotional management skills ......
even in the "brainwashing" over time, it is easy to become a " mommy man", which has an extremely important impact on their lives.
In a certain issue of " Strange Flower ", Huang Zhi once said: "What is a perfect life? That is to have the most choices as possible at the moment of life."
parents love it. Name controls the choice and development of a child. Wanting to give a child a "perfect life" deprives the child of the right to choose, but it is not necessarily what the child wants.
Education is respect and love. Parents should gradually let go as their children grow up, give them more and more free space, teach them how to choose, solve problems, and cultivate their abilities.
And the cultivation of these abilities is an important factor for children to embark on the road of life independently.
Only when parents let go at the right time, children can feel their unique and wonderful life and have the ability to face the wind, frost, rain and snow on the road of life.
Krupskaya once said:
"For parents, the prerequisite of family education is to maintain self-education." Only by practicing and growing up can you meet a better self and water the flowers of love.
hope that every parent can overcome the "desire to control", grasp the boundary between parent and child, guide the child to independence, self-management, and live his own life.
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