It is difficult for adults to make sincere friends: are we unable to make friends or are we unwilling to make sincere friends?

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Everyone will have friends in their school days, the number of which is more or less, the relationship is far or near. Many people think that when everyone enters the society and becomes an adult, there will be no real friends!


When was the last time you became friends with someone? Do you remember the scene? Is declining friends the truth about life that adults have to face?

01. Shen Mengchen and Li Sidani discussed how difficult it is for adults to make true friends in the latest issue of "How about Two Days Escape". They think that the world of adults is more complicated and not as monolithic as they thought when they were young. .


Xingxing feels that although adult friendship is complicated, but let go of those shackles, friendship is still friendship. It's the same as it is when you are young. It is not easy for adults to make true friends, but they will go a long way. The reason

feels that it is difficult to make friends when you grow up is because you have locked your heart, and instinctively feel that when you grow up, everyone will only become so-called friends because of the existence of interests. But is this really the case?


02, true friendship is a slow-growing plant.

The saying that it is difficult to make real friends after growing up is not very accurate.

The friendship between childhood and school days is of course very beautiful, but not all people were friends with you at that time, there are also many people you hate, who can never be friends with him.

Similarly, it is impossible for all people to become friends when they grow up to enter society. There will always be people who have the same interests and hobbies as you.


is just a relatively long process for two people to become confidantes, because friends in school days get along with each other day and night and go to school together, so they gradually become familiar with it without knowing it. It’s impossible for people you know to be together every day when you grow up, so the process of getting to know each other will take longer.


03. I met two very good friends when I grew up. At the beginning, I met through other people, which is a nodding acquaintance. Later, when three people had time to meet for a meal, they knew each other. We like comics very much. Afterwards, every time we eat and drink, we feel that we can't finish talking. The three views are also very compatible. Although we are not students or classmates, we are really comfortable when we are together. When I am not busy, I will make appointments to have a meal and drink wine to chat.


Everyone will do their best to help each other when something happens. Slowly the friendship became deeper and deeper.

So Xingxing feels that when he grows up, he can also make a close friend, and the first thing to do is to truly want to make this friend yourself. After all, others can feel that you give sincerely. If you make friends with a certain purpose from the beginning, then others will not give sincerely.

04. I don’t know when, there seems to be only acquaintances and no friends in my circle. Our daily routine is filled with work, and our leisure time is also used to being alone. Occasionally I wanted to find someone to chat, but found that there was no such person, so we fell into loneliness. Why does this happen to

? Because as adults, the more people participate in other relationship roles, the less time and emotion they invest in friendship. After

grows up, everyone's role has changed, and the lives of friends in school are different, resulting in fewer and fewer common topics, and falling into the dilemma of having no words to talk and unable to talk.

The most fundamental solution to change this problem is to create opportunities to keep in touch with friends.

Appropriate investment of time and money to create opportunities to gather together. So as to understand the recent situation of friends and communicate their feelings.


said that true friendship is a long timeI haven't seen you, just tell me, I will come too. However, in real life, friendship still requires a lot of communication and contact to keep the friendship in an optimal state. The last thing

wants to say is that if life in adulthood is a protracted war, then I hope that friendship will be with you and will always fight alongside you.

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