Song Jiayu Entai's new work is well received, "White Moonlight" focuses on marriage issues

Original title "White Moonlight": Perseverance and letting go in marriage

"White Moonlight" has received a lot of praise

Recently, "White Moonlight" has received a lot of praise since its airing. This urban emotional drama directed by Liu Ziwei, under a suspenseful plot setting, explores sharp issues such as "can a cheating husband be forgiven" and "how women balance career and family" from the perspective of "feminine" .

As women become more and more deeply involved in social and economic life, their roles in traditional married life have also changed accordingly. The identity and connotation of wife and mother are increasingly on the verge of evolution due to the continuous enrichment of the extension. In "White Moonlight", the outstanding architect Zhang Yi is a typical independent woman, and her family divides labor in a new way in which the female dominates the male and the inside. In order to support his wife's career, Zhang Xin, the husband, gave up his job, took care of all the housework, and took care of the daily diet and daily life of his daughter who was in kindergarten. And it is just such a "full-time cooking husband" who can be called a friend of women, but after denying his wife's cross-examination again and again, it was confirmed that he had an affair with Yang Yan, the administrator of the book bar in the community, and eventually divorced his wife. The perfect marriage in Shanghai turned into a tragic "car accident scene." The 12-episode TV series

does not analyze the root causes of emotional problems too much. Instead, it focuses on exploring the inner conflicts and struggles of the husband and wife when the once strong family relationship is on the verge of collapse. For his wife Zhang Yi, the conflict between her true self and her marriage has always been there, but when it is calm, it is difficult for herself to detect the undercurrent. At the beginning of suspicion of her husband’s derailment, she both believed her own judgment and refused to admit this suspicion. Later, she met Yang Yan, a third person who approached her with ulterior motives. This "new friend" showed great sympathy and understanding to her emotionally, and even helped her follow the suspected third party-Sun Wenwen, the teacher of Xiaoxiao Kindergarten in action. In this way, Zhang Yi seems to be getting closer and closer to finding the truth about her husband's derailment.

Sometimes we think that we are connected with others, but in fact we just find the same opinion for ourselves. The more you doubt something, the easier it is to be attracted by information that can prove that doubt; the more you believe, the easier it is to hear what can satisfy your inner expectations.

When the suspicion of her husband reached its peak, Zhang Yi fell ill. During the illness, the dispute between Zhang Xin and Sun Wenwen was clarified. It turns out that he was blackmailed. Zhang Yi put aside his previous doubts and reconfirmed that his marriage was intact. But, as smart as her, how could he not see the hypocrisy and divorce behind Yang Yan at all? The problem is that she still believes that there is no reason for her marriage to go wrong, and she firmly believes that her love choice back then is correct. Therefore, when the selected facts that proved that the husband did not cheat were in front of him, even though the long-time friend Jiaqi kept questioning, Zhang Yi did not hesitate to choose to trust her husband.

Do you want to forgive the other half of the cheating? This is a question without a standard answer. In the play, Zhang Yi's father sighs in front of his daughter that if he hadn't had his wife tolerantly re-accept the derailed self, he would not have the day when his wife and daughter were accompanied to commemorate the golden wedding. The father told this unbearable past in order to hope that his daughter could be more tolerant when facing her own marital problems, and could even think about the possibility of improving the relationship from her own perspective.

Actually, Zhang Yi once wavered his attitude, but after finally confirming that his husband had betrayed the marriage, he resolutely exposed the truth and chose to divorce. When her friend Jiaqi asked her: "What do you want them (the cheating people) to do?" Zhang Yi's answer was: "What you are asking is, what do I want?" The turning of this question is very critical. This means that women pay more attention to marriage, whether the state of marriage isWhat you want, and what you expect in your marriage. This emphasis on self-needs is more prominent when considering whether to end the marriage: I chose to end the marriage relationship, not the marriage relationship that pushed me to a desperate situation.

For husband Zhang Xin, divorce has never been his option, at least not the first choice. What is interesting is that his two proactive statements are related to the economy. For the first time, because he was extorted by money, he took the initiative to clarify the misunderstood extramarital affairs, thus gaining the trust of his wife again. The second time, he agreed to the divorce because he was afraid that his lover would use his wife's company to make false accounts and cause his wife to go to court, so he had to agree to the lover's threat.

Zhang Xin is a good father and a good husband. For him, the extramarital affairs he fell into when he was most vulnerable were just secular. The perfect woman in his mind is Zhang Yi, and his wife is his "white moonlight". Here, "mosquito blood" and "white moonlight" seem to be misplaced. In the marriage, the wife who should have finally turned into a "rice particle" has become a white moonlight at the end of the distance; outside the marriage, the lover who was originally a "red rose" like a fascinating lover is in a hypocritical humanity that is more bloody than emotional betrayal Next, was photographed as a pool of "mosquito blood." After the divorce, Zhang Xin said frankly that he still loves Zhang Yi, "Love enough to divorce her". He turned his “white rose” into an eternal “white moonlight”.

"Cowardly people cannot get love, love takes a lot of effort." This is a monologue by the heroine Zhang Yi at the end of the play. In marriage, the bravery of some people is perseverance. They firmly believe that marriage is not the tomb of love, and they choose not to leave behind when they encounter emotional difficulties. However, some people's bravery is to let go. They see the embarrassment and helplessness between each other more calmly, and take the initiative to press the rest of a relationship. Letting go does not mean giving up, it can even be harder than holding on. Because some people stick to the white moonlight in their hearts. (The author is a PhD in Foreign Philosophy of Fudan University, deputy editor of Guangxi Normal University Press)