A divorced man’s advice: Don’t spoil your wife as a child unless you are willing to be both father and mother

Yang Lan once said: "The bond of marriage is not children, not money, but about the common growth of the spirit. In the most helpless and weak times, he (she) will hold your chin and straighten your spine. Make you strong, accompany you around, and bear your destiny together."

The benign relationship in marriage should be spiritual growth and mutual respect in love.

However, in the current society, showing off the sweetness of love is always described by petting one of them as children, but ignoring that some men pet women as children, but live as child slaves themselves.

In marriage, the values ​​of the two people begin to be unbalanced, and love becomes blindly giving and unrestrained demanding. Men spoil women as children and are ready to be fathers and mothers again?

Don’t know how to cherish half-heartedness

Freud once proposed compromised object venting, referring to the easy acquisition of feelings. Without internal driving force, this kind of cherishment of feelings will not last long, that is, the easier it will be, on the contrary Learn not to cherish.

Yu Dan said: "True love is when you can love, know how to cherish."

When feelings are not cherished, love is cheap, that is, when you don't love. When a person's contribution to you is taken for granted, the throbbing of love in her eyes also disappears with the continuous love.

For Jia Nailiang's pursuit, Li Xiaolu once revealed that she refused many times, so why the two finally went to the palace of marriage? One of them is Jia Nailiang's never-ending love for her.

In 2013, two people climbed Xiangshan together. In order to reach the top before the ropeway was closed, Jia Nailiang directly climbed the mountain with Li Xiaolu on his back.

At that time, Li Xiaolu hadn't recovered shortly after giving birth. Coupled with the difficulty of the mountain, it can be seen that Jia Nailiang really spoiled Li Xiaolu as a child.

Jia Nailiang said that he would give each other five chances. In an interview, Jia Nailiang said: "Don't worry, my cell will be changed again, my heart will never change."

However, in 2018, Li Xiaolu's night stay made Jia Nailiang become After dinner, Jia Nailiang spoils Li Xiaolu as a child, and Li Xiaolu treats Jia Nailiang as a fool.

A marriage without love is maintained only by being moved, and a woman who does not know how to cherish will kick you away sooner or later.

The mentality is naive and unreasonable

It is a man's undivided effort to pet a woman into a child, but in love a woman treats herself as a child after seeing the contribution of a man. That is a disaster.

This kind of wrong cognition will make women keep the pampering and arrogant and unreasonable making trouble on the naughty boy.

In "Confess Now", the male guest Xiaofan and the female guest Yang Yang Leng turned the confession scene into a Tucao meeting.

Behind Yang Yang's love and acting like a baby is a work that he does not want to change. Xiaofan thinks that Yang Yang's gentleness can make him happy, but he did not expect that the life of two people together is so tiring.

confessed to the scene, because Xiaofan’s performance did not satisfy Yang Yang, Yang Yang directly poured red wine on her boyfriend’s face, and saw that the pictures on the photo wall were not satisfied, so she tore them all down, and so on in life, let Xiaofan pull down. There were too many things about the son, and finally the two people got into a mess at the scene.

Xiaofan said: "If I stay with you all the time, you won't grow up. You can't live in your own world and be your own little princess."

has been spoiled by his parents since he was a child. She also wants her boyfriend to spoil her, so she brings the unreasonable troubles of her childhood to love.

Zhuge Liang said: "You can only be proud if you are not arrogant, and you can't be prestigious with pets." She will make troubles unreasonably and lose her temper.

The man has already begun to prepare for the future, and she only knows to enjoy the present, because only children can be carefree and not worry about life.

can only enjoy and will not pay

Zhou Guoping believes that the characteristic of love is: "The most important passion in love is the passion for giving, or the passion for dedication." Why does

say being spoiled as a child?The child is terrible, because the child is always thinking about what kind of fruit he can get next, and will not think about what labor I should dedicate next.

A woman who is spoiled as a child can only enjoy the fruits of victory in the relationship, but does not know how to work in love.

Ma Rong has been spoiled by Wang Baoqiang from being in love to marriage, but what we see is Wang Baoqiang who has been paying and Ma Rong who can only enjoy.

During the peak years of Wang Baoqiang's career, Ma Rong enjoyed the leap in quality of life, but she couldn't see her contribution in her relationship.

Participating in "Where is Dad" Ma Rong's attention is all on the child, but she is indifferent to Wang Baoqiang's feelings. In the

show, Wang Baoqiang even accidentally revealed that he did not know how many Ma Rong's palm prints were on his face.

Enjoy the fruits of love, but don't know how to work. The woman who is spoiled as a child is like a "giant baby" in love, living a life of food and mouth.

The benign relationship in love

The relationship in love should not be divided into respect and inferiority, and there should be no hierarchy. No one is noble in love, and no one should be spoiled as a child. The healthy development of

love relationship often requires the following points.

1. Grow together, pay for each other

"La Traviata" writes: "True love always makes people motivated."

Love is the mutual giving of two people, and the family is two people together to make plans for the future.

True love should grow together, make progress together, and promote people's progress. Rather than one person walking towards the future, the other person stays in the good and does not want to make progress. The cousin

did not lose herself in the love of love after she got married, because she realized that slowing down her pace and becoming a child in love would only become less and less able to keep up with her husband. So the cousin

began to learn flower arranging skills, preparing to develop her own specialty. The cousin went to learn about current affairs and increased the topics in common with her husband.

Two people sharpen their mature minds together and face the wind and rain together, and the relationship can last.

2. Being a lover forever

Huang Lei opposes couples becoming relatives. He believes that the basis of marriage should be love. He feels that he and Sun Li are always lovers.

This actually allows us to keep the temperature in love, always remember the feeling of love, and don't forget that marriage requires passion in the trivial life.

There is no only one in the relationship, men treat women as children, and women treat men as uncles. It should always be based on love and the relationship between couples. Only when identities are equal, and efforts must be balanced, can the relationship last.

Gao Xiaosong mentioned in "Wonderful Flowers": "What is a good relationship is to make us all better ourselves. It is the love of two free souls that is the best love."

The benign relationship of love is not a man. Spoiling a woman as a child means that two people can see the purity of love together like a child. It is like an adult, making progress together and achieving oneself.

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