once said: “ is angry is punishing oneself with others’ mistakes.”
remembers a news report:
two years ago, a female driver quarreled with her husband and vented her anger by driving on the main road. The board ran into eight cars indiscriminately, causing two injuries. In the end, the female driver was sentenced to 6 years in prison.
not only caused a tragedy because of a small quarrel, but also sent himself to jail, which is really embarrassing.
is like what the Buddhist master Shengyan Master said: people are too angry now, and the whole society is filled with violence . Many people are getting older and often lose control of their emotions when they encounter unsatisfactory things, from cursing at the slightest to fisting, and venting their emotions indiscriminately at the top, which is extremely terrifying.
In short, many people are very small now, and they can’t stand things that don’t go well with them, and then start to lose their temper and torture themselves.
Regarding this, Master Shengyan told us that people who often lose their temper always have an "no open flame", which is what the Buddhists often call "angry." He warned us that if people don't get rid of anger in their entire lives, they will definitely be in trouble! Understanding the following four methods can effectively help us calm our hearts and practice morality.
01 is aware of the dangers of anger from the root, and it is the bottom of the pot.
is the so-called " aversion from a thought, a million barriers open ", as long as the heart is moved in an instant, thousands of obstacles will follow. Come. Buddhism often says that "burning the merits of the forest" is also a truth. As long as we lose our temper, the merits and benefits accumulated in this life will gradually be burnt to ashes.
In life, especially in feelings and work, a person who is agitated, full of negative energy, swears at every turn, makes people avoid it and is afraid of contact.
is not only that, the ancient medical books also wrote that "all diseases are born from qi", which hurts the liver and lungs, and also endangers the health of the heart and brain. Female friends who love anger should be especially careful, and be alert to diseases such as breast cancer.
To sum up, it is extremely terrifying to have an aversion, which not only harms oneself, but also harms others and destroys interpersonal relationships.
Therefore, Master Shengyan tells us that if we want to get rid of anger, we must fundamentally realize the harm of anger, know the serious consequences of anger, and achieve the level of drawing wages in order to effectively quit. .
Friends, get angry at this kind of thing, hurt others and hurt yourself, for yourself and the friends around, please calm down your anger and get rid of anger! In our daily lives, we can learn more about the harm caused by anger, bear in mind the indoctrination of Buddhist masters, and take precautions to prevent anger from the root!
02 When you want to lose control of your emotions, try to focus your attention on your nose.
Someone once asked Mr. Wang Yangming , what does it mean in "University" that "people keep anger and deviate from the right path"?
Wang Yangming told him:
is something like anger, which is a little bit more or less a person, but he cannot guard it or cling to it.
In fact, for us ordinary people, getting angry is a common thing. It should be understood that, in the face of unsatisfactory, small anger is fine, but you can't get angry. Don't get angry because of a little thing, and keep your anger firmly.
Because ordinary people are angry, it is easy to get too angry, which leads to emotional loss of control. If an aversion comes together, we can do any evil and gradually deviate from the right way. If you fight to the end with your own anger, you will only harm others and yourself in the end. Master Shengyan’s advice on this is: “Don’t be too impulsive in the event of a problem, first keep yourself calm. Take a deep breath and turn your attention to your nose. You have to understand that anger does not have any practical effect on solving the problem, it will only hurt Own, then you are far away from anger. Then, if you act wisely, you will probably be able to successfully resolve disputes."
Indeed, there are inevitably frictions between people, and it is inevitable that life is unsatisfactory. Knowing how to restrain is the real king.
look at those loveHigh-level businessmen and successful people with great magnanimity, their grace and calmness come from restraint, and their tolerance comes from generous restraint. When you also know that anger is just punishing yourself with other people's mistakes, you will understand that it is useless and decent.
Therefore, if we want to get rid of anger, we must actively control our emotions instead of being trapped by emotions and becoming accomplices of anger. Just like Master Shengyan said, when you realize that you are about to get angry, immediately divert your attention, take a deep breath, and stay calm!
03 Learn to empathize and leave a way for both sides.
Recently, overseas epidemics have spread, and the situation is not optimistic. Many overseas Chinese choose to return to China to avoid the limelight.
An Australian Chinese lady returning to China refused to listen to the heartfelt advice of the community epidemic prevention staff. She did not isolate or wear a mask. She insisted on running and exercising. She even insulted the epidemic prevention staff and shouted "Help, sexual harassment"! I completely ignored the hard work of anti-epidemic personnel across the country for more than two months.
In the final analysis, this kind of people just don't understand empathy, don't take other people's lives and hard work seriously, and take care of their own lives. Even if you kindly advise, this kind of person has to compete with you, be anxious with you, and even slander you without hesitation.
For this kind of person, Master Sheng Yan thinks: "Those who are agitated are also self-centered, and always care about their own opinions, gains and losses, and face. In fact, many things are not a big deal. For the sake of a little face problem, they have to deal with others. It’s really not worth it, and it’s a pity that it’s not worth it to fight for length, and it’s even a pity.”
In life, when many friends get angry, they lose their temper and never care about each other’s emotions. The contradiction is greater and the gap is deeper.
raises all kinds of people. When you are angry, how a person behaves can often see the truest character of the person. People who change faces when they get angry are narrow-minded, self-centered, and totally disregarding others, and eventually become a mess of porridge, which everyone hates.
Therefore, if you want to get rid of anger, you must first learn to empathize and work harder on your mind. In life, we can be more considerate of others, know how to be compassionate, learn to be tolerant, abandon selfishness and stubbornness, and leave a way out for both parties!
04 Forbearance, can avoid the occurrence of undesirable consequences
We often hear this sentence: " endure the wind and waves for a while, take a step back and the sea and the sky ."
Master Sheng Yan tells us that when someone else angers ourselves, or is trapped in ourselves In times of adversity, bearing the weight of humiliation is a kind of wisdom, which can avoid the occurrence of undesirable consequences so as not to cause greater damage. Many friends of
may think that to bear humiliation is to swallow your grievances. In fact, it is not. To endure the humiliation is to restrain yourself from impulsiveness, not to become agitated for a while, not to choose words, panic, and to lose everything in the end.
in the "Forty-two Chapters of Buddha's Speaking", Chapter 15 tells us, " has the greatest power to endure humiliation, it can destroy all dirt, and it is far clearer than ."
Therefore, if we want to get rid of anger, we can be more patient in life, stay sensible and don't be impulsive, wait until the temper has passed, and then use a clear head to think about the problem, everything will be doubled with half the effort. It can be seen that if we encounter dissatisfaction, we don't care about it, and our minds are not obstructed, not only will the karma be eliminated, but we can also get rid of anger, so that the present is calm and free, and the blessing is added.
No wonder people of the older generation always say: " endure a moment, avoid a hundred days of worries ." This is what the older generations have endured and tried hard to say!
Annoyance stems from unmercifulness, intolerance, selfishness, and selfishness. If you want to get rid of anger, you must first get rid of these thoughts, and use the medicine of compassion, tolerance, selflessness, and peace.
friends, if you hate too much, you will live a hard life. In life, losing your temper is instinct, but restraint is the ability. Abandoning anger will prevent us from walking too tired in life and losing everything. A person with a great mind and tolerance must be a person with deep blessings. I hope you and I can give up anger, embrace smiles, and return to the truth!
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