Nozomi Sasaki: I am a marriage, a childbirth, and now I have to be a nanny

has been listed in the "World's 100 Most Beautiful Faces" for five consecutive years;

is known as "Americans' favorite Japanese first innocent beautiful girl";

is also the goddess occupying an important position in the hearts of many otaku.

In 2009, Luo Zhixiang, who has not yet been known as the "master of time management", once reported being tricked into online dating.

And the avatar used by the crook at the time was her picture.

The Japanese actress named Nozomi Sasaki has an extraordinary mass foundation because of her looks.

Three years ago, Japanese comedian Ken Watanabe said when proposing to Nozomi Sasaki:

"Although I am older than you, I will work hard to live a long life. Please marry me."

and Nozomi Sasaki, Also in the marriage declaration of marrying Watanabe Kento, he responded like this:

"I am with him, and I will laugh in my heart."

If the wife is beautiful enough, will the husband cheat?

maintained an improper relationship with many people before marriage, the number of derailed people after marriage was as high as 100, and the places of derailment even included public toilets...

In the recent series of peachy storms of Nozomi Sasaki’s husband and Ken Watanabe, this problem seems to have arisen answer.

01.

As a veteran Japanese comedian, Watanabe’s activity in the Japanese entertainment industry is not low.

He holds four TV stations and more than a dozen programs, which is very popular in the industry.

On June 9, the live broadcast "It's Noon!" "After that, he suddenly informed the various TV stations:

himself wants to suspend work for reflection.

As for the reason for introspection, it is:

"There will be a negative news that will cause the audience to displease, and I don't want to give trouble to the show." As early as 3 days ago,

, known as the "Japanese scandal excavator", "Weekly Wenchun" "Find him. Because of the consensus in the industry that

would inform the artists in advance of the scandal, Ken Watabe realized that something about

had been exposed. The report of

's derailment, almost accompanied by the news that he announced the suspension of work, quickly appeared in major newspapers.

Every page about him, the title is indispensable "non-discipline", "derailed many women", "secret AV actress".

Later, in the more detailed revelations in "Weekly Bunchun" (hereinafter referred to as Wenchun), people were shocked to discover:

Watanabe Ken had been in a chaotic sexual relationship with many women as early as when he was in love with Sasaki Nozomi.

Even after the two married and had children, such behaviors continued unabated.

"He just treated me as a sexual vent", a derailed subject confessed in an interview with Wen Chun.

This ordinary female white-collar worker met Ken Watanabe before the husband got married. Since September 2014,

has "had sex twice a week at most, and the total exceeded 30 times".

At the beginning, the two had just met at the personal office built by Watanabe.

"It's a very scenic space. As soon as he enters the bedroom on the right hand side of the hallway, he will quickly crave for the body. But as soon as he finishes it, he will let me go and pass my clothes over and say, "Take this '. I didn't even take a shower."

Later, the location of the secret meeting between the two was changed to Roppongi Mori Building. To be more precise,

is the multifunctional toilet in the building.

The so-called multi-function toilets were originally special toilets for the disabled in Japan.

The secret meeting of the two is usually made by Watanabe Kenxian wandering from the second basement to the fourth basement of the building.

After confirming that there is no one in a toilet, he will send a message to tell the woman that "it is underground x floor, hurry up." Each exercise of

ends in about 3 to 5 minutes.

Then Watanabe will leave 10,000 yen (about 660 RMB) to the other party.

Wen Chun, who is gossiping to the end, also interviewed the person in charge of the building.

said he was very confused, "The multifunctional toilet was originally used for the disabled., Security personnel will also patrol regularly, it is not clear how this happened. "

▲ The picture is reposted from Twitter

. In addition to this office worker who meets the toilet, Ken Watanabe also has intersections with other women.

Through a certain industrialist he knows, Ken Watanabe goes to the club every Friday to have fun.

is in a group of people. At a sports party, he met a woman working in a restaurant.

and Ken Watanabe at the time had already dated Nozomi Sasaki.

"in order not to let his girlfriend find out," this woman was once asked to take photos with other men In this way,

created "disguise evidence", Watanabe Jian several times invited new objects to the hotel.

and Sasaki Nozomi's plumpness is different, at that time he liked thin women.

and therefore the relationship between the two, It seemed very profound at that time.

was last year, and it was also not long after Nozomi Sasaki finished production-

Watanabe Ken appeared in another like-minded woman's house.

one evening without incident, he took white wine and The wine and food went. The two of

drank some wine, and then they had a relationship. During

, Ken Watanabe also said, "It's horrible to come to your house. Would you like to rent a meeting room near Shibuya? "

The three women mentioned above are all ordinary women outside the showbiz.

In addition, Watanabe has been exposed to a secret meeting with a number of AV actresses.

In the speculation of various opinions in Japan, Katari Rina was the first The one who was named.

, but she immediately responded:

"I was scared early in the morning, and someone asked me to apologize to Nozomi Sasaki, but the mistress of Watanabe was not me. "

At the beginning of the whole incident, Wenchun had stayed at Watanabe Ken and wanted to verify with him. However,

faced the reporter's life-threatening questioning triptych:

"I heard you had a relationship with a woman in the disabled bathroom in Roppongi?" "

" Have you ever had a relationship with someone in the bathroom? After "

" was over, did you give the woman 10,000 yen? "

Ken Watanabe didn't even think about it at first, but he denied it. After

was asked by reporters, he fell silent.

Although the reporter's interview was fruitless, Ken Watanabe chose to show his wife after returning home. At the beginning of

, he only told Nozomi Sasaki:

encountered a scam while working, and the other party's seduction was first, which caused him to fall into a peachy trap.

Nozomi Sasaki also thought that the other party was going to hurt their happy home.

was the first to know. The first reaction was anger.

asked Watanabe Ken to call and confront her with her on the spot.

called the office worker in the multi-function toilet, and she said:

had continued with him after he got married. Keep the relationship. The last time we met with

was when Nozomi Sasaki gave birth to a child, so she stopped contacting.

However, a series of facts were revealed later, and it gradually became clear-

from the date of the relationship to the birth of the child, Watanabe Jian’s four sent Qiubo It has not been broken.

found that what her husband said did not match the facts, and Nozomi Sasaki was injured again by the lie. Although

understood the original situation, there is still one biggest mystery that has not been able to figure it out.

is just as the earliest revelation. "Wen Chun, the initiator", typed out the following question at the end of the report:

"Obviously we have a beautiful wife, we still don't understand why he cheated. "

, the female artist Okubo of the company Watanabe Kendo, also couldn't understand.

"In my impression, Watanabe is a person who can count the gains and losses, with a clear mind. The incredible thing about

is that he still has to do it, obviously it might develop into this situation. Is

a man's defect? The biggest doubt of

is why he did this? "

02.

"Nozomi Sasaki looks good, has a good figure, and looks like a perfect wife, but she is super lazy in packing up. Ken Watanabe feels very troubled."

"Before getting married, Nozomi Sasaki's house was so messy that there was no place for her feet.

and Ken Watanabe had a very delicate character, so it was totally different in this respect.

did not often have variety shows filming.' Women's dirty room?

clothes are just there, and the kitchen is full of things to be washed. When

Nozomi Sasaki was single, the room was so dirty. When

lived with Watanabe, the room was also temporary It became clean, but it didn't take long before it became dirty again."

is dirty, lazy, and messy. From this series of keywords,

seems to let us find the only findable reason for the derailment of Watanabe:

, as his wife, Nozomi Sasaki, does not like to do housework.

In a broken relationship, the frequency of the keyword housework is quite high.

recalled the time-the founder of

Dangdang.com and the couple broke into a divorce. Li Guoqing accused Yu Yu of "married for so many years, I haven't even washed my socks".

and Chen Sicheng’s derailment caused a dispute. A passage from Tong Liya’s father when he married his daughter was later turned out:

“After arriving at Chen’s house, do more work, cook for Lao Chen, and serve him.”

Marriage public opinion in China During the war, every time there is such a remark-

who do not do or do less housework, or to be precise, men, will definitely become the target of public opinion.

"Why do housework is a woman's business?"

"She doesn't do it, why can't you do it?"

condemned in waves, and the party who was originally at fault would only carry a heavier pot.

There are thousands of reasons for derailment. Why does Watanabe Jian mention this at this time? The reason for

is simple.

is because of the public opinion battlefield this time in Japan.

And his wife does not like to clean up, it is indeed possible to associate it with the "imperfect victim".

throws out this reason, which means that Watanabe will receive at least a group of men and traditional women's support.

is because for Japanese men, they have this idea in their minds:

household chores and parenting should be attributed to the women.

▲The ratio of male and female housework hours in Japanese households, the picture is from the network

In related street interviews, you will hardly see men saying words like "share".

is more willing to take on or can help, they are more inclined to say frankly:

"It is normal for a husband to ignore housework."

From the perspective of a Japanese husband, their living habits have long been stable In a state:

"Men treat their wives as refrigerators and they can open them at any time to get food."

allows them to come home from get off work after a busy day at work, and their wives will wait by when they enter the door.

then handed beer and side dishes personally.

In the eyes of traditional Japanese women, they also have a kind of "proactive identity of mission" when dealing with housework.

They know too well how to be a good woman in the eyes of a husband.

Correspondingly, they also know too well how to accuse Nozomi Sasaki of not fulfilling the responsibility of a housewife.

Japanese drama "Escape from shameful but useful" mentioned:

, an ordinary Japanese full-time housewife, spends 2,199 hours on housework each year. Calculating

, the average day is 6 hours, which is a quarter of the day.

and this is just the workload of a newly married housewife who has no children. When

mentions Japanese full-time wives, most of our impressions are:

they clean up the room very delicately, and they cook the three meals very wellSincerely, the family has been neatly organized.

and this also reflects from the side: Japanese housewives are a very hard group. In the depths of their hearts,

accomplishes these things delicately, which is close to their own KPIs.

Looking back at Nozomi Sasaki, we, as Chinese, always focus on her as a female star.

and our sighs always revolve around:

"She is Nozomi Sasaki, what else does housework do?"

"Two people have such a high income, why can't we hire housekeeping?"

But what we didn't see was this After the marriage, the female celebrities exposed a series of exquisite dishes.

and the photo commented in praise, "Nozomi Sasaki is so virtuous" and "Watanabe is really lucky."

can only say that Japan is a country that emphasizes this aspect:

, your housework is done well, it is natural and righteous;

is not doing well, let alone female celebrities, the neighborhood will inevitably gossip.

03.

A housewife is a "nanny" permanently employed by the husband and cannot be dismissed.

Because of the existence of the marriage relationship, the wife became a free labor force.

The serious attitude of male superiority to female inferiority is probably the primary reason for this "absurd" phenomenon.

There has been a saying in Japan since ancient times that "men do not enter the kitchen".

has not changed much even in modern times.

There are many women in their 20s and 30s whose parents have experienced Japan’s economic boom.

At that time, because of the large working population and high income from work, it was almost possible to support the whole family by relying on men to make money.

At that time, men focused on work and entertainment, while women focused on housework and parenting. The social structure of

has been given this positioning invisibly.

And over time, men are used to completely neglecting family responsibilities.

Correspondingly, women will voluntarily give up work.

However, in recent years, with Japan’s economic recession and labor shortages-

, a household division of labor system, has become problematic. The current Abe government of

, on the one hand, vigorously promotes the concept of "work together with men and women, and family happiness"; on the other hand,

is actively enacting legislation to promote maternity leave for men.

even, they have already planned to start from the next generation of "housekeepers" and passed the "Middle and High School Home Economics Compulsory Course" motion.

All the above measures are nothing more than to promote the return of female labor to the job market.

However, the response of Japanese women to this is not satisfactory.

Although many of them have received higher education or skills training;

, despite their initial wishes, are not full-time housewives;

, but the deep-rooted patriarchal culture and social system, make them still unavoidable. The two obstacles in front of me. The first priority of

is that the workplace hopes that you can work 120%; the second priority is that the child hopes that you can grow up with him/her.

first look at the workplace.

In November 2015, a Japanese survey on the labor status of high-educated women in Tokyo showed that

is similar to female graduates from China's "985" prestigious universities, with a formal employment rate of only 48.3% and unemployed 21.6%.

The formal employment of graduates of masters and doctors is lower, only 32.7%, and 41.2% are unemployed. The higher the degree of

, the more difficult it is to get a job.

is exactly this "hidden rule", so that countless women of Kochi have fallen to the ground before they step on the threshold of entry. Of course, there are many women in

. They finally cross the threshold and gain a foothold in the workplace.

However, the corporate culture that emphasizes "consecrated work" has caused too many women to return to work after maternity leave, only to find themselves being treated coldly. The most intuitive manifestation of

is salary.

▲ Comparison of the income gap between men and women of the same age in Japan

in the workplace has forced many women to follow the example of "Tokyo Women's Guide":

female white-collar workers rushed out of the company when they got off work and ran for friendship.

is only looking for a financially capable man to marry and then return to the family.

We often see Japanese female stars who fade out of the showbiz after getting married and having children.

When he chatted with the derailed partner afterwards, he specifically mentioned to him:

"Ms. Nozomi Sasaki has no job after having a child, so I am working hard."

Some time ago, he worked in the same office as Nozomi Sasaki. Apricot Watanabe also suffered derailment from her husband.

has three children in three years, and the market is booming for a long time because of her children, she put down her career and returned to the family.

It can be said that it is very common for the older generation to help their children with children in China.

But in Japan, the older generation is reluctant to take children.

, therefore, parenting has become another thorn in piercing the illusion of "gender work together, family happiness". There is such a scene in the

Japanese drama "Home on the Ramp"-the husband of

before giving birth to his wife promised to the working wife that he would bear it together in the future.

But when the child is actually born, the burden of parenting is left to his wife.

Many men use "I can help you with housework, and I can help you with children" to defend their position.

But they don't know that just from the word "help you" you can tell:

they think housework and parenting are women's affairs.

In the eyes of Japanese men, family, parenting, and workplace actually have the "best ranking" from the very beginning.

In Japanese society, I don’t know how many people still cling to this view:

If women work overtime regardless of their children, they will complain: This mother is really willing to ignore her children.

If men work overtime regardless of their children, they will sigh again: There is no way to make money for this family. The

era has developed, and women also need to work, earn money, and support their families.

However, the concept of "childcare and housework is done by women" remains the same.

When Ken Watanabe was looking for an AV actress to cheat, he might still complain:

"I'm so hard, my wife doesn't do housework, I'm too sad."

And the actress wants to please him, probably will respond like this:

"I am here Doing housework at home, your wife is really hurting like this, I understand you."

He should be really happy after hearing this.

"Red Bean Nesga? You are really gentle and virtuous. Then, take off your clothes."

Reference:

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