How do elite mothers in the Upper East Side of New York survive?
text | Bailing fruit
The world is like a theater. When the current audience stands up, the back audience has to do the same. So it is difficult to find a mother who is not anxious in this world.
My dear, you have been engulfed by anxiety since you planned to be a mother.
pregnancy is actually the beginning of anxiety. You must not only ensure your health, but also ask your husband not to smoke or drink, and to keep exercising. Even for your child's constellation or zodiac sign, you will choose the time to applaud your love. All of is to complete a high-quality life continuation.
When you become a mother, you are destined to be with anxiety. believe me, this kind of mother's anxiety crosses race, nationality and class. Whether you are in a slum or the Upper East Side, it is fairly rationed to every mother.
Every city has an "Upper East Side", which is an exclusive community for elites to live, socialize and shop. In our daily lives, we are all aware of the existence of social classes, and we have more or less lost their rationality in order to climb to a higher class.
However, even in the Upper East Side, those elite mothers who are rich and handsome, exquisite, slender, and stylishly dressed are the same anxiety.
So, what are these elite mothers like in the face of buying a house, education, honor, and image? Today, at , we recommend a good book "I am a mother, I need platinum package " to see how hard an elite mother can do?
Author: Wei Ni Christi Martin (Wednesday Martin), Publisher: CITIC Publishing House
Why are we mad pursuit of a status symbol platinum package it? In fact, it is just a package, and its function is no different from other ordinary packages.
But the platinum bag is the legend of the Hermes brand. It is handmade and produced in limited quantities. If you are an unknown person, you can't buy it if you have money. Even if someone buys it, you will have to wait a long time. Therefore, the platinum bag not only represents wealth, but also represents status and power, and is the ultimate noble symbol of a woman.
Yale Doctor of Anthropology Winnister Martin was once on East 79th Street, Manhattan , , when a lady carried her Hermes platinum bag in her hand, and rushed to the side of the road. This aroused her curiosity. What gave this lady such confidence?
When she noticed the bag in her hand, she suddenly realized that began to use the perspective of anthropology to study the unique world of the mothers in the Upper East Side.
When Winnister Martin, PhD in Anthropology at Yale moved with her husband to the Upper East Side with her children, she didn't know anything about the rules of survival there.
started from looking for apartments, buying school district houses, and applying for private schools for her children. She fought an arduous "war", which was no less intense than running for the president of the United States. The "war" of
lasted for six years. In order to allow her children to quickly realize the class transition, she eliminated all difficulties and bought the Hermes platinum bag.
"I'm a Mom, I Need a Platinum Bag" is also full of truths that widen our horizons:
Most dinners in the upper class are separated by men and women; Upper East Side women are heavily dependent on alcohol and special drugs; you You will learn what to wear when you are ready to look at the house (and what your real estate agent should wear); and the economics of marriage, including the year-end awards that full-time housewives should receive...
The value of this book does not Not only that, peeling off the glamorous surface of wealth, Vinisti also showed us a surprising truth: mothers all over the world have the same anxiety, from Manhattan to Miami to Mali, mothers are all Being firmly controlled by the same fear, anxiety and desire.
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Chapter 1 New York has the rules of New York
private school diploma and butler, not just a status symbol of vanity, not just something you proudly show off in front of everyone, but if you are from the Upper East Side, you must There must be. Manhattan relies on this method to establish a class system so that everyone can stay where they should be. After all, the residents of each building are a group of unrelated strangers. They are close at hand, and their relationship with each other is very weak, but they are forced to be members of the same country. They have to rely on the exchange of information to make everyone feel that they have a handle. In the hands of others, they have to abide by the rules.
Chapter 2 Lower Class People Who Are Not Worthy to Play with
After people get rich, two kinds of supply are tight, one is the real estate market, the other is the Manhattan private school. Everything has a set of formal procedures and its own rules. ...When should I start doing things that I should do? When you think it’s time to start, it’s good to prepare a lot in advance. ...Everything is interlinked, and it feels like insider trading. You must be a member of the Mummy in the Upper East Side to know what to do, to exchange information, and to grasp the timing of something. . Interlocking is a very anxious way of life and parenting, which makes people live very tense, because you can never relax, can never rest, no matter what is the same. In order to successfully bring up the next generation, in addition to being willing to sacrifice and nurture children, sometimes it is necessary to "save maternal love." The clever mother bird counts carefully and "the author is a mother's calculation" based on living conditions every day.
Your child’s friends and playmates can determine your class. … Class is anxious and may change at any time, causing mothers to strictly control who can communicate with each other, and at the same time asking them to join the group everywhere.
Chapter 3 Entry as you like: I am a mother, and I need a platinum bag
As long as you have rare resources in your hand, you can turn the world upside down, or at least you can flip the deep-rooted social class. ...A great bag is swords and shields. I want to buy something they don't have, something they want, or something they have but don't see others have. I gradually learned that for those who live in the Upper East Side, our desires, our status and status depend on certain rare items, that is, those "impossible things". The platinum bag represents a lot of meaning. Even if it is as rich as the Upper East Side, in this world of material surplus, it represents the pain that is not available. The platinum bag does represent an item you want, but its true essence is sincere hope, endless waiting, and then disappointment, asking for nothing, every stitch on the bag is full of blood and tears. ...Platinum bag is a symbol that represents the status of the master, especially for women, the platinum bag means the ultimate status. The man who can give a woman a platinum bag is also the most powerful person.
Chapter 4 We must return to the figure before giving birth
Our appearance, like our mother status, is a full-time job. The pursuit of a beautiful body is our bounden duty and our mission. We must always strive for excellence.
The moms of the Upper East Side will not give up, never will. They can't imagine the life of the past that took their time, and hoped to lose weight automatically by dieting. They actively pursue slimness and always strive to "do something". ...For the men "not" around and the women "with", try to make yourself young and beautiful and never let up.
believe you will like this book, will let you see the existence of the same kind of people, and may relieve your extreme anxiety. hopes that all mothers in the world will grow together and make progress together.
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