rest of his life is long, you climax, should always be in the next kilometers
Author: Joe (rich book editor)
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I tried my best
or lost to fate
Yesterday, there was a "38-year-old Chinese engineer Facebook headquarters jumping " news, which caused countless sighs.
This high-achieving student named Chen Qin, was once the top student in the college entrance examination, an undergraduate from Zhejiang University, and a master's degree in computer science from the University of Southern California. After graduating from
, he stayed in the Internet industry in the United States for development, and served many Internet giants. Joined Facebook the year before and became a full-time senior software engineer. The family of
said that he worked extremely hard and had been busy with projects day and night in the past six months. It was commonplace to work overtime until one or two o'clock at night, and sometimes he had to work overtime after only half a day at home.
In June of this year, Chen Qin was responsible for the trial operation of the program developed by Chen Qin. The effect was good and won praise from users. It is said that he was excited and tears filled his eyes. According to a colleague of
facebook, the project that Chen Qin took over was almost unfinished, but he worked hard to save it. "Everyone thinks he is not easy."
However, the department met in the afternoon of September 18. According to reports, the department director at the meeting publicly criticized Chen Qin on the grounds of slow project progress, and announced that he would be removed from the current working group without prior notice.
The accident came so suddenly that Chen Qin didn't say a word at the end of the meeting. He didn't expect that this was the result of his hard work.
On Facebook, calling out from the core working group means that your professional abilities are being questioned, increasingly marginalized, and difficult to reuse in the future.
The next morning, Chen Qin went to the director's office to argue with reason, and the two had a heated argument.
It is said that someone heard the director say aloud: get out.
and Chen Qin said: it is unfair. After
, my colleague met Chen Qin at the door of the company, and wanted to invite him to have a meal to comfort him, but Chen Qin declined. Just murmured: Thank you.
Half an hour later, Chen Qin jumped off the Facebook headquarters and died on the spot.
No one knows what kind of struggle Chen Qin went through before giving up. He must have a lot of anger and unwillingness.
He didn't understand, he tried his best, why he still couldn't stop the ruthless wheel of fate.
Although he can still find a job. But the setbacks in his career made him frustrated and unable to explain to his family.
After all, he was once the pride of his family and the object of praise from his colleagues in the company. He couldn't bear to be out in this way.
The decentness of a middle-aged man collapsed in an instant.
At the age of 38, he was suddenly lost in life, disappointed in the company, and completely discouraged in the world.
Don’t treat the company as your own
The boss is not your parents
Luo Zhenyu said: “The biggest lie in the workplace is that the boss says to employees: Don’t worry, I won’t treat you badly.”
It is an exchange of interests.
Many companies take "loyalty education" as the first lesson for newcomers, repeatedly instilling "you should treat the company as a family" and "people without loyalty will not be reused".
But if you really believe this, you will lose.
The reality is that if you work for the company for 6 years, it only takes 6 minutes for the company to fire you.
There was a piece of news last year that caused heated discussion.
Mr. You, Key Account Manager of Xiamen American Logistics Company, has worked hard in the company for 24 years.
However, fate has changed. In a physical examination three years ago, Mr. You was diagnosed with early liver cancer, and his life took a sharp turn.
He not only spent 24 years of his savings, but what made him even more devastated was that his salary slip appeared "cliff-like" in the second month after hospitalization, only 1200 yuan!
is not only that, because the original salary is high, and the social security self-payment is also high. In this way, after deducting the salary of 1,200 yuan, he will have to pay more than 3,000 yuan to the company every month. Mr.
You said: "I have been dedicated to the company for 24 years, but it ended up like this. I didn't dare to think about what to do next.
Lenovo CEO Liu Chuanzhi once said bluntly that "employees shouldn't treat the company as a family."
"At home, children can have various shortcomings and make various mistakes, and parents are ultimately tolerant. This cannot be the case for enterprises. If this is the case, the company will fall into the love of children and cannot develop at all. "
put it bluntly, the company is a place above the interests, the relationship between you and the boss is an exchange relationship. No matter how you work for the company, and no matter how beautiful the boss says, but when you can no longer generate value for the company , The company will abandon you without hesitation.
So for professionals, you must understand: from the beginning, it is more important than any naive and passionate vision.
puts one’s own wealth on life In the company, you have to take great risks. It is your luck to meet a good boss; there is nothing you can do when you meet a ruthless boss.
is a sign of maturity by recognizing a cruel truth: the company is not Your home, the boss is not your parents.
life half slope
Some people say: middle-aged people are the most disadvantaged age group in society.
which high housing prices, support for the elderly, children’s education Middle-aged people are not carrying these three mountains on their backs and gritting their teeth.
This is like climbing a mountain to a half-slope. The future is long and harder as you go. If you are not careful, you may roll down the cliff, causing the family to fall off the cliff.
So, The most intimidating middle-aged people are fear of salary cuts, unemployment, and illness.
In the company, you no longer have the power to bargain. It is a blessing to be able to keep your job from being snatched away by younger generations who look forward to it;
is in In the family, you are the parent of the child, the child of the parent, a husband and a woman, but not yourself alone.
There was once an article "Dad graduated from Harvard with a Ph.D., son is the last one! The parents gave birth to a slumped child. , Collapsed?". There is a father who has a bachelor’s degree in Tsinghua University, a master’s degree in Harvard, and his wife a master’s degree in Tsinghua University.
is such a schoolmaster family, but the son is the last one year after year.
is the kind of grievance that the schoolmaster’s father has never suffered. For my son to suffer it all.
has only been studying for a few days, the teacher called Xueba's father to the office and said in person: Your child has ADHD. Don't go to school, when will it be better, and come again.
Xueba father After hearing that I was helpless, I was a top student all my life, but there would be such a bear child. I never thought that my child would be so imperfect.
had to accompany the smiley face again and again to find the teacher for the child , Find the principal, say everything nicely, and have to say something during the holidays, often entertain guests for dinner, drink and drink until vomiting all night.
Xueba father said: "I am an executive in the company, and I am in charge of dozens of people. But in front of the child's teacher, I was too humble to look up, and shivered when I heard the teacher's complaint.
Don't persuade, really persuade, but there is no way.
On the evening of April 17 this year, at the Xinjiekou Station of Nanjing Metro Line 1, a man in a suit and leather shoes lay drunk in a corner and vomited. After the police arrived, the man suddenly hugged the policeman and burst into tears.
"My wife and I came to work in Nanjing for six or seven years, and I have tasted everything. In order to sign orders, I accompany customers to drink every day. I really can't drink, I can't drink..."
He rushed to see her husband looking embarrassed, without a word of blame, regardless of the dirt on his body, and hugged him with distress.
hug each other and cry, thatThe video touched millions of netizens.
People in middle age, you are gradually getting old in the footsteps of your parents, but your children grow up day by day. You travel between home and work all day, but when you look at your bank card, you don’t have much savings. No matter how big the city is, you still have to live in a slum. What's more, life is sometimes thunderous, a job loss, a serious illness can destroy all the dignity you have worked so hard. There is a saying in
: There are three stages when people face reality. Realize that parents are ordinary people; realize that they are ordinary people; realize that children are ordinary people.
You and I are mortals, all you can do is accept.
Accept life's deficiencies and accept your own powerlessness.
Adjust mentality, lower expectations, and calmly face the bitterness of fate. This is a compulsory course for everyone.
Half a life has passed, you have long lost the blood of the year; if the life in front of you is too hard, it is better to let yourself go.
always put health first.
There is a saying:
a person’s physical health is 1, and wealth, feelings, career, family... are all 0 behind 1.
only depends on the existence of this 1, 0 will be meaningful, if there is no this 1, then everything will not exist.
Whether you are rich or poor, a healthy body will always be your most precious wealth.
Maybe you don’t care, so please think about it: do you really care for your body, do you smoke and drink uncontrollably, do you stay up all night with your youth, do you let yourself be Happy year?
Last year, Liu Lingfeng, a well-known real estate advertising planner in Wuhan, suffered from advanced gastric cancer, which attracted the attention of the whole society.
is proud of his career. At the age of 37, he can only lie on a one-foot hospital bed, watching life go by little by little, watching his parents cry and his wife and children sad. With a sense of regret and guilt,
wrote a paragraph to remind everyone: is alive and healthy.
Don't use the way of overdrawing your life in exchange for wealth.
Because the first half of life is exchanged for money, it is very likely that money cannot be exchanged for life in the second half of life.
All diseases come imperceptibly, because you have ignored the warnings from your body. If you ignore your health, your health will also ignore you.
From today, every day must be healthy: eat breakfast, do not stay up late, do not drink too much, do not hold back urine, do not sit still, eat less fried food, etc. There is a saying that
puts it well: a person's top-level self-discipline is not to do your best, but to restrain yourself.
People in middle age can no longer grow wildly in the short term. Instead, they should plan reasonable and regular work and rest in the long term to make your life moderate, calm and sustainable.
Regular eating habits, happy mood, and open-minded mentality are all sources of health.
Don't take health seriously anymore. Illness won't be a joke to you. Otherwise, if you lose your health, you will lose everything.
You can be more powerful than you think
Roman. Roland said: There is only one kind of true heroism in the world, that is, after seeing the truth of life, you still love life.
Some people compare the ups and downs of life to the rising and falling of the sun.
The rising sun gradually shines, reaching its peak at noon, but as time goes by, there will always be the sun setting, and after the last rays of the sunset, it will fall into the endless night.
We are powerless to stop the setting sun. What we can do is to prepare early while chasing the sun, so that after sunset, we have a warm coat and enough physical strength to support us through the long cold night.
Life is not all smooth sailing, everyone will encounter the " black swan incident ".
Maybe you have made all-out preparations, but in the end, the 0.1% randomness risk may still wipe out all your efforts.
What can you do at this time? Desperate?? Give up?
What you can do is to keep a normal heart to live. The real ability of
is not how much you can create, but how much suffering you can endure. Life is inherently bitter. Because of this, you have to have fun in bitterness and drink roses in a bowl of gruel. aromatic.
Life is full of uncertainty, and because of this, life is rich and colorful. Don't be afraid of change. Get out of your psychological defense and look at the outside world.
is like what the writer Wang Er said: "The rest of your life is long, and your climax should always be the next kilometer."
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