"Win in the third year" teacher has been a class teacher in key high schools for more than ten years. I often conduct research on the family situation of top students in the class. I deeply realize that family factors play a very important role in education, even the key. The role of family education is no less than school education, or more important than school education.
Someone asked: At least what kind of family conditions can be admitted to 985 University by effort alone?
"You can come to Tsinghua University not only because of your hard work, but also because of your parents." This is what Jin Jun, a professor in the Department of Sociology of Tsinghua University, said to freshmen in the first Sociology Introduction class. This is not a rhetoric, but a conclusion drawn after statistics of the past freshmen of Tsinghua University, which is enough to see the impact of family on children's learning.
1. The better the university, the fewer underachievers. This is a cruel reality
According to public information from Tsinghua University, among the 3,400 students enrolled in the Mainland in 2019, about 26.3% are from western regions, rural areas and poor areas. The number of students accounted for 19.3%. This is still the data realized with the help of national policies. Without these policies, how much would this data be?
This is not just a phenomenon in Tsinghua University, other 985 universities, especially the 985 universities in the upper and middle reaches, are basically the same. Liu Qiangdong once donated more than 10 million to his alma mater, Renmin University of China, to support the underprivileged children. However, there were very few applicants. The person in charge of the National People's Congress explained: students who can go to the National People's University have good family conditions and do not need this bursary. , Children from rural areas, not even 30%.
Now the college acceptance rate is as high as 80%, and the undergraduate acceptance rate is also around 40%. Going to a university is not difficult, but it is still very difficult to go to a good university. Except for Beijing, Tianjin and Shanghai, most provinces have 985 universities. The acceptance rate is only about 2%, and most provinces are less than 2%. For rural students, it is even more difficult for rural students to enter the 985 University.
2. To enter a good university, it’s not enough to rely solely on personal effort
Tsinghua University teachers conducted a survey of the 2018 students of Tsinghua University. The proportion of students who had been abroad before enrollment accounted for 43.9%, and those who had not been to the province accounted for 0. %, and this data is very stable among students from all walks of life.
Going abroad can represent the economic conditions of the family, but economic conditions are not the only factor of family conditions! Some organizations have conducted statistics on the occupations of the parents of China's college entrance examination champions from 2007 to 2016. The results show that the highest proportion of parents' occupations are teachers, followed by civil servants! These two professions are not rich, but they can achieve results in education. There are three main reasons:
1. Pay attention to companionship: Among them, companionship is the most important. Teachers and civil servants generally have good academic qualifications. There is no problem in educating children, but many people don’t educate their children well, often because they don’t pay enough attention to their children, they are usually busy with work or socializing, and cannot accompany their children to grow up. When children have problems, they will reprimand their children or give them counseling. In the end, the problem cannot be solved. Parents who are able to accompany their children and have certain educational knowledge and concepts can eliminate their children's problems in the bud and guide their children to develop in the right direction.
2. Pay attention to reading: A family without reading will never have real education. The cultivation of reading ability, reading interest, and reading habits start from the family. There is a poem on the title page of "Reading Manual": "You may have infinite wealth, boxes of jewels and cabinets of gold, but you will never be richer than me, because I have someone who reads to me. Mother."
3. Pay attention to habits: Education is to cultivate habits. A family that can accompany the children to grow up will often develop good learning habits. This is very important in the elementary school stage, and the excellent grades in the elementary school stage will be developed later basis.
3. Poor students, entering key high schools is the key
Of course, this is not to say that rural students or poor students did not have the chance to be admitted to the 985 university. The "win in high school" teacher taught many rural students and they finally passed the 985. There are also quite a few universities, and their parents are ordinary farmers who don’t understand education. But these kids areAfter screening for the high school entrance examination, most of the children from such families were eliminated in the high school entrance examination, and very few of them were able to enter the 985 university.
And for these students to be admitted to the 985 University, a key factor is to be able to enter the key high schools. In the key high schools, the influence of family factors is gradually reduced, and the influence of the school is greater, and they are one step closer to the 985 University.
Children’s education is never just a matter of school. Parents’ education is very important. However, some people push their children to school, and they don’t care about it. When children have problems, they complain about school, teachers, and even full of teachers. Be hostile and attack teachers as much as possible. How can such families educate their children? Children are just a failure of family education.
Imagine if a parent is holding a mobile phone to watch videos, go shopping, and play games, but ask the child to read aside, is this realistic? Parents only look at the immediate benefits, but let their children think about poetry and the distance. Is this reality? Parents pave the way, teachers give directions, and children walk, all three are indispensable!
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