Life is to find poetry and distance in trivialities

Author|Qiao Tangtang

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Mr. Tudou took a vacation on Friday and told Mr. Tudou to take his baby to the community center for physical examination and vaccinations.

At 2 and 3 in the afternoon, thinking that Mr. Tudou will definitely live up to the task and have completed the arduous task of bringing the baby to the medical examination and vaccinating, he asked about his progress on WeChat.

Me: Is the medical examination done? Has the vaccine been shot? Mr.

Tudou: I have a physical examination, but no vaccine.

Me: Why? Mr.

Tudou: The baby is noisy, and he clamored to go home during the physical examination.

me: Okay. What is the result of the physical examination? What was the medical examination? Mr.

Tudou: Height, weight, and blood test?

Me: What? Need blood and needles during the physical examination? What did you test? Mr.

Tudou: I don’t know what the blood test is.

Me: Then you didn't ask the doctor? (What I was thinking at the moment is: what? I've got the needles and I don't know why? This is like being a father? Mr.

Tudou: I asked, the doctor didn't understand what the doctor said.

Me: Then I have to keep asking until I understand!

Actually, I really want to say something at this time: Why is it so unreliable?

Hey, forget it when you say it, maybe everyone's thinking is really different.

For example, I like the feeling of being in control of life, knowing what I am doing and why I do it.

Even if it is a little thing about the baby, I will communicate with the doctor clearly and clearly. And Mr. Tudou chose to trust the doctor in everything, and he would do whatever the doctor asked him to do. There may be nothing wrong with

, but I really cannot accept this approach.

Forget it, going crazy with Mr. Tudou will not change his way of doing things.

In the past two years, I have learned a profound truth: never want to change others. It is always easier to change yourself than to change others.

Faced with each other's different ways of doing things, you either choose to do it your own way, or you choose to accept each other's way.

This is my attitude towards things now.

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The arduous task of vaccinating the baby can only be done by me.

actually look forward to the weekend every Friday, but in fact the weekend is even more tiring.

took the baby out at 10 o'clock this morning, first went to the community for vaccinations. The baby cried and tried to coax the baby, and was exhausted.

is nothing else, looking at the thin and long needles, I can't wait to hide away, let alone baby.

If you cry, let her cry. Buying toys and snacks can be regarded as compensation for the young injured heart.

Mr. Tudou and I sigh with emotion that it is getting harder and harder for babies now, and they have been under strict supervision since they were born.

all kinds of vaccines, all kinds of physical examinations, adults and children are also enough to toss.

waited for the baby to stop crying, drove to the mall, and followed her from shop to shop all the way, tossing to go home after 3pm.

The baby who was eating ice cream fell asleep in an instant, and I was able to stop.

can finally take out his mobile phone and watch the two movies at 1.5 times speed while the baby is sleeping, which is quite satisfied. What

said is true, sleeping babies are like angels, and crying babies are like little devil.

often tells my friends that raising a baby is really a self-cultivation. If you haven't done a good job of mental construction, let's forget it.

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When I was the most troubled, I also called my mother in a dramatic way and asked why people want to get married? Isn't it cool to be alone?

has heard many stories about happier families with a baby, and also many stories about having a baby's partner split up.

Sometimes people think that people are really selfish animals, and selfishness is manifested in everything, including raising a baby.

Many felt that they sacrificed more, gave more, or one party ignored the other party's contribution, which led to psychological imbalance between both parties and felt that the contribution was not seen.

However, human beings are a kind of animals that are vying to be recognized and striving for recognition.

If the psychological identity is in a state of being ignored by your partner for a long time, it will not be a good state.

In this modern society of "dividing, reuniting and divorcing" represented by celebrities, as a woman, apart from working hard, running a family, and balancing work and family, there really is nothing more Good way.

I only hope that in this trivial life, we can also find a state that makes ourselves comfortable and others comfortable.

After all, the essence of life is to accept an imperfect self and an imperfect life!

Regarding bringing the baby, I really like the state of Victoria holding Xiaoqi out of the street. The girls strive to be like this.