movie "Big Brother" is a campus-themed movie directed by Kan Jiawei and starring Donnie Yen and Qiao En Chen. The movie tells the story of an unusual teacher, under his guidance, the problematic students who are in the youth rebellious period are gradually on the right track.
Adolescence refers to the transitional period from children to adults. Among them, mainly refers to the first reproductive period marked by the maturity of reproductive organs and the development of secondary sexual characteristics. Adolescence is the second peak period of growth and development in life. However, this is a puberty defined from a physical point of view. The true meaning of puberty is far more than physical, but also psychological.
After entering puberty, teenagers and girls, as their bodies develop rapidly, as the knowledge they receive increases, their personal knowledge and thinking ability improve, and their self-awareness begins to sprout. I started to have my own knowledge of everything in the world, instead of passively accepting the opinions of others.
1. The rebellious psychology of adolescence originates from the emergence of self-awareness
1. The contradiction between a fast-maturing body and limited cognition
High school student Li Weicong in the movie "Big Brother", he is tall and he has begun to become an adult Physique, but the opposite is what he usually does. Smoking and playing games without reading, a typical adolescent rebellious teenager image. However, these are widely known aspects, and what is not known is his family situation.
When he was five years old, his parents passed away in an accident, and he and his grandmother have lived together ever since. Grandma relies on harvesting tatters and doing some work to subsidize the family, and he often has to do part-time jobs. Because the government has not allocated housing for a long time, the two are still living in abandoned residential areas. At a sensitive age, I came into contact with the cold side of life prematurely. Therefore, in his cognition, he doesn't have much favor with the world. After
had a conflict with top student Huang Junjie, the school did not punish the other party, but made a decision to expel him. When Teacher Chen came to pull them away, he finally yelled in his heart unwillingly: "This world is inherently unfair."
However, because of knowledge, people's cognition is easy to change. Just like a famous person once said: Today I put forward these views here, in ten years, or even a few years later, I may personally overthrow all the views I have now.
As the age changes, people's knowledge and vision will no longer be the same. Before entering university, most people's cognition of life is still limited to the things around them. The emergence of self-awareness during adolescence is often easily limited by one's own limited cognition, and it is always easy to make a conclusion about everything. Because of his childhood experience, the young Li Weicong sentenced the world to death early. What he did at school is not so much rebellion as a kind of self-giving up.
2. The difference between their inner hopes and the unwillingness in reality made them embark on a road of rebellion.
Wang Denan, who was born in a patriarchal family, was a girl. Since the birth of her younger brother, she has been left out by her father day by day. . Witnessing his father's love for his younger brother on weekdays, and only constant reproach to himself, even the pocket money, his younger brother is more than himself, these are all fermented in Wang Denan's heart.
The outstanding performance of adolescence is that the perception and thoughts that are too sensitive to things are easy to be paranoid , with this kind of prejudiced thinking, and even has been with her long years of growth. In her eyes, she thinks her father doesn't love herself. So she chose to confront her father.
Father said that girls should have long hair, so she used scissors to cut her own into a tomboy. Her father gave her a Barbie doll. She left it aside and didn't even look at it. She turned around and went to play in a boy's car. What followed was intensified quarrels and the father-daughter relationship gradually reaching freezing point.
It wasn't until the accident that happened, watching her father who mistakenly thought that he was in tears, and watching her silently, did he realize that his father always loved him. It's just that I live in a paranoid world, remember the unpleasant things, but habitually ignore the inner love.
Recalling her actions, in fact, deep in her heart, the resistance that was exposed on the surface was not a performance that she hoped to get the attention of her father. Father likes boys, so she dresses herself upAs a boy, playing with things that boys like, her rebellion is more like an act of anger, hoping to get the attention of her father. Because
is not available in reality, but the heart is eager to get it, the kind of struggle that can't ask for it makes them rebellious when their thinking is not mature enough. Use the wrong way to express your needs, hoping to reap what you hope for.
3. The bondage of the native family is the key factor affecting growth.
once had a best-selling book called "Beyond the Native Family", which talked about the impact of the native family on people. As a member of the family and appearing in the family, it will be unknowingly affected by the family, which plays a key role in personal growth.
Because of his wife’s departure, Guan's father chose to use drunkenness to paralyze himself. He and his sons, who have been drinking alcohol all the year round, said the most thing is: "The wine is gone, who will buy me wine?". In such an environment, the two brothers are not really interested in learning.
, two brothers Guan Qicheng and Guan Qixian, one chooses to find warmth in the virtual world of the game; the other endures all this silently, accumulates strength secretly, hoping to make enough money, and then leaves this home. As a result, the one who was addicted to the game all day and couldn't help himself, and the other day thinking about selling snacks to classmates, the two became problematic students in the school without accident.
How important family education is, just talk about the well-known Qian family. In modern times, Qian Xuesen, the well-known "father of Chinese missiles", Qian Sanqiang, the "two bombs and one star champion", and Qian Weichang, the "founder of modern mechanics", are among the Qian family. In addition, there are great masters of Chinese studies Qian Zhongshu and Qian Mu, and Nobel Prize winner Qian Yongjian in chemistry. So far, the Qian family has awarded "One Nobel Prize, Two Diplomats, Three Scientists, Masters of the Four Kingdoms Studies, Five Vice-Chairmen of the CPPCC National Committee, and Eighteen Academicians."
Some people might say that it was because education was not universal at that time and family celebrities were not uncommon. However, even in the current era of universal education, the impact of the family on children has never diminished.
According to statistics from the education department, in recent years, Tsinghua University and other top domestic universities, even with policy support, the enrollment ratio of rural students has been declining year by year. It's a reality that it's hard to get a good son from a poor family. As a science champion in Beijing said, a good family environment can bring not only economic prosperity, but also a wide range of resources.
The competition in the new era is no longer a pure competition for books and knowledge. With the emergence of various interest cram schools, competition in skills has become more prominent. In such an environment, the influence of the family on personal growth is self-evident.
Two or two years of trees, a hundred years of tree people, teaching is easy to teach people
1. Blocking is not as good as sparse, and forced suppression will only bury potential hidden dangers
In the early years, the emergence of "tiger mother wolf dad" can be described as a momentary popularity network. Under ultra-strict education, children have become extremely obedient "robotics." They completely obey the wishes of their parents and have no ideas of their own. But it doesn't matter in the eyes of parents, because it is enough for the child to have excellent grades. But is it really enough? The prodigy Wei was admitted to the university at the age of 13, and the story of being dismissed by the Chinese Academy of Sciences at the age of 20 is still circulating. The education of high IQ and low EQ will only be a sadness in the end. Luo Jianying, the villain in the movie
, was forced by his father to practice taekwondo when he loved the piano as a child. Although the mind is becoming more and more open now, there are still many people who are forced by the wishes of their parents. In the opinion of some parents, many of the children's ideas are either unreasonable or a waste of time. So relying on his own life experience, he set a brilliant path for his children early.
However, we seem to have forgotten that everyone should live for themselves. It is excusable to ask children to bear their own expectations, but suppressing the thoughts in children's hearts seems unfavorable. Life is not like an exam, there is only one standard answer. Three hundred and sixty lines in the world, the best in the world. Sometimes too much pressure can cause rebellious psychology in children.
Rather than trying for a temporary advantage and planting a bomb of uncertainty in the future of the child, it is better to understand. If possible, let the child try more, whether it succeeds or not, it isA rare experience. Compared with the truth in the mouth, it is better to let them experience it once.
2. Compared with preaching, what is needed more is to be understood and respected.
Adolescence is the transitional stage from adolescence to adulthood. At this stage, you gradually have your own understanding of everything in the world. Even if the teachings of others are right, they are unwilling to accept them. Since we were young, we have listened to too many grand-sounding principles.
Faced with the rebellious Li Weicong group, Mr. Liang, played by Qiaoen Chen, chose the most common way, to be fair and to copy school rules. Not surprisingly, Li Weicong and his gang not only failed to copy, they even caught a bug to scare Teacher Liang. The tea was spilled, and the copy was all wet.
On the contrary is Chen Xia, the teacher played by Donnie Yen. He did not choose the most common preaching and punishment, but really considered from the perspective of the other party. After preliminary understanding of Li Weicong's situation, he chose to visit home. When I walked into Li Weicong's house, I found that it was in an abandoned residential area. The only elder in the house was the elderly grandmother.
saw Li Weicong's grandma using Bailan for small jobs, and learned from her grandmother that Li Weicong's parents had died early. In order to subsidize his family, Li Weicong often went to work part-time after class. Seeing that grandma took out Li Weicong's forged record book that was praised by the teacher, Chen Xia understood his practice, not only did not reveal, but instead took out his own money to deceive grandma into saying that this was Li Weicong's scholarship, so that the elderly can feel at ease.
Afterwards, Chen Xia personally went to Li Weicong's place to find him, and rescued Li Weicong who was caught in a black boxing dispute. The boy who was disappointed in the world finally felt warm. After some heart-to-heart conversations, the rebellious teenager was finally brought back on track.
From the beginning of school, masterpieces of enlightenment such as "Sanzi Jing" and "Disciple Guidance" have been teaching how to do it. I have heard too much, and many things are not really not understood, but I just don't want to understand. Adolescent children think more about right and wrong. Their seemingly absurd practices are actually waiting for someone who can understand him to walk into him, instead of just screaming at him.
All those strong outsiders hide a lonely heart, stroking their wounds alone, pretending to be rebellious, you must be strong.
3. Education that puts too much emphasis on scores should be the past. Is it important that
scores belong to comprehensive education in the future? Of course it is important. Whether it is for individuals or the entire school. Regarding the college entrance examination, there was a saying that "there is one exam for a lifetime". Huang Junjie in the
movie is a top student in the eyes of the public. He is tall and handsome. He is the captain of the basketball team with outstanding academic performance. He not only has the admiration of countless classmates of the opposite sex, but even the principal excuses him in the fight, calling him the hope of the school.
But it’s just such a person who scolds each other as "trash" when he sees those students with poor grades. After some conflicts and conflicts occur, he will report it immediately, and even use the other family's misfortune to humiliate each other. After all, the gorgeous appearance cannot conceal the inner weakness, and it is not uncommon for people with high education and low quality.
On the high-speed rail, a doctor’s dominance incident; a postdoctoral evasion incident with his girlfriend; even Li, who graduated from Tsinghua University with a doctorate in the United States, got on the wrong train and pulled the emergency brake valve for himself after the train started. The operation of all subsequent trains and so on.
scores are important, but quality education is also indispensable. Regarding the score, I think the letter written by the well-known Taiwanese female writer Long Yingtai to his son Andre is the best interpretation. Scores give you more opportunities to choose, but quality is something that accompanies you throughout your life.
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