watched the Lunar New Year movie "囧Mom" on the mobile phone Douyin today, and it felt pretty good. I was amused by Ivan's embarrassment a few times, and cried again by their mother and son's reconciliation, and finally started to tears in the song of "Red Berry Blossom". Then, seeing the filming at the end of the film, I smiled again while wiping my tears.
I just watched "囧Mom" crying and laughing, it was like experiencing a life of mixed sadness and joy. Yes, isn't our life the same with laughter and tears, walking back and forth in joy and pain? No matter how much hardship you encounter, you must have hope and face the sun. Although the storyline of "囧 Ma" is a bit old-fashioned, and the character design is not new, it is nothing more than the middle-aged crisis, husband and wife disharmony, minor three intervening, mother-child conflicts, the most common things that seem to be nothing new. But if you want to shoot these clichés into something new, it really tests the skill of the director and the actors.
Huang Meiying's mother, Lu Xiaohua, seems to be one of the many elderly women around us, which makes people feel familiar and close to life, more convincing. She acted out the usual character traits and daily states of women of that age. They are particularly afraid of being alone and lonely, living with their sons and grandchildren almost without self, giving everything to their families and families. The son played by Xu Zheng is generally similar to the previous role, without any breakthrough. The script's design of the role of the son is kept in an inherent framework, and there are no surprises or surprises to the audience. The overall viewpoints that I want to express are somewhat out of balance. Some contradictory transitions and intensifications are also relatively blunt, seeming abrupt and unnatural. The appearance of the Russian girl is not in harmony with the whole plot, but it bluntly played a role in advancing the plot, but the portrayal of the characters is counterproductive. If we understand and experience some of the contradictions in the movie, we may be able to add some of our own understanding and feelings to achieve a climax and resonance together with the movie. There are some life-sense movies that may not be explained thoroughly, just click to the end, but people who come over may be able to understand. Let’s not talk about Ivan’s various anxieties and a bunch of messes in life. This audience should have some resonance. I want to talk about the helplessness, worries, and the various problems in life that Ivan’s mother Lu Xiaohua has in her own way. This seems to fall into a cliché: paying attention to the topic of the elderly. Especially the elderly widowed and only child. Their mental state, life state and psychological characteristics. But regardless of the clichés or the clichés, the problem is always there. The film gives some hints and answers to the thinking and solution of this problem.
Lu Xiaohua is a mother with a very strong desire for control. She takes for granted the thought, behavior and living habits of her son. According to her own ideas, she feels what her son should and should not do, and imposes her own preferences on her son. This is also the usual style of many Chinese mothers. Living in this kind of pressure exerted in the name of love will only feel an unspeakable burden and suffocation. Children's resistance is usually accused of "I don't know what is good or bad." You are so kind to you, don't you appreciate it? ! He was even directly charged with a charge of "unfilial piety". If the controlled child grows up and cannot escape the bondage of family affection from top to bottom, from the inside to the outside, then his personality defect is obviously unavoidable, just like Ivan in the movie, he always deals with it The relationship between myself and his wife is not good, and I also hope that my wife is what I imagined, but I did not expect that she is just herself. Any expectations or assumptions imposed on others are unrealistic delusions. Many parents always take it for granted that they want to make their children into the model they want. They never thought that children are also independent individuals, and they should have their own thoughts and insights and independent personality, rather than their accessories.
Why children from families with unhappy parents have difficulties in marriage, and this is a subtle consequence. Because there is no good example of learning, all the negative factors that accumulate over time will have a huge impact on the child. This impact will slowly appear in the child's future life and will never be dissipated. My marriage slowly became like a parent. Ivan’s father is alcoholic and violent, and his parents’ marriage has always been discordant. Mother chose Shinobu for IvanThe humiliation barely maintained the integrity of the family. After the death of his father, all the expectations and trust of his mother rested on Ivan. When she shouted in anger and despair: "You are just like your dad!", you can imagine how desperate she is. Fortunately, Ivan is not like his father, Lu Xiaohua also has her own dreams, otherwise life will really be nothing but a feather. Lu Xiaohua wants to fulfill her dream of performing on the stage of the Bolshoi Theatre. A concert she missed when she was young must be made up in her lifetime. Without a wife without the company of his son and grandson, can't it be a dream in the lonely old age? She very much wanted her son to accompany her to realize this dream, but Ivan was so devastated in business and divorce that she did not consider the significance of the trip to Moscow for her mother. When he was helplessly forced to board the train bound for Moscow, he and his mother were arguing in the small carriage, breaking and reconciling, and a series of ridicules occurred, and some dangers occurred in the middle. When they were facing life and death together, the 70-year-old mother yelled to the huge ferocious brown bear: Come and eat me, don't eat my son! Don't eat my son! At that moment, no matter how great the grievances and estrangements were, the blood was thicker than water and the love between mother and child was melted. Overcoming the difficulties on the road, the mother and son accidentally rushed to the Grand Theater at the last minute in a hot air balloon. On the stage where the audience was slowly leaving the audience, Lu Xiaohua's affectionate singing "Red Berry Blossom" won everyone's enthusiasm. Applause. By the field and small river, red berry flowers bloom, I and a teenager are walking outside the woods. But we are going to be separated after all, and the full of parting words can’t be said... At this moment, Lu Xiaohua, who has devoted herself to singing and has forgotten everything around her, seems to have rejuvenated and returned to her youthful girlhood, in white and red dress, Bright eyes are gazing, in the bright chasing light of the stage, like an innocent angel descending to the world, her light illuminates herself and warms everyone. This image is so different from Lu Xiaohua, who is usually chattering, mother-in-law, and moody. It stuns Ivan in the crowd under the stage. He finally understood the significance of this trip to Moscow for his mother. He was fortunate that he did not miss this dazzling moment, otherwise, it will be an eternal regret in his life. Let the moved tears gurgle down, all the pain, all the regret, all the loss, all the helplessness dissipate, leaving only a piece of warmth and warmth. Lu Xiaohua said to Ivan that if there weren't your dad, there wouldn't be you. What she means is that there is no surprise if there is no setback, no joy if there is no pain, and no wish if there is no frustration. Regardless of the ending, the first good will always be in place, unforgettable forever. After their mother and son's trip to Moscow, they finally recovered their lost family affection, realized some of the true meaning of life, and experienced a growth together. Anyway, we still have to face the world with a grateful heart. Ivan’s last message to his wife: Love is not about control and taking, love is about acceptance and respect.
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