The story of "囧Mom" is the same as the movie title. It mainly describes the process of contradiction to reconciliation between the hero Xu Yiwan and his mother. The original family and parent-child relationship are the core elements of the film. But the story of "囧Mom" is more than family love. There are two emotional portrayals in the film. One is the family love between Xu Yiwan and his mother, and the other is the love between him and his wife Zhang Lu.
Family affection and love are both headaches for Xu Yiwan. In the story, he needs to face the estrangement from his mother and the reality of the breakdown of his marriage with his wife. In the end, it collides with a story that is both laughable and touching. But what's interesting is that the root causes of the problems of the two feelings of are the same, and the final solution is the same, but the result is completely different .
The same problem
The root of the conflict between family affection and love in the story comes from the “control and take” in the film’s concluding lines. Both relationships are on the verge of rupture due to a problem. This is a manifestation of the continuity of the original family’s influence .
Xu's mother can deeply feel the love of Xu Yiwan, but her over-control of her son's life and feelings also makes Xu Yiwan and the audience feel unbreathable control. The deeper she loves, the more difficult it is for her son to understand her mother. In the end, Xu Yiwan gradually alienated her mother after his father passed away, trying to "escape" from the other's control.
However, the influence of his mother on Xu Yiwan did not dissipate because of his "fleeing" behavior. Instead, he played the role of mother in his marriage with Zhang Lu. In this marriage, he tried to make Zhang Lu his "ideal wife". This kind of love also made Zhang Lu question herself, and once fell into pain.
The most fearsome problem in the growth of
eventually left its mark on the child. Xu Yiwan hates the mother’s request and control, but repeats the mother’s appearance in subtle ways. This is the most profound impact of the original family:
is alive. The one who begs him.
In recent years, many film and television works have explored the issue of the original family, from educational films such as "Little Joy" to stories of adults such as "It's Good" and "囧Mom", each time they try to dig out the sensitive points of the original family. This is a production trend that is conducive to thinking about real issues, but realistic stories cannot change the status quo.
The meaning of their existence is to tell us not to continue the problem in the next generation, the same is true in "囧Mom".
The same answer
comedy films tend to have a perfect ending, and most of the works involving native families in domestic dramas will choose a main theme: reconciliation. Just like the plot of "Everything is Good", Su Mingyu, who was hurt the most by his native family, finally chose to give up his career and become a family payer. Although this ending is criticized, it is most realistic.
, which is based on the family carnival tone, obviously rushed to reconcile at the beginning, because no matter it is film and television works or real life, there is no denying the fetters of family affection. Except for some very special existences, although most children and their parents have conflicts, the love and protection for each other has always existed, but the way they express their love is wrong.
Therefore, after synthesizing a series of small details of emotional contradictions, "囧 Mom" gave a solution: acceptance and respect . Xu Yiwan accepted the character habits her mother had cultivated over the years, and her mother gradually understood the pain of her son. After a thrilling journey, they learned to respect each other and return to tenderness. After
opened the knot, Xu Yiwan applied the same method to his love. It was because of the realization of family love that he really realized why Zhang Lu insisted on divorce. After Xu Yiwan's confession, Zhang Lu discovered that she had neglected her husband's inner thoughts too much. The two couples who grew up alone in the problem finally reached a settlement.
In fact, "acceptance and respect" is a cliché answer, a fixed pattern of Chinese finale, but it is also the best answer to real problems. Only by learning acceptance and respect, can we truly understand each other, and let our love be understood by each other, grow and heal each other. The different results of
The causes, answers, and results of the two relationships in "囧Mom" all have reflective meaning, but the seven words that touched the most are still completely different endings. The three characters are all aware of their own problems, and they have also discovered the efforts of the other party. Their problems have been reconciled, but in the end Xu Yiwan and his motherThe family relationship returned, but the love ended in divorce.
is a very realistic result. In simple terms, it can be solved by blood relationship. No matter how big the gap between mother and child is, they will ultimately be mother and child, and couples without blood bonds may not always be husbands and wives. However, Qihua believes that the two different results are rooted in the time limit, which is the current social situation reflected by the story.
People always miss the best time to solve relationship problems.
Principles and ethics, parent-child relationship, and parenting responsibility, these three elements make family affection the least likely to be separated, especially the relationship between parents and children. In reality, children who grow up in pain due to their native families can hardly get an apology from their parents like in film and television works. In many cases, they will compromise their responsibilities and dependence on family affection.
This gives the parent-child relationship a relatively long-term resolution. As long as each other still loves each other, the family relationship can always be reconciled. But when the problem exists, if it cannot be resolved early, it will eventually cause irreparable mistakes, just as Xu Yiwan still loses love after reconciling with his mother, because he missed another prescription.
has no multi-element affection of love. Its resolution time is completely different from family affection. It needs to give an answer as soon as possible after the problem occurs. Xu Yiwan in the story of "囧Mom" is the one who found a solution after the statute of limitations expired. When he learned to respect his wife, the other party had healed his wounds alone.
Although the two eventually returned to caring friends, the fetters as family members have been broken. It is a regretful but common result. Perhaps the final direction of the two feelings of "囧Mom" can make the audience in the conflict of marriage have a feeling, should not start to reflect after losing, and don't think of treating after the problem has caused indelible damage.
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