"Dog Thirteen" is a work released by Cao Baoping in 2013. It is the rare domestic film that can pierce the audience's bones in recent years. Different people will have completely different perceptions when watching this film. The movie mainly shows the resistance and domestication in the process from children to adults. Before dissecting the viewpoints of movies or extending real life, let us first figure out the most essential thing,
, that is the world of children and adults. What are the main differences in the world? Children’s world is simple, right and wrong, love and hatred, no lies, adult’s world is complex, dominated by interests, there is no absolute right and wrong, and often mixed with lies and hypocrisy, so growth is actually learning to observe words and colors, and to learn to hide their true The idea of learning flattery, learning tolerance, learning the world again, and all of this is for one thing, to maximize the tangible or intangible benefits you get. Is this a good thing or a bad thing? I think the answer to this question will always swing.
In fact, we all clearly understand that even if children are not domesticated by their parents, they will inevitably be domesticated by this society in the end, but when this process is completed by the parents, it seems a bit contrary to love. I oppose domestication. Education, but in fact this problem is very easy to solve, and the educational concept of the parents of the previous generation has been gradually replaced.
My personal view is to treat your child as an adult with independent thinking ability just like you, respect his thinking, respect his choice and promptly remind him to be responsible for the result. Because the core conflict in the movie is actually the conflict between the child and the adult’s worldview. Adults think that children’s world is too idealistic, and children think that adult’s world is too realistic. But in fact, this world is neither as good as you think, nor as bad as you think.
As the son of two elderly people in their seventies, I have suffered a lot of "patriarchal oppression" and "domestication education". I was hurt because of this, but I now choose to forgive. I encourage everyone to listen to their hearts. The premise is that you have an independent soul. Another aspect of growth is that you have to try to understand the embarrassment of your parents, learn to use your own strength to warm them, understanding others and maintaining yourself are not necessarily incompatible. Of course, I only see the world through my small keyhole, so I only represent myself.
is here. I want to say to the self in adolescence in the parallel world, if you feel that you have been domesticated, please don’t be blindly pessimistic. You have become an adult like a hedgehog, but you can still have an elegant heart. , You have become an adult who hides your heart, but the soul is not meant to be known to everyone. You have re-understood the world. Yes, it does not revolve around you. The process of growing up is really painful, but this It's a stage you have to go through. You want to be yourself at that age. That's because you don't have to worry about survival. There is no pressure on your shoulders,
, but one day you have to fly by yourself. I hope that then your wings can withstand Wind and rain, you have to live for yourself, but not just for yourself. Always remember one thing, the best way you want to be yourself is to fight for yourself, instead of nurturing your pretentious soul with the resources that your parents exchanged for dignity. You are not trying to grow up to save the world, but It is to let yourself have the same ability. If one day you don't want to compromise with this world, you can still rely entirely on yourself to let the people you love and those who love you survive with dignity.
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