"Nezha"|All confrontations are because they cannot accept the imperfect self

To talk about this year’s hit movie, "Nezha: The Devil Boy Comes into the World" can be considered as one, less than a week after the release, the box office broke 1.1 billion, setting a new box office record for domestic animation movies, and the Douban score was as high as 8.5. I am a person who does not have any requirements for the movie environment, so most movies are watched by myself at home. I really like the feeling of setting up a computer by myself and watching movies in bed, because no one can disturb myself . When I went to the cinema before, I always met people who spoke loudly, discussed loudly, made various actions, and walked back and forth during the viewing process. This resulted in a very poor viewing experience and the whole atmosphere was suddenly destroyed by these people. When

watched the cartoon "Ne Zha" at home last week, I still felt a little touched, but it didn't seem as good as I thought. Everyone has different trigger points for watching movies, and their expectations for movies are also different. Therefore, no matter how good a movie is, there will always be something that makes people want to complain. I think that Douban everyone scores so high, mostly because of the special effects and graphics. In fact, the plot can still be explored.

This play seems to have different characterizations, but after reading it, I think that the three main characters who actually promote the development of the plot-Shen Gongbao, Ao Bing, and Nezha, are actually a class of people, and it seems that everyone resists in different forms. , But in fact, the reasons behind them are all the same, because they have not been recognized since they were young, and they are not recognized because they have looked different from others since they were young.

1, Shen Gongbao: The prejudices in people's hearts are like a mountain. No matter how hard you work, you can never move Shen Gongbao, who is the villain of

in the play, but he did not expect to say something that resonates with people.

Shen Gongbao had this insight because he did not succeed in the process of confronting the world, so in the end he felt that it was because of the world’s prejudice against him that he forced him to do this-deliberately put the magic pill and the Lingzhu He just wanted to retaliate and vent his inner dissatisfaction. Even as a god, once dissatisfaction arises, he will retaliate like a person. It seems that gods are no better than people.

Shen Gongbao, as the most industrious apprentice under the seat of Yuanshi Tianzun, could not be recognized because he was the reincarnated leopard sperm. He wanted to be one of the 12 celestial celestial celestial beings, but he never got the master's approval. He felt that he worked so hard, and he didn't know how much better than the fat and stupid real Taiyi, but he just didn't get the appreciation of the master.

Shen Gongbao’s experience reminds me of a type of people we often encounter in our work. I feel that I am working harder than my colleagues. I come at the earliest and leave at the latest every day. I finally found out that I was someone else when I was promoted and raised. I was instantly unconvinced. , I just want to ask why.

When measuring a person in the workplace, it may not be that single. It is not that if you work harder than others, if you perform better than others, you will definitely appreciate and raise your salary. The more people go up, the more abilities they need to have. If you want to develop into a management position, you will find that it is not only necessary to be able to do business, but also other abilities that you cannot see yourself, such as communication skills, team coordination, resource mobilization, negotiation skills and so on. Under the same ability, if there is an individual who can use resources more than you, the leader may consider this person, because the so-called team management is to some extent a process by which you use limited resources to leverage greater benefits.

But when everyone looks at themselves, they often have limitations and cannot see the missing side of themselves. So many times I think benchmarking others is a good way to reflect on myself. You will reflect on your own limitations by looking in the mirror (others).

One of the reasons why I don't like watching domestic dramas is because I often create plots where my bad life is due to other people's reasons. We should not guide others to pay more attention to ourselves, rather than the environment and others. Just like Shen Gongbao always felt that his master did not recognize him, and the world did not recognize him because he was the reincarnation of a leopard. In fact, it was not at all, but because he himself did not accept himself at all. All the confrontations of

are because they cannot accept the imperfect self. Shen Gongbao failed to accept himself from the heart, because he himself could not accept his past life. The prejudices in the minds of

people have been there since ancient times, and they have never disappeared, so why move them. What's the use of making everyone like yourself? If you don't like yourself, even if you dispel the prejudices in others' hearts, you still feel that the world is unfriendly to you.

So what we are going to fight against is not the prejudices in others' hearts, but our own prejudices.

2, Ao Bing: Even though he is the reincarnation of Lingzhu, he bears the burden of humiliation and bears the fate of the whole family. The Sea Dragon Palace is actually a prison.

has been carrying family hopes since birth. From the perspective of people, the dragon clan is also a different kind. Ao Bing, who has never chosen freely since he was a child, may never know what it feels like to resist. On the surface, he looks gentle and well-behaved, but in fact he wants to fight against all the life in front of him. Ao Bing may just not figure out why I have to save the whole family when I was born, shouldn't I live the life I want to live?

We have been arranged by our parents for our future life since we were young. Does this sound like us in reality? What we have to live by being educated by our parents and what we have to be educated by society when we grow up, when we find one day After realizing my own value, what I want to do most is to get rid of these restrictions. So when Ao Bing gained his learning and gained the ability, he wanted to do what he wanted to do, so he began to resist and refused to let him make friends. He just became friends with Nezha and refused to save Li Jing and his wife. But it was saved.

Ao Bing: I am a Yaozu, and I was doomed from the moment I was born. Nezha: Fart, other people's opinions are bullshit, whoever you are is only if you say it yourself. This is what Dad taught me. If your fate is unfair, fight it to the end. In the end,

was also completely awake because of Nezha's resistance, and chose to be the truest self instead of the self that his father and master expected.

3. Nezha: I can’t help my fate. Who I am I have the final say.

For Nezha, who has the protagonist's halo, the story seems a bit logical. This is why I now watch dramas but pay more attention to those who are not the protagonists. Their stories may reflect the lives of our ordinary people. But the story always needs a halo to compare.

Nezha, who was possessed by the magic pill by mistake, lived like a rich dude. He had been unscrupulous and defiant since he was a child, and people did not like him. In fact, people don't like him, not because of his life experience, but because he is really annoying. As an ordinary person, I naturally don't like people who always bully themselves. But everyone's impression of him was also caused by him.

This is not very similar to those in our lives who are actually very nice, but they just don’t speak well and love to offend others. You say that others are bad, he is not bad, but he chose such a mode of getting along with others. In fact, when it comes to the way of getting along, the way children get along is influenced by adults. Nezha's way of getting along with others is because of the influence of parents on his raising methods. Because it was the reincarnation of Maumaru, his parents were very fond of him, and everything was left to him. That's why he felt that he was omnipotent since he was a child.

In fact, Nezha could dominate his own destiny from the very beginning. I think the thunderstorm he experienced at the end was just to let him know that he was not omnipotent. As for the resistance of fate, what he wanted to resist was everyone's opposition. His disapproval. Everyone didn't approve of him just because of what he did, not because of his life experience, but he always felt that it was because he was a magic pill, so people didn't like it.

What kind of person you are is not determined by your family's birth, but by what you do.

Your family will provide you with many advantageous resources for your growth, but only you can decide what kind of person you eventually become. This is just like what Nezha said, whoever I am has the final say. What magic pill brings to Nezha is the evil side of human nature, but human nature is a mixture of good and evil, and everyone actually struggles with the evil in human nature all their lives. And the reason why we choose to be a kind person is because we believe that kindness is beautiful.

Shen Gongbao, Ao Bing, and Nezha, all the three of them confronted each other because they didn't accept that imperfect self. When you can't get along with yourself, you always think that the world can't get along with yourself. In fact, what the world is like depends on how you look at the world.

Zhang Haochen said in "You Are the Best You", if you still care about what others say about you, then you must subconsciously identify with what others say about you. Only when you are really strong can you not be afraid of any speech.

thinks about it, that’s true, so using the time and energy used to entangle others to evaluate yourself may be the best way to prove yourself.