1. After the "Smoked Chicken Incident" of Mai Yan, Mai Yu sucked blood and made money, the trial of Mai Lin reached the level of madness. "Do I deserve a cup of coffee?" "It didn't hit my heart." "Ugly cried..." Her few words and details became memes and sparked a huge online car
Maiyan Maiyu
Vampire and money-sucking
After the "Smoked Chicken Incident", the trial of Mai Lin reached the level of madness.
"Do I deserve a cup of coffee?"
"It didn't hit my heart."
"I cried so ugly..."
Her few words and details became a hot meme and set off a huge network. carnival.
This carnival brings huge traffic.
For example, the sales of smoked chicken with the "Maimai style" increased 10 times, and orders immediately exploded.
The Youth League mentioned by Li Xingliang has seen a surge in sales.
sales of Naipizi are also extremely good.
Mango TV is even more profitable.
The "early preview" for just 3 yuan has already attracted tens of millions of dollars for Mango.
In other words, when Mai Lin single-handedly exposed her abscesses and wounds, her disorder and dementia, she not only became a hot search topic, but also became a hot meme on the entire Internet.
are also constantly supplying blood to mangoes and businesses.
provides jokes for netizens.
provides blood packets for traffic.
Her pain and struggle, confusion and absurdity, like a whale falling, nourished thousands of people.
Does it violate media ethics to continue to sacrifice Mai Lin?
Slowly, some people with media conscience began to feel that something was wrong.
Some people started to ask:
Why did Mango Station choose Mailin?
Zhang Quanling once said that she was confused after dealing with Mai Lin for a few days.
It took just a few days to mess up Zhang Quanling, which shows Mai Lin's "combat power".
I believe that the producers and director team should have more or less sensed Mai Lin's madness and pain in the early stages.
After all, media people all have a sense of traffic like a dog.
can also predict in advance:
Mai Lin’s extreme words and deeds will lead to huge discussions.
Mai Lin’s paranoid disorder will arouse a lot of empathy or hatred.
At this time, as a huge media, whether Mango Channel focuses on commercial profits or respects communication ethics can tell their position and attitude.
At least don’t just predict traffic, hot searches, payment and new recruits.
Let’s also predict:
, has Mai Lin, who is severely under-socialized, registered for the huge public opinion risk?
, does she have a strong enough heart to face this unprecedented large-scale online violence?
, when focusing on her illness, is there any follow-up help and treatment?
, when she added a huge public opinion dilemma to her psychological dilemma, marital dilemma, and career dilemma, did Mango Channel take any measures to deal with the aftermath?
, will she commit suicide?
Otherwise, we only use the lens of curiosity to cut open her, examine her, and exhibit her, but there are no hands to hold her from behind the lens.
Is this too cruel?
is even worse.Is
suspected of eating human blood steamed buns?
Mailin is not npd
but needs professional help
Mailin should have a psychological defect.
but not npd.
Professional psychological counselors responded to the psychological conditions of several guests.
" Yang Zi is a standard NPD personality, but Mai Mai is not.
I feel that many people attack Mai Mai because they are triggered by trauma. After all, Mai Mai does have a lot of "traditional mother bad habits", The desire to control denies, belittles and frustrates children, but 'mothers and maimai' are also partly caused by systemic disempowerment.
Pay attention to this word: systemic disempowerment.
She is not a single loser of power, it is systemic.
There is loss and lack in every aspect, inside and out.
But tracing the reason, her husband cannot be avoided.
In the opinion of a psychological counselor, Li Xingliang looks "the best" among the three husbands. But it's not "perfect" either.
She noticed a detail.
Li Xingliang In life, there are many "passive attacks".
"Passive aggression" (passive aggression) , also called "hidden aggression".
Psychiatrist Daniel Hall Flavin says it's "a pattern of expressing negative emotions indirectly rather than overtly."
uses silence, delay, avoidance, cold war, perfunctory, secret revenge and other seemingly mild and harmless and covert ways to vent their emotions and express hidden anger and dissatisfaction.
for example.
When Mai Lin was hurt by the portrait and burst into tears, Li Xingliang did not say a word of comfort. Instead, he hugged the guitar and hid in the room to play the piano.
In the view of psychological counselors, this "picking up the guitar" is a defensive action of "setting up a barrier" and represents a refusal to communicate.
Thus,
Mai Lin’s “extreme lack” ➕ “systemic loss of power” met Li Xingliang’s “lack of concern” ➕ “passive aggression” 🟰 The evasive husband ➕ the collapsed wife ➕ the suffocating child.
Li Xingliang is a good husband
He is still a good character
Some people say that if Mai Lin is a normal person, they can survive.
Mai Lin is a normal person.
Before she regresses, her life is independent and her focus is not on her husband, she is agile and vital.
Please take a look at the video below. In the
video, she appears lively and full of energy. When
watched "Tian Tian Shang Shang", her life was not as garbled and disordered as a computer infected with a virus and Trojan horse. In the
program, she wore a bow tie and was very responsive.
Let’s zoom in on her photo. Isn't
pretty?
Her behavior was normal at that time.
When Li Xingliang was playing games, she said to her daughter: "Daddy is great, give him a kiss."
After her daughter finished kissing, she said: "I will give you a kiss too."
The family also seemed relatively harmonious. When did
start to get out of control?
First of all, she resigned from her job and went home to become a mother and housewife.
Coupled with the hardship they had suffered from money, she was extremely nervous about money.
With the only money he has, he can either buy Li Xingliang’s wardrobe, buy a guitar, a motorcycle, or a Mercedes Benz.
Later, he cut out every penny to buy a house.
She didn’t spend the remaining money. The
computer uses Li Xingliang’s old computer.
mobile phone has been used as an old mobile phone.
Trash can with paint bucket.
She saves her family's life.
also saved a house.
Li Xingliang also said that without her, he would not be able to buy a house at all.
But after a person is self-critical for a long time, his inner needs are suppressed, not seen and satisfied, and he will lose control.
If you are not satisfied with point a, you will find a balance at point b.
She will be very nervous, sometimes wanting, sometimes not... anxious and turbulent, paranoid and chaotic, which makes people exhausted.
The fundamental reason for this uneasiness and disorder is that her life has no real focus.
is like a ship without an anchor, going east and west for a while, with no certainty.
The focus she lost was herself.
If you feel empty inside, you will be busy looking for proof from the outside world.
Prove that you are valuable and loved.
proves that your efforts are worth it.
Her husband’s concern and feedback have become one of the ways of daily proof.
It’s a pity that Li Xingliang didn’t care enough about her.
She wanted a gift, and he gave a waist stool .
What is the waist stool?
is a tool for holding babies, and babies can sit on it.
In other words, the gifts are labor tools, not gifts.
He also sent a weird pennant.
It was two or three months after Mai Lin gave birth.
He wrote:
Mai Lin, the hero of the Li family (Just because she gave birth to a son?)
The higher the appearance, the greater the responsibility (implying to bear more?)
Rich as the East China Sea (At this time, Mai Lin is not working) Thinner than the railing (Mai Lin gained weight after giving birth, what does that mean?)
In the program, he said that it was okay for his wife to be fat. Off camera, he shows his true qualities as a man.
He is not very good at pleasing his wife.
is very good at pleasing himself.
buy a motorcycle.
Buy a Mercedes-Benz Grand G.
buy a guitar.
The company he opened for Mai Lin was also exposed to have problems.
is said to have a daily income of 60 yuan.
The actual income is all in his own name.
said that the money is with his wife.
But it’s just that she won’t spend it. If Mai Lin buys several Hermes at once, I wonder if he will say, "The money is with you, you can buy whatever you want."
In addition, the matter of sending off the Youth League also makes people feel complicated.
He took video of the whole process.
Depart at 5 am and fly to Shanghai. At 18:40 in the evening, I bought the Youth League and took a flight back to Beijing.
Netizens did some statistics and found that no matter what he did for his wife (frontal), he would take pictures with his mobile phone.
And in this video, there is a very intriguing detail:
Li Xingliang said that he went to Xinghualou to buy Youth League.
What I bought in the end was Shen Dacheng’s Youth League (cheaper? Better queue?) .
Before going home, he even tore off the label.
Some actions make people doubt whether he is a doting wife?
Maimai is just a tool, just an object, used to complete his subjective expression and external image output.
013.
Under the witness of Liu Huan and Lu Yu, he proposed to Mai Mai in the Greek Sea of Love.
Proposal requires a heroine.
Everyone has been looking for Maimai for a long time. As it turned out, she wasn't even there.
Where is she?
in ipad.
After the marriage proposal, a lot of press releases were posted online, and the establishment of Beloved Wife was very successful.
Now looking back at Li Xingliang’s proposal, it seems awkward and strange:
“It has been almost five years since we were together in 2008.
From singing on the track in Shenzhen, to participating in competitions in Changsha in 2010, renting a house in Changsha, and then When you came to live in Beipiao, you gave up your original comfortable life in order to take care of my food and daily life, which made you feel wronged.
If we were not romantic, we would be old. Today I am in the most beautiful place in the world, and I want to let the whole world enjoy it. Knowing how good this woman is to me, how happy I am..."
Then amidst the cheers at the scene, Li Xingliang shouted: "Marry me!"
Ah, what are you talking about? Who speaks? ! Is
a bit strange?
But he has asked for marriage proposals like this many times. Each time, there was a video shot.
This series of past events has made netizens suspect that a good man is just his mask, not the truth.
And he may have histrionic personality.
When the fast man was six to five, he competed with others.
The two PKs that night were both between Li Xingliang and Liu Xin.
In the first round, Li Xingliang lost.
In the second round, when the two finished singing and were waiting for the public judges to vote, Li Xingliang suddenly said:
"I have decided to give up my right to pk. I really hope that Liu Xin will continue to walk. Liu Xin is very talented, but he lacks self-confidence. .
I hope Liu Xin will continue to work for me with my talent and aura. ”
This thing is quite stupid.
Because I can’t afford to lose, I talk big words and build up my personality to avoid the consequences.
If his nature is like this, what Mai Mai feels in marriage should also be a lot of ritual fakeness and coldness in life.
Sweetness in the eyes of outsiders, but indifference in actual marriage.
Pathological symbiosis
Strangling each other
So, there is gradually a voice on the Internet that Li Xingliang is not innocent.
Zhang Quanling also said: "If Mai Lin is a more independent woman, Li Xingliang may not be happy."
They need each other.
You can say we share weal and woe, or you can say we share weal and woe.
No matter how you describe it, one fact cannot be avoided: Li Xingliang needs a "hollow person" like Mai Lin who is dedicated to him.
Li Xingliang also said in the program that if Mai Lin ranked the importance of her family as 50% for herself, 30% for her children and 20% for Li Xingliang, he would not be able to accept it.
He wants the functionality and service of Mailin.
hopes that the other party will give him space.
He once said that he is a traditional man.
wants a traditional wife.
What is tradition?
The man is the master of the house, the woman is the master of the house, and the husband is respected. The wife returns to the family and devotes everything to her husband and children.
Therefore, Mailin became the Mailin she is today, not because of her alone.
but the conspiracy of two people.
When they first met, , the beautiful and lively Mai Lin was already a perfect match for him who had nothing.
Because of love, she leaned down and gave him everything she had. When
joined Kuaiman, she rushed from Shenzhen to Changsha every week to organize support meetings.
Support is very tiring and expensive.
She spent thousands of dollars on her own.
She moved aid supplies and made aid props, which touched many fans.
At that time, when fans mentioned Maimai, the keywords were:
"Beautiful, sexy, and good person."
Li Xingliang once said that his parents had a bad relationship, but they were good to their children.
What he wants to continue is the love of parents for their children.
Let’s take a look at how his mother paid.
He once said that his mother, who was suffering from breast cancer, got up at 3:30 every day to make breakfast for him.
finally died of overwork. After
passed away, he began to miss him on his QQ signature.
But before his parents died, he "held a grudge" against his parents because he studied science instead of music.
asked endlessly for care while complaining that his mother did not understand him.
He also wanted to inherit his mother's love for him.
So, he found a "mom girlfriend".
Sure enough, what Mai Lin gave him was 100% dedication.
She said: "Apart from him, there will be no one I love more in this life."
This kind of yandere-like quotation is actually terrifying.
It means that the two will fight and strangle for the rest of their lives until they die. It also means that Mai Lin's pathology and paranoia will continue.
We are all for it. This fear.
The entire Internet also regarded her as politically correct.
Maiyan Maiyu
Vampire and money-sucking
After the "Smoked Chicken Incident", the trial of Mai Lin reached the level of madness.
"Do I deserve a cup of coffee?"
"It didn't hit my heart."
"I cried so ugly..."
Her few words and details became a hot meme and set off a huge network. carnival.
This carnival brings huge traffic.
For example, the sales of smoked chicken with the "Maimai style" increased 10 times, and orders immediately exploded.
The Youth League mentioned by Li Xingliang has seen a surge in sales.
sales of Naipizi are also extremely good.
Mango TV is even more profitable.
The "early preview" for just 3 yuan has already attracted tens of millions of dollars for Mango.
In other words, when Mai Lin single-handedly exposed her abscesses and wounds, her disorder and dementia, she not only became a hot search topic, but also became a hot meme on the entire Internet.
are also constantly supplying blood to mangoes and businesses.
provides jokes for netizens.
provides blood packets for traffic.
Her pain and struggle, confusion and absurdity, like a whale falling, nourished thousands of people.
Does it violate media ethics to continue to sacrifice Mai Lin?
Slowly, some people with media conscience began to feel that something was wrong.
Some people started to ask:
Why did Mango Station choose Mailin?
Zhang Quanling once said that she was confused after dealing with Mai Lin for a few days.
It took just a few days to mess up Zhang Quanling, which shows Mai Lin's "combat power".
I believe that the producers and director team should have more or less sensed Mai Lin's madness and pain in the early stages.
After all, media people all have a sense of traffic like a dog.
can also predict in advance:
Mai Lin’s extreme words and deeds will lead to huge discussions.
Mai Lin’s paranoid disorder will arouse a lot of empathy or hatred.
At this time, as a huge media, whether Mango Channel focuses on commercial profits or respects communication ethics can tell their position and attitude.
At least don’t just predict traffic, hot searches, payment and new recruits.
Let’s also predict:
, has Mai Lin, who is severely under-socialized, registered for the huge public opinion risk?
, does she have a strong enough heart to face this unprecedented large-scale online violence?
, when focusing on her illness, is there any follow-up help and treatment?
, will she commit suicide?
Otherwise, we only use the lens of curiosity to cut open her, examine her, and exhibit her, but there are no hands to hold her from behind the lens.
Is this too cruel?
is even worse.Is
suspected of eating human blood steamed buns?
Mailin is not npd
but needs professional help
Mailin should have a psychological defect.
but not npd.
Professional psychological counselors responded to the psychological conditions of several guests.
" Yang Zi is a standard NPD personality, but Mai Mai is not.
I feel that many people attack Mai Mai because they are triggered by trauma. After all, Mai Mai does have a lot of "traditional mother bad habits", The desire to control denies, belittles and frustrates children, but 'mothers and maimai' are also partly caused by systemic disempowerment.
Pay attention to this word: systemic disempowerment.
She is not a single loser of power, it is systemic.
There is loss and lack in every aspect, inside and out.
But tracing the reason, her husband cannot be avoided.
In the opinion of a psychological counselor, Li Xingliang looks "the best" among the three husbands. But it's not "perfect" either.
She noticed a detail.
Li Xingliang In life, there are many "passive attacks".
"Passive aggression" (passive aggression) , also called "hidden aggression".
Psychiatrist Daniel Hall Flavin says it's "a pattern of expressing negative emotions indirectly rather than overtly."
uses silence, delay, avoidance, cold war, perfunctory, secret revenge and other seemingly mild and harmless and covert ways to vent their emotions and express hidden anger and dissatisfaction.
for example.
When Mai Lin was hurt by the portrait and burst into tears, Li Xingliang did not say a word of comfort. Instead, he hugged the guitar and hid in the room to play the piano.
In the view of psychological counselors, this "picking up the guitar" is a defensive action of "setting up a barrier" and represents a refusal to communicate.
Thus,
Mai Lin’s “extreme lack” ➕ “systemic loss of power” met Li Xingliang’s “lack of concern” ➕ “passive aggression” 🟰 The evasive husband ➕ the collapsed wife ➕ the suffocating child.
