With the rise of "Her Movies", the female best friends in cp are almost ruined by marketing, most of them are plastic.
deliberately sells the lowest-end version of Ji Ji, and the audience will know it is fake at first glance.
"Amazing Girl" One wears an exaggerated big suit with a slung back, and speaks in a masculine voice in a low voice. The other has gentle curly hair and a good marriage style to highlight the stereotypical femininity. When talking in a meeting, one person will say that I am good at rational thinking, and the other person will say that I am good at emotional thinking.
sets of opposite-sex formulas also highlight the so-called same-sex complementarity. The head-butting intention is too strong and almost tarnishes female friendship.
And in the third episode of " Good things come in pairs " the original wife hated the mistress so much that in the fifth episode she washed her hands and made hangover soup for the mistress like a loving mother. The reason was that she discovered that she and her mistress both loved drinking iced American style drinks and had many similar hobbies (including men), so she immediately put aside their grudges and became close friends.
The barrage can tell that the audience is not fooled. Let the first wife and the mistress join forces to deliberately break the feeling of alliance. It is too deliberate and magical. The creator Chun Chun just underestimates female friendship and at the same time shamelessly squeezes in to get a share of the pie. (You said so? Chen Sicheng )
There are also some who somehow feel like sisters, and somehow they break up and reconcile later.
This inexplicable "deep" sisterhood is "rootless" if you look deeper.
" Golden Years " promotion period Ni Ni Liu Shishi heavily marketed sisterhood
but recently " Alley People " Huang Ling ( Yan Ni ) and Song Ying ( Jiang Xin Decorated) This pair of neighbors, known as Hua Fei x Shopkeeper Tong CP, are rare and well-shaped middle-aged sisters who are rare in recent years.
Everyone looked excited, envious, and happy.
"It is more important for you two to live a good life than anything else."
can feel that this time the sense of cp in the public's mouth is finally not exaggerated marketing or imagination, but accurately hits the hearts of the audience:
True · Chinese Girl Sisters are like lovers, knowing each other, helping each other, and loving each other.
They still fell in love at first sight.
When we first met, Song Ying was already notorious in the alley. She carried her child to the leader's house to cause trouble in order to divide the house. After such a quarrel, the fate of being neighbors with Huang Ling came.
When Huang Ling moved into the yard, Song Ying was quarreling with the neighbors next to her at the top of her lungs. Her words were not very nice:
Such a scolding look made not only the neighbors but also the children dislike Song Ying.
But Huang Ling immediately saw Song Ying clearly under the skin:
She was almost the only person besides Song Ying's family who had a good impression of Song Ying when they first met.
And Song Ying is fierce and fierce, which just fills the ecological niche of Huang Ling's husband who is meek and useless.
When Huang Ling first moved into the yard, her husband was away on a business trip, so she was bullied by others. It was inconvenient for her to have conflicts with others while raising her children. The reason why Song Ying was quarreling at the top of her lungs was because her neighbor was indifferent and opened holes in the wall regardless of the flooding in other people's yards.
What Song Ying protects is the common interest of her and Huang Ling, and Huang Ling is also accurately aware of this.
Later, Huang Ling’s husband came back, but he was still absent in many family functions.
Huang Ling’s husband is a teacher. After the college entrance examination was resumed, many people came to him for free tutoring, which affected their children’s ability to study at home. My husband is in a dilemma, but he is too embarrassed to tell the truth.
Song Ying broke out about being woken up while sleeping, and revealed the trouble others caused to Huang Ling's family. Huang Ling thanked Song Ying from the bottom of her heart.
Huang Ling encountered problems with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Her father-in-law threw a cup in the next room. Song Ying shouted at the top of her voice through the wall, letting the world know that Sister Ling had someone to support her.
Huang Ling is careful and virtuous, making clothes for Song Ying and the children.
When Song Ying's twenty-four filial husband occasionally shows up with a damn straight male aesthetic, Huang Ling can also provide emotional value to Song Ying, who loves beauty.
What do you want a husband for? We have sisters to praise!
These two complement each other perfectly in terms of personality and division of labor in the family, but it just makes the audience feel that it is more important for them to live a good life than anything else.
These visible candies are nothing, but what makes the audience swoon the most is the unexplained tacit understanding between the two of them.
In that era, pork had to be queued for rationing. It was finally the turn to eat meat. Just a second ago, Huang Ling was singing happily while preparing ribs for the children. The next second, the mother-in-law brought the whole family to eat meat under the guise of thinking about her grandson.
When Song Ying learned that Sister Ling’s mother-in-law was coming, she said scornfully:
I’m old.
It’s hard to digest after eating too much meat. Put more carrot shreds and pumpkin shreds
. The two looked at each other and smiled, which relieved Huang Ling of a lot of resentment, and started singing again.
The best sister in the world is the roundworm in your belly. You spit out all your bitterness from her mouth. She specializes in treating breast glands.
Sometimes, they even bring out the emotional needs that the other party has hidden and that they have almost forgotten.
Huang Ling replaced her dowry sewing machine in order to buy a bicycle for her child. Before giving away the sewing machine, she made a new dress for Song Ying.
Song Ying was very happy and asked Huang Ling to do it for herself. Huang Ling's native family was actually very wealthy, but after marrying into a married woman, she became disgraced and managed the family, and she no longer had the time or resources to dress herself up.
Song Ying said: You must also want to dress beautifully.
Huang Ling covered her face, turned her head and cried. She hasn't been treated as an independent individual by others for a long, long time.
This kind of emotional need to provide "what you like", let alone others, may have been ignored by Huang Ling herself for a long time. Huang Ling said thank you, that kind of touching and emotional connection, at that moment, had long surpassed the husband who shared the same bed.
and above allow them to present a cp feeling like a love relationship:
The person who is the best match for you must be the person who can make you better.
The plastic-looking female sisters mass-produced by domestic dramas often lack this point: they only have the appearance of intimacy, but no root of mutual understanding and mutual help.
always jumps back and forth between breaking up and making up. It sounds good even if the wind blows it away, but such a relationship that consumes each other is not called good sisters, it is generally called a bad relationship, which is not good for both parties.
is like " Ode to Joy ". The setting is also the love between neighbor sisters who love each other. As an outsider, it seems lively to us, but when you come to yourself, in reality, if you want to be like this, you will have different thoughts, living habits and temperaments. "Sisters" together?
Thinking about it, it’s still more annoying than heartwarming. There’s no need to force it, let alone force it.
The relationship between besties in "Alley People" is yearning. It not only gives us a sense of scarcity that is specific to the generation, but also resonates with women across generations.
is set in the 1970s. The houses assigned to female workers in the same factory are both colleagues and neighbors. The unique enthusiasm of the innocent era is the beginning of their sisterhood.
But now we live in a society where “neighborhood disappears”, and there is basically no neighborhood relationship.
After living here for a year and a half, I probably don’t even know whether the other person is a boy or a girl. What's more, can a wealthy daughter, a returnee elite, a working woman, and a working novice, all with different identities and backgrounds, really be able to empathize effectively and become close and good sisters?
only uses shared accommodation to bring the physical distance closer, but ignores the reality of differences between people. It concocts a sisterly relationship, leaving this relationship without roots, and the audience naturally does not believe it. The same goes for
" Thirty Only ". Luxury goods seller Wang Manni just helped Zhong Xiaoqin pay the money, and the two became good friends after going back and forth.
As a native, Zhong Xiaoqin helped Wang Manni unconditionally and even gave her a house to live in. Finally, he introduced her to Gu Jia, a wealthy and beautiful goddess who lives in a mansion.
And the portrayal of Wang Manni and Gu Jia as best friends is even more unreliable.
Zhong Xiaoqin, a real estate worker, and Gu Jia, a luxury home owner, somehow use small settings to dilute class differences. Wang Manni and Gu Jia, a migrant worker and a boss lady, can actually become good best friends?
You must know that in real life, ordinary people who have cross-class acquaintances are considered to have met noble people. Having two cross-class best friends like Wang Manni overnight is only an exaggerated and distorted golden finger of the screenwriter.
"The North and the South" is even more fake.
Because Simeng helped You Shanshan find her lost wallet, and then You Shanshan started her own journey of giving. The first time he visited her, he gave her a luxurious washing machine, then he gave her toys and fruits, and finally he got her to open a restaurant as a partner.
and Bao Xue, whom she met at a wine shop, met each other a few times, and she forced them to open a restaurant together. When they didn't have money, she lent them money to invest in her, interest-free.
When the drama was aired, You Shanshan was criticized for being a virgin, which also proved that the sisterhood in the drama has no cause and effect at all. It is just a lazy use of the love of a virgin woman to win over people for no reason, and deliberately highlights the nonsense of a group of female friendships.
Nowadays, film and television dramas like to emphasize the inclusiveness of women, undifferentiated fraternity and mutual help. Neighbors and even random passers-by would wrap themselves up and love each other unconditionally.
In fact, whether it is the geographical advantages of neighbors or chance encounters with people, they are only objective opportunities and are not the key to friendship. The particularity of the female friendship in
is that:
is different from the mutual complaints between lovers who met ignorantly when they were young girls. It is more based on a high degree of spiritual resonance and a silent understanding left over by the passing of time. The friendship between women in
is limited.
The actual busyness and existing experience make it impossible for them to unconditionally start or deliberately cultivate a true friendship regardless of the cost of time and without any judgment. When people reach middle age, the friendship between middle-aged women is actually a choice that is highly suitable for themselves. The friendship between girls in
is not as good as the love between girls, but there are clear selection conditions.
The initial friendship between Huang Ling and Song Ying had a clear intention of taking advantage of each other. She found that the most useful thing about her neighbor's family was Huang Ling's son, who was both good at character and academics, and could help discipline her naughty children.
So she has a good relationship with Huang Ling, but in fact she cares more about Huang Ling's son.
Huang Ling had a conflict with her husband and returned to her parents' home. Song Ying was superficially concerned about when Sister Ling would come back, but what she actually cared about was when Sister Ling's son would come back (to help me take care of my son).
Sister Ling’s son is called Tunan
Huang Ling also used Song Ying’s shrewdness to solve a lot of troubles at the beginning.
This kind of mutual benefit is very pragmatic.
Just like the outspoken Song Ying, she always expressed that she felt that being with Huang Ling was a "good deal" and that she had earned it. This in itself is great for an adult relationship.
Neither of them is playing any dark tricks. Everyone understands each other's thoughts and is tacitly willing to be "used" by each other, forming a tacit understanding of mutual need and help.
The source of their mutual understanding was originally based on their identity as mothers.
Song Ying was moved to tears when she saw that her child finally had an older brother and sister to accompany her. Huang Ling understood her deep love for her son and took the initiative to tell her that they would help each other from now on.
Huang Ling had a conflict with her husband because her mother-in-law always wanted to take advantage of her children's food rations. The husband couldn't see through this and just thought Huang Ling was stingy and unwilling to be filial. Song Ying turned into Huang Ling and spoke for her, scolding Huang Ling's husband.
They all also have a kind background, and like people always attract each other.
has a female neighbor who is the control group of their friendship.
The female neighbors treat their stepdaughters differently, but Song Ying and Huang Ling will always find ways to take care of the neighbor's stepdaughter who no one cares about, braiding her hair and sewing her bra.
Song Ying and Huang Ling actually helped each other and truly improved each other's lives. Based on their understanding of each other's motherly hearts, as time went on, they recognized each other's kindness, developed trust, and began to have a financial relationship. of dealings.
Money is a particularly sensitive link in adult communication. After crossing this link, they can almost be regarded as biological sisters.
Huang Ling lent her hard-earned money to Song Ying to buy a TV set. On the one hand, she wanted to help, and on the other hand, she wanted to avoid her mother-in-law's coveting. She treats Song Ying as a bank depositary, so don't trust her too much.
And Song Ying regards Huang Ling's child as her own, and sometimes her priority is even higher than her own son. How high is it? She used the money to buy a TV for her children and bought a bicycle for Huang Ling's son first, without even saying it was a loan.
From functional mutual assistance to absolute trust, it is the first half of the process of cultivating friendship. The relationship between best friends is the same as the relationship between marriage, but the key to ultimately determining how far the friendship will go is the bottom line.
When you are being judged, how will the other person look at you and treat you?
is like Zhen Huan and Meizhuang.
They were once instigated by the Queen Mother, and their relationship broke down for a time.
But what makes them different from An Lingrong is that An Lingrong's separation is accompanied by betrayal and even adding insult to injury.
In other words, once An Lingrong stops being friends with you, she will become your enemy.
But Meizhuang is just alienating Zhen Huan and cannot turn around and attack Zhen Huan. The same goes for Zhen Huan. Others noticed their alienation and wanted to pry her into saying something bad about Meizhuang.
That’s the bottom line. They can be temporarily estranged, but they can never backstab each other.
This bottom line stems not only from the care they have for each other in their hearts, but also from the fact that they must be sober women with independent judgment.
Actually Song Ying and Huang Ling did not meet in the yard of their new home for the first time. When Song Ying was standing on the street as a shrew arguing with others about the house, Huang Ling passed by and saw her.
She did not watch Song Ying's moral judgment like most people, but walked away silently. After the meeting, Song Ying saw that her child finally had someone to cry with. Huang Ling also joked:
When you left your child at the leader's house to fight for a house, didn't you also go home and cry secretly?
It can be seen that although Huang Ling cannot act in the same way as Song Ying, she believes from the bottom of her heart that Song Ying is not wrong.
She doesn’t judge her, she empathizes with her.
Unlike what others say, she looked at the fierce Song Ying with such a clear mind. Only then could she get along with Song Ying without prejudice and eventually become good friends.
In Huang Ling's opinion, Song Ying's words are not pleasant, but her intentions are not bad. Unlike her mother-in-law, she is nice but has a bad heart. She is like a mirror and has her own judgment.
It is not so much that the female sisters rely on contact, but more on selection and finding. And the found by is often one that is both similar and complementary to itself.
Therefore, the real Chinese female CP belongs to a small number of people, even one-to-one, and is as unique as love. This kind of soul compatibility is ultimately related to the character's underlying personality and outlook.
Before she was assigned a house, Huang Ling mentioned to her husband that Song Ying was causing trouble with the boss, hoping that her husband would give her some advice so that she could be assigned a house quickly.
As a result, her husband began to output pedantic and lofty theories again. Huang Ling turned her head and didn't want to listen at all. After
came into contact with Song Ying, Song Ying output: We just want to fight for our own interests, and we have to rely on ourselves to live our lives.
Huang Ling’s eyes brightened after listening.
Her soulmate radar went off.
They seem to be two completely different people, but in fact they have the same views. The strong, tough, yet soft character of the bottom character is exactly the same.
Although Huang Ling was not good at making noises, in order to fight for the interests of her children, in that relatively closed era, she even dared to achieve her goals at the expense of divorce. To a certain extent, she is more aggressive and strong than Song Ying.
The two of them worked hard together, wearing sweaters day and night, eating boring snake melon to save money, earning and saving money, and never complained about anything. It touches the softness in my heart and makes me cry silently.
The beauty of their friendship is that they look different but are very similar on the inside.
Only then did we know how to heal each other and appreciate each other.
Female friendship can be like ten thousand kinds of love. The only thing that doesn't look like
is the cp play-acting of false marketing on hot searches.
Song Ying broke out about being woken up while sleeping, and revealed the trouble others caused to Huang Ling's family. Huang Ling thanked Song Ying from the bottom of her heart.
Huang Ling encountered problems with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Her father-in-law threw a cup in the next room. Song Ying shouted at the top of her voice through the wall, letting the world know that Sister Ling had someone to support her.
Huang Ling is careful and virtuous, making clothes for Song Ying and the children.
When Song Ying's twenty-four filial husband occasionally shows up with a damn straight male aesthetic, Huang Ling can also provide emotional value to Song Ying, who loves beauty.
What do you want a husband for? We have sisters to praise!
These two complement each other perfectly in terms of personality and division of labor in the family, but it just makes the audience feel that it is more important for them to live a good life than anything else.
These visible candies are nothing, but what makes the audience swoon the most is the unexplained tacit understanding between the two of them.
In that era, pork had to be queued for rationing. It was finally the turn to eat meat. Just a second ago, Huang Ling was singing happily while preparing ribs for the children. The next second, the mother-in-law brought the whole family to eat meat under the guise of thinking about her grandson.
When Song Ying learned that Sister Ling’s mother-in-law was coming, she said scornfully:
I’m old.
It’s hard to digest after eating too much meat. Put more carrot shreds and pumpkin shreds
. The two looked at each other and smiled, which relieved Huang Ling of a lot of resentment, and started singing again.
The best sister in the world is the roundworm in your belly. You spit out all your bitterness from her mouth. She specializes in treating breast glands.
Sometimes, they even bring out the emotional needs that the other party has hidden and that they have almost forgotten.
Huang Ling replaced her dowry sewing machine in order to buy a bicycle for her child. Before giving away the sewing machine, she made a new dress for Song Ying.
Song Ying was very happy and asked Huang Ling to do it for herself. Huang Ling's native family was actually very wealthy, but after marrying into a married woman, she became disgraced and managed the family, and she no longer had the time or resources to dress herself up.
Song Ying said: You must also want to dress beautifully.
Huang Ling covered her face, turned her head and cried. She hasn't been treated as an independent individual by others for a long, long time.
This kind of emotional need to provide "what you like", let alone others, may have been ignored by Huang Ling herself for a long time. Huang Ling said thank you, that kind of touching and emotional connection, at that moment, had long surpassed the husband who shared the same bed.
and above allow them to present a cp feeling like a love relationship:
The person who is the best match for you must be the person who can make you better.
The plastic-looking female sisters mass-produced by domestic dramas often lack this point: they only have the appearance of intimacy, but no root of mutual understanding and mutual help.
always jumps back and forth between breaking up and making up. It sounds good even if the wind blows it away, but such a relationship that consumes each other is not called good sisters, it is generally called a bad relationship, which is not good for both parties.
is like " Ode to Joy ". The setting is also the love between neighbor sisters who love each other. As an outsider, it seems lively to us, but when you come to yourself, in reality, if you want to be like this, you will have different thoughts, living habits and temperaments. "Sisters" together?
Thinking about it, it’s still more annoying than heartwarming. There’s no need to force it, let alone force it.
The relationship between besties in "Alley People" is yearning. It not only gives us a sense of scarcity that is specific to the generation, but also resonates with women across generations.
is set in the 1970s. The houses assigned to female workers in the same factory are both colleagues and neighbors. The unique enthusiasm of the innocent era is the beginning of their sisterhood.
But now we live in a society where “neighborhood disappears”, and there is basically no neighborhood relationship.
After living here for a year and a half, I probably don’t even know whether the other person is a boy or a girl. What's more, can a wealthy daughter, a returnee elite, a working woman, and a working novice, all with different identities and backgrounds, really be able to empathize effectively and become close and good sisters?
only uses shared accommodation to bring the physical distance closer, but ignores the reality of differences between people. It concocts a sisterly relationship, leaving this relationship without roots, and the audience naturally does not believe it. The same goes for
" Thirty Only ". Luxury goods seller Wang Manni just helped Zhong Xiaoqin pay the money, and the two became good friends after going back and forth.
As a native, Zhong Xiaoqin helped Wang Manni unconditionally and even gave her a house to live in. Finally, he introduced her to Gu Jia, a wealthy and beautiful goddess who lives in a mansion.
And the portrayal of Wang Manni and Gu Jia as best friends is even more unreliable.
Zhong Xiaoqin, a real estate worker, and Gu Jia, a luxury home owner, somehow use small settings to dilute class differences. Wang Manni and Gu Jia, a migrant worker and a boss lady, can actually become good best friends?
You must know that in real life, ordinary people who have cross-class acquaintances are considered to have met noble people. Having two cross-class best friends like Wang Manni overnight is only an exaggerated and distorted golden finger of the screenwriter.
"The North and the South" is even more fake.
Because Simeng helped You Shanshan find her lost wallet, and then You Shanshan started her own journey of giving. The first time he visited her, he gave her a luxurious washing machine, then he gave her toys and fruits, and finally he got her to open a restaurant as a partner.
and Bao Xue, whom she met at a wine shop, met each other a few times, and she forced them to open a restaurant together. When they didn't have money, she lent them money to invest in her, interest-free.
When the drama was aired, You Shanshan was criticized for being a virgin, which also proved that the sisterhood in the drama has no cause and effect at all. It is just a lazy use of the love of a virgin woman to win over people for no reason, and deliberately highlights the nonsense of a group of female friendships.
Nowadays, film and television dramas like to emphasize the inclusiveness of women, undifferentiated fraternity and mutual help. Neighbors and even random passers-by would wrap themselves up and love each other unconditionally.
In fact, whether it is the geographical advantages of neighbors or chance encounters with people, they are only objective opportunities and are not the key to friendship. The particularity of the female friendship in
is that:
is different from the mutual complaints between lovers who met ignorantly when they were young girls. It is more based on a high degree of spiritual resonance and a silent understanding left over by the passing of time. The friendship between women in
is limited.
The actual busyness and existing experience make it impossible for them to unconditionally start or deliberately cultivate a true friendship regardless of the cost of time and without any judgment. When people reach middle age, the friendship between middle-aged women is actually a choice that is highly suitable for themselves. The friendship between girls in
is not as good as the love between girls, but there are clear selection conditions.
The initial friendship between Huang Ling and Song Ying had a clear intention of taking advantage of each other. She found that the most useful thing about her neighbor's family was Huang Ling's son, who was both good at character and academics, and could help discipline her naughty children.
So she has a good relationship with Huang Ling, but in fact she cares more about Huang Ling's son.
Huang Ling had a conflict with her husband and returned to her parents' home. Song Ying was superficially concerned about when Sister Ling would come back, but what she actually cared about was when Sister Ling's son would come back (to help me take care of my son).
Sister Ling’s son is called Tunan
Huang Ling also used Song Ying’s shrewdness to solve a lot of troubles at the beginning.
This kind of mutual benefit is very pragmatic.
Just like the outspoken Song Ying, she always expressed that she felt that being with Huang Ling was a "good deal" and that she had earned it. This in itself is great for an adult relationship.
Neither of them is playing any dark tricks. Everyone understands each other's thoughts and is tacitly willing to be "used" by each other, forming a tacit understanding of mutual need and help.
The source of their mutual understanding was originally based on their identity as mothers.
Song Ying was moved to tears when she saw that her child finally had an older brother and sister to accompany her. Huang Ling understood her deep love for her son and took the initiative to tell her that they would help each other from now on.
Huang Ling had a conflict with her husband because her mother-in-law always wanted to take advantage of her children's food rations. The husband couldn't see through this and just thought Huang Ling was stingy and unwilling to be filial. Song Ying turned into Huang Ling and spoke for her, scolding Huang Ling's husband.
They all also have a kind background, and like people always attract each other.
has a female neighbor who is the control group of their friendship.
The female neighbors treat their stepdaughters differently, but Song Ying and Huang Ling will always find ways to take care of the neighbor's stepdaughter who no one cares about, braiding her hair and sewing her bra.
Song Ying and Huang Ling actually helped each other and truly improved each other's lives. Based on their understanding of each other's motherly hearts, as time went on, they recognized each other's kindness, developed trust, and began to have a financial relationship. of dealings.
Money is a particularly sensitive link in adult communication. After crossing this link, they can almost be regarded as biological sisters.
Huang Ling lent her hard-earned money to Song Ying to buy a TV set. On the one hand, she wanted to help, and on the other hand, she wanted to avoid her mother-in-law's coveting. She treats Song Ying as a bank depositary, so don't trust her too much.
And Song Ying regards Huang Ling's child as her own, and sometimes her priority is even higher than her own son. How high is it? She used the money to buy a TV for her children and bought a bicycle for Huang Ling's son first, without even saying it was a loan.
From functional mutual assistance to absolute trust, it is the first half of the process of cultivating friendship. The relationship between best friends is the same as the relationship between marriage, but the key to ultimately determining how far the friendship will go is the bottom line.
When you are being judged, how will the other person look at you and treat you?
is like Zhen Huan and Meizhuang.
They were once instigated by the Queen Mother, and their relationship broke down for a time.
But what makes them different from An Lingrong is that An Lingrong's separation is accompanied by betrayal and even adding insult to injury.
In other words, once An Lingrong stops being friends with you, she will become your enemy.
But Meizhuang is just alienating Zhen Huan and cannot turn around and attack Zhen Huan. The same goes for Zhen Huan. Others noticed their alienation and wanted to pry her into saying something bad about Meizhuang.
That’s the bottom line. They can be temporarily estranged, but they can never backstab each other.
This bottom line stems not only from the care they have for each other in their hearts, but also from the fact that they must be sober women with independent judgment.
Actually Song Ying and Huang Ling did not meet in the yard of their new home for the first time. When Song Ying was standing on the street as a shrew arguing with others about the house, Huang Ling passed by and saw her.
She did not watch Song Ying's moral judgment like most people, but walked away silently. After the meeting, Song Ying saw that her child finally had someone to cry with. Huang Ling also joked:
When you left your child at the leader's house to fight for a house, didn't you also go home and cry secretly?
It can be seen that although Huang Ling cannot act in the same way as Song Ying, she believes from the bottom of her heart that Song Ying is not wrong.
She doesn’t judge her, she empathizes with her.
Unlike what others say, she looked at the fierce Song Ying with such a clear mind. Only then could she get along with Song Ying without prejudice and eventually become good friends.
In Huang Ling's opinion, Song Ying's words are not pleasant, but her intentions are not bad. Unlike her mother-in-law, she is nice but has a bad heart. She is like a mirror and has her own judgment.
It is not so much that the female sisters rely on contact, but more on selection and finding. And the found by is often one that is both similar and complementary to itself.
Therefore, the real Chinese female CP belongs to a small number of people, even one-to-one, and is as unique as love. This kind of soul compatibility is ultimately related to the character's underlying personality and outlook.
Before she was assigned a house, Huang Ling mentioned to her husband that Song Ying was causing trouble with the boss, hoping that her husband would give her some advice so that she could be assigned a house quickly.
As a result, her husband began to output pedantic and lofty theories again. Huang Ling turned her head and didn't want to listen at all. After
came into contact with Song Ying, Song Ying output: We just want to fight for our own interests, and we have to rely on ourselves to live our lives.
Huang Ling’s eyes brightened after listening.
Her soulmate radar went off.
They seem to be two completely different people, but in fact they have the same views. The strong, tough, yet soft character of the bottom character is exactly the same.
Although Huang Ling was not good at making noises, in order to fight for the interests of her children, in that relatively closed era, she even dared to achieve her goals at the expense of divorce. To a certain extent, she is more aggressive and strong than Song Ying.
The two of them worked hard together, wearing sweaters day and night, eating boring snake melon to save money, earning and saving money, and never complained about anything. It touches the softness in my heart and makes me cry silently.
The beauty of their friendship is that they look different but are very similar on the inside.
Only then did we know how to heal each other and appreciate each other.
Female friendship can be like ten thousand kinds of love. The only thing that doesn't look like
is the cp play-acting of false marketing on hot searches. With the rise of "Her Movies", the female best friends in cp are almost ruined by marketing, most of them are plastic. deliberately sells the lowest-end version of Ji Ji, and the audience will know it is fake at first glance. "Amazing Girl" One wears an exaggerated big suit with a slung back, and speaks in a masculine voice in a low voice. The other has gentle curly hair and a good marriage style to highlight the stereotypical femininity. When talking in a meeting, one person will say that I am good at rational thinking, and the other person will say that I am good at emotional thinking. sets of opposite-sex formulas also highlight the so-called same-sex complementarity. The head-butting intention is too strong and almost tarnishes female friendship. And in the third episode of " Good things come in pairs " the original wife hated the mistress so much that in the fifth episode she washed her hands and made hangover soup for the mistress like a loving mother. The reason was that she discovered that she and her mistress both loved drinking iced American style drinks and had many similar hobbies (including men), so she immediately put aside their grudges and became close friends. The barrage can tell that the audience is not fooled. Let the first wife and the mistress join forces to deliberately break the feeling of alliance. It is too deliberate and magical. The creator Chun Chun just underestimates female friendship and at the same time shamelessly squeezes in to get a share of the pie. (You said so? Chen Sicheng ) There are also some who somehow feel like sisters, and somehow they break up and reconcile later. This inexplicable "deep" sisterhood is "rootless" if you look deeper. " Golden Years " promotion period Ni Ni Liu Shishi heavily marketed sisterhood but recently " Alley People " Huang Ling ( Yan Ni ) and Song Ying ( Jiang Xin Decorated) This pair of neighbors, known as Hua Fei x Shopkeeper Tong CP, are rare and well-shaped middle-aged sisters who are rare in recent years. Everyone looked excited, envious, and happy. "It is more important for you two to live a good life than anything else." can feel that this time the sense of cp in the public's mouth is finally not exaggerated marketing or imagination, but accurately hits the hearts of the audience: True · Chinese Girl Sisters are like lovers, knowing each other, helping each other, and loving each other. They still fell in love at first sight. When we first met, Song Ying was already notorious in the alley. She carried her child to the leader's house to cause trouble in order to divide the house. After such a quarrel, the fate of being neighbors with Huang Ling came. When Huang Ling moved into the yard, Song Ying was quarreling with the neighbors next to her at the top of her lungs. Her words were not very nice: Such a scolding look made not only the neighbors but also the children dislike Song Ying. But Huang Ling immediately saw Song Ying clearly under the skin: She was almost the only person besides Song Ying's family who had a good impression of Song Ying when they first met. And Song Ying is fierce and fierce, which just fills the ecological niche of Huang Ling's husband who is meek and useless. When Huang Ling first moved into the yard, her husband was away on a business trip, so she was bullied by others. It was inconvenient for her to have conflicts with others while raising her children. The reason why Song Ying was quarreling at the top of her lungs was because her neighbor was indifferent and opened holes in the wall regardless of the flooding in other people's yards. What Song Ying protects is the common interest of her and Huang Ling, and Huang Ling is also accurately aware of this. Later, Huang Ling’s husband came back, but he was still absent in many family functions. Huang Ling’s husband is a teacher. After the college entrance examination was resumed, many people came to him for free tutoring, which affected their children’s ability to study at home. My husband is in a dilemma, but he is too embarrassed to tell the truth. Song Ying broke out about being woken up while sleeping, and revealed the trouble others caused to Huang Ling's family. Huang Ling thanked Song Ying from the bottom of her heart. Huang Ling encountered problems with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Her father-in-law threw a cup in the next room. Song Ying shouted at the top of her voice through the wall, letting the world know that Sister Ling had someone to support her. Huang Ling is careful and virtuous, making clothes for Song Ying and the children. When Song Ying's twenty-four filial husband occasionally shows up with a damn straight male aesthetic, Huang Ling can also provide emotional value to Song Ying, who loves beauty. What do you want a husband for? We have sisters to praise! These two complement each other perfectly in terms of personality and division of labor in the family, but it just makes the audience feel that it is more important for them to live a good life than anything else. These visible candies are nothing, but what makes the audience swoon the most is the unexplained tacit understanding between the two of them. In that era, pork had to be queued for rationing. It was finally the turn to eat meat. Just a second ago, Huang Ling was singing happily while preparing ribs for the children. The next second, the mother-in-law brought the whole family to eat meat under the guise of thinking about her grandson. When Song Ying learned that Sister Ling and her mother-in-law were coming, she said scornfully: I’m old It’s hard to digest after eating too much meat Put more shredded carrots and pumpkins The two of them looked at each other and smiled, and Huang Ling was relieved a lot. Resentment, the song started singing again. The best sister in the world is the roundworm in your belly. You spit out all your bitterness from her mouth. She specializes in treating breast glands. Sometimes, they even bring out the emotional needs that the other party has hidden and that they have almost forgotten. Huang Ling replaced her dowry sewing machine in order to buy a bicycle for her child. Before giving away the sewing machine, she made a new dress for Song Ying. Song Ying was very happy and asked Huang Ling to do it for herself. Huang Ling's native family was actually very wealthy, but after marrying into a married woman, she became disgraced and managed the family, and she no longer had the time or resources to dress herself up. Song Ying said: You must also want to dress beautifully. Huang Ling covered her face, turned her head and cried. She hasn't been treated as an independent individual by others for a long, long time. This kind of emotional need to provide "what you like", let alone others, may have been ignored by Huang Ling herself for a long time. Huang Ling said thank you, that kind of touching and emotional connection, at that moment, had long surpassed the husband who shared the same bed. and above allow them to present a cp feeling like a love relationship: The person who is the best match for you must be the person who can make you better. The plastic-looking female sisters mass-produced by domestic dramas often lack this point: they only have the appearance of intimacy, but no root of mutual understanding and mutual help. always jumps back and forth between breaking up and making up. It sounds good even if the wind blows it away, but such a relationship that consumes each other is not called good sisters, it is generally called a bad relationship, which is not good for both parties. is like " Ode to Joy ". The setting is also the love between neighbor sisters who love each other. As an outsider, it seems lively to us, but when you come to yourself, in reality, if you want to be like this, you will have different thoughts, living habits and temperaments. "Sisters" together? Thinking about it, it’s still more annoying than heartwarming. There’s no need to force it, let alone force it. The relationship between besties in "Alley People" is yearning. It not only gives us a sense of scarcity that is specific to the generation, but also resonates with women across generations. is set in the 1970s. The houses assigned to female workers in the same factory are both colleagues and neighbors. The unique enthusiasm of the innocent era is the beginning of their sisterhood. But now we live in a society where “neighborhood disappears”, and there is basically no neighborhood relationship. After living here for a year and a half, I probably don’t even know whether the other person is a boy or a girl. What's more, can a wealthy daughter, a returnee elite, a working woman, and a working novice, all with different identities and backgrounds, really be able to empathize effectively and become close and good sisters? only uses shared accommodation to bring the physical distance closer, but ignores the reality of differences between people. It concocts a sisterly relationship, leaving this relationship without roots, and the audience naturally does not believe it. The same goes for " Thirty Only ". Luxury goods seller Wang Manni just helped Zhong Xiaoqin pay the money, and the two became good friends after going back and forth. As a native, Zhong Xiaoqin helped Wang Manni unconditionally and even gave her a house to live in. Finally, he introduced her to Gu Jia, a wealthy and beautiful goddess who lives in a mansion. And the portrayal of Wang Manni and Gu Jia as best friends is even more unreliable. Zhong Xiaoqin, a real estate worker, and Gu Jia, a luxury home owner, somehow use small settings to dilute class differences. Wang Manni and Gu Jia, a migrant worker and a boss lady, can actually become good best friends? You must know that in real life, ordinary people who have cross-class acquaintances are considered to have met noble people. Having two cross-class best friends like Wang Manni overnight is only an exaggerated and distorted golden finger of the screenwriter. "The North and the South" is even more fake. Because Simeng helped You Shanshan find her lost wallet, and then You Shanshan started her own journey of giving. The first time he visited her, he gave her a luxurious washing machine, then he gave her toys and fruits, and finally he got her to open a restaurant as a partner. and Bao Xue, whom she met at a wine shop, met each other a few times, and she forced them to open a restaurant together. When they didn't have money, she lent them money to invest in her, interest-free. When the drama was aired, You Shanshan was criticized for being a virgin, which also proved that the sisterhood in the drama has no cause and effect at all. It is just a lazy use of the love of a virgin woman to win over people for no reason, and deliberately highlights the nonsense of a group of female friendships. Nowadays, film and television dramas like to emphasize the inclusiveness of women, undifferentiated fraternity and mutual help. Neighbors and even random passers-by would wrap themselves up and love each other unconditionally. In fact, whether it is the geographical advantages of neighbors or chance encounters with people, they are only objective opportunities and are not the key to friendship. The particularity of the female friendship in is that: is different from the mutual complaints between lovers who met ignorantly when they were young girls. It is more based on a high degree of spiritual resonance and a silent understanding left over by the passing of time. The friendship between women in is limited. The actual busyness and existing experience make it impossible for them to unconditionally start or deliberately cultivate a true friendship regardless of the cost of time and without any judgment. When people reach middle age, the friendship between middle-aged women is actually a choice that is highly suitable for themselves. The friendship between girls in is not as good as the love between girls, but there are clear selection conditions. The initial friendship between Huang Ling and Song Ying had a clear intention of taking advantage of each other. She found that the most useful thing about her neighbor's family was Huang Ling's son, who was both good at character and academics, and could help discipline her naughty children. So she has a good relationship with Huang Ling, but in fact she cares more about Huang Ling's son. Huang Ling had a conflict with her husband and returned to her parents' home. Song Ying was superficially concerned about when Sister Ling would come back, but what she actually cared about was when Sister Ling's son would come back (to help me take care of my son). Sister Ling’s son is called Tunan Huang Ling also used Song Ying’s shrewdness to solve a lot of troubles at the beginning. This kind of mutual benefit is very pragmatic. Just like the outspoken Song Ying, she always expressed that she felt that being with Huang Ling was a "good deal" and that she had earned it. This in itself is great for an adult relationship. Neither of them is playing any dark tricks. Everyone understands each other's thoughts and is tacitly willing to be "used" by each other, forming a tacit understanding of mutual need and help. The source of their mutual understanding was originally based on their identity as mothers. Song Ying was moved to tears when she saw that her child finally had an older brother and sister to accompany her. Huang Ling understood her deep love for her son and took the initiative to tell her that they would help each other from now on. Huang Ling had a conflict with her husband because her mother-in-law always wanted to take advantage of her children's food rations. The husband couldn't see through this and just thought Huang Ling was stingy and unwilling to be filial. Song Ying turned into Huang Ling and spoke for her, scolding Huang Ling's husband. They all also have a kind background, and like people always attract each other. has a female neighbor who is the control group of their friendship. The female neighbors treat their stepdaughters differently, but Song Ying and Huang Ling will always find ways to take care of the neighbor's stepdaughter who no one cares about, braiding her hair and sewing her bra. Song Ying and Huang Ling actually helped each other and truly improved each other's lives. Based on their understanding of each other's motherly hearts, as time went on, they recognized each other's kindness, developed trust, and began to have a financial relationship. of dealings. Money is a particularly sensitive link in adult communication. After crossing this link, they can almost be regarded as biological sisters. Huang Ling lent her hard-earned money to Song Ying to buy a TV set. On the one hand, she wanted to help, and on the other hand, she wanted to avoid her mother-in-law's coveting. She treats Song Ying as a bank depositary, so don't trust her too much. And Song Ying regards Huang Ling's child as her own, and sometimes her priority is even higher than her own son. How high is it? She used the money to buy a TV for her children and bought a bicycle for Huang Ling's son first, without even saying it was a loan. From functional mutual assistance to absolute trust, it is the first half of the process of cultivating friendship. The relationship between best friends is the same as the relationship between marriage, but the key to ultimately determining how far the friendship will go is the bottom line. When you are being judged, how will the other person look at you and treat you? is like Zhen Huan and Meizhuang. They were once instigated by the Queen Mother, and their relationship broke down for a time. But what makes them different from An Lingrong is that An Lingrong's separation is accompanied by betrayal and even adding insult to injury. In other words, once An Lingrong stops being friends with you, she will become your enemy. But Meizhuang is just alienating Zhen Huan and cannot turn around and attack Zhen Huan. The same goes for Zhen Huan. Others noticed their alienation and wanted to pry her into saying something bad about Meizhuang. That’s the bottom line. They can be temporarily estranged, but they can never backstab each other. This bottom line stems not only from the care they have for each other in their hearts, but also from the fact that they must be sober women with independent judgment. Actually Song Ying and Huang Ling did not meet in the yard of their new home for the first time. When Song Ying was standing on the street as a shrew arguing with others about the house, Huang Ling passed by and saw her. She did not watch Song Ying's moral judgment like most people, but walked away silently. After the meeting, Song Ying saw that her child finally had someone to cry with. Huang Ling also joked: When you left your child at the leader's house to fight for a house, didn't you also go home and cry secretly? It can be seen that although Huang Ling cannot act in the same way as Song Ying, she believes from the bottom of her heart that Song Ying is not wrong. She doesn’t judge her, she empathizes with her. Unlike what others say, she looked at the fierce Song Ying with such a clear mind. Only then could she get along with Song Ying without prejudice and eventually become good friends. In Huang Ling's opinion, Song Ying's words are not pleasant, but her intentions are not bad. Unlike her mother-in-law, she is nice but has a bad heart. She is like a mirror and has her own judgment. It is not so much that the female sisters rely on contact, but more on selection and finding. And the found by is often one that is both similar and complementary to itself. Therefore, the real Chinese female CP belongs to a small number of people, even one-to-one, and is as unique as love. This kind of soul compatibility is ultimately related to the character's underlying personality and outlook. Before she was assigned a house, Huang Ling mentioned to her husband that Song Ying was causing trouble with the boss, hoping that her husband would give her some advice so that she could be assigned a house quickly. As a result, her husband began to output pedantic and lofty theories again. Huang Ling turned her head and didn't want to listen at all. After came into contact with Song Ying, Song Ying output: We just want to fight for our own interests, and we have to rely on ourselves to live our lives. Huang Ling’s eyes brightened after listening. Her soulmate radar went off. They seem to be two completely different people, but in fact they have the same views. The strong, tough, yet soft character of the bottom character is exactly the same. Although Huang Ling was not good at making noises, in order to fight for the interests of her children, in that relatively closed era, she even dared to achieve her goals at the expense of divorce. To a certain extent, she is more aggressive and strong than Song Ying. The two of them worked hard together, wearing sweaters day and night, eating boring snake melon to save money, earning and saving money, and never complained about anything. It touches the softness in my heart and makes me cry silently. The beauty of their friendship is that they look different but are very similar on the inside. Only then did we know how to heal each other and appreciate each other. Female friendship can be like ten thousand kinds of love. The only thing that doesn't look like is the cp play-acting of false marketing on hot searches.
