Yangcheng Evening News All-Media Reporter Wang Junjie On September 15, the movie "Determination to Run away" based on "56-year-old Aunt Su Min who traveled by car" was released. Su Min made the "decision to run away" and left her family to live for herself, which aroused the atte

Yangcheng Evening News All-Media Reporter Wang Junjie

html On September 15, the movie "Determination to Run away" based on "56-year-old Aunt Su Min who traveled by car" was released. Su Min made the "decision to run away" and left her family to live for herself, which aroused the attention and discussion of netizens.

In September 2020, 56-year-old Su Min decided to "escape" because she could not bear her oppressive marriage and went on a self-driving trip with one person and one car. In four years, Su Min changed three vehicles and traveled to more than 400 cities across the country, covering a total of 170,000 kilometers. She made a short video about her experience and posted it online, which quickly became popular.

Su Min is a typical traditional Chinese woman who endures and sacrifices for her family. Therefore, Su Min's departure is more symbolic: suppression and concession are not necessary options in life. It is not that difficult to take a step forward and live your own life. As Su Min said, she hopes her experience can bring courage and strength to everyone looking for themselves.

Escape from

In September 2020, Su Min sent her two grandchildren to kindergarten and helped her daughter through the most difficult stage of raising children. She felt that she had finally "completed the task". For most of her life, Su Min lived as a daughter, sister, wife, mother and grandmother. She always considered others, but rarely cared about her own feelings. She was fed up with this kind of life and wanted to "change her way of life."

Self-driving travel was Su Min's choice of "escape". She hit the road alone in a car, driving away from Zhengzhou where she had lived for most of her life. She watched the familiar street scenes in the rearview mirror gradually fade away, and a new world appeared in front of her eyes. Su Min Said, this is her second life.

Su Min had no plan for her trip. When the weather got cold, she walked south. When her pockets ran out of money, she took a break and waited for next month's pension to arrive before hitting the road again. Some cyclists suggested traveling around the country, and Su Min also tried it. She enjoys new sights, new food, and most importantly, the freedom of being on the road.

"Freedom" is a word Su Min mentioned repeatedly in interviews. She has endured a "not free" life for too long. Having it overnight makes it even more precious. In Su Min's life, freedom manifests itself in every detail from eating to dressing.

Su Min likes spicy food, but neither her husband nor her children eat spicy food. In order to take care of her family, Su Min never added chili peppers when cooking at home. In the first month of traveling, Su Min ate spicy food almost every meal, starting with stir-fried meat with chili peppers. Go to stir-fried chili peppers and eat them in different ways. Su Min's husband believed that the color white was unlucky and did not allow Su Min to wear white clothes and white shoes. After traveling away from home, no one had any control over Su Min's dress.

"When you are alone on the road, you can walk and stop when you want. This kind of free atmosphere is so comfortable." There is no word "loneliness" in Su Min's dictionary. She enjoys being alone, and her heart is quiet and peaceful. . After traveling for more than 4 years, Su Min changed 3 vehicles and traveled to more than 400 cities across the country, with a total journey of 170,000 kilometers. She learned to surf, paraglided, and took flights to participate in various offline activities, and her dream life became a reality one by one.

Today, Su Min’s short video account has nearly 5 million fans. She operates the account herself, and her daughter and son-in-law help manage it. Su Min made some money, but the cost of traveling in an RV was also high, so she still maintained her frugal habits. Su Min travels during the day, shoots videos, and broadcasts live at night. She also feels tired when she edits video copy alone at night, but this kind of hard work is far better than being obedient and slovenly in a small room.

Family

When it comes to her past family life, Su Min doesn’t miss much. She only looks forward and rarely recalls the past. "I don't know what I can miss. Do I miss the days when I had no money, or the days when I was too busy to touch the ground after returning home?"

Su Min grew up in the Qamdo Mountains in Tibet. His father was busy at work and his mother was sick. As an older sister, she took on the responsibility of taking care of her three younger brothers. While other friends were having fun, Su Min carried her brother on her back to do laundry and cook. Marriage was once regarded by Su Min as a way out of the current predicament. "As long as you get married, you can leave that environment and get rid of that life."

Su Min and her husband met through a blind date. After the first meeting, the two families had a meal together. Rice, even if you are engaged.Su Min, who was 24 years old at the time, did not expect that she would enter marriage with high expectations, but the result would be unsatisfactory.

In Su Min’s impression, her husband took money very seriously. Once, Su Min used her husband’s medical insurance card to buy medicine for her mother, but the password on the medical insurance card was changed the next day. In addition, the most unbearable thing for Su Min is her husband's suspicious character. "Every money I spend will be checked by him. If I forget where I spent the money, he will suspect that I secretly spent it on my parents' family." Even if I couldn’t find a pack of cigarettes at home, he would suspect that I secretly gave them to my brother to smoke.” In Su Min’s view, trust is the basis for maintaining a marriage, and her husband never seemed to truly believe her.

After more than 30 years of repressed marriage, Su Min thought about divorce many times, but she tolerated it every time because of her daughter. Even before traveling by car, Su Min thought, "How about forget it? I'm almost 60 years old." I am a human being, and I will be gone if I have to endure it for the rest of my life." In 2022, when Su Min returned home after two years of self-driving travel, her husband did not say a single heart-warming word and made sarcastic remarks about her travel experience. Su Min felt that she had taken a step forward, but her husband's lifestyle had not changed at all. She did not want to endure it anymore and decided to divorce.

Su Min’s husband Du Ming (pseudonym) has only accepted a few media interviews. Unlike the "fierce" husband described by Su Min, Du Ming has a friendly face and is easy-going. Regarding Su Min's accusation, Du Ming admitted that he was a bit "macho" and he did not want to talk more about topics related to his wife. He said that he also had his own grievances.

Du Ming and Su Min have not joined WeChat. They are in the family group together. Du Ming often sends holiday greetings and shares links in the group. He occasionally watches the short videos shot by Su Min, but never likes or replies.

Over the years, Su Min told various details of their marriage on different occasions. Du Ming felt uncomfortable. He felt that "family scandals should not be made public". The noise of other people's families was digested within the family. Only his affairs were told, "I Didn't he become a bad person?" In Du Ming's view, Su Min decided to divorce him because he "didn't perform well enough." He thought about making up for it by watching videos on "couple relationship guidance" online, but he didn't really want to face his wife. At that time, I couldn’t express my praises.

In May this year, Su Min formally filed for divorce from her husband. Du Ming agreed, but asked Su Min to pay her 160,000 yuan in compensation. At first, Su Min couldn't accept it. "In the end, I still have to give him so much money. I felt unbalanced." Now, she figured it out. If the money is gone, she can make money again. 160,000 yuan in exchange for a free life is worth it!

movie

html On September 12, when the reporter contacted Su Min, she was in Zhejiang, preparing to participate in the promotional activities of the movie "Determination to Run Away". This movie starring Yong Mei and Jiang Wu was adapted from Su Min's life experience. On the eve of the movie's release, there were intensive activities. Su Min had a cold after running around for days, but she was in good spirits. "I received a lot of recognition and praise from the audience offline, and I was very excited."

When the film company found Su Min three years ago, she felt Incredible, "How can a story about me, an ordinary citizen, be made into a movie?" Su Min didn't think too much and signed a contract with the other party directly. Looking back afterwards, Su Min still felt that it was a bit childish and did not expect that this movie would actually be made.

It was not until this year, when the movie began to be heavily promoted, that Su Min felt that this was a real thing. Su Min told reporters that she had been invited to watch the movie and she had been crying since the title subtitles appeared on the big screen. "I seem to be looking in the mirror, and my past experiences are reappearing in front of me." The protagonist of the

movie is named Li Hong. It is based on Su Min and combines the experiences of many other women. Su Min believes that everyone can find a reflection of their own family life in the movie, "Whether you are a man or a woman, I hope that after watching the movie, everyone can be more understanding and tolerant of close people and avoid endless trivial conflicts. The love shared by both parties is beautiful." Su Min hopes that this movie can bring courage and strength to everyone looking for themselves.

Even after more than 30 years of repressed marriage, 60-year-old Su Min still believes that marriage itself is beautiful, but it only needs to be managed well by both parties, and every fate is hard-won. But if a marriage makes people feel depressed and suffocated, we don't have to be forbearing like she did in the past. We should move forward bravely and strive to pursue our own lives.

Su Min said that her travel plan is still going on. She will wait until she can no longer walk and then find a quiet place to retire. As for when to stop, she has the final say.